Gays and Christianity

Bottom line- God loves everyone! Ignore the people that call themselves Christians when they condemn you. “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭7:1-2‬ ‭(NIV) I’m a gay Christian and proud of who God created me to be.

Why Even Non-Affirming Christians Should Support Gay Marriage

1. The Bible says “love covers a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8). You can whine all day about there being no such thing as “gay love”, but the truth will still be at odds with you. As C.S. Lewis beautifully put it, “I believe that the most lawless and inordinate loves are less contrary to God’s will than a self-invited and self-protective lovelessness”.

2. The culture of promiscuity that exists in the LGBT community is a consequence of homophobia. Our culture finds it unacceptable that gay people so much as hold hands with the person they love. As a result, gay people are often deprived of love and affection. In these abounding cases, finding another gay person becomes exhilarating, as opposed to conventional, and risky behavior ensues.

3. It cannot possibly be morally right to force a straight individual to marry a gay person. How many people want to marry someone who is incapable of desiring them? If marriage is a symbol of Christ and His Church, then that union should represent both mutual love and desire. If you claim that it should simply represent love and not desire, then stop having sex with your spouse immediately!

4. It cannot possibly be morally right to force LGBT people to remain single for the rest of their lives. According to 1 Corinthians 7:9, if someone “cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion”. Guess what, if a gay person marries a straight individual, they will still burn with passion, and it won’t be directed toward their spouse!

5. God does not stick to formula. Many Christians fought against the abolition of slavery, and yet we see the Lord’s hand in history, changing that unfortunate piece of reality into freedom. Likewise, had the Pharisees complained less about Jesus’ disregard for the Sabbath and His relationships with sinners, then perhaps they would have seen Him for whom He was: The Son of God.

6. God uses everything for good (Romans 8:28). Before you despair, remember that out of the Holocaust came the State of Israel. Now, I am in no way implying that gay marriage somehow equates to the Holocaust, but with so many conservatives warning about the impending collapse of our “stable society”, some people clearly do see things that way!

7. Ultimately, everything is in His hands. Isn’t God more powerful than one’s sexual orientation? Can’t God make gay people straight? Yes, God can change someone’s sexual orientation, but He can also make the blind see and the lame walk, and how often do we witness such happenings? “But who are you, O man, to answer back to God? Will what is molded say to its molder, ‘Why have you made me like this?’” (Romans 9:20). Perhaps God has a purpose in allowing gay people to exist. If He does, as His sovereign nature demands that He does, then I suspect it has something to do with teaching unrelentingly judgmental people the meaning of unconditional love and acceptance.

Marriage is between one man and one woma… 

The Bible clearly say… 

Your sinful homosexual lifestyl… 

It’s unnatura… 

I still love you, I just don’t agree with your lifestyl…

Maybe if you prayed harder it would go awa… 

You’re twisting Scripture to say what you want it to sa… 

This is your cross to carr… 

You’re welcomed, just not affirme… 

Disclaimer: I’m actually TeamNonViolence. Really.


The United Church of Christ is suing the US state of North Carolina, because its marriage ban, the notorious Amendment One, prevents UCC clergy from performing legal same gender marriages. They are the first denomination to sue for the freedom to marry. More here

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.“ Matthew 11:28-30

Even with all the good work the church is doing many don’t feel welcome or safe there. Certain songs and cliche statements trigger hard memories and feelings of rejection and abandonment.

For a long time after coming out it was hard for me to go to church. Not because I feared God but I feared people and the triggers from the years of living in shame, self hatred, and hiding. I wanted to feel the love of Jesus but that meant going to some pretty hard and scary places. It meant unlearning years of bad theology and learning to love how God created me.

Thankfully, Jesus and His love are not restricted to a building or the people in it. It doesn’t come with limits, small caveats, or stipulations but welcomes all. Jesus sees all of us. The bright colors of our personalities, the rainbow of pigments in our skin, and the life and beauty in our hearts and eyes.

On this Easter weekend may we all remember what Jesus did on the cross, not just for a few, not just those who think one way socially or politically, not just for those who look or act a certain way. It is not limited by the color of skin, gender, social class, or sexual orientation but celebrates all the creativity poured into each person.

Jesus did it for every single life. Not seeing them on a scale from bad to best but saw each one as beloved and dear. So He pursues us all with arms wide open, scars bare, ready to embrace each of us in our mess offering us hope, peace, rest, and most importantly a love that has no limits or conditions. Perfect love and rest for our souls. #gaychristian

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The man who founded a cult that annoyed the nation has died at 84. Phelps’ cult displayed religious-based extremism at its worst. There is a lesson to be learned. We must raise the next generation to be more loving and non-judgmental. Before we can tackle issues like starvation or climate change, we must first tackle love. Let us vow here and now to love one another.

Kyrie Eleison

Conservative Church,

Those who would try to accept the gay person but reject their sexuality are bizarrely similar to those who accept the left handed person but refuse to let them write with their left hand. 

A brief history lesson reveals this was actually a thing a while back in the Catholic Church when left handedness was viewed as sinful and unnatural. 

There’s this awful dehumanizing doctrine today you teach that says, “We love gay people and being gay isn’t a sin, but gay people acting on their sexuality is sinful, aren’t we open minded by providing a third way!” and it needs to just stop honestly. It’s so harmful and degrading.

You think you’re doing such a good thing and would never imagine being called homophobic, because clearly you say you “love gay people”. But honestly it just drives the knife in deeper and twists it a bit more sharply. 

When will you learn? 

It’s really sad actually because in any given time period, you most likely would be the people advocating oppression from the Bible and supporting the stances of slavery, sexism, genocide, segregation, right handedness, and banning interracial relationships. 

Please change before it’s too late.

The rest of the Church and I will try to wait patiently for you to come around… but time is precious. Gay couples are hurting. Teenagers are killing themselves. Transgender people are being attacked. And your platform is perpetuating oppression and pain. 

I pray for you. I rage at you. I cry because of you. I honestly can’t stand you most days. 

But I’m trying with all my might to forgive you.


Andrew Wagner, A gay kid who talks too much about changing the world instead of being the change in the world.

“Behold, children are a gift of the Lord, The fruit of the womb is a reward” Psalm 127:3

Coming out is one the most terrifying things I have ever done. I waited until I was 30 to publicly own how God had made me. Today, many people come out in their teens. This is especially scary when coming from a Christian family. We live in a culture where Christian and gay are still very much in conflict with one another. Where the word Christian is often times synonymous with conservative views.

A statistic I read this morning said that up to 40% of homeless youth identify as LGBT. 62% of that 40 experience discrimination from their own families. LGBT youth are 8.4 times more likely to attempt suicide after being rejected by their families.

Although coming out in my family was scary and we had our fair share of rough conversations there was never a fear of being sent away or abandoned and today my parents are on the other side of the journey. But I know many people’s stories aren’t so fortunate.

It’s a hard place to arrive because of the many years the LGBT community has been vilified and dehumanized by our culture and the church. Messages from pastors and evangelical leaders of faith encouraging abandonment in the face of a child coming out. Told they are not following God unless they take a hard stance and sever relationship with their child. Christian ministries promising therapy that changes orientation but only ends up damaging and destroying the heart and soul. All because of a few verses that have a great deal of debate about the actual meaning.

People have to be celebrated fully, in any way God has created them. Believing that God looked upon each of us at our birth and called us good. God knew what was going on when we were created and life was breathed into our lungs. We too must look onto all of creation, in all its creativity with delight and call it good.

“You created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Psalm 139:13-14


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I live in fear of screwing up. If I mess up it’s not “Laura did something wrong”, it’s “that lesbian Christian woman did something wrong,” most likely followed by an “I told you so.” …

It is an unjust burden that LGBTQ Christians have to be on their best behavior; that we are not allowed to be human because we must be more than. On a personal level, feeling such responsibility has at times made me bitter or feel like I’m putting on a show. In trying to show the world that not all gay people are heavy drinkers and drug users, for example, I should be allowed to have a glass of wine. In trying to show the world that not all gay people are promiscuous, I should be allowed to have relationships that fail. In trying to show the world that not all gay people are atheists I should be allowed to ask questions and express my doubts.
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For The Gay Christians

It’s come to my attention that a lot of the people I follow don’t know of any other gay Christians outside of the handful here on tumblr, so I decided to make my own post and shed some light!

*aggressively points toward a far off corner of the internet* , my friends! The Gay Christian Network (GCN)! It’s a place for all Christians on both sides of the great debate, Side A (those who believe God blesses gay marriage) and Side B (those who believe God calls all gay people to celibacy). No matter what beliefs you hold, this organization is dedicated to first loving God, then loving each other. You will find no condemnation at this website. You won’t even find much debating. People are encouraged to discuss their ideas and beliefs and compare as well without spiraling down into heated arguments, which happens all too often in our own lives.

Plus GCN has tons of resources! Books for both Sides, articles and essays written by the founders and members (check out Justin Lee’s and Ron’s essays under “The Great Debate”! They’re both incredibly informative on each Sides!)

PLUS GCN even has a conference every year, which draws almost 1,500 people! You can check out the keynote speakers from their last conference in January on their website!

And finally, they have an online community. Here you can meet people who believe the same things you do, who maybe don’t believe the same things you do, who can offer you new ideas and insights, and who, most importantly, can just help you realize you’re not alone.

I hope this post can help out all my gay brothers and sisters in Christ, and maybe even reach some people that aren’t in my spiritual family yet.

Now, go make friends and love God! And remember you are not alone!

Mexican Bishop Says HOMOPHOBES Are ‘Sick’ And 'Heartless’

Bishop José Raúl Vera López of the Mexican Roman Catholic Diocese of Saltillo has advocated for LGBT people for some time. In an interview with El País, he went even a step further. 

When asked about homsexuality, Vera said we cannot 'cancel a person’s richness’ because of their orientation. “That is sick, that is heartless, that is lacking common sense.”

Though conservative on social issues such as the legalization of drugs, prostitution, and abortion, Vera is resolute in his support for the LGBT community. 

The 69-year-old was sent to his current diocese in the arid Mexican state as a punishment. Home of the drug cartel Los Zetas, Vera has survived a record number of death threats and assassination attempts while working to help, immigrants, natives, prostitutes, young people, and victims pf the drug cartel.



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Ty Herndon has come out as gay, and gave an interview with Entertainment Tonight. With 17 Billboard hits, the singer says he thought coming out might hurt his career and that his 2 marriages were Lavender marriages. But now, Ty says he’s in an “awesome” longterm relationship with a man.

Drawing inspiration from Herndon, Billy Gilman subsequently came out as gay. The 26-year-old artist was the youngest artist to reach country music’s Top 40 at the age of 11. 

Hopefully, this will make it easier for people in the more conservative parts of the country to come out and find support when they do. Congrats to both artists. 


John Smid (above right), the longtime leader of one of the most prominent “ex-gay” therapy programs in the US, has married his same-sex partner — in Oklahoma, no less.

Smid served as director of Love In Action and spent 11 years on the board of Exodus International. Three years ago, Smid publicly renounced “ex-gay” therapy, offering numerous apologies, and came out as gay.

Of his marriage, Smid states the following: 

“I believe that due to my former notoriety, my marriage will definitely have its impact. I believe it is encouraging for other former ex-gays, and maybe even those who are still trying to hold on to their ex-gay belief system. We think our relationship reveals something very normal, not strange or deceptive gay stereotypes. We have come to realize that our marriage is very much the same as your average heterosexual marriage.”

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