future fail

Scientists just spotted an adorable star that barely even qualifies as one

  • Sometimes, scientists’ categories for things can be a little demeaning. For example: the “failed star” designation for objects that are larger than planets but smaller than stars.
  • About 600 light-years away, EBLM J0555-57Ab just barely missed the failed star category. But as will be published in an upcoming issue of the journal Astronomy & Astrophysics, it’s just a hair over the boundary, making it one of the smallest stars we know of.
  • “Failed star” is actually a factual statement — it just means something isn’t large enough to manage to bang hydrogen atoms together to form helium, the basic process at the heart of a burning star.
  • EBLM J0555-57Ab looks a bit like it shouldn’t have made the cut: It’s only a tiny bit larger than Saturn, or about one-twelfth the size of our sun. Read more (7/12/17)

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Reyes Vidal, from Mass Effect: Andromeda

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聞かせておくれよ その声を…見せておくれよ その夢を… #HAPPYNDAY!

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If you can’t protect Iris, Joe has no use for you

family photos ft. lance

excluding coran bc i can’t do him any justice

16 things I learned while being 16
1. You are a lot stronger than you think you are.
2. Breathe. No matter how bad you feel right now, no day lasts longer than 24 hours.
3. Surround yourself with people who inspire you to be the best version of yourself.
4. Boys aren’t as scary as you think they are.
5. Going to the movies or shopping alone is not something you have to avoid at all costs but rather a great thing to do during your me time.
6. Plan your next steps ahead especially your near future whether it’s looking at unis, apply for internships, book flights etc.
7. Take your time. If you feel like you pushed yourself too far into a relationship for example it’s okay to admit to yourself that you weren’t ready. There are plenty of options later in life.
8. People don’t care about your pimples or your unwashed hair. Sometimes we tend to think that everyone’s thoughts are about us, which is luckily not the case.
9. Become the person you are instead of trying to change yourself for the sake of family members or friends.
10. Having a diary or occasionally writing letters to your future self can reduce your stress level and who doesn’t like reading letters from your past self?
11. Relationships aren’t a necessity. If you never dated, kissed, or were in a relationship with someone, that’s okay. It doesn’t make you less valuable or weird trust me.
12. Tell your loved ones how much you appreciate their existence, they won’t be here forever.
13. Grades aren’t everything. Yes they pretty much determine your future but one failed test won’t destroy everything you worked so hard for.
14. Artsy stuff is amazing. Read books which inspire you or take pictures of the things you love just to put them on your walls afterwords.
15. You can do everything as long as you are passionate about it and willing to work hard.
16. Live. You have your entire life in front of you and the world offers you endless possibilities.
If you want to succeed in your life, remember this phrase: The past does not equal the future. Because you failed yesterday; or all day today; or a moment ago; or for the last six months; the last sixteen years; or the last fifty years of life, doesn’t mean anything… All that matters is: What are you going to do, right now?
—  Anthony Robbins
"Don’t Get Mad, Get Curious”

When I was a kid, my mother once found me in the kitchen, swearing at the dishwasher and shoving its filter around. She had me step aside and showed me a better way of finding out what was wrong with the filter: looking for objects stuck in it, moving it from side to side, taking it out and inspecting it and its seating more closely, and so on.

At the time, this looked like magic. The filter wasn’t working, and I was angry – when I got mad, it felt impossible to do anything other than fight the target of my anger. But my mom was capable of doing otherwise. When faced with the same situation, she calmed down almost immediately and got systematic.

When I said this seemed magical, she told me that she used to fight inoperative appliances too, until she was shown enough times that a systematic approach works better on complicated, broken inanimate objects. From repeated exposure, she learned a mental motion which she called “Don’t get mad, get curious.”

I think there are three broad categories of response to problems (situations where trying what’s worked before isn’t producing good results):

  • Get mad
  • Don’t get mad, give up
  • Don’t get mad, get curious

They’re appropriate to different kinds of problems, and it’s useful to consider in advance which problems call for which reactions. It’s also useful to learn how to switch modes on purpose. This post covers which contexts call for which reactions; how to switch modes is an open question, and approaches tend to be highly individualised.

Getting mad is useful when: 

  1. You’re being mistreated,
  2. Both submission and strategic action have failed repeatedly,
  3. Future cooperation is off the table or isn’t worth it.

Getting mad is best used as stop energy: it’s a way of getting someone to stop doing a thing you dislike, to go away and leave you alone, or to give up their claim on some resource. It’s a bad way to convince someone about matters of fact, it burns goodwill (if any exists), and it makes you less capable of strategic thought, which may put you at risk.

Giving up is useful when getting mad wouldn’t serve your values and curiosity has produced a lot of dead ends. It’s an adaptive response if you’re sad and tired, and don’t expect more negotiation to help your position now, but want to leave the door open for future discussion and potential compromise.

Giving up helps you pick your battles. It’s a bad way to engage with situations that are likely to kick you when you’re down, and/or net-negative situations you really could just leave. It’s a good way to sustain net-positive relationships at those times when your curiosity has been used up.

Getting curious is useful when getting mad wouldn’t serve your values, and you don’t feel like giving up yet. Getting curious helps you learn new information that might be useful: it’s easier to be surprised by the output of curiosity than it is to be surprised by the output of anger or surrender. 

It’s the best response to situations where you want something you haven’t yet gotten, getting what you want is feasible, and the thing you want is not best obtained through intimidation. However, curiosity isn’t a generically appropriate response. It costs willpower, which isn’t always available, and it leaves you open to manipulation if you’re interacting with an unsolvable problem. 

At times, I’ve struggled with overusing one or two of these strategies and neglecting the other(s). My problem-solving ability is significantly improved by using each of these strategies only when they’ll help.