Pearl: has clear troubles communicating and vocalizing her issues and her problems, sometimes to near nonverbal levels when she’s upset (probably because a pearl isn’t supposed to talk back or defend herself)
Pearl: was most likely a slave and knows what being powerless and hopeless against any and all abuse is like, more so than amethyst (not born into it, thankfully), ruby (a soldier who had many friends and outlets), and sapphire, an aristocrat.
Pearl: has clear attachment and emotional issues. Never actually. Uh. You know, hurt Steven. Even if she touched his gem lightly. Did pressure her issues onto Connie and Steven. Her main issues are fixed by introspection, then action (rather than talking it out), and she can really only talk out after being confronted.
Pearl: her actions are not excused by her problems, but she needs to have that aspect of her respected in terms of analysis, and like all the gems, really doesn’t have all that she requires to get better fully.
Steven universe: is a cartoon with a limited ability to explore these aspects, while keeping the plot moving forward and maintaining their budget and child friendly atmosphere. It’s not perfect, and it could be done better. But it can’t do everything perfect, and expecting perfection (in an extreme and irrational way) only hurts the show and others like it, rather than encouraging people to do better and plan better for this kind of issue in their stories.