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Famous Lesbians, Lesbian History:

Ruth Ellis (1899 - 2000) - activist

  • became widely known as the oldest surviving open lesbian, and LGBT rights activist at the age of 100
  • came out as a lesbian around 1915
  • met her partner of 30 years Ceciline “Babe” Franklin in the 1920s. They moved together to Detroit in 1937, where their house was known in the African American community as the “gay spot”. It was a central location for gay and lesbian parties, and also served as a refuge for African American gays and lesbians
  • The Ruth Ellis Center honors the life and work of Ruth Ellis, and is one of only four agencies in the United States dedicated to homeless LGBT youth and young adults.

LGBTQ+ Movies of 2016: Part 3

Below Her Mouth

An unexpected affair quickly escalates into a heart-stopping reality for two women whose passionate connection changes their lives forever.

Do You Take This Man

Daniel and Christopher have to rely on their close friends and families to help them through drama on the eve of their wedding.

Indignation 

In 1951, Marcus, a working-class Jewish student from New Jersey, attends a small Ohio college, where he struggles with sexual repression and cultural disaffection, amid the ongoing Korean War.

Women Who Kill

Commitment phobic Morgan and her ex-girlfriend Jean, locally famous true crime podcasters, suspect Morgan’s new love interest is a murderer.

I, Olga Hepnarová (Já, Olga Hepnarová)

Raised in Prague, Olga Hepnarová was a timid by nature and troubled child with no friends, that was frequently bullied by her classmates. Living in a strict family environment, feeling alone and unable to cope with life’s issues, she gradually alienated herself. Unable to fit in, she felt a raging hatred growing inside her towards the indifference of society that left her destroyed by people. Rejected by everyone and marginalized, she meticulously plotted against society, declaring her intention for revenge against her family and the world…

It’s Only the End of the World (Juste la fin du monde)

After 12 years of absence, Louis, a writer, goes back to his hometown, planning on announcing his upcoming death to his family. 

Center of my World (Die Mitte der Welt)

After a summer spent with his his best friend Kat to escape his family, Phil goes back to school and starts to question his feelings towards Nicholas, a new classmate.

The Pass

Nineteen-year-old Jason and Ade have been in the Academy of a famous London football club since they were eight years old. It’s the night before their first-ever game for the first team - a Champions League match - and they’re in a hotel room in Romania. They should be sleeping, but they’re over-excited. They skip, fight, mock each other, prepare their kit, watch a teammate’s sex tape. And then, out of nowhere, one of them kisses the other. The impact of this ‘pass’ reverberates through the next ten years of their lives - a decade of fame and failure, secrets and lies, in a sporting world where image is everything.

Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 4 | Part 5

LGBT+ Fiction Rec

I thought it would be a good idea to put together a list of lgbt+ fiction and stuff I have found. This list is far from complete and there are plenty more out there, these are just a few of some I enjoy. Feel free to add some of your own.

*Most of these are centered around gay guys. Unfortunately, I haven’t been able to find many lesbian centered works.

  • Welcome to Night Vale (podcast/book)
    • Imagine a town where every conspiracy theory is true. That's Night Vale. Radio host Cecil Palmer reports on the weird happenings in this small desert town and falls in love with a scientist named Carlos (and his perfect hair). There are five-headed dragons running for mayor, dogs that are literally Satan, mystic beings named Erika (who are definitely not angels), civilizations underneath bowling alleys, and so much more. There is a really diverse cast of characters and several lgbt+ characters (besides the main two). It has some horror elements but it’s more science fiction.
  • Yuri!!! On Ice (television show)
    • Japanese figure skater, Katsuki Yuri, comes in last place at the Grand Prix Final and returns home defeated. After a video uploaded of him skating to his idol Viktor Nikiforov’s (a Russian skater with 5 Grand Prix gold medals and considered to be the best out there) routine goes viral, Viktor himself shows up at Yuri’s place and becomes his coach. With Viktor’s help, Yuri attempts to win gold at the next Grand Prix Final and they both sort of fall in love along the way. Features a pretty diverse cast and doesn’t play into stereotypes. It’s considered to be in the sports genre but it has some romance moments in it.
  • Always Raining Here (webcomic)
    • Carter wants to get laid. Adrian is heartbroken. After Carter fails to get Adrian to have sex with him, the two end up becoming friends and have misadventures together. This is one of the cutest and most pure relationships I’ve seen (even though one of the very first things Carter says to Adrian is “We should bang”). There is some slight sexual content but nothing too major.
  • Check Please! (webcomic)
    • Eric Bittle joins the Samwell Men’s Hockey team but quickly realizes that this is way more intense than his Georgia hockey team and the team captain Jack Zimmermann isn’t making things any easier for him. There are lots of pies and you’ll end up learning about hockey. Lots of healthy relationships and does a wonderful job at portraying characters with mental illnesses. They’re also good friends with the Yuri!!! On Ice fandom.
  • Alice Isn’t Dead (podcast)
    • By the makers of Welcome to Night Vale, a woman becomes a truck driver in order to find her wife, Alice, who has been considered dead (she isn’t look at the title). She encounters a not-quite-human serial murder and ends up being chased by him wherever she goes. She learns more and more about her wife and finds out things better left unknown. Another wonderful portrayal of mental illnesses. It’s much darker and scarier than Welcome to Night Vale and I would not recommend listening to it at night.
  • Knight’s Errant (webcomic)
    • Wilfred is on a quest. However, being imprisoned in a city under siege puts a halt on their quest. Fortunately, they have a prison guard on their side. This one is different from the others since the main character so far isn’t in a relationship of any sorts (and doesn’t show to be in one anytime soon). There is a side relationship that will make your heart melt and Wilfrid is just a really likable character (they also don’t have a confirmed gender yet. It’s pretty likely they’re non-binary though). Also despite being set in a medieval European town it does feature some pocs which is nice.
  • Requiem of the Rose King  (manga)
    • The previous ones have featured very healthy and loving relationships but this one is a bit different. It focuses on Richard the third of York who is intersex in this case. This causes some really messed up and really confusing love triangles. There is some incest (not very large at least for now) in it and large age differences so if that bothers you then I would advise against this. Despite all this Richard is in a pretty cute relationship but it’s pretty tragic at the same time. If you want happy gays stay away from this. Also features gore and violence.
  • 19 Days (manga)
    • The adventures of Jian Yi and his best friend Zhan Xixi. This one is another cute one. Their relationship goes at a believable pace (but sometimes it feels like it’s taking forever) and there is a pair of very lovable side characters to go with it. Some sadness but nothing life ruining at this point.
Cute & Productive Date Ideas for You & Your Girlfriend 👭
  • Volunteer together at your local women’s domestic violence shelter, gay & lesbian center, library, animal shelter, or food bank.  Not only is it helpful to those in need, but working together for the greater good helps form healthy relationships.
  • Attend PRIDE or any other event involving the LGB community!  You can to spend the day together in a positive, glitter-filled space AND get meet other same-sex couples while you’re at it
  • Get athletic!  Go ride bikes together or hit up the nearest pool or beach.  It’s healthy and much more fun when you’re together
  • Put a soft picnic blanket outside so you can snuggle and look at the stars.  As cliche as it is, stargazing is relaxing and meditative, and there’s no better person to do it with than your gf

Feel free to reblog + add more!

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Broadway Backwards on March, 13, 2017, where men sing songs intended for women and vice versa without changing pronouns, shattered fundraising records, bringing in an impressive $522,870 to benefit Broadway Cares/Equity Fights AIDS and The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center in New York City.

If you think asexuals face a level of discrimination and oppression anywhere near or even greater than the oppression faced by gay men and lesbians, I urge you to:

1. Go outside

2. Actually talk to a gay man or a lesbian because if you think the ace experience is at all similar to the gay/lesbian experience, you’ve either never met a gay man or a lesbian or you’re extremely self centered and want to be a victim

I have a crush on a female trumpet player. Few people assume guard girls are gay or bisexual. A lot of stereotypes about lesbians are centered around being “boyish” (for lack of a better word) and guard is all about glitter and makeup and looking traditionally feminine; so people rarely suspect it. Shoutout to all the wlw guard girls out there! You’re loved and valid!
—  anonymous
Can we talk about Magnus Hirschfield for a moment?

The man is a Jewish German physician and he is a part of and founded the Scientific Humanitarian Committee: they advocate for sexual minorities’ such as homosexuals and trans people.

He passionately defended the rights for homosexuals and wanted to repeal Paragraph 175, an article which criminalizes homosexuality. He says “homosexuality was part of the plan of nature and creation just like normal love”.

And with that said, Hirschfield was condemned by German media, who called him a freak scientist. His testimony lead him to be hated by the German people, if not outraged.

Hirschfield was an outspoken supporter for sexual minorities and stood for women’s rights during the early 20th century (where they actually needed it) and joined the League for the Protection of Mothers: he campaigned the decriminalization of abortion, and was against the ban for female teachers or civil service workers to get married or have children.

Hirschfield died on his birthday, 14th May 1967 in Nice, France.

Hirschfield inspired people like by Henry Gerber, an American homosexual rights activist who started the short lived Society For Humans Rights in 1924; it was known to be the first known gay rights organization of America. In 1979 in Ireland, the Hirschfield Center was established which was the first gay and lesbian community center.

People like Magnus Hirschfield is the LGBT hero we all should talk about. People who strongly defended and advocated for our rights and having our place in the world back in the day, where being yourself is worth of being arrested, euthanized, and hated by society.

If not for him, we wouldn’t be here at all.

There is so much wrong with this picture I can’t even….

But if you want to know why many black lgbtq folks are wary of the mainstream LG movement, here’s a prime example.

A cartoon artist rips off an image important to radical black history, specifically the moment when U.S gold medalist Tommie Smith and bronze medalist John Carlos raised the black power fist during the American national anthem at the 1968 Olympics, all to make a point about how gay marriage is a victory for everyone.

Nevermind that it decontextualizes blackness, black power, and the socio-political atmosphere of the late 1960s in the U.S that would make raising the black power fist during the American anthem revolutionary in the first place. Nevermind that black power was a strike against the white supremacist antiblack status quo. 

Nevermind that this movement has tried to make ‘gay is the new black’ and deeply haphazard parallels between gay rights and civil rights happen that center the experiences of white gay and lesbians while silencing black LGBTQ folks at the intersections.

Does anybody remember the photos invoking Jim Crow segregation to make a point about gay marriage? 

Cause I sure do 

This is why I’m not here for the mainstream

Because it is possible to make a point about gay marriage without being antiblack, without being racist, without erasing folks at multiple intersections of marginalization 

But instead people opt not to, they do something offensive, and then expect the rest of us to shut up and take it 

Sacramento LGBT Youth Center

So, when I came out to my mom, she decided to get more involved with the LGBT community (and she came out as bi herself) and now she’s on the board of The LGBT center in Sacramento, California and they really need your help.

If you guys, would be willing to donate to the center, the link is below.

The LGBT Center of Sacramento is a place of refuge, support, safety and healing. The funds go to support the programs and deal with issues such as youth homelessness. Even the smallest donation makes a big difference.

https://m.facebook.com/donate/10154822101097862/

On The ~Monosexual Privilege~ Checklist

Society assures me that my sexual identity is real and that people like me exist.

Not if you’re a lesbian. Lesbians are constantly surrounded by media in which lesbian-identified characters are attracted to men. Lesbians are constantly doubted and told that they must be at least a little attracted to men. Hell, people regularly make bullshit claims like “Everyone is at least a little bisexual.” 

When I disclose my sexual identity to others, they believe it without requiring me to prove it (usually by disclosing my sexual and romantic history).

Not if you’re a lesbian. It’s an almost-universal experience among the lesbians I know that they were quizzed about their sexual histories when they came out. 

I can feel sure that, upon disclosing my sexual identity, people accept that it’s my real/actual sexual identity (rather than assuming that I am lying or simply wrong).

Not if you’re a lesbian. People assume that lesbians are really bisexual or just lying to get attention all the time

I am never considered closeted when disclosing my sexual identity.

Not if you’re a gender non-conforming heterosexual, a gender-conforming homosexual, or trans. 

I am considered to have more authority in defining and judging bisexuality than people who identify as bisexual.

Not if you’re gay or a lesbian. Straight people consider themselves the only ones who get to define sexuality. They always have. 

Perception/acceptance of my sexual identity is generally independent of my choices of relationships, partners, and lifestyles.

Not if you’re a gay man or a lesbian. Gay men and lesbians are both regularly judged on their relationships, partners, and lifestyles. These things are at the heart of most homophobic rhetoric. 

It is unlikely that disclosing my sexual identity in a non-sexual context will be taken as a sign of sexual availability or consent.

Not if you’re a lesbian. “Lesbian” is literally a porn category. Straight men’s reactions when a woman comes out as a lesbian reflect that. 

I can be confident that people will not rename my sexual identity or use different words to describe my identity than I do.

Not if you’re a lesbian. This is a battle lesbians have to fight regularly, particularly ones that don’t like being called “gay.”

When seen with a partner I’m dating, I can be certain I will be recognized as a member of my sexual-identity group by members of my community.

Not if you’re a lesbian. Lesbians can literally make out with each other in public and still be called “just friends” by everyone around them. 

I do not have to choose between either invisibility (“passing”) or being consistently “othered” and/or tokenized in my community based on my sexual identity.

This… isn’t a thing. Every queer group I’ve been to has had significantly more bisexuals than lesbians. Bisexuals were not “othered” or “tokenized.” Lesbians were. 

I am never blamed for upholding heteropatriarchy or cisgender privilege because of the word that I use to identify my sexuality.

Not if you’re gay or a lesbian. I have literally seen ~bi lib~ bloggers call homosexuality “heteronormative” because of its monosexuality aspect. That same monosexuality aspect leads to them being regularly criticized for upholding cis privilege because “You can’t tell someone’s gender by looking at them!!!!!” (As if that was ever what it was about.)

I feel welcomed at appropriate services or events that are segregated by sexual identity (for example, straight singles nights, gay community centers, or lesbian-only events).

Are you really trying to call it a privilege that gay men and lesbians feel welcome at events they personally set up to cater specifically to them? If you want a bisexual community center, stop whining and make one. There are more of us than them. The only reason we don’t have [more of] these things is because we aren’t making them. 

I can feel sure that if I choose to enter a monogamous relationship, my friends, community, or my partner will continue to accept my sexual identity, without expecting or pressuring me to change it.

Not if you’re a lesbian. Again, lesbians are constantly pressured to sleep with men, even when they’re in monogamous relationships with women. 

I do not need to worry about potential partners shifting instantly from amorous relations to disdain, humiliating treatment, verbal or sexual violence because of my sexual identity.

Not if you’re trans. This happens to trans ~monosexuals~ all the time. 

I can choose to be in a polyamorous relationship without being accused of reinforcing stereotypes against my sexual-identity group.

Not if you’re a gay man or a lesbian. That is one of the oldest homophobic stereotypes in the book for gay men, and for lesbians it’s a porn stereotype.

I can fairly easily find representations of people of my sexual-identity group and my lifestyle in the media and the arts. I encounter such representations without needing to look hard.

Not if you’re gay or a lesbian. What universe are you living in where positive homosexual representation is plentiful?

If I encounter a fictional, historical or famous figure of my sexual identity, I can be reasonably sure that s/he will be named as such in the text or by the media, reviewers and audience.

Not if you’re a gay man or a lesbian. Are you kidding me? Everyone wants to come up with reasons why a character couldn’t possibly be gay or why the creator saying that they were gay is invalid. 

I often encounter the word I use to identify myself in the media and the arts. When I hear or read it, I am far less likely to find it in the context of the denial of its existence.

Not if you’re gay or a lesbian. You are making it painfully obvious that you have a huge double-standard regarding representation for homosexuals and for bisexuals. The state of homosexual representation in the media or even in historical discussions is not good. It’s not even acceptable. Every point like this just further proves that you have no understanding of heterosexism or sexuality-based oppression.

I can find, fairly easily, reading material, institutions, media representations, etc. which give attention specifically to people of my sexual identity.

Not if you are gay or a lesbian. See above. 

I can feel certain that normal everyday language will include my sexual identity (“straight and gay alike,” “gay and lesbian,” etc.).

Not if you are gay or a lesbian. All I’m seeing at this point is “I have no idea what heteronormativity is,” over and over again. 

If I am cisgender, I am far less likely to suffer from intimate and sexual violence.

This doesn’t mean shit to ~monosexuals~ who have suffered from intimate and sexual violence, and no bisexual who hasn’t has any right to use those statistics to further their own agenda.

If I am cisgender, I am less likely to suffer from depression or to contemplate suicide.

See above. You don’t get to appropriate those experiences if you haven’t been there, and you sure as fuck don’t get to use them against ~monosexuals~ who have had them. 

If I am cisgender, I am far less likely to suffer from poverty.

See above. 

I am more likely to feel comfortable being open about my sexual identity at work.

Not if you are gay or a lesbian. Have you ever even heard of “homophobia”?

I have access to information about the prevalence of STIs in my community as well as prevention methods that are suitable for me. (For example, searching online yields many, accurate and accessible results).

Being bisexual has never once prevented me from using google. 

Information about the prevalence of STIs in my community as well as prevention methods suitable for me, are unlikely to be subsumed under those of any other sexual-identity groups.

Not if you are gay or a lesbian. Sex ed is still heteronormative as fuck. 

If I live in a city, I am more likely find medical care that will suit my own particular needs.

Not if you are gay or a lesbian and sure as Hell not if you’re trans. Queer-friendly doctors aren’t super easy to find for everyone but bisexuals. 

If I am cisgender, I am less likely to risk my health by avoiding medical treatment.

Not if you are gay or a lesbian and sure as Hell not if you’re trans.

I have the privilege of not being aware of my privileges.

This is a fucking free-space and I hate that it’s on every single privilege checklist.