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Hey Anti Reylos

Here is someone you don’t want to be associated with:

And again when called out for it:

I’m appealing to common human decency and rational thought here: please call this shit out if you see it, antis. I don’t care what you think of a ship but this shit is going too far and this is becoming an increasingly common tactic. This is not the first or last time we have been called Nazi/white supremacists/fascists. I doubt it will be the last. 

I go to fandom to have fun and escape from actual Nazism in my life; Nazis want people like me dead or subjugated. In fact, they want anyone who is an “intellectual enemy” dead or subjugated. I do not deserve to be persecuted or dehumanized, least of all in the name fighting Nazism and least of all for a fucking ship. 

anonymous asked:

Hey can you help me. I'm Punjabi Pakistani and I'm seriously dealing with a lot of self esteem issues. My family are always making remarks about my nose/eyes. I know I sound stupid, but it's just racist remarks like oh u have Chinese eyes and a nose, your eyes are so little your nose is so flat and wide etc. the list goes on just targeting these two features.(I didn't even realise Pakistanis only liked the long thin nose with a high bridge like Aiza Khan) How do I accept myself despite all this

oh hey ! ok first of all you DO NOT sound stupid and yes sadly pakistanis like thin noses and like my whole life my family has been making fun of my nose too so i understand what you are talking about. Well what i did was first of all stopped looking at white girls photos and even when i looked at them and found them pretty i would remind myself im finding them pretty because i have internalised colourism that was the step one .. step 2 was looking at people’s photos ( or watching tv shows with the said actors ) who were not conventionally attractive you know and there were moments where i would be like ok they kinda cute and it made me think if they have a huge nose and they look cute so maybe you know maybe my nose is cute too?? its slow process but it works ..another method i have heard is to look yourself in the mirror and tell you are pretty you have a beautiful nose i personally find this method obnoxious lol but you can try that and about the eyes i have always been told that i have pretty eyes so i dont have personal experience but i think you should   follow east asian and south east asian people you will find someone who have eyes like yours and you might start loving your eyes who knows and about your family just ignore them dude let them be ..

anonymous asked:

Not Snape related but why do you think a lot of men make fun of women's weight? I noticed this in my life where my father makes fun of both my mother and myself. Both of us are not even overweight which makes less sense when men have told me to "lose weight." It's funny because when I developed anorexia and got to a gross skinny weight, they hated that too. It's like you can't win.

The answer is simple: being able to make someone feel powerless gives you power, or at least, it gives you the illusion of power.  People, but men in particular, say mean things about women’s bodies because they’re trying to make you feel inferior and vulnerable so that you will relinquish your power. 

What is that power?  Why, the power to be a confident person who moves through life making decisions about themselves and their body unfettered by insecurity and self-hatred.  

Do you take care of things you hate? Why, then, would you take care of a body you hated?  When people teach you to hate yourself, they are teaching you to devalue yourself, which makes you easy to isolate and manipulate.

Severus learned this quite early on because he is not attractive in any classical sense of the word and his ugliness, poverty, and awkwardness branded him an outsider. It was, then, much easier for him to be seduced by the Death Eaters with promises of power and respect.  

He learned a hard lesson at an early age- no outside thing, group, product, etc can make you respect yourself or feel like you’re finally “good.”  You can’t inherently become “worth” more if you listen to the very people who are telling you that you’re worthless. Therein lies madness.

Though Snape has many serious problems with self-loathing and self-hatred, he also has an oddly robust sense of self-esteem about certain things- he knows where he is skilled and when he is in his element, he is elegant and refined and comfortable.

When you allow people to become the voice in your head that tells you you’re not good enough (fat and ugly etc can be used but it’s not just the words, it’s the meaning behind them), then you are giving them power over you.


Instead, though it is not always easy (or safe to do so), I recommend the following:

Your Dad: *says mean thing about your body*

You: Dad, that’s really disrespectful. I’d appreciate it if you don’t talk about my body like that. Let’s talk about something else.

Your Dad: *pushes the subject*

You: *talk about something your dad is insecure about*  Would you like me to bring up this topic every time you do the same for me? I mean, since we’re being super rude and trying to make each other uncomfortable, and all.

Your Dad: *pulls the BS “you have to respect me because you’re my child” card*

You: “Yes. I’m your child. You’re supposed to love and protect me. Being mean to me isn’t doing either of these things. You are being a bad parent right now, and I am asking you to change your behavior so you can do better in the future.”

Your Dad: *whines about how it’s UNFAIR that you have FEELINGS*

You (if you feel safe to say it): “You do know I’m the one who is going to be choosing your nursing home, so you might want to rethink treating me with such disrespect. Karma is a bitch, you know.”

Your Dad: *storms off in a huff*

You to yourself: I’m not the one making this awkward. He’s the one making this awkward by saying mean things about my body out of nowhere.  It doesn’t matter that they’re not true, it’s cruel behavior and he is the one in the wrong.

Your Dad: *tries it again*

You: “Please don’t act disrespectfully towards me or I am leaving the room/house/ignoring you.”

You: “This conversation is over unless you’d like to stop being disrespectful and mean.”

You: “I will continue to repeat myself until you stop. You are being hurtful. I would like you to stop being hurtful. There are plenty of other things that we could talk about that are not hurtful. Why don’t we try (subject change) instead?”

You: “It doesn’t matter if you think it’s a joke or funny. I do not like or appreciate it. Please stop.”

You: “Because I have told you very bluntly and explicitly that I don’t like being called these things and you keep doing it, I’m going to assume that you don’t think it’s a joke and that you’re actually trying to be hurtful and cruel, which really lowers my respect for you.”


There are lots of ways to tell people how you want to be treated without being a smartass, but it’s certainly rather fun to tell people to stick it up their ass and spin.  One of the best ways of pushing people off of undermining your self esteem is if you don’t give them an opening and you approach their bullshit as though you have No Idea that they’re being shitty and acting like they’re just a Confused Decent Human Being.  People hate being told they’re being mean and rude, but they will change if you keep up a broken record of “you are being inappropriate and disrespectful and I want you to stop doing X behavior.”

It’s annoying, but it helps develop a sense of self-esteem that is separate from what other people tell you about yourself.

This leaves you with the ability to decide what you want for yourself and your body and life and with a good resistance to the bullshit being marketed at you every single day of your life.

Hopefully that helps a bit!

I had the sudden urge to draw them in Elie Saab dresses (x) (x) and I JUST—-

why do they look so good they’re illegal

i am constantly growing as a person and i’m very thankful for it.. i just.. love myself? in the most sincere way. i am aware of my flaws, and i accept them, but i don’t encourage them. i allow myself to make mistakes, and forgive myself for them, but push myself to learn from them and use the experience to become better. i am understanding of my limits, but i also make myself take chances sometimes, because i also know i’m capable of more than i’d like to think i am.. and sometimes, the only way to grow is to make yourself… i don’t have it all figured it out, and i still have a long way to go, in my own personal journey, but i’ll be there with myself every step of the way. and that’s a very nice thought.

here’s a long list of random prompts

-”hey dude? can you do me a favor and show me where i asked”
-”….spiders. of course it’s spiders.”
-”how the hell do you find anything in this place?”
-”what the hell is in your pants?”
-”you want me to go get what now
-”there’s no way in hell im working with HIM”
-”so you’re telling me, that out of all of our options right now, that is the plan you wanna go with?”
-”im sorry, what was it you said about vehicular manslaughter?”
-”it’s not stealing if he deserves it”
-”im sorry do you wanna repeat that
-”im not drinking that”
-”for the hundredth time, no
-”now is NOT the time for a selfie!”
-”that’s sick. how could anyone do that” “(just did That)….”
-”is planetary genocide really the answer here?”
-”yeah, about that…”
-”im sorry, but that’s pretty fucking cool”
-”that was the weirdest, scariest, most awesome experience of my life”
-”do i have to?”
-”i’ll wear whatever i want, thank you.”
-”dude are you okay? you look like you’ve got the plague”
-”this is fine, right? it’s probably fine”
-”how was I supposed to know that?!”
-”I didn’t know that was flammable..”
-”you’re kidding, right?”
-”we started at the bottom and somehow we’ve managed to sink even lower”
-”who the hell are you
-”this is a bad idea. this is absolutely a bad idea”
-”guys, maybe we shouldn’t go to this incredibly dangerous place- and you’re already gone.”
-”you can’t expect me to forgive you”
-”maybe i can’t hide, but i can sure as hell run”
-”you can’t just waltz back into my life like nothing happened!”
-”get out
-”is that blood?”
-”do i even want to know what happened?”
-”how the hell did you think that was a good idea?”
-”shut up, Satan”
-”i got my masters for this…”
-”im not supposed to be here
-”you can torture me all you want, i’ll never talk”
-”you’ll have to get through me first”
-”it’s my job to die for you. stop interfering with my work”
-”yes, im his guardian, unfortunately” 
-”well, you see, what had happened was-”
-”what the hell is that noise
-”you’ll never take me alive”
-”that’s the dumbest shit ive ever heard. let’s do it.”
-”i can’t believe you did that”
-”it’s a long story that involves a lot of blood, a couple squirrels, and one hell of a headache”
-”its dangerous” “but it’s so cute
-”have i ever told you how much I hate your guts?”
-”you ruined me.”
-”you’ll pay for that”
-”you can take everything, my possessions, my life, but please, dont take her
-”i’ll come back for you, i promise”
-”hate is such a strong word, i prefer extreme dislike
-”stop pretending to be a hero”
-”I may be a villain, but even i have standards”
-”forget the goddamn mission!
-”Im not doing this for you, im doing it for me.”
-”stay out of this
-”the devil is an asshole”
-”you got a problem with that?”
-”if you hurt them, so help me-
-”what is your damage
-”first of all, ow
-”…i forgot what i came here for”
-”are you sure it’s safe?”
-”thanks, i have anxiety”
-”sorry, but im not on the menu tonight”
-”you threatened who
-”if i wasnt incredibly happy to see you i’d kick your ass”
-”you owe me for that”
-”fuck off ghost!”
-”what kind of horror movie shit is this?”
-”oh, paranormal activity. my favorite
-”we were so goddamn close!”
-”permission to speak freely? that’s fucking stupid.”
-”how come everytime I turn around, you’re blowing something up?”
-”where did you get that
-”don’t look at that!”
-”who gave you permission to be here?”
-”hypothetically speaking-”
-”shut up you fucking nerd”
-”okay- who invited the bear?”
-”you won’t be laughing soon”
-”jeez, talk about a weird hobby”
-”dont you find that just a little suspicious?”
-”you won’t have to worry anymore”
-”i’ll take care of it, once and for all”
-”is there anything you wouldn’t do for money?”
-”fuck your eyebrows”
-”you’ve been playing this game for how long
-”could’ve went a bit smoother, but it still worked”
-”hey, we’re alive right?”
-”you didn’t bring me along for just my good looks”
-”how are you so confident about everything?”
-”oh yeah? if like to see you do better”
-”that’s not how this works! that’s not how any of this works!”
-”why are there so many dogs” “why not”
-”first of all, you ignored my dog in a bee costume, so fuck you. second of all-”
-”are you flirting with me?”
-”why do i find that hard to believe?”
-”why must i suffer”
-”SORRY I COULDN’T HEAR YOU OVER HOW HARD I KICKED YOUR ASS”

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I’m rarely ever patient with backgrounds and shading, but I couldn’t help myself with this one! Thank you so much @thecottonproject for creating such a beautiful and fun lineart for the @pjocoloringbookproject! There was so much included, but not so much that it was overwhelming to color in! It was the perfect amount! It was so much fun adding all the little details! You did a lovely job and I’ve always loved how you drew these characters! Thank you so much!!!

Good boy

yALL I FUCKING FUCKED UP TODAY TEACHING

So basically you have a group of back muscles called the “Erector Spinae”. And I asked my students if they knew what the word “Erector” meant. Its a valid question cause its the function of the muscles! And a guy next to me said “…..Erection?”

AND MY FUCKING SLY ASS DOESNT EVEN THINK and replied “good boy.”

IT WAS MY LAST MISTAKE EVER MADE IN MY LIFE. THESE ARE GROWN ASS COLLEGE STUDENTS LIKE ME AND U MENTION ERECTION AND THEY LOSE IT. BUT HERE I AM SAYING “GOOD BOY” TO A GUY THAT SAID “erECTION” AND THEY ARE HOWLING AT THIS POINT. Absolutely losing it.

So throughout the rest of the class anytime someone got a answer right they would just say “good boy” whether it was a boy or girl that answered it. I created the next class meme. This is my legacy.