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Model parents Devon and Rob and their two beautiful boys are giving us all the LGBT parenting inspiration.

These studs are not only gays dads, but also Instacelebs DadsNotDaddies. They’ve been sharing their parenting adventure with their 60,000+ followers. We’re savoring every minute. The handsome family hails from the traditionally Mormon Salt Lake City. The couple isn’t afraid to show the world how proud and loving they are.

 

Listen.

It’s not okay to have your child be scared of you. That isn’t respect. That’s control. 

It’s not okay to have your child obey you at all times in order for you to love them. That isn’t high standards. That’s manipulation.

It’s not okay to force your child become what you wanted to become. That isn’t wanting the best for them. That’s living vicariously through them.

It’s not okay to take away your child’s basic needs as a punishment. That isn’t teaching them. That’s hindering them. 

It’s not okay to dictate your child’s sexuality or gender. That isn’t normalizing them. That’s repressing them.

It’s not okay to berate your child’s appearance or intelligence for being what you think is sub-par. That isn’t toughening them. That’s bullying them.

It’s not okay to take out your stress on your child. That isn’t parenting. That is abusing.

It’s completely okay to distance yourself from your parents. That’s not unloving. That, sometimes, is self care.

As I’ve mentioned before, I was raised in a strict Christian household. It was full of love, but it was also a house that didn’t like Ellen DeGeneres or Rosie O'Donnell simply because they were gay. A house that would turn off the tv when the lesbian episodes of Friends were on (while I ran to the tv in my room and pressed “mute” to see it). One that would roll their eyes at the idea of gay marriage. Parents that meant well and just went by what they were taught, wanting us to grow up with something to believe. I remember sobbing in high school, thinking they would absolutely kill me. Things slowly started changing when I was 16+.

My Mom was the one who asked if I was gay. She was my biggest supporter, my secret keeper, and the one I told everything to. My Dad? He went from not wanting me to come out, to protect me, to telling everyone he knows if they ask if I’m “dating any new guys” - because that’s simply who I am. In his words “why hide it? Who cares?”. My Mom came to me about Carol on her own, wanting to watch it to see the love story. When gay marriage was legalized, I called my Mom sobbing. She was sobbing with me, after yelling “YES! THANK GOD” in front of all of her friends.

After being raised to hate who I was, not even allowing it to be an option - to now, my Mother texting me just now saying “Do you have any more Human Rights Campaign stickers like you have on your car? I want one on mine”

Change is a beautiful thing. Believe in it and believe in people.

THAT’S parenting.

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LGBT History: Gay Couples Found Safety In Photo Booth

During a time when gays couldn’t show public affection, many would seek out photo booth where they could capture their love in secrecy. Police used to target gay and lesbian for being “sexual deviants.” Had these couples been caught, they likely would have been arrested and thrown in jail.

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Nearly every year, for the past thirty years, Frances Goldin has gone to New York City Pride holding a sign that reads, “I adore my lesbian daughters. Keep them safe.” (x)


“Since the beginning of the parade, I’ve been going and waving my sign,” Goldin said. “It sort of hit a nerve with people, particularly those whose parents rejected them. The response to the sign is always so great — it urges me to keep going.”

“Everybody would come running up to her and cry, kiss her, and say, ‘Would you call my mother?’ or ‘Would you be my mother?’” her daughter, Sally, explained. 


“She’d take down names and addresses and write letters to these kids’ mothers!” 

When asked about all the young LGBT parade-goers who have begged her to speak to their own mothers, Goldin replied, “I think I changed a few people’s minds and I’m glad about that. Everyone should support their gay and lesbian children, they’re missing a lot in life if they don’t.”

Claudia, Louis and Lestat.

Just to clarify I DIDN’T make the
fanart, it’s not even Louis and Lestat, I found the picture in We heart it, but it didn’t had any mark, I just changed the little one’s hair color. The @xLilVamp is what I put in every post so you can follow my rp account. Lestat, Louis y Claudia
by Aldaria

Actually the characters are Sadao y Mouse, from the story BL called Orochi no Kishi. I just knew that now from a Facebook account. “crónicas Vampíricas de Anne Rice”

When you have a child, you’re not signing up for them to be an exact copy of you, you don’t sign up for them to be straight, cisgender, a certain religion, you sign up to bring another human into the world and raise them as their own person, and the minute you make a decision to have a child, you have signed up for them not to be straight, not to be cis, not to have a certain religion. You can’t attach terms and conditions to a human being, and as a parent, your child being gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, transgender, non binary and so many more identities, should not be used as an excuse to make their life hell, to remind them all the time that they’re not what you signed up for. If you do that, you are not a good parent. You can tell yourself you are, you can tell your child you are, but really you’re a monster. When you have a child, you sign up to accept, love and support them for them.

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We have families too!

Whether adopted, biologically ours, thru marriage or designated as their guardian- they’re our children.

We want the best for them!

We have hopes and aspirations for them !

We Exist, and MANY of us are of color.

This ain’t nothing new, just more visible.