I find karamel abusive because I find it abusive, but I don't blame the shippers. I worry because I am a mom and hate to see young impressionable viewers not be able to really be critical of what they view. Mon-el may be foreign but they see him as nothing less than a fully functioning adult human and because Kara is all over him, it makes all the wrong things he does seem acceptable. It is played for laughs when it really isn't that funny in real life. Not "ship hate", just concern.