I identify as a feminist. I’m not ashamed, or confused or anti-men. I certainly don’t want to throw down the patriarchy or kill all men. I want equality. The word feminist has dirty connotations. People see the word as meaning men haters, of demanding that ‘eye rape’ be a consequence of a man looking at you. These people are not feminists. They don’t have our blessing to even use the word.
Feminism has been needed for hundreds of years. It’s not until women in the Suffragette movement of the late 19th and early 20thCentury that the struggle of the woman was finally seen. The violence involved in certain aspects of this movement is perhaps seen as inflicting more struggle to women but given how they finally succeeded I think we can safely assume that they felt, during this time, that this was the only way that men would listen. And perhaps they were right. In this period men were focused on their own ideals, on their own beliefs and struggles. The worker and the servant were looking for the same rights as women wanted but the difference? Men.