Please don’t pass judgement on something you don’t understand.
I just read an article about a sorority recruitment video that “is worse for women than Donald Trump”–I read the entire article and watched the video, expecting some horrendous taboo recruitment video. I didn’t get what I expected. It was a complete run of the mill plain Jane recruitment video. The article states"It’s all so racially and aesthetically homogeneous and forced, so hyper-feminine, so reductive and objectifying, so Stepford Wives: College Edition. It’s all so … unempowering,”. When in reality it shows a group of girls goofing around, having fun and bonding with each other to form a sisterhood. Sisterhood is ultimately the reason a girl joins a sorority in the first place, so showcasing that is an extremely important part of the recruitment process. Speaking from experience, the making these types of videos is sometimes choreographed and sometimes someone just pulls out a camera and starts filming friends joking around, sitting and talking.
Do the girls all have on nice outfits, their hair done and makeup on? Yes! Of course! Why would somebody post a video of their sorority looking like crap? That’s not going to attract PNMs. In many sororities, including my own, sisters pride themselves on appreciating beauty, both of themselves and their surroundings. This isn’t in vain or for shallow reasons, but simply because when we look our best, we feel our best. We are confident and ready to conquer anything. When we wear our letters or represent our houses, we are encouraged to spend a little extra time grooming in the morning to look put together. Similarly when I went on field trips in high school, we were instructed to wear nicer clothes and be nicely groomed because we were representing our school. There’s nothing wrong with taking pride in yourself.
Thirdly, the author tells us that the video is lacking : any mention of core ideals or service and philanthropy efforts”. Recruitment videos are meant to be supplemental. They are shown to PNMs DURING the recruitment process. These PNMs are also talking to the sisters about their values and philanthropies. In fact, when I went through recruitment, the video was shown during our philanthropy round. We met with the girl who was recruiting us, talked about the philanthropy that house was involved in, watched the video, and did a small craft for the philanthropy (i.e. making sugar free iced tea lemonade for the JDRF walk when the philanthropy is Diabetes Research and Education). We don’t see it in the 5 minute video, but we talk about the values of the houses for 4 days, each time we visit.
The author concludes saying “It’s the kind of thing I never want my young daughters to see or emulate.” That’s very sad, I want my daughter to emulate sorority women. Women who share a bond that lasts a lifetime. Women who seek wisdom, who aspire to keep their bodies and minds healthy, speak kindly with those who they meet and cherish the friendships they make along the way. I want her to be a woman who looks for ways to contribute to her community and show respect for herself, her home, and her beliefs. I want my daughter to be honest, kind and sincere. I want her to have high ambitions and find a way to reach them. That is the kind of woman I want to be, I want to raise and that is the kind of woman that is in a sorority.
RANT OVER. Please, just do research and find the appropriate information on a subject before you pass judgment. Not everything about a system can be shown in a 5 minute video that’s meant to be an advertisement.
Of course I did a Sherlock cap for so many reasons: one of my favorite shows, based on one of my favorite series, with one of my favorite villains, etc.
& because no one dreams bigger than me. I will rule the world one day and honey, you should see me in a crown 👑💁🏾🎓✊🏾
13 Reasons Why Going Greek Was The Best Thing To Ever Happen To You.
1. You always have a friend to call.
On a lonely night there are no people you’d rather be with than your sisters. They know that the best ways to comfort you are through junk food and Bridesmaids. Or if there is a day where you just want to hang out with some close friends, there will always be someone who is free to do whatever your heart desires. There is a sister for every mood you’re in and you take full advantage of it. You have an endless supply of girls who love you no matter what.
2. There is always someone to offer you advice on something.
Whether it be taking that impossible economics class that’s required for your major, or going on your first date with a boy from tinder or a boy your big set you up with, there is someone in your sorority who has done it already. And trust me, they are more than willing to tell you the do’s and don’ts of those moments.
3. You have an endless supply of t-shirts.
Bid day, Formal, Greek Week, you name it and there is a shirt for it. And what we love about these shirts is not only the cute designs, but that they stand as a memory for every activity we poured our little Greek hearts into. Besides, without these massive collections of t-shirts, what other clothes would we spoil our littles with during big/little week?
4. Letters, letters, letters.
Did I say letters? Let’s be honest, who does not want to wear the cutest stitched letters on a day-to-day basis to let the world know that you are in the greatest sorority on earth? Believe me, we will get letters for every occasion too. Big/little letters, pledge class letters, roommate letters, family letters: if there’s a reason to have them, you bet we are spending our nonexistent paychecks on them.
5. Throwing what you know.
Because who doesn’t want to show off their sororities cute hand sign in front of remarkably beautiful sceneries? We do these hand signs whenever we can because, well, we want the world to know what sorority we belong to. You’re in Europe? Better chuck up that intricate mess of fingers showing your sisters that you still miss and love them from across the sea. And inside, you secretly hope a sister from another chapter sees you taking that picture and comes up to talk to you.
6. You have connections everywhere.
Whether it is a CEO of the company you’re looking to intern at or your neighbor down the street, your fellow sisters are always looking to put you one step ahead. What sister doesn’t want the best for one another? When applying to jobs or networking your way up the totem pole, finding a sister on your way up makes it that much more worthwhile to keep chasing those corporate dreams of yours.
7. Your big is the bomb.
She is the greatest big sister you will ever have for several reasons. One is that she somehow always comes up with the greatest advice for even the stupidest of problems. She will never judge you and you will always be perfect in her eyes. She supports your love of vodka and boys and making bad decisions while you’re drunk. She also loves that some days you prefer to be cuddled up with the blanket she gave you during big/little week, watching Grey’s Anatomy with a pint of Ben & Jerry’s. And lastly she is the coolest person you will ever meet and will forever be your role model.
8. People mistake your room for a mini art show.
I’m talking crafts, people, and a lot of them. Lilly Pulitzer letters, American themed everything and lots of glitter will forever cover your walls. And you will never want to take them down. Life, liberty and the pursuit of sratiness will be a saying that will never leave your head, and you kind of love it.
9. Meals are your favorite part of the day.
Hung-over bagel runs with your sisters on the weekends, big lunches with half of your sorority at a dining hall or daily chipotle runs for dinners, you will never have to be alone through times of hunger. Your sisters share your cravings. They share your desire to gossip about everything under the sun at your obnoxiously crowded lunch table. And they also share your laziness when it comes to actually making a home cooked meal for yourself. Eating with your sisters is pretty much the greatest part of your day.
10. Socials with frats will always give you the best memories to reminisce on.
Finding the perfect outfit for your Harley hangout theme at the local thrift store will be the start of a night of memories for you. The pregame will be your next stop of getting super drunk in order to confidently flirt with that hot pike you’ve had a crush on since you saw him basically win the tug of war himself for his frat during Greek week. And once you (hopefully) make it to the social you and your sisters bust out your greatest dance moves and hair twirling to impress those fraternity men. Some sisters may succeed and some may have to face your perfect standards chair, but at the end of the night you will have stories to last even past your next social.
11. Your sorority’s philanthropy is your favorite thing to brag about to everyone.
I mean my sorority has four, but it’s no big deal or anything. If you’re like me, you love going to every philanthropic event for bonding with your sisters further, helping out the greater good of your community and making a difference in thousands of lives everywhere. Going to sleep with those accomplishments will only make you a happier person and we love every second of it. You also love bragging about everything you do to people who are cynical of sorority girls, and you love showing the world that a sorority is not an organization geared towards partying. Proving people wrong, one fundraiser at a time. Philanthropy’s rock and Greeks know how to make a difference in the world.
12. You are never alone in the library.
It could be 4 pm or 2 am and there will always be a sister in the lib to share your stress about school and unending hatred for long 15 page research papers with you. You may make Starbucks runs and cry over your unending assignments in there, but you will never do it alone. Plus the more the merrier when those fraternity brothers keep looking over at you and your sisters from two tables away.
13. You will always have a place to call home.
Your sisterhood lasts a lifetime. And we mean it. The friends you make through college will eventually become your bridesmaids and someday you will be the new Golden Girls, sharing every aspect of your adult lives with each other. You will be mothered by fellow sisters when needed, you will find someone to cheer you up when you’re heartbroken or stressed, you will have someone to encourage you to do your best and you will always be loved. Your sisters are your family and you wouldn’t trade them for the world. And let’s be honest, they are the sole reason you never want to graduate and leave this home away from home.