gays are not women

The irony of all these convos is that trans women anecdotally are proportionately much much less likely to be pro life than cis women. Like to the extent that I haven’t ever met a pro life trans woman (tho I imagine there might be a couple), so it’s a weird argument to pick in the face of many cis women actively fighting against reproductive justice on that front.

I used to always try to understand what was going on in the heads of passing women of the past but then I think about what I would do if (and I do not think this will happen or that the world is ending) really severe homophobic laws like those requiring a number of women’s clothing items, penalties for being gay in public, encouraging empoyers to report suspected lgbt people, banning lgbt people from congregating. And I realize that if it came down to it I would absolutely choose to just pass (men aren’t really looking anyway) or partially transition because it would be easier for me to pass as male than as not gay. Cultural signifiers change over time (I am not sure what would have been obvious tells then) but I’m sure that’s not a new feeling.

Don’t assume, people. Or better yet, keep your hatred to yourselves in the first place.

Here’s my view on the whole “Fetishising of gay people” accusation that people keep tagging in all of the gay ships. I ship characters. Some of them happen to be women, some of them happen to be men. Some of them happen to be straight, some of them happen to be gay. Some of them happen to be aliens. I reject your premise that I am not allowed to artistically engage with a character because they do not share the same sexual orientation as me. I reject your view that people ship gay characters solely for the purpose of shipping gay characters. A character is much more than their sexual orientation and first and foremost fans will always relate to their personality. Take your hatred somewhere else.

this white boy is in my womens history class and i didnt expect much but he spent the whole class talking about intersectionality like specifically citing trans women and women of color and gay women and im literally in love with him

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I'm having to agree. There's a truly concerning homophobia in the TJLC community. They can deflect it all they like into "antis," but it's really just a bunch of people reducing queer men to their sexuality and erasing it whenever it doesn't line up.

Well, fetishization of gay males is common enough in fandom generally. Where TJLC distinguishes themselves is in actively being homophobic: attacking queer fans, attacking Mark Gatiss as a gay man, etc. when they don’t get what they want. The fact that many of them are straight women deciding whether a gay man can pass a “purity test of gayness” by whether or not he writes their specific gay fantasy is beyond them. Then they blather on about “representation” while actively working to undermine or belittle other shows with LGBT representation, or their new mission, or to take away funding from an LGBT charity because Mark is a patron and dared not to write their sexual fantasies. TLJCers are homphobes and they’re also misogynists, let’s just call them out on it. 

This week in class we had to discuss unfair labels that have been applied to us in our life, and not one but two people said that they had been called “dykes”. And that it was an unfair label not because it’s a word with a long history as a slur, but because they “weren’t even dykes”. Cue me uncomfortable and rolling my eyes hard.

And I just kept thinking about how that isn’t a word I use, it’s a word many other lesbians don’t feel comfortable with hearing, but it is something that I have heard from non-lesbians in the “queer” community so many times. Bi girls calling themselves dykes or “bidykes”. Gay men calling us dykes. Trans women going right past lesbian and calling themselves a dyke.

And I know that many lesbians reclaim the word, but I usually see it when trying to be emphatic, when owning non-adherence to femininity, when trying to set oneself apart politically.

And I find all of that very interesting. The group the slur applies to sees nuance to it. It is used defensively. I have seen a thing I find similar when gay men use the word “f*ggot” to emphasize gender nonconformance or combativeness.

But I have never seen another slur specific to one group in the LGBT community used so flippantly by all of the other members. I hate hearing it normalized in this way, as a generalized term that you can use for lesbians provided you are “queer” enough or “ally” enough.