A healthy relationship while having BPD doesn’t mean you never have incidents or meltdowns or splitting or lash out.
That means having complete control over your BPD. While having a lot of control is important, complete control is fucking impossible. It’d be like requiring me to not have any fibromyalgia symptoms that could hurt or disrupt my partner in order to have a healthy relationship. It’s not possible.
What DOES determine a healthy relationship is how you communicate and do damage control and take responsibility and be accountable and LISTEN and ask questions.
I tell my partners when my brain is being an asshole.
“Hey, I keep thinking you’re stupid for this. I don’t actually believe this, or feel this way, but I’m BPD splitting. I thought u should know. It’s not u, don’t worry. I’m sorry if I get impatient or split or lash out. Let me know if anything bothers you, okay?”
It’s not that you never split, you never say stupid shit or hurt each other or lash out or fight (even if it’s just because your brain wants a fight). It’s that you accomodate that and account for it with communication. It’s hard to learn and no one teaches you it. But you can do it.
And that’s literally ANY relationship, whether someone in it is sick, or not. Almost always, relationships get hurt and fuck up and heal, just like the people in them. Like everyone.
Healthy relationships don’t require being healthy.
SHUT THE FUCK UP ABOUT NELLY FERTADO! She's a one hit wonder with her shitty bird song and no one cares about her!!!!!!!
40 million records sold, 2 number 1′s, 4 singles in the top 10, the best selling album by a female in 2006-2007, critical acclaim, genre chameleon, Canadian legend, philanthropist, earth mother, the only Canadian to have a Grammy and a Latin Grammy, multiple other awards including 10 Junos, future inductee into the Canadian Music Hall of Fame etc…
Titles: Miss Petite Dance ~ KAR Mesa 2009 Miss Petition Dance 2nd Runner Up ~ 2011 Miss Junior Dance ~ KAR Phoenix 2012 Mini Female Outstanding Dancer ~ NYCDA Phoenix 2013 Mini Female Best Dancer Top 10 ~ The Dance Awards 2013 Miss Junior Dance ~ KAR Mesa 2014 Junior Female Outstanding Dancer ~ NYCDA Phoenix 2014 2014 Junior Best Dancer 1st Runner-Up ~ The Dance Awards 2014 Las Vegas 2015 Junior Best Dancer Winner ~ The Dance Awards 2015 Las Vegas Solos: Born to Entertain: 1st Place Primary Solo (8 and Under) ~ KAR Phoenix 2008 4th Place Future Hall of Famer Solo ~ Hall of Fame Phoenix 2009 8th Place Mini (8 and Under) Solo ~ Showstopper Phoenix 2009 Dimples: 1st Place Top Primary Solo (8 and Under) ~ KAR Mesa 2009 1st Place Future Hall of Famer Solo ~ Hall of Fame Phoenix 2010 1st Place Mini Solo ~ JUMP Phoenix 2010 2nd Place Mini (8 and Under) Competitive Solo ~ Showstopper Phoenix 2010 Baby I’m A Star: 1st Place Future Hall of Famer Solo ~ Hall of Fame Phoenix 2011 Smile: 1st Place Seconday Solo (8 and Under) ~ KAR Mesa 2011 1st Place Mini Solo ~ JUMP Phoenix 2012 1st Place Secondary Solo (9-11) ~ KAR Phoenix 2012 Beautiful Like Me: 2nd Place Junior Soloist ~ Starbound Phoenix 2012 2nd Place Seconday Solo (9-11) ~ KAR Phoenix 2012 Roxie: 1st Place Elite Junior Solo ~ In10sity Phoenix 2012 3rd Place Junior American League Solo ~ Hall of Fame Phoenix 2012 Sleep Song: 1st Place Mini Solo ~ NUVO Dallas 5th Place Junior Soloist ~ Starbound Phoenix 2012 Ohh Ohh Child: 1st Place Mini Solo ~ NUVO Houston 2012 2nd Place Mini Solo ~ JUMP Phoenix 2012 4th Palce Junior American League Solo ~ Hall of Fame Dance Phoenix 2012 6th Place Junior Soloist ~ Starbound Phoenix 2012 Shelter: 1st Place Mini Solo ~ NUVO Phoenix 1st Place Junior Solo ~ NUVO Pittsburgh 1st Place Junior Solo ~ JUMP Miami 2nd Place Junior Solo ~ JUMP Las Vegas Crippled Bird: 1st Place Secondary Solo (9-11) ~ KAR Mesa 2013 1st Place Junio Solo ~ NUVO Calgary 2013 2nd Place Mini (7-10) Solo ~ The Dance Awards 2013 5th Place Secondary Solo (9-11) ~ KAR Mesa 2013 North: 1st Place Junior Soloist ~ NYCDA Phoenix 2014 1st Place Intermediate Solo (9-11) ~ KAR Mesa 2014 The Dawn: 1st Place Junior Solo ~ 24 Seven Dance Salt Lake City 2014 1st Place Junior Solo ~ NUVO Albuquerque 2014 Fly To You: 1st Place Junior Solo ~ NUVO Long Beach 2014 Youth: 1st Okace Junior Solo ~ Adrenaline Phoenix 2nd Place Junior (11-12) Solo ~ The Dance Awards Las Vegas 2014 4th Place Junior American League Solo ~ Hall of Fame Las Vegas 2014 Afterlife: 1st Place Junior (11-12) Solo ~ JUMP Las Vegas 1st Place Junior (11-12) Solo ~ JUMP Honolulu 3rd Place Junior (11-12) Solo ~ NUVO Long Beach 2015 Elephants: 5th Place Junior Solo ~ 24 Seven Dance Glendale 5th Place Teen (12-14) Competitive Solo ~ Showstoppers Phoenix 2015 Princess Auora Vatiation from Sleeping Beauty Top 24 Classical Dance ~ YAGP Denver Distant Lights: 4th Place Junior (11-12) Solo ~ The Dance Awards Las Vegas 2015 Scholarship: Mini Female JUMP VIP Winner ~ JUMP Phoenix Mini Female Breakout Artist Winner ~ NUVO Dallas Standout in Jazz ~ NUVO Pittsburgh Junior Female Non-Stop Dancer Winner ~ 24 Seven Dance Salt Lake City 2014
In defiance of the Reds’ policy, Rollie Fingers refuses to cut off his trademark handlebar mustache and retires from baseball. The future Hall of Fame reliever, who leaves the game with 341 saves, had been offered a contract by Cincinnati’s skipper Pete Rose after being released by the Brewers at the end of last season
LOOK YOU FUCKS. This was not what I had planned for tonight. I was going to enjoy a beer, finish proofing chapter 3 of Love Light Gleams, and go to bed early. Then y’all had to reblog @mindykahling‘s post (here). And yes, ok, MAYBE my tags were a little sinful, but @darlinginmyway had to escalate AS PER USUAL. Also tagging @pottercastleminds because you had the misfortune of also calling out my tags.
Mike fancies himself a pretty observant guy. It’s how he and
his mom got by when he was younger, partaking in actions that could be
considered less-than-legal. It’s why he’s a future hall of fame catcher,
sussing out batters’ patterns and calling for pitches accordingly. It makes him
a great captain, reading the different personalities in the room and getting
them all to work in harmony.
It’s how he figured out early on that Ginny has a thing for his hands.
In his first major league start, Dodger rookie starter Tommy Lasorda ties a record, throwing three wild pitches in the first inning of the team’s 4-3 victory over St. Louis at Ebbets Field. The future Dodgers’ Hall of Fame manager, in his one inning of work, will be spiked by Wally Moon, covering a play at home plate after throwing one of his errant pitches
One of the most violent and unpredictable wrestlers to have graced the squared circle was the maniacal Luna Vachon. Wrestling with a fierce, brutal style, Vachon was the niece of Maurice “Mad Dog” Vachon, who revolutionized wrestling by intimidating audiences, speaking directly into the camera when addressing his opponents. Luna certainly carried on that legacy, as she was never concerned with being the prettiest girl on the show- only the best, and perhaps the meanest. Her most notable rivalries were against Federation favorite Alundra Blayze, and later against the wildly popular Sable, who competed against Vachon in a Evening Gown Match at Unforgiven in 1998.
Although Vachon gathered several championship reigns in her career, she never captured the WWF Women’s Championship, which she so yearned for. In August of 2010, Vachon passed away at the age of 48. Even more tragically, all of her pro wrestling memorabilia, which could and should be displayed in pro wrestling museums and a potential future Hall Of Fame, perished in a fire a few months before her death.
Gone, but certainly not forgotten. It saddens me to remember someone so special that made so many people cringe with her brutal in-your-face grimace and complete disregard for her opponents’ well being and looks.