-Walk tall, confidence is the key in everything you do. As a transgender individual not everyone will take you seriously but you need to be strong.
-Shave the fuzz. A smooth face is better than a fuzzy face.
-Vests honestly work to hiding chest thingies. Bajas do as well.
-Finding pants can suck for people. Even cis guys who lift unfortunately. Levis have these amazing jeans. They’re athletic fit which helps around the hips, and thighs which is my issue.
-Acne will suck once you go on T. Wash your face twice a day with soap and water. Acne wipes will help during that time. Lemon water (drink it, or you know I’m sure you can rub it all over) also clears skin and serves other amazing purposes.
-When using the boys bathroom, do not talk, do not interact. Do your business and leave. Do not make eye contact. It’s not the same as using a bathroom with feminine individuals.
-Dating can be hard. You look younger than you really are which sometimes isn’t a good thing. People younger than you will also be all over you. Like teenagers. Do not give in! One day you won’t look like a baby (cross your fingers), that means hopefully people your own age will date you! You could also try getting a tattoo if you’re old enough so people know you’re older than 18 .-.
-Also with dating. It’s a whole lot different as a man. You’re no longer girlxgirl or girlxguy (well the last one is possible but you won’t be the girl anymore). The dynamic is so different. It might take time to get your groove back so don’t get frustrated.
-As you get older and start passing (you’ll get there!). Privileges will open up to you. Your world will change. But that doesn’t give you the right to be an asshole! You don’t need to be a feminist but remember what it’s like to be a women and how the world treated you.
-Bullying can suck, even if you have an amazing support system. I have a warning for you. Do Not Engage. They will pick fights. Yes stand up for yourself but do not stoop to their level. Stay strong and keep your head up. You’re more than them.
-You will lose friends. It sucks but your true friends who are meant to be in your life will stick by you to support you. You will have an amazing support system even if you don’t have one now. If your family isn’t supportive then you can create your own in the future.
-Last but not least, be you. Stay amazing. Stay you. You’re perfect and some day people will see that. I promise.
LET BOYS BE CUTE AND LOVELY AND LET BOYS HAVE PRETTY THINGS AND FEEL PRETTY AND BE PRETTY LET BOYS ENJOY PINK LET BOYS BE SENSITIVE AND CRY OVER CHICK FLICKS AND ENJOY PEACEFUL NIGHTS AND LOVE BIG SWEATERS AND SNOWFALLS. LET BOYS BE FEMININE AND LOVE DESPERATE HOUSE WIVES AND DANCE MOMS
LET BOYS BE THE BOY THEY WANT TO BE NOT THE BOY YOU EXPECT THEM TO THANKS.
For those of you thinking of purchasing testosterone illegally please remember you are taking your life into your hands and you absolutely can overdose on T and it can be life threatening. Taking a ton of T will not masculinize you. Too much T can get converted back into estrogen.
Do not take any testosterone not purchased with your prescription given to you by your doctor. Every one’s dose is different.
-Build my chest muscles
-Walk around in my underwear
-Stand up straight
-Buying new shirts (that I wear 40% of my day)
-Tank tops and douchebag shirts
-Massage my scars
-Put lotion on my nips
-Look at myself in the mirror
-Sending shirtless selfies to friends/family
-Change in the locker room
-Show off the progress I’ve made on my body
-When someone playfully hits my chest or puts their hands on it
honestly I don’t know what to say. So many people hate on tumblr as a resource but as a person from a conservative relatively rural area, tumblr exposed me to information that I didn’t know at the time would change my life. Im thankful for the trans community on here for helping me through my transition :)
PLEASE LOVE YOUR TRANSGENDER & NON BINARY CHILDREN. THEY ARENT HURTING ANYONE. THEY ARE NORMAL AND THEY DESERVE YOUR LOVE. THATS ALL WE WANT.
I don’t care if they are 13, I don’t care if they are 30.
This is what transphobia looks like. This is what being 27 years old and your family is talking to you like a toddler and telling you “Sweetie, that’s just how the world is. We can’t change our minds. I’m sorry, we don’t love Kyle, we love Katie.”
I am strong. I will survive this. But this is what is killing children. This is what is killing adults. This is the ugly reality of things.
I went home for Christmas in the hopes I could show my family how good I was doing. Even after they told me I wasn’t allowed to come originally. I fought to be here. I had gained weight, me depression is better, my anxiety is gone, my smile was real.
But it was crushed. Every. Day. No one stuck up for me. Not even my siblings.
It’s not wrong to be transgender. You don’t need to be fixed! I don’t give a fuck if a book or some old dude tells you it’s wrong. I don’t care if your mom tells she doesn’t love you anymore and your dad hits you. It isn’t wrong. You are normal and you have to be strong and you have to live for you.
It is time to take control of your life. I don’t know what happens when we die. But I know it’s important that we live and show this world that we deserved love and respect and to be a part of a family.
Please be strong. Please choose to live because I am choosing to live and document this in the hope that one day it is going to get better and someone will find this and see even in the darkest hours we can pull through.