For all the freak nasty shit we get up to on here, i want to take a second to shout out doms who are so careful with the trust their given. To be able to push their subs so hard, get them in altered mental states, have them doing things they'd never do elsewhere, and still be so careful with it. Subspace is such a vulnerable state to be in, and its hard to think clearly like that sometimes. Doms that take care of their subs with such close care and respect deserve to be kissed on the mouth and cuddled for their efforts 💜💜💜

I'm going to get a hysterectomy. no matter what society wants. wanting me to pop out kids with my disabled body, wanting me to suffer. I'm getting rid of it. I'm not an incubator, I'm not for breeding, I'm for me.

Sculpture is Donatello's di David

cuddling and mutual groping…. hmmm…. 💭💭💭💭💭

The changes you get when starting T are wonderful and should be celebrated.

Don't let anyone tell you that starting T will make you ugly, unlovable, or whatever other bullshit they pull out of where they keep their head.

If you'd be happier on T, start it. ASAP.

Outfits from January so far

*Malgendering is when you are gendered correctly, but in a very negative way. It especially applies to when people only gender you correctly to be negative, but it applies to other situations as well. Some examples include things like “it’s okay to hit you because you’re a man” or “I know you’re a not a woman because you suck at relationships.” It can happen to both trans mascs and trans femmes (such as when people act like trans women should be grateful to have misogyny aimed at them because they’re correctly being gendered), this poll just happens to be aimed at trans mascs.

Everyone's life can be enriched by having a transmasculine person in their life.

if as trans women & transfemmes we don't want trans men talking about our experiences for us, we can't do the same thing to trans men and transmascs. i don't care how hard the transfeminine experience is, that does not mean that a transfeminine trans woman who does not and has not ever identified as transmasculine and/or a trans man automatically "knows" what it's like to be transmasc and/or a trans man. yes, there are intersex trans women and other trans women who are also trans men. but these are not the people speaking like they know what transmasculinity and trans manhood is all about in a uniformly negatively light.

i will gladly be the one to tell every other transfem and trans woman that you do not know what the transmasculine and trans man experiences are like unless you've lived as one. you have NO clue. you do not know a singular thing about the transmasculine and trans male experiences just because you are also trans. trans men can be affected by transmisogyny but that doesn't mean you know what they're experiencing. you don't get to comment on transmasculine experiences if you haven't experienced them personally. it doesn't matter what transmascs or trans men you've met and how hard you've speculated on how hard they struggle in society. the cold hard truth is that you literally don't know what transmasculine and trans male struggles are like on a personal level and that's okay. that's your chance to stop speaking and start listening.

i'm dead serious. transfems and trans women who are not also transmasculine or trans men need to stop commenting on how "easy" transmasculine and trans male experiences are. transfems and trans women who have never lived as trans men need to stop talking about how much "privilege" trans men and transmascs gain after coming out and starting listening about what actually happens to transmascs and trans men when they come out, and how much harder and worse it gets. transfems and trans women who have never lived as trans men and transmascs need to stop talking about how queer spaces and queer feminism "doesn't exclude transmascs and trans men" and start listening to how most if not all forms of feminism desperately try to leave transmascs and trans men out as quickly as possible. we as transfemmes and trans women need to stop literally spreading lies about transmascs and trans men and start listening to transmascs and men when they talk.

a LOT of AMAB trans women believe that trans men instantly gain the exact same privilege they had when they identified as cis men before coming out as trans women. this is brutally, honestly not how this works, at all. i understand a lot of trans women and transfems lived as cis men for a while. i understand that you know what it's like to be perceived as a cis man and live that life. you can't assume you know what trans manhood is like just because for a while you lived as a cis man. they're not the same. that doesn't mean you know what it's like to be a trans man or a transmasculine person. they are not the same experience. they cannot be compared. they're not even remotely close. cis and trans manhood are not the same experience societally.

it doesn't matter if you've personally known a lot of transmascs and trans men. it doesn't matter if you've dated or befriended transmascs or trans men. it doesn't even matter if you've had transmasc or trans male family members. it still stands that you, personally, do not understand the experience, because you are not the one living it.

this has gone on for way, way too fucking long. if you don't want trans men and mascs speaking over and for you, don't speak over and for trans men and transmascs. you don't get to create a double standard like that. you're not the arbiter of every trans experience. speak on your own experiences, and listen when other people talk about theirs. if you want to be listened to, you also need to listen to other people, too, otherwise it ceases to be a conversation and becomes a lecture instead. you have to show respect for other people, too, you are not the only person in the conversation who deserves respect.

if you don't want to be talked over about your own lived experience, why are you doing it to other people? stop it. that's not how you get people to listen to you. that's how you control other people. telling people how THEY live THEIR lives is an attempt to control them. you don't need to control the narrative on transmasculinity and trans manhood to be heard and taken seriously. speak on what YOU know, and let other people do the same for themselves. it's not a great look to act like you literally can't trust any other queer group to be able to accurately define their own identities, and that you have to do it for them. that is yet again about controlling the narrative.

is this about queer rights for you, or telling other people how to feel? stop telling other trans people they don't suffer. illegitimizing someone else's pain will not make anyone understand yours better. dismissing others' pain will not make people take yours more seriously. there's not a finite amount of suffering in the world. trans women and transfemmes are not the only ones who suffer under cisheteronormative patriarchy. it can and does happen to people you don't like and you can't ignore that. feminism and trans rights are about liberating all of us from patriarchy, not just trans women and transfemmes.

soft warm boy thighs in my mouth….. hmmhmhmtmgm marking up his pretty fragile pale skinnn mmmm nomnomnomnomm he’s so yummy soso yummy

Can someone who believes in a god ask him for me to stop my period cramps?

can testosterone work faster im so over my period cockblocking me