gay men of african descent

The final damage of today’s accidental book haul:

3 children’s books (1 for Mom)

3 polyamory books (Including one about a werewolf/vampire/vampwolf triad)

3 1950s/1960s lesbian pulp fiction books

2 plain absurd eroticas (One with a vampire viking and another with a pirate queen)

An anthology of fiction by gay men of African descent

2 lesbian histories of the late 20th century

And something titled Cthulurotica that would probably make H.P. Lovecraft SHIT and seems like the intersection of @glumshoe and @thebibliosphere . Actually, come to think of it, I feel like I can blame Mama Joy for like half of these.

Because HIV Positive Black, gay men 50 years old, like me, fuckin’ matters!

Older, wiser, and undetectable ! I was diagnosed with AIDS over 20 years ago!


Women have been my biggest advocate and friend.

As a gay man I can honestly say had it not been for women of all sexual orientations supporting me in my darkest moments, I wouldn’t be here!

They’re part of the reason why I’m alive and kicking-plus they feel I’m hilarious.

Many of them have worked in the HIV field, personally experienced the loss of a friend to the virus, have many gay friends, and care for humanity. Some have been my friend for over a decade and others, several years, but I treasure our friendships.

To be loved is to be healed.


I mentor many young people of all sexual orientations. My “son” Leroy came to visit me outta no where. He recently married his boyfriend and they recently got their first apartment together.

He stopped by to not only visit me, but to retrieve stuff he asked me to keep for him.

Mind you, I’ve had this stuff for years, and we would see each other in between and joke about him “getting your shit” 😁

Finally he did.

So of course we had to get pizza and discuss his marriage.

He and I met years ago thru MySpace. We chatted and decided to meet. He chose me as his guide and gay parent.
I gladly accepted.

10 years later we are still a family.

Out of all of my “children” he is the most in tuned with Voodoo/ Santeria/ Candomble/ IFA and the history of Africans before and after slavery.

His husband is from West Africa.


It’s been so hot in NYC that I developed a heat rash on my face, neck and back. It looked so bad that I had to leave work.

I’ve never had heat rash before, but my doc confirmed it. I was prescribed meds.

Anyways, my fiancé wasn’t about to let my fears about my skin and a rash stop him from being all over me. “You can’t give me your rash, so scoot over!” With air conditioner on blast we fell asleep and I woke up earlier than him but his heavy ass was hard to push off ❤️😂😉


I rarely have a break, but I took time off. I have female relatives in the their 70s , 80s and 90s whom I love and treasure.
I am also a great uncle too, and I need to see those who came before and after me.
So I’m doing just that. My mother died in 2001 and she would want me, her oldest, most sensitive and ancestrally connected to continue the legacy of remembering our heritage and strength.
At age 50 and being HIV poz longer than some of my nieces age, most know my story of almost dying from an AIDS diagnosis in the 90s, as well as being openly gay and one who practices Orisha worship- I gets my respect from my relatives because they know I’m a survivor!


When it’s a rainy day in NYC but you have to brave the elements for lunch, but still pretty LOL

Later on I have to pick up my HIV meds wh I I was supposed to do last week. Thank goodness i have enough. You’d think at age 50 and being poz for over 20 years I’d have this shit down to a science LOL

But alas, I got my Oil of Olay today- a gay man working in Manhattan gotta represent 😂😁

Did you know the largest collection of MRA proponents is in India? India has the largest MRA group of any country in the world so if anything the MRA movement is primarily middle eastern with white men being the second highest, followed by latino men tied with men of African descent. Yes, gay men are included in MRA movement such as Justicar (A youtube user) and/or JohnTheOther (another youtube user) that have both shown up and protested in live demonstrations including one in a Toronto public park.

Male white-knight feminists protested that peaceful part demonstration talking about the needs of better education for young boys and mental health support to help bring down the overwhelmingly largely male number of suicides, yelling ‘RACIST SEXIST NO GAYS. MRA. GO AWAY’. The irony being one of the main speakers was gay, another African american and two female speakers mixed with 3 male speakers. The movement is pretty diverse.


A Regular Joe, Youtube, off someone saying MRAs are straight white men. 

Link died since I put it in my notes, or Youtube changed their system again, and I don’t think Justicar is actually an MRA, just anti-feminism.