from-my-dad

seckssecks asked:

I was born in '95 and am half (From my dad) Bosnian/Croatian/HungarianJew and half Serbian (from my mom). It's hard sometimes because as soon as I was born, there was family from my Croatian and Bosnian side who refused to meet me or even look at my baby pictures because they were disgusted with me having a Serbian mother. I usually don't tell ppl I have Serb blood when I first meet them, I tell them I am Bosnian&Croatian, is that wrong? I feel like it is since I'm genetically mostly Serbian '_'

1. You have to do what is safest for you. What you are most comfortable with. If withholding pieces of info about yourself makes you feel safe then do that. Its not wrong.

I had a friend in high school whose dad was a Serb and mother was Croat. Neither side of the family spoke to him, nobody acknowledged him. It broke my heart.

This is a huge issue. The way to deal with mutli-ethnic families is to have mutual respect, to admit the wrong doing that happened and then to try and heal one another through that. I see mixed families like this when one denies the genocide, the other refuses to talk to them, it’s a horrid circle and does a lot of damage to children of multi-ethnic marriages.

I’m sorry you have had to deal with that. Love to you.

anonymous asked:

The "Jewish women are beautiful" post getting co-opted pisses me off. My mother's family is ethnically Jewish and they all have "stereotypically" Jewish features. I wound up getting (aside from my hair) my dad's goyish features. I've gotten so many pseudo-compliments on how I'm "so lucky" I got my dad's nose, coloring, etc. It's sickening. Non Jewish women, and women who don't "look" Jewish ALREADY get told we are beautiful. That post was for women like my babcia, my mother, and my aunt.

Gratitude List: Days 15, 16 and 17

Day 15

- getting home safe from our travels
- my dad caring enough to save a sentimental lion puppet from my childhood, to save for my children
- having Doug finish my thoughts/what I was doing when I’ve forgotten or gotten too tired to finish

Day 16

- not dreading going to work, even after long weekends
- the kind receptionists at work, who help me with literally everything
- Doug and I being on biweekly pay schedules where each of us is paid one week, then the other the next (makes for paying bills and saving much easier)

Day 17

- supervision on Wednesday mornings because I get to sleep in
- a constant built-in running partner in Indy pup, so I never have to run alone
- that the torrential rain missed both my commutes

When I get older, if I have a kid
I’m gonna make them a mixtape, if those still exist
Of all the songs made by people that I used to know
The songs that changed my life, those songs that helped me grow
Into the person that I am today
I’ll tell them that these are the songs that I used to play
When I was feeling lonely or I was feeling sad
I’ll them about the bands that I heard about from my dad
Like Emerson, Lake and Palmer, and The Beatles, and such
I’ll tell them about how I liked Van Halen too much
And maybe someday when they’ve got a kid of their owm
They’ll show them songs that helped them feel less alone

And maybe they’ll show them bands that kept me alive
Like Spraynard and Jehu, BTMI,
Good Luck, Linkletter, KIDS, and Streetlight Manifesto,
Joyce Manor, Kimya Dawson, The Moutaint Goats
Andrew Jackson Jihad, and Elliotfuckingsmith
the punk band, not the person, and maybe the Smiths
I hope they think about me when they write their first song
but If I’m being honest I hope that they don’t
They’ll probably write a song about their deadbeat dad
he’ll have a shitty job, they’ll say they’ve got it bad
but the thing they’ll never
they’ll never understand,
is that in the end I’ve created the perfect punk rock band
In the end, I’ve started the perfect punk band

I sent out a status update last night that said “Stop Hideaki Anno” and I woke up with an email from my dad.

Do any of you really like me?

I’m sorry but I need constant validation because I never get any from my family (mostly my dad and it really hurts). I wish you guys would talk to me. Tell me stuff. Say that you like me and my blog. I’m so lonely and I need people to talk to me. And I really need to know that there are people who actually like me. I’m sorry, I just want to know that I matter to people.

anonymous asked:

so fob is problematic?

nooo i love fob!!!!!! but 5sos is problematic as FUCK. i’m playin though because the tickets are row c and a gift from my dad. i’m just really hoping its a rumor id hate to see 5sos anywhere near talented and smart and lovely people like fob.

Monies I have to pay off (in order of urgency):
Hospital bills
Loan payments
Pay BF back all the money I borrowed from him
Sending my dad one of my paychecks to thank him for helping me out during the summer

I think this should take about 4 months hopefully.

92 Truths

Once tagged, you must write 92 truths about yourself and tag 20 other people (+ the person who tagged you).

I was tagged by carelessconteuse, thank you 😘

What was your❓

•Last drink: Tea
•Last phone call: My mum yesterday to see when she’s going to be home from china
•Last text message: “I’m in garage now trying to make space xx” from my dad because I’m begging him for a dance studio
•Last song you listened to: someone new by hozier
•Last time you cried: probably laughing at something in school or dance

Have you ever⁉️

•Dated someone twice: Nope
•Been cheated on: Nope
•Kissed someone and regretted it: •Never even been kissed lol
•Lost someone special: Yep
•Been depressed: I think every one has a bit
•Been drunk and thrown up: Nope
•List 3 favourite colours: Teal, coral & anything that I think looks pretty

In the last year have you🔥

•Made a new friend: Yassss
•Fallen out of love: Don’t think so
•Laughed until you cried: Omg yes
•Met someone who changed you: I guesss
•Found out who your true friends are: Yuppp
•Found someone was talking about you: nope
•Kissed anyone on your FB friends list: Nooo

General🌎

•How many people on your FB friends list do you know in real life: All of them, I only have people I’m close to
•Do you have any pets: Yuppp 2 cats
•Do you want to change your name: I hate my name but I wouldn’t wanna change it
•What did you do for your last birthday: All of my dance girls came round
•What time did you wake up today: oh god embarrassingly 12:30 in the afternoon because I love sleep and it’s half term
•What were you doing at midnight last night: looking for good luck quotes for mads😂
•Name one thing you cannot wait for: Summer & BNs
•Last time you saw your mother: about 2 seconds ago
•What is one thing you wish you could change about your life: I wish I had took dance more seriously earlier on
•What are you listening to right now:
whatever is on the telly
•Have you ever talked to a person named Tom: Yupp
•What’s getting on your nerves right now: All the homework that I haven’t started and all the exams I haven’t revised for
•Most visited website: recently it would have to be tumblr
•Blood type: Idk
•Nicknames: claud, claudz, gibbo
•Relationship status: single pringle
•Zodiac sign: Sagittarius
•Pronouns: she/her
•Favourite TV shows: friends
•College: not in one yet
•Hair colour: Darkish blonde
•Long or short: i think I’ve got medium length hair
•Height: I think I’m 5′5

•Do you have a crush on someone: Yeah that person who lives in the mirror cuz they’re hot… Oh wait that’s just me

•What do you like about yourself: my sense of humour
•Tattoos: ya never know
•Righty or lefty: Righty
•First surgery: ew when I was younger I had to get 8 teeth taken out at once (if that counts)
•First piercing: just my ears but i got bored of earrings so they closed up
•First best friend: A girl called ali & we still goi strong nearly 12 years later
•First sport you joined: Swimming I think
•First vacation: Florida I think
•First pair of trainers: Idk but they would’ve been from clarks

Right now💁

•Eating: Just had spaghetti
•Drinking: Summer fruits flavoured drink
•Listening to: Whatever is on the telly rn
•Waiting for: My dad to get home so we can work on the garage
•Want kids: Deffo
•Get married: Hopefully
•Career: Graphic designer

Which is better😎

•Lips or eyes: Eyes
•Hugs or kisses: Hugs
•Shorter or taller: Idk
•Older or younger: Idk
•Romantic or spontaneous: Why not a bit of both
•Nice stomach or nice arms: Yeah both would be gr8
•Sensitive or loud: idk
•Hook up or relationship: Relationship
•Troublemaker or hesitant: in the middle

Have you ever😛

•Kissed a stranger: Nope
•Drank hard liquor: No
•Lost glasses/contacts: No
•Sex on first date: Nope
•Broke someone’s heart: I hope not
•Had your own heart broken: Nope
•Been arrested: No
•Turned someone down: Yeah I think I was the only person in primary school who did not have a Boyf because I said no to everyone who asked
•Cried when someone died: Yeah
•Fallen for a friend: I guess cuz you’ve gotta know them first

Do you believe in🌈

•Yourself: I try to
•Miracles: Sometimes
•Love at first sight: I think you can find someone fit but u need to know what kind of a person they are?
•Heaven: idk
•Santa: SANTAS NOT REAL? Jk obvs no
•Kiss on the first date: Depends on who it is
•Angels: I would like to believe it but nah

And I nominate sparkles-and-sasswalks pressure-stress-success vanishinglake71 lifeinthefeislane shivshuv theirishdancerblog irishdance-amazing gavinsandghillies planxty-speed70 sparkly-dresses-turnout-stresses to do this if ya want x

anonymous asked:

hi kris do you mind helping me out with something about racial identity? im a southeast asian who is half negrita from my dads side. ive only recently found out that negritas actually count as afro asians and im honestly having trouble identifying as one. i have tan skin, more on the lighter side and afro asian hair. my mom is spanish-chinese. my brothers have more of the afro asian features and idk somehow they were accepted by the black community when we migrated to the us but not me.

yikes uhm… im sorry.. im monoracial and ive never passed as anything but black so i dont rly knoy how to help?

try asking weareallmixedup !!!

Tagged by @erza and an darkonesdagger7437   thank you! and I’m supposed to tag people! (if this kind of things annoy you,please just ignore it!)  (I copied and pasted from erza-loves-cakes blog just in case)

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What was your:
Last drink: coffee <3
Last phone call:From my dad
Last text message: From my friend Mica to tell me she was better.
Last song you listened to: Evanescence: call me when you’re sober <3 One of my favorite songs c:
Last time you cried: Yesterday

Have you ever:
Dated someone twice: Nope
Been cheated on: Nope
Kissed someone and regretted it: Nope
Lost someone special: Yes
Been depressed: Yes
Been drunk and thrown up: I’ve never been drunk :/
List 3 favorite colors: Blue, light blue and black

In the last year have you:
made a new friend: People who want to know tumblr can be?
Fallen out of love: Not real.                                              
Laughed until you cried:  Yeah, a million times.                
Met someone who changed you: No
Found who your true friends are: ABSOLUTELY YES
Found out someone was talking about you: maybe
Kissed anyone on you fb list: ?)

General:
How many people from you’re fb list do you know irl: ¿?
Do you have any pets: Yes, five beautiful dogs :)
Do you want to change your name: Nop
What did you do for your last b-day party: A party in a room with the most important people in my life. <3 The best night of my life.
What time did you wake up today:  at 10 am
What were you doing last night at midnight: Read yaoi fanfics, I know I need more sleep.
Name something you cannot wait for: Honestly, i can’t say the first thing but the second is EVERYTHING RELATED TO FT, The Ova’s, The Movie, Tartaros, The Manga, Yep, everything <- erza-loves-cakes understand me
Last time you saw your mom: About 1 hs ago
What is one thing you wish you could change about your life: my appearance
What are you listening to rn: Opening of Yamada -kun
Have you ever talked to a person named Tom: Not that I remember.
What’s getting on your nerves rn: I don’t wanna go to school tomorrow <- Are you sure that we were not separated at birth?
Blood type: A don’t have idea 
Nickname: Sayi, but it’s more of a name as a nickname. All call me that since I was little. Also Sa-chan tells me one of my best friends.
Relationship status: I’m too sassy to have BF (just kidding, no one loves me lmao) (also my waifu is natsu) <- I really love you. Single
Zodiac sign: Capricorn c:
Pronouns: She/Her
Favorite TV shows: Tv Shows: Once Upon a Time, American Horror Story and The Walking Dead  Anime: Fairy Tail (obsly), Pandora Hearts (although I liked a lot more manga almost fairy tail height), Zankyou No terror and Akatsuki No Yona.
College: Not yet
Hair color: Naturally brown. Now this red and blonde too.  
Long or short: Very long
Height: I will not admit in public again as I measure.
Do you have a crush on someone: Almost every FT dude (also my queens juvia-lucy-erza) also Nick Miller also Captain Hook also Prince Charming also The Knave <- You really are great. Also this my Gil and my Break <3 And Evan Peters. And Ian Somerhalder <3
What do you like about yourself: Only my hair
Tattoos: Nope
Right or left handed: Handed
First surgery: none
Piercings: Really  I have needle phobia so …
First best friend: Which it is still my best friend from garden
First sports you joined:  aerial acrobatics ?)
First vacation: Mar del Plata think
First pair of sneakers (trainers): Eeeemmm

Rn:
Eating: Nothing
Drinking: Nothing
I’m about to: Go to sleep
Listening to: Nothing
Waiting for: Friday
Want kids: Yes, twins
Get married: I have no idea
Career: forensic psychologist

Which is better:
Lips or eyes: lips
Hugs or kisses: Hugs and kisses
Shorter or taller: …
Older or younger: —
Romantic or spontaneous: A rare blend
Nose, stomach or nice arms: Stomach
Sensitive or loud:….
Hookup or relationship: Relationship
Troublemaker or hesitant: I don’t know

Have you ever:
Kissed a stranger: Nope
Drank hard liquor: I think no
Lost glasses/contact lenses: nop
Had sex on the first date: Nop
Broke someone’s heart: Really I have to answer?
Cried when someone died: Jajajajajajajajajaj…. damn anime,damn real life. 
Fallen for a friend: Nope

Do you believe in:
Yourself: Jajajajaj It is the last person I would believe
Miracles: Yes
Love at first sight: If I happen …
Heaven: I do not know
Santa Claus: :c
Kiss at first date: Jajajaj Date? That eats?
Thanks if you read everything! you are a cutie pie and i love you n_n have a nice day

anonymous asked:

Why the fuck are you so potty mouthed?

I’m Australian