full frontal feminism: a young woman's guide to why feminism matters

What’s the worst possible thing you can call a woman? Don’t hold back, now.
You’re probably thinking of words like slut, whore, bitch, cunt (I told you not to hold back!), skank.
Okay, now, what are the worst things you can call a guy? Fag, girl, bitch, pussy. I’ve even heard the term “mangina.”
Notice anything? The worst thing you can call a girl is a girl. The worst thing you can call a guy is a girl. Being a woman is the ultimate insult. Now tell me that’s not royally fucked up.
What’s the worst possible thing you can call a woman? Don’t hold back, now.
You’re probably thinking of words like slut, whore, bitch, cunt (I told you not to hold back!), skank.
Okay, now, what are the worst things you can call a guy? Fag, girl, bitch, pussy. I’ve even heard the term “mangina.”
Notice anything? The worst thing you can call a girl is a girl. The worst thing you can call a guy is a girl. Being a woman is the ultimate insult. Now tell me that’s not royally fucked up.
—  ― Jessica Valenti, Full Frontal Feminism: A Young Woman’s Guide to Why Feminism Matters
What’s the worst possible thing you can call a woman? Don’t hold back, now.
You’re probably thinking of words like slut, whore, bitch, cunt (I told you not to hold back!), skank.
Okay, now, what are the worst things you can call a guy? Fag, girl, bitch, pussy. I’ve even heard the term “mangina.”
Notice anything? The worst thing you can call a girl is a girl. The worst thing you can call a guy is a girl. Being a woman is the ultimate insult. Now tell me that’s not royally fucked up.

What’s the worst possible thing you can call a woman? Don’t hold back, now. You’re probably thinking of words like slut, whore, bitch, cunt (I told you not to hold back!), skank. Okay, now, what are the worst things you can call a guy? Fag, girl, bitch, pussy. I’ve even heard the term “mangina.”

Notice anything? The worst thing you can call a girl is a girl. The worst thing you can call a guy is a girl. Being a woman is the ultimate insult. Now tell me that’s not royally fucked up.

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Jessica Valenti, Full Frontal Feminism: A Young Woman’s Guide to Why Feminism Matters

Book Geek Quote #434

What’s the worst possible thing you can call a woman? Don’t hold back, now.
You’re probably thinking of words like slut, whore, bitch, cunt, skank.
Okay, now, what are the worst things you can call a guy? Fag, girl, bitch, pussy. Notice anything? The worst thing you can call a girl is a girl. The worst thing you can call a guy is a girl. Being a woman is the ultimate insult. Now tell me that’s not royally fucked up.
—    Jessica Valenti, Full Frontal Feminism: A Young Woman’s Guide to Why Feminism Matters.
What’s the worst possible thing you can call a woman? Don’t hold back, now. You’re probably thinking of words like slut, whore, bitch, cunt (I told you not to hold back!), skank. Okay, now, what are the worst things you can call a guy? Fag, girl, bitch, pussy, I’ve even heard the term “mangina”. Notice anything? The worst thing you can call a girl is a girl. The worst thing you can call a guy is a girl. Being a woman is the ultimate insult. Now tell me that’s not royally fucked up.
—  Jessica Valenti, Full frontal feminism: a young woman’s guide to why feminism matters
What’s the worst possible thing you can call a woman? Don’t hold back, now.
You’re probably thinking of words like slut, whore, bitch, cunt (I told you not to hold back!), skank.
Okay, now, what are the worst things you can call a guy?
Fag, girl, bitch, pussy. I’ve even heard the term “mangina.”
Notice anything?
The worst thing you can call a girl is a girl. The worst thing you can call a guy is a girl. Being a woman is the ultimate insult.
Now tell me that’s not royally fucked up.
— 

― Jessica Valenti

Full Frontal Feminism: A Young Woman’s Guide to Why Feminism Matters

boolinoid  asked:

Were you serious about the 'not possible to be sexist against men' comment?

Yep! Prejudice can go both ways, certainly. But sexism requires prejudice+power, which in this society women do not technically possess. Men are in control of the vast majority of property and leadership positions, and when a man says “Women should stay in the kitchen”/”I hate women”, he is in a sense reinforcing thousands of years of aggressive, paternalistic tendencies and actions. He is perpetuating a culture designed to elevate men while simultaneously treating women as inferior in every single sense. When a woman says “men suck”, she’s not actually backing anything, as women have never been in a total position of power wherein they can combine those words with oppressive actions that degrade and demean men. Women, in the most technical sense, do not possess the “power” over men that would be required to be sexist against them.

If I call a male a “fuckboy”, it means essentially nothing, since it isn’t representative and supportive of a larger culture aimed to elevate women at the expense of men. If I call a woman a “slut”, it is sexist, because it’s representative of a larger culture that’s designed to elevate men and degrade and shame and control women. (And notice that “slut” is a double standard word designed to shame women for engaging in sex with multiple partners, which we praise men for. There’s no sexist term for a male with multiple partners.) And hurt feelings over calling someone a “fuckboy” simply aren’t comparable to generations of silencing, degrading, exploiting, objectifying, belittling, and restricting women.

[Also, important quote about insults:

What’s the worst possible thing you can call a woman? Don’t hold back, now.
You’re probably thinking of words like slut, whore, bitch, cunt (I told you not to hold back!), skank.
Okay, now, what are the worst things you can call a guy? Fag, girl, bitch, pussy. I’ve even heard the term “mangina.”
Notice anything? The worst thing you can call a girl is a girl. The worst thing you can call a guy is a girl. Being a woman is the ultimate insult. - Jessica ValentiFull Frontal Feminism: A Young Woman’s Guide to Why Feminism Matters

Moving on: one can list all the specific situations they want where a female murdered a male, where a female objectified a male, where a male was affected by a double standard in a negative way, but those are single, isolated situations and do not align with or back up an entire society based around female dominance, since that society does not exist. Reverse sexism would require females and males to already maintain equal positions in society, which is not currently the case. It also requires there to be a barrage of prejudicial comments/actions against an entire group, which is not the case with women attacking men, since again, female-on-male attacks (in the physical and mental sense) are isolated and not part of a repeated pattern.

You can certainly be prejudiced and hateful and spiteful toward men. But you cannot be sexist toward them. This is true for some of the very same reasons you cannot be racist toward white people. This is why men do not need a designated “safe space” and white people do not need a “white history month”; because every space is a male safe space, and every day is white history day. When females (or people of color, or other similarly oppressed groups) try to carve out “safe spaces” for themselves that focus solely on female issues, it is not sexist, it is attempting to provide equity for a group existing in a society that has not been designed for their benefit. Though there is a Black Entertainment Channel and not a white entertainment channel, this is not racist or unfair, because white people are not underrepresented in any part of the media. And if a black person calls a white person a “cracker”, it’s not racist (as a white person calling a black person the n-word would be), because it isn’t backing any deeply rooted system of oppression. See?

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Very detailed and thorough blog post about reverse sexism (or the lack thereof)

And if you don’t want to read through that blog post, here’s a particularly important quote:

Something else that is important to understand is that oppression is not discrimination. Oppression is about systems and relations of power, and exists in social structures and institutions. Oppression is wide-spread subjugation of one group while simultaneously privileging another group. This means that those groups who are subjected to oppression are not in a social position to oppress people belonging to the dominant group. There is no such thing as “reverse” sexism, racism, homophobia, (dis)ableism, classism, etc. —Thinking Girl

Blog post on why misandry is not actually real, and why women like to call themselves misandrists anyway

And if you don’t want to read that post either, here’s a quote on why even misandry itself cannot be sexist:

  • Misandry is not a hatred of every individual man but a hatred of patriarchy, the male-dominated system that allows sexism to permeate every aspect of our lives without challenge.  Misandry means hatred of a system in which the masculine is glorified and the feminine is deprecated. —misandry-mermaid

—Sylvie