gay bigot

i want to talk about the word “jew” for a hot second, because i don’t think gentiles understand why some jewish people don’t like being called that. this year, cnn had a banner that said “Alt-right founder questions if Jews are people.” now, they’ve gotten a lot of backlash for it, and apologized, but here’s the point: the sentence “Are Jews People?” is very different from “Are Jewish people people?” See, in the second sentence, the absolute ridiculousness of the question is even more clear, because of course a jewish person is a person, it’s right in the name. But by calling jewish people “jews,” it allows certain groups to dehumanize us, remove our personhood. I’m not suggesting we get rid of the term “jew” entirely, but the full word is something to keep in mind when using it. 

Honestly, LGBT+ people want allies, BUT we don’t want them so much that we’ll settle for people:

  • who call us f*ggots
  • think misgendering is funny
  • still use “gay” as a slur
  • think “you need us, we don’t need you.”

We’re not desperate, deary. We just want respect.

List of Valid Sexualities












(and any other made up sexualities)

List of Valid Genders









(and any other made up genders)

People who are valid: trans women, trans men, lesbians, gay men, bisexuals, pansexuals, asexuals, demisexuals, queer people, nonbinary folks.
People who aren’t valid: terfs and other bigots

Best words of advice my Mom ever gave to me when dealing with prejudice of any kind in a political situation

When someone is arguing with you about some of the more sensitive topics in politics, such as abortion rights, reproductive rights, women’s rights, gay rights, immigration, racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, etc. ask them how this issue affects their day to day life.

Does a woman getting an abortion because she’s physically incapable of carrying her child to term affect the way you live? What about the gay couple next door? Or poc existing? Or illegal immigrants trying to make a living? Or Muslims praying in a mosque?

Does this affect the way you get groceries or drive to work or enjoy time with family?

Is the answer no?

Then why do you care?

Why does any of these minorities existing bother you so much? Why does what a woman do with her body bother you? Or refugees escaping a warzone effect your life?

You’re afraid. You don’t like what’s different from you. You’re ignorant and are afraid of opening your mind and learn that there is more than two options. That people are different than you and you are not special.

They are forced to actually come to terms with the fact that they are scared or just plain bigoted. They have to actually come up with an explanation.

Because these are not opinions.

These are crucial views on morality; whether a group of people has the right to basic human rights.

Know the difference

So this happened today
  • Me: There's nothing wrong with being gay.
  • Teacher: It's not natural.
  • Me: It fucking occurs in nature. Therefore it's natural.
  • Teacher: So is cruelty.
  • Me: Well homosexuality isn't harming anybody. But bigotry is. THAT is cruelty.
  • Teacher: What about kids who see them? They'll grow to be gays!
  • Me: They won't. And if they do, so what? Being gay is not a crime. It's not some sort of reprehensible act.
  • Teacher: Still, what about kids adopted by gays? They might grow up thinking it's OK.
  • Me: It IS OK.
  • Teacher: They'll get bullied because their parents, Juan. How can you wish that for a child?
  • Me: If they are bullied, then society needs to change, not gays. Are you seriously blaming the victim? Pull your shit together.
  • Teacher: Well my God doesn't approve of it.
  • Me: Well I don't approve of your god.
Racism tends to attract attention when it’s flagrant and filled with invective. But like all bigotry, the most potent component of racism is frame-flipping – positioning the bigot as the actual victim. So the gay do not simply want to marry; they want to convert our children into sin. The Jews do not merely want to be left in peace; they actually are plotting world take-over. And the blacks are not actually victims of American power, but beneficiaries of the war against hard-working whites. This is a respectable, more sensible bigotry, one that does not seek to name-call, preferring instead change the subject and straw man.
—  Ta-Nehisi Coates, writer and journalist

I hope every transphobic and homophobic parent has an absolutely horrible day and life tbh. I never want to hear someone tell me that “they’re from another time”, or “you have to understand how hard it is for them”, like fuck off. It takes literally 0% energy to not be a piece of shit to your children. Everyone needs to stop with that shit where you wish gays on the bigoted parents, no, bigots shouldn’t have children because they aren’t capable of loving their children. Loving the concept of a child and what you want them to be isn’t love. It’s twisted and kills.

Conservatives don’t understand identity politics whatsoever and it makes me laugh. Like, they always do these things that they think are trump cards, but they just end up making themselves look ridiculous to everybody but themselves. For example: Milo Yiannopolus is gay. He’s a racist asshole and a horrible human being, but he’s also gay. Conservatives somehow think that gives them legitimacy - like, the left can’t criticize them now because look, they found a gay bigot that you can’t criticize because that would be oppressive - but that’s ridiculous. Milo is a horrible human being and he will be called one by the left. We just won’t use homphobia to do it - because that would actually be oppressive.

This really isn’t that difficult. Caitlyn Jenner is a horrible person too - but she is still a trans woman and should not be subject to transphobia. It’s not hard. But it seems to still completely elude conservatives, who keep trying to find people to parrot their bigoted talking points without being called bigots. Sorry, ya’ll are just bigoted.

  • Person who knows no asexuals and has never once looked into asexual oppression and does not know shit about L.G.B.T.+ history or its pointless divisions as it has grown: "Asexuals don't belong in the L.G.B.T.+ community because ace problems aren't gay problems!"
  • Me: "Hey, that's the same thing with which gay people booed trans people off the stage! 'Trans problems aren't gay problems!' Also, L.G.B.T.+ leaders have an obligation to know the oppression that afflicts ALL non-cis/het identities. The Ace community has been your comrade in arms. We've been fighting for L.G.B.T.+ representation as hard as you have, and we haven't just been fighting for ace representation. We've been fighting for gays and lesbians and pansexuals and bisexuals and transgenders and genderqueers and all non-cis/het identities and accepting victories in stride, even if those victories don't include representing us. We've been on your side since the beginning, and we've always seen ourselves as part of the community. You'll be making a big mistake if you decide to kick one of your biggest allies to the curb. And if you still don't believe we're part of our community, that we don't suffer from oppression (which, I promise you, we do), then you're throwing away one of your supporting allies and utilizing the same divisionary bigotry and elitism that gay people used to use against trans people, that homophobes still use against gay people. You are making a huge mistake."
  • scientists: actually-
  • scientists: that's factually inaccurate, transgen-
  • scientists: well, all our evidence has concluded that humans are equally-
  • scientists: um,,, no? i feel like this is an obvious one, climate change is- actually i give up, imma leave you guys to your stupidity. go fuck up humanity.