So I was discussing a possible arrangement with a POT and I said I'd be okay with $200 ppm without intimacy, until I felt comfortable enough to sleep with him. He said okay, but no $ for the first date bc it was a "chemistry check". I insisted on a gift, monetary or otherwise just for taking time out of my day to see him, looking good for him, spending money on transportation. Then he didn't respond. Was I in the wrong? 🤔
Hi there! You’re not in the wrong, you’re not wrong for asking for what you want. You spoke up, and more girls need to do that! I always ask a POT for a gift upon meeting, some won’t reply, and some will say no, but you know what? I asked. I also saved myself time and gas (and other resources) to meet up with this stranger. Chemistry check? Sounds like he is a creep, I think there are better words than that. Whenever a POT says no to a gift, I move onto the next, there are too many men to be stressed out about a cheap one. Every successful arrangement I’ve ever had were with men who brought me a gift upon request or INSISTED on bringing me something. Even the men who said no at first, if they are truly interested, they end up agreeing on the gift JUST to meet you. 99% of the dates you go on will not turn into arrangements, now think about all those hours you’ve lost!
I went on a POT date for coffee yesterday, and it wasn’t great; we’re no longer speaking… BUT, I left with $$ (like I requested).