gay inclusive

Gentle reminder

If you’re a gay guy and you fall for a not guy, that’s fine.
If you’re a lesbian and you fall for a not girl, that’s fine.
If you’re asexual and you experience sexual attraction, that’s fine.
If you’re bi - or pansexual and you mainly fall for one particular gender, that’s fine.

It’s just a label. Things can change, maybe they’re short-term, maybe they’re permanent. Who cares.

Chubby body appreciation post tho???

Soft bodies are so?? GOOD??
Big tummies are good pillows and good kissing surfaces.
Tummies with stretch marks?? GOSH, YES??? It’s like nature itself is putting down a trail of lightning that says “KISS HERE PLEASE”

And chubby/fat arms though? Can we JUST? Thighs and stomachs get a lot of love (and rightfully deserved) but can we talk about ARMS??
That cute arm chub that I just want to be wrapped up in a hug and a snuggle in? SO PRECIOUS?? 
People with such soft, cuddly arms that there’s lil bumps and stretches from cellulite?? CUTE??

And soft necks? Necks with some squish on them? Very extra kissable?? And squishy cheeks GODDD I WANNA SMOOSH YOUR CUTE CHEEKS KISS ALL OVER YOUR FACE!!! And when people have chubby cheeks and lil dimples?? Or when they have high cheekbones so when their cheeks are chubby they’re VERY prominently chubby?? THIS IS GOOD AND FANTASTIC??

And THIGHS. My god. Thick thighs are never praised enough no matter how hard one tries. Big, soft laps are so perfect for laying your head on! And stretch marks on big thighs? Cute lightning patterns to trail your fingers over or gently kiss when you’re already laying in their lap?? YES!!
Cellulite on thighs is also so so good and cute!! Dimples in cheeks are wonderful and so are dimples in thighs and butts?? CUTE!!!

Hips with squish over them?? GAH!! I CANNOT HANDLE!!! Please be more confident with your hips (if you feel comfortable) because when you are you give me LIFE!!!

Back rolls?? CUTE and very fun to trace hands over and hold onto during snuggles!! Looks very cute all the time! 

Chubby/fat bodies in crop tops and short shorts?? YES!!! CUTE!!!

Chubby/fat bodies in sweat pants and a tshirt? EXTRA SOFTNESS TO THE SOFT CUTIE!!!

Chubby/fat bodies in swimsuits?? VERY CUTE?? Swim trunks and soft belly is very very good!!
One pieces that cling tight to your stomach or ride up your thighs are still cute no matter what anyone says!!
Two pieces? GOOD!!! You look so cute! Don’t feel obligated to cover that adorableness if you don’t wanna!! 

Chubby/fat bodies in lingerie?? SO IMPORTANT TO ME!!! When stomach is tucked into cute underwear it is very very adorable and when there’s chub over low rise underwear it’s also very very cute and endearing!! THIGH HIGHS?? UGH, MY HEART. I KNOW THAT THEY PROBABLY ARE FALLING DOWN CONSTANTLY BUT THANK YOU FOR WEARING THEM YOU’RE DOING US ALL AN AMAZING SERVICE.

In conclusion:
Softness is good
I will kiss you all over
Holding you and feeling handfuls of squish is amazing
I love you

  • me: I'm so fuckin *kicks chair* GAY
  • me: dude I'm gay
  • me: I'm THE MOST gay
  • me: I'm the gayest
  • me: girls are so beautiful to me, you know why? because I'm GAY
  • me: I'm-
  • them: let me guess
  • me: what
  • them: you're gay
  • me: HOW THE FUCK DID YOU KNOW
gay rights vs gay liberation

I keep coming across pieces about the U.S. “LGBT” movement’s history that talk about how, during the 70s especially, one core idea of the movement was that gender and sexuality would, should, get blown wide open

That ultimately pretty much everyone was bisexual underneath; that gender itself was a big nonbinary mess; and everyone would be able to be their true bisexual, often genderqueer self after the revolution. We wouldn’t have or need the gender binary anymore. 

This was a much more natural belief at the time, because gay and lesbian and bi and ace had been thought of as essentially different genders. Because “normal” was two binary sexes, with two corresponding binary genders, which were attracted to each other, and would act on that attraction to make more little normal people. This was the function of society, the thing that gave women any value, the whole point of life.

From “Identity and Ideas: Strategies for Bisexuals,” an essay by bi activist Liz Highleyman in Bisexual Politics: Theories, Queeries, and Visions (1995), which I need to quote from more extensively but not rn:

“As the social movements of the early 1970s fell apart or lost their radical edge in the 1980s, the gay liberation movement, now known as the gay and lesbian movement, followed suit.”

This sentence puts it in a nutshell, I think. There was a really concrete shift, from radical “liberation” from the system for everyone, to acceptance from the system for these two groups.

“There was a growing emphasis on an identity politics model that likened gays to oppressed racial and ethnic minorities. Sexual identity was increasingly seen as an immutable characteristic without sweeping social or political ramifications. The movement became more focused on civil rights and assimilation into mainstream society.”

 It wasn’t an accident, that shift away from the overlapping bi/trans/intersex politics and bi/trans/intersex paradigm*. It was extremely deliberate.

It must have seemed like an easier sell to the straight world, which I can understand. I’m sure a lot of people thought that this strategy would benefit everyone.

But not only does it leave many of our issues completely ignored or actively erased, it’s also a model that can never work for us.

This just kind of jelled for me for the first time, reading this. It’s much harder to see if you don’t know about both models, at least for me. I tend to believe the “no no, we’re for you too!” without thinking about how and why that hasn’t been working.

The civil rights/assimilation model is very rooted in the whole idea that “the only thing that’s different about us is which gender we love!” It’s the we’re just like you model. It works pretty well for fitting-into-society stuff: marriage, health care, employment rights, military service, media representation. Stuff that straight people have, so they can go, “okay, I see how you’re like me, it seems unfair and terrible that you shouldn’t have these things too!”

It works really fucking badly for stuff where we are not like them.

The problem is actually that it works really fucking badly for stuff where we do not fit into the gender binary.

That’s the specific way the system demands that we Be Like Them. It treats everything else, everything that isn’t being a binary sex/gender and wanting a binary sex/gender, as a freakish and in-valid choice, and punishes us for it.

The only progress we’ve really seen is that sometimes, it’s not seen as a Bad Freakish Choice to want the “wrong” binary gender, and very occasionally, it’s not seen as a Bad Freakish Choice to be the “wrong” binary gender.

A lot of the trans movement’s progress has come from doing the same thing the gay and lesbian movement has done: “look at us, look how gender-normative and binary-gendered we are, look how we just want to be a normal gender and love a normal gender. Nothing threatening going on here!”

It works. I’m not going to knock that. People use this shit because they are fucking desperate and fearing for their lives.

But it also means those of us who can’t say “we’re just like normal people” become ballast.

You know: the stuff you throw overboard so your hot air balloon can take off.

I think this is what’s at the core of “ace discourse,” “sga discourse,” and all those other gatekeeping arguments. 

The system only, conditionally, grudgingly, gives certain rights, in some places, to the minority of us who have convincingly argued that we’re Just Like Them. It is exceedingly clear to those people that mixing with non-approved groups puts not only those limited civil rights, but also the entire model used to win them, in danger. 

It’s a choice. We all face it. If you identify more with the need for all those normal rights – or with the oppressions around being, or being into, into the wrong binary gender – or you just see that this model is working for some people and you want it to work for you – then you’re likely to cast your lot with the binary-gender-based “gay rights” model, which means you’re likely to take a “gatekeeping” tack. 

If you identify more with the need for total freedom from the rules of the binary gender system, for whatever reason – and you’re not put off by the fact that we don’t have a working political model around that – then you’re likely to cast your lot with the “gay liberation” model, which means you’re likely to take the “radical inclusion” tack that’s inherent to that model. 


* (I don’t think there was an intersex movement at the time; intersex people are still incredibly silenced by not only the media but actively, intentionally, by the entire medical industry. But it is an explicitly intersex-friendly and very ace/aro-friendly model, in a way that the existing model has definitely not been.)

petition for an lgbtq+ movie with gay, lesbian, bi, trans, ace, etc actors and actresses who are diverse (poc, all sizes, mental health issues). and the movie won’t just revolve around the conflict of coming out, nor will it be drug/sex oriented. rather, it will have complex characters who don’t just struggle with their sexual orientation, but have other issues like in any other movie. that’s all we ask for: some realistic representation.

how to combat pinkwashing at pride (aka: why slapping a rainbow on everything isn’t good enough)

banks:

- create initiatives that help low-income lgbt people access banking services.

- stop allowing donations to anti-lgbt hate groups, the kkk, and other hate groups that target lgbt people.

- donate money homeless shelters and local organizations that work to eliminate lgbt poverty.

- ensure lgbt employees have access to health insurance and liveable wages.


alcohol companies:

- stop the showing of advertisements that portray binge drinking as healthy

- donate to local lgbt friendly addiction services

- start a program that teaches lgbt inclusive health services for local community organizations that deal with addiction treatment

- work in collaboration with nightclubs and bars to promote “panic buttons” in washrooms, as well as other methods of keeping lgbt patrons safe

- remove sponsorship from events and companies that are known for not being lgbt inclusive


politicians:

- be a part of a political party that actively advocates for the rights and freedoms of lgbt people.

- work in collaboration with local governments to advocate for lgbt rights

- listen to the lived experiences of lgbt people and do not speak over them, or consider your input more valid than theirs

- vote for bills that help lgbt people, vote against those which hinder our freedoms and safety

- do not accept donations from people or organizations that campaign against lgbt rights.


everyone:

- do not hand out promotional material at pride parades unless the information directly benefits the lgbt community specifically.

- do not use the platform of pride to advertise at all, unless doing so would specifically benefit lgbt people.

- do not treat pride like a party; it is, and has always been, a protest and a show of resiliency.

- do NOT create initiatives and events that cater only to white, able-bodied, cisgender gay men. inclusivity means ALL lgbt people are welcomed and heard.

- use your position as a straight ally to ELEVATE the voices of the lgbt community, but do not speak over them. do not tell them what they want or need. trust me, they know better than you do.


when someone says “well would you just prefer we go back to when everyone was homophobic?” you can say “no, i’d prefer that corporations and politicians do MORE than painting a rainbow sign and dancing with feather boas, and here is how they can start.”

@mutuals stop and think before you reblog a post that has the word “lgbtia+” in it. advice from your friendly intersex mutual, archy: STOP dragging intersex ppl into the lgbt community. idc if you think aces/aros are lgbt just stop dragging other ppl into this. stop putting a fucking i in the acronym. intersex isn’t a gender OR a sexuality- it’s a medical condition. we have time and time again asked for you guys to recognize this, time and time again asked for you guys to stay out of our issues, but you continue to misgender us and use us as props for your arguments. your “lgbtia+ positivity” isn’t nice, it’s hurtful, it literally makes me so dysphoric because i’m basically being told that my genitals and chromosomes somehow make me inherently nonbinary. i’m not lgbt because i’m intersex, i’m lgbt because i’m trans and gay. y'all aren’t being “inclusive” or “recognizing our issues,” most of the time y'all don’t even know what intersex means and it’s obvious when you group it in with genders and sexualities. by dragging us into the lgbt community you are misgendering so many people and intersexist as fuck.

anonymous asked:

do you think horikoshi's level of "not giving a fuck" its high enough for making a canon gay couple? (ships aside)

Yes, It’s Possible For Boku no Hero Academia To Have a Canon Gay Couple

Horikoshi is at least aware of LGBT rights based on this moment with Magne. 

and based on him creating a canon trans character. 

Horikoshi is a progressive writer and handles a lot of mature topics better than most shounen authors. He reminds me a little of Togashi, the shounen author of HunterxHunter. Togashi and his wife both support LGBT rights, and Togashi has made a prominent character trans, and there are a lot of characters in HunterxHunter whose sexuality or gender are shrouded in mystery. The reason why I think these two authors are so similar is because both handle sensitive material rather maturely and both have confirmed LGBT characters. 

Plus, if Attack on Titan can have a canon gay couple, then Boku no Hero Academia should be able to get away with having a canon gay couple with time. LGBT rights keeps improving in Japan every year, and Boku no Hero Academia still has years to go before concluding. LGBT rights most likely will have lots of support years from now in Japan by the time the series ends. In fact, Japan has improved tremendously with LGBT rights already. The lives of the LGBT community has become better, there are more LGBT characters in Japanese media, the younger generation in Japan is especially supportive of LGBT individuals, and Japanese culture in general has become more LGBT-inclusive. In fact, a group of Japanese politicians just last week have formed a coalition for LGBT rights, and there are news of Japanese corporations becoming more LGBT-inclusive. Being gay in Japan is becoming less taboo everyday. 

Hypothetically, let’s say Horikoshi wants to make Bakugou and Kirishima a canon gay couple, but Shounen Jump won’t allow it. If that’s the case, Horikoshi can simply give both Bakugou and Kirishima lots of intimate moments, make them follow a bunch of romance tropes, give them no other love interests, and even have them become life partners by the end of the series, leaving the romance of their relationship up to interpretation. That would be extremely close to having a canon gay couple without explicitly confirming it. Something similar to this happened with the main characters of the JRPG Tales of Zesteria. 

I think it’s too easy and too simple to say there can never be a canon gay couple in Boku no Hero Academia just because it’s a shounen. People aren’t taking other factors into account. Horikoshi isn’t your standard shounen author. I’m not saying Horikoshi will create a canon gay couple because I don’t know what the hell he’ll do. I can’t make that kind of claim. I’m just saying it’s definitely possible. 

“Stop excluding LGBTQIAP people from the LGBTQIAP community,” because I am 1200% done with this gatekeeping bs.

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