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LGBTQ+ Movies of 2016: Part 3

Below Her Mouth

An unexpected affair quickly escalates into a heart-stopping reality for two women whose passionate connection changes their lives forever.

Do You Take This Man

Daniel and Christopher have to rely on their close friends and families to help them through drama on the eve of their wedding.

Indignation 

In 1951, Marcus, a working-class Jewish student from New Jersey, attends a small Ohio college, where he struggles with sexual repression and cultural disaffection, amid the ongoing Korean War.

Women Who Kill

Commitment phobic Morgan and her ex-girlfriend Jean, locally famous true crime podcasters, suspect Morgan’s new love interest is a murderer.

I, Olga Hepnarová (Já, Olga Hepnarová)

Raised in Prague, Olga Hepnarová was a timid by nature and troubled child with no friends, that was frequently bullied by her classmates. Living in a strict family environment, feeling alone and unable to cope with life’s issues, she gradually alienated herself. Unable to fit in, she felt a raging hatred growing inside her towards the indifference of society that left her destroyed by people. Rejected by everyone and marginalized, she meticulously plotted against society, declaring her intention for revenge against her family and the world…

It’s Only the End of the World (Juste la fin du monde)

After 12 years of absence, Louis, a writer, goes back to his hometown, planning on announcing his upcoming death to his family. 

Center of my World (Die Mitte der Welt)

After a summer spent with his his best friend Kat to escape his family, Phil goes back to school and starts to question his feelings towards Nicholas, a new classmate.

The Pass

Nineteen-year-old Jason and Ade have been in the Academy of a famous London football club since they were eight years old. It’s the night before their first-ever game for the first team - a Champions League match - and they’re in a hotel room in Romania. They should be sleeping, but they’re over-excited. They skip, fight, mock each other, prepare their kit, watch a teammate’s sex tape. And then, out of nowhere, one of them kisses the other. The impact of this ‘pass’ reverberates through the next ten years of their lives - a decade of fame and failure, secrets and lies, in a sporting world where image is everything.

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We were deluded, they said; we were foolish, absurd. Sometimes it was more brittle, more hostile, more derogatory. At meetings I attended, marches I participated in, dances my lover and I showed up to attend, I was asked why we had bothered to come or told we were not welcome: ‘No femmie women with he/she men.’

I was told I should find myself a 'real’ man if that’s what I was into. I often had to escort and then remain with my butch lovers so they could use the women’s bathroom at movement institutions. That was in 1973. In 1995, I and my stone butch lover of the time were refused entrance to a lesbian feminist women’s dance at the New York City Lesbian and Gay Community Center during Gay Pride Week. We were told the same things I’d been told twenty-five years before: It - butch/femme - was a dangerous heterosexist trap.

The hostility and ridicule we faced inside the lesbian movement paralleled and overlapped our lives in the broader straight world - where we were often treated as criminals. My first butch lover and I began to fear coming home after we found our cat murdered in front of our apartment, with a note pinned to the door saying we’d be next. We regularly fought with men who waited outside the bar for the most obvious bull daggers and their 'faggot girlfriends,’ or we turned away and hated ourselves for giving in.

Strolling together as a butch/femme couple, we were an erotic, magnetic, moving target for all the sexual fear, envy, and ignorance of this culture. Our movements and decisions were fraught with potential danger. Unexpected visits to the emergency room, how to rent a motel room, crossing a border, being busted at bars when the cops came for their weekly payoffs, getting an apartment. None of these acts were simple or could ever be taken for granted.

I have always had to laugh whenever I hear that femmes are not as tough, capable, or rugged as our butch lovers. We fought together, we carried ourselves with our heads high, we protected the women we loved when we could - and they tried to protect us - we held each other when we didn’t win, and we held each other when we did.

—  Amber L. Hollibaugh, My Dangerous Desires
Queer Magic 🔮

Hi there! I’m on a mission looking for a bunch of queer witches. I’m an admin on a Facebook group called Queer Magic and would like to get more people to join.

“It’s a group for LGBTQIA+ folx who practice any type of magic or earth-centered religion or spirituality” (our description)

It’s a great community full of accepting individuals who post about their learnings and experiences with magic.

Please come and join! And boost our group for us by reblogging!

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Gay Pride Wallpapers

requested by anons and @fallling-for-youu @soomewhere-over-the–rainbow

(makin some lesbian centered ones nxt)

LGBT+ Fiction Rec

I thought it would be a good idea to put together a list of lgbt+ fiction and stuff I have found. This list is far from complete and there are plenty more out there, these are just a few of some I enjoy. Feel free to add some of your own.

*Most of these are centered around gay guys. Unfortunately, I haven’t been able to find many lesbian centered works.

  • Welcome to Night Vale (podcast/book)
    • Imagine a town where every conspiracy theory is true. That's Night Vale. Radio host Cecil Palmer reports on the weird happenings in this small desert town and falls in love with a scientist named Carlos (and his perfect hair). There are five-headed dragons running for mayor, dogs that are literally Satan, mystic beings named Erika (who are definitely not angels), civilizations underneath bowling alleys, and so much more. There is a really diverse cast of characters and several lgbt+ characters (besides the main two). It has some horror elements but it’s more science fiction.
  • Yuri!!! On Ice (television show)
    • Japanese figure skater, Katsuki Yuri, comes in last place at the Grand Prix Final and returns home defeated. After a video uploaded of him skating to his idol Viktor Nikiforov’s (a Russian skater with 5 Grand Prix gold medals and considered to be the best out there) routine goes viral, Viktor himself shows up at Yuri’s place and becomes his coach. With Viktor’s help, Yuri attempts to win gold at the next Grand Prix Final and they both sort of fall in love along the way. Features a pretty diverse cast and doesn’t play into stereotypes. It’s considered to be in the sports genre but it has some romance moments in it.
  • Always Raining Here (webcomic)
    • Carter wants to get laid. Adrian is heartbroken. After Carter fails to get Adrian to have sex with him, the two end up becoming friends and have misadventures together. This is one of the cutest and most pure relationships I’ve seen (even though one of the very first things Carter says to Adrian is “We should bang”). There is some slight sexual content but nothing too major.
  • Check Please! (webcomic)
    • Eric Bittle joins the Samwell Men’s Hockey team but quickly realizes that this is way more intense than his Georgia hockey team and the team captain Jack Zimmermann isn’t making things any easier for him. There are lots of pies and you’ll end up learning about hockey. Lots of healthy relationships and does a wonderful job at portraying characters with mental illnesses. They’re also good friends with the Yuri!!! On Ice fandom.
  • Alice Isn’t Dead (podcast)
    • By the makers of Welcome to Night Vale, a woman becomes a truck driver in order to find her wife, Alice, who has been considered dead (she isn’t look at the title). She encounters a not-quite-human serial murder and ends up being chased by him wherever she goes. She learns more and more about her wife and finds out things better left unknown. Another wonderful portrayal of mental illnesses. It’s much darker and scarier than Welcome to Night Vale and I would not recommend listening to it at night.
  • Knight’s Errant (webcomic)
    • Wilfred is on a quest. However, being imprisoned in a city under siege puts a halt on their quest. Fortunately, they have a prison guard on their side. This one is different from the others since the main character so far isn’t in a relationship of any sorts (and doesn’t show to be in one anytime soon). There is a side relationship that will make your heart melt and Wilfrid is just a really likable character (they also don’t have a confirmed gender yet. It’s pretty likely they’re non-binary though). Also despite being set in a medieval European town it does feature some pocs which is nice.
  • Requiem of the Rose King  (manga)
    • The previous ones have featured very healthy and loving relationships but this one is a bit different. It focuses on Richard the third of York who is intersex in this case. This causes some really messed up and really confusing love triangles. There is some incest (not very large at least for now) in it and large age differences so if that bothers you then I would advise against this. Despite all this Richard is in a pretty cute relationship but it’s pretty tragic at the same time. If you want happy gays stay away from this. Also features gore and violence.
  • 19 Days (manga)
    • The adventures of Jian Yi and his best friend Zhan Xixi. This one is another cute one. Their relationship goes at a believable pace (but sometimes it feels like it’s taking forever) and there is a pair of very lovable side characters to go with it. Some sadness but nothing life ruining at this point.

Edith “Edie” Windsor was an LGBT rights activist and technology manager at IBM. She became an gay rights icon in 2013 when she sued the federal government to recognise her same-sex marriage which successfully overturned Section 3 of the Defense of Marriage Act, giving same-sex married couples federal recognition for the first time. 

Windsor was born to Russian Jewish immigrant parents, who lost both their home and business during the great depression. Windsor never grew up thinking she’d deviate from the norm and do anything rather than settle down with a man and keep house. After graduating from college, she married Saul Windsor but after realising that she’d much rather be with women, they divorced after less than a year of marriage. 

In 1957, Windsor achieved a masters degree in mathematics from New York University. She then began working for IBM in senior technical and management positions relating to systems architecture and implementation of operating systems and natural language processors. 

After a decade, she became a Senior Systems Programmer, the highest level technical position at IBM and became the first person in New York City to receive an IBM PC. During this time, Windsor had met her future wife, Thea Spyer. Initially, they kept their relationship a secret and pretended that Windsor was initially in a relationship with Spyer’s fictional brother. 

In 1967, Spyer proposed to Windsor although at the time, their marriage would not have been legal. The two moved in together, but IBM refused to recognise their relationship and denied Windsor from naming Spyer as her beneficiary on her insurance. Windsor and Spyer became involved in LGBT rights marches and events following the Stonewall Riots in 1969. In 1975, Windsor left IBM after the company moved out of the area and devoted herself to LGBT organisations, volunteering for the  Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders, the East End Gay Organization, the LGBT Community Center, 1994 Gay Games New York, and helped found Old Queers Acting Up, an improv group utilizing skits to address social justice issues. She served on the board of Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders (SAGE) from 1986 to 1988 and again from 2005 to 2007. 

In 2009, after the death of Spyer, Windsor was ordered to pay $363,053 in federal estate taxes on her inheritance of her wife’s estate as federal law did not recognise their marriage, despite the fact that they had married two years earlier in Toronto. If it had, she would not have been liable for any federal estate taxes at all. When trying to claim federal estate tax exemption for surviving spouses, Windsor found she was unable to do so due to Section 3 of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA). 

In 2010, Windsor sued the federal government in the  U.S. District Court for the Southern District of New York for a refund as DOMA had meant that legally married same-sex couples for “differential treatment compared to other similarly situated couples without justification.” In 2013, Section 3 of DOMA was ruled unconstitutional and same-sex marriages were finally given federal recognition. 

In 2016, Windsor married her second wife, Judith Kasen, a vice president at Wells Fargo Advisors. 

In September 2017, it was announced that Windsor had died at the age of 88. During her lifetime, she was the recipient of many honours including the Joyce Warshaw Lifetime Achievement Award by the SAGE, the New York City Council Award, the Roger Baldwin Medal of Liberty, the Presidential medal and the Women’s Rights Award. In 2016, Lesbians in Tech created the Edie Windsor Coding Scholarship Fund. 

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Cute & Productive Date Ideas for You & Your Girlfriend 👭
  • Volunteer together at your local women’s domestic violence shelter, gay & lesbian center, library, animal shelter, or food bank.  Not only is it helpful to those in need, but working together for the greater good helps form healthy relationships.
  • Attend PRIDE or any other event involving the LGB community!  You can to spend the day together in a positive, glitter-filled space AND get meet other same-sex couples while you’re at it
  • Get athletic!  Go ride bikes together or hit up the nearest pool or beach.  It’s healthy and much more fun when you’re together
  • Put a soft picnic blanket outside so you can snuggle and look at the stars.  As cliche as it is, stargazing is relaxing and meditative, and there’s no better person to do it with than your gf

Feel free to reblog + add more!

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Broadway Backwards on March, 13, 2017, where men sing songs intended for women and vice versa without changing pronouns, shattered fundraising records, bringing in an impressive $522,870 to benefit Broadway Cares/Equity Fights AIDS and The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center in New York City.

If you think asexuals face a level of discrimination and oppression anywhere near or even greater than the oppression faced by gay men and lesbians, I urge you to:

1. Go outside

2. Actually talk to a gay man or a lesbian because if you think the ace experience is at all similar to the gay/lesbian experience, you’ve either never met a gay man or a lesbian or you’re extremely self centered and want to be a victim

I have a crush on a female trumpet player. Few people assume guard girls are gay or bisexual. A lot of stereotypes about lesbians are centered around being “boyish” (for lack of a better word) and guard is all about glitter and makeup and looking traditionally feminine; so people rarely suspect it. Shoutout to all the wlw guard girls out there! You’re loved and valid!
—  anonymous
Can we talk about Magnus Hirschfield for a moment?

The man is a Jewish German physician and he is a part of and founded the Scientific Humanitarian Committee: they advocate for sexual minorities’ such as homosexuals and trans people.

He passionately defended the rights for homosexuals and wanted to repeal Paragraph 175, an article which criminalizes homosexuality. He says “homosexuality was part of the plan of nature and creation just like normal love”.

And with that said, Hirschfield was condemned by German media, who called him a freak scientist. His testimony lead him to be hated by the German people, if not outraged.

Hirschfield was an outspoken supporter for sexual minorities and stood for women’s rights during the early 20th century (where they actually needed it) and joined the League for the Protection of Mothers: he campaigned the decriminalization of abortion, and was against the ban for female teachers or civil service workers to get married or have children.

Hirschfield died on his birthday, 14th May 1967 in Nice, France.

Hirschfield inspired people like by Henry Gerber, an American homosexual rights activist who started the short lived Society For Humans Rights in 1924; it was known to be the first known gay rights organization of America. In 1979 in Ireland, the Hirschfield Center was established which was the first gay and lesbian community center.

People like Magnus Hirschfield is the LGBT hero we all should talk about. People who strongly defended and advocated for our rights and having our place in the world back in the day, where being yourself is worth of being arrested, euthanized, and hated by society.

If not for him, we wouldn’t be here at all.

Why Ableism Matters to You, Even if You are Not Disabled:

I made a thing. I drew it in response to  this essay that Son of Baldwin posted on Twitter. Especially this line: “ In many ways, I believe ableism is the root bigotry of humanity.” So I took that metaphor and made it visual.

Image description: A black and white tabloid sized poster in the style of an educational diagram, showing a tree and its root system, combined with text.

At the bedrock level: “BIGOTRY: Beliefs and policies which work to exclude people from full membership in human society.”

In the root system: “ABLEISM: Judging the value of a person’s humanity on the basis of ability.”

The trunk has two forks; the left-hand fork is labeled “RACISM:” and leads to an example racist belief in its cluster of leaves: “Blacks are Less Intelligent than Whites, but they are More Athletic.”

The right-hand fork is labeled “SEXISM:” and leads to two clusters of leaves. The main cluster reads: “Women are Weaker, & Less Rational than Men;” the secondary cluster reads: “Gays are effeminate. Lesbians are emasculating.”

The top cluster of leaves, centered between these two branches, with a freely curving arrow pointing down to each half, reads: “Claims about Ability used to Pass Judgment on People’s Humanity (This is ABLEISM)”

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It may become part of a larger essay on how ableism 1) fuels other bigotries and 2) impedes solidarity and resistance to oppression (Consider this Fig. 1, out of X number of illustrative figures). But I’m not sure how long it will take for me to write that longer essay, and I wanted to start the discussion now.

P.S.: If you repost this without the image description, then you’d be excluding people with vision and text impairments from the discussion.  And that would be a schmuck, bigoted, thing to do. Don’t be a bigoted schmuck.