from listening to other peoples conversations

How each Overwatch character texts

Genji- laughs aloud at your response but leaves you on read if he has nothing to add. Doesn’t see an issue with this.

Doomfist- rarely and only when he’s got something important to say. Generally prefers to FaceTime. When he does text, it’s clear and to the point.

McCree- “I’m ur huckleberry 😘🤠 lol. Sent from my iPhone”

Pharah- Promptly and with perfect grammar. When she is sarcastic, people worry she is being serious and that they’ve angered her.

Reaper- if you had plans at 6:00 and you’re one minute late, instead of waiting a few minutes or texting you “ETA?” he just sends an angry selfie with the place you’re supposed to meet in the background and the Snapchat overlay reading “6:01” over it

Soldier: 76- still somehow has a phone plan where texts cost 15 cents apiece. Left you a voicemail that you definitely didn’t listen to. Gets mad when nobody listens to his voicemails. When someone suggests he get a phone plan with unlimited texting, he goes on a rant about how he doesn’t need it and people should just check their voicemails more often

Sombra: screenshots every conversation just in case. Half of her messages are screenshots of other messages. Nobody can reach her unless she wants to be reached because all of her messages always come from a different number.

Tracer- often sends one-word texts that require the recipient to call her for clarification. For example: “Beatles?? 😰”

Bastion- texts exclusively in emoji

Hanzo- similar to Genji but he just sends back “lol” as an acknowledgement that he has received and read the text, regardless of the appropriate tone.

Junkrat- phone is broken, has no one to text. If someone needs to contact him they do it through Roadhog.

Widowmaker- lurks in the Talon group text. Responds only when she has something to say. If she’s got a problem with you she’ll send you a vague but menacing “we need to talk” message and then switch off her phone for 14 hours so that by the time she follows up you’ve had several panic attacks and are willing to do whatever she says to avoid being in trouble. Do not be friends with Widowmaker.

Mei- double texts but is anxious about double texting. If you send her something that made you think of her she’ll respond along the lines of “awh!! cute!! 😊 thank you so much for sharing this!!”

Torbjörn- his last 30 texts are a back and forth with his wife. “On my way home. Do we need anything from the store?” “Nope.”

D.Va- sometimes gets distracted and forgets to text people back, but when she is texting, she hits “send” about 14 times before she finishes a complete thought. A series of texts from D.Va might start out “Okay” “So” “I’ve got to tell you” “did I mention what my dad said today?”

Orisa- you know that one person in the group chat who’s younger than everyone else? That’s Orisa

Reinhardt- all caps all the time. He will send you a meme followed by “HAHAHAHAHA” and then sign it “REINHARDT WILHELM”

Roadhog- sends menacing and unclear texts like “meet me in front of target in 30 minutes. we will leave without you.” which doesn’t really tell you whether he’s threatening to leave without you if you’re late or informing you that he will not be giving you a ride home from target and you should arrange your own transportation.

Winston- sends you links to 9-minute videos on YouTube

Zarya- sends context-free nonsense like “hey everyone settle a debate which finger would you choose to lose if you had to choose one finger?” and if people ask her “what the hell” she responds “))))”

Ana- sends Fareeha a cartoon where the little cartoon lady is rolling her eyes and saying “don’t even LOOK at me until I’ve had my morning coffee!!” and captions it “made me think of you!! xxx your mother Ana Amari”

Lucio- this is who D.Va was texting with earlier, and he’s very responsive to everyone’s stories. He also owns that Jackbox party game and regularly invites everyone to play. It’s always fun. A group chat with Lucio is always very active.

Mercy- incredibly passive aggressive. Refuses to engage in a text conversation unless the other person initiated it and therefore never really texts.

Symmetra- prefers texting to talking. Never makes a typo. Will respond to a text with “K.” and doesn’t always realize this comes across as “I am upset with you,” which was not her intent.

Zenyatta- this is the guy you text for advice or to vent. He’s 100% in your corner, he never takes the stranger’s side, and if you start out “ugh you’re not gonna believe what happened,” he’ll respond “👀”

My personal experience with the signs

Aries: such a babe, so caring and lovely, we understand each other so well, so passionate about the things and people they love, always up for an adventure, if you hurt them you’re really gonna have to fight to get their respect back

Taurus: cuddly smol thing, loves food and taking pictures of food, can strike up a conversation with anyone, prefers staying in over partying, v stubborn, likes driving around listening to old music

Gemini: soulmate, best friend in the world, so weird and crazy, party animal, often fuckboys/fuckgirls, never runs out of things to talk about, loves attention from the sex they’re attracted to, sometimes it seems like we’re telepathic

Cancer: the cutest, ridiculously funny, very shy but comes off as a bit arrogant at first, once you get to know them they’re the best! them mood swings™ tho, wants to spend time with their s/o 24/7

Leo: so friendly and approachable, often has many talents and interests, always busy with their hobbies, can be savage and heartless when needed, often very dedicated to their s/o

Virgo: comes off as cute and innocent at first but is secretly a freak, so helpful and kind, random humour, often likes talking to many different people instead of having a committed relationship

Libra: LOVES books, very smart humour, so indecisive, always wants your opinion on things, even if you drift apart they will always have your back, falls in love easily, can be very passive-aggressive 

Scorpio: often loves bands, is secretly very sexual and often attracts people easily, so happy and positive on the outside but often secretly sad on the inside, wants to include everyone

Sagittarius: (my sign!) loves parties, dancing and meeting new and old friends, gets crushes easily but doesn’t fall in love easily, optimistic and adventurous, sometimes too spontaneous and impulsive, can be a real bitch sometimes and cares too much about what other people think, dirty mind

Capricorn: great with money, would do anything for their family and friends, very funny even if they don’t always show it, can come across as quite cold and distant but are often quite silly once you get to know them

Aquarius: falls in love easily and doesn’t hide it well, often great at sports and music, weird in a funny and lovable way, often takes care of the overly drunk people at parties/helps the host cleaning up

Pisces: connects with people easily and loves talking to everyone but is secretly very shy, often amazing in school with good grades, teacher’s pet, falls in love VERY easily, so emotional and moody

The rules about responding to call outs aren’t working

Privileged people rarely take the voices of marginalized people seriously. Social justices spaces attempt to fix this with rules about how to respond to when marginalized people tell you that you’ve done something wrong. Like most formal descriptions of social skills, the rules don’t quite match reality. This is causing some problems that I think we could fix with a more honest conversation about how to respond to criticism.

The formal social justice rules say something like this:

  • You should listen to marginalized people.
  • When a marginalized person calls you out, don’t argue.
  • Believe them, apologize, and don’t do it again.
  • When you see others doing what you were called out for doing, call them out.

Those rules are a good approximation of some things, but they don’t actually work. It is impossible to follow them literally, in part because:

  • Marginalized people are not a monolith. 
  • Marginalized people have the same range of opinions as privileged people.
  • When two marginalized people tell you logically incompatible things, it is impossible to act on both sets of instructions.
  • For instance, some women believe that abortion is a human right foundational human right for women. Some women believe that abortion is murder and an attack on women and girls.
  • “Listen to women” doesn’t tell you who to believe, what policy to support, or how to talk about abortion. 
  • For instance, some women believe that religious rules about clothing liberate women from sexual objectification, other women believe that religious rules about clothing sexually objectify women. 
  • “Listen to women” doesn’t tell you what to believe about modesty rules. 
  • Narrowing it to “listen to women of minority faiths” doesn’t help, because women disagree about this within every faith.
  • When “listen to marginalized people” means “adopt a particular position”, marginalized people are treated as rhetorical props rather than real people.
  • Objectifying marginalized people does not create justice.

Since the rule is literally impossible to follow, no one is actually succeeding at following it. What usually ends up happening when people try is that:

  • One opinion gets lifted up as “the position of marginalized people” 
  • Agreeing with that opinion is called “listen to marginalized people”
  • Disagreeing with that opinion is called “talking over marginalized people”
  • Marginalized people who disagree with that opinion are called out by privileged people for “talking over marginalized people”.
  • This results in a lot of fights over who is the true voice of the marginalized people.
  • We need an approach that is more conducive to real listening and learning.

This version of the rule also leaves us open to sabotage:

  • There are a lot of people who don’t want us to be able to talk to each other and build effective coalitions.
  • Some of them are using the language of call-outs to undermine everyone who emerges as an effective progressive leader. 
  • They say that they are marginalized people, and make up lies about leaders.
  • Or they say things that are technically true, but taken out of context in deliberately misleading ways.
  • The rules about shutting up and listening to marginalized people make it very difficult to contradict these lies and distortions. 
  • (Sometimes they really are members of the marginalized groups they claim to speak for. Sometimes they’re outright lying about who they are).
  • (For instance, Russian intelligence agents have used social media to pretend to be marginalized Americans and spread lies about Hillary Clinton.)

The formal rule is also easily exploited by abusive people, along these lines:

  • An abusive person convinces their victim that they are the voice of marginalized people.
  • The abuser uses the rules about “when people tell you that you’re being oppressive, don’t argue” to control the victim.
  • Whenever the victim tries to stand up for themself, the abuser tells the victim that they’re being oppressive.
  • That can be a powerfully effective way to make victims in our communities feel that they have no right to resist abuse. 
  • This can also prevent victims from getting support in basic ways.
  • Abusers can send victims into depression spirals by convincing them that everything that brings them pleasure is oppressive and immoral. 
  • The abuser may also isolate the victim by telling them that it would be oppressive for them to spend time with their friends and family, try to access victim services, or call the police. 
  • The abuser may also separate the victim from their community and natural allies by spreading baseless rumors about their supposed oppressive behavior. (Or threatening to do so).
  • When there are rules against questioning call outs, there are also implicit rules against taking the side of a victim when the abuser uses the language of calling out.
  • Rules that say some people should unconditionally defer to others are always dangerous.

The rule also lacks intersectionality:

  • No one experiences every form of oppression or every form of privilege.
  • Call-outs often involve people who are marginalized in different ways. 
  • Often, both sides in the conflict have a point.
  • For instance, black men have male privilege and white women have white privilege.
  • If a white woman calls a black man out for sexism and he responds by calling her out for racism (or vice versa), “listened to marginalized people” isn’t a very helpful rule because they’re both marginalized.
  • These conversations tend to degenerate into an argument about which form of marginalization is most significant.
  • This prevents people involved from actually listening to each other.
  • In conflicts like this, it’s often the case that both sides have a legitimate point. (In ways that are often not immediately obvious.)
  • We need to be able to work through these conflicts without expecting simplistic rules to resolve them in advance.

This rule also tends to prevent groups centered around one form of marginalized from coming to engage with other forms of marginalization:

  • For instance, in some spaces, racism and sexism are known to be issues, but ableism is not.
  • (This can occur in any combination. Eg: There are also spaces that get ableism and sexism but not racism, and spaces that get economic justice and racism but not antisemitism, or any number of other things.)
  • When disabled people raise the issue of ableism in any context (social justice or otherwise), they’re likely to be shouted down and told that it’s not important.
  • In social justice spaces, this shouting down is often done in the name of “listening to marginalized people”.
  • For instance, disabled people may be told ‘you need to listen to marginalized people and de-center your issues’, carrying the implication that ableism is less important than other forms of oppression.
  • (This happens to *every* marginalized group in some context or other.)
  • If we want real intersectional solidarity, we need to have space for ongoing conflicts that are not simple to resolve.

Tl;dr “Shut up and listen to marginalized people” isn’t quite the right rule, because it objectifies marginalized people, leaves us open to sabotage, enables abuse, and prevents us from working through conflicts in a substantive way. We need to do better by each other, and start listening for real.

What The Signs Remind Me Of

Aries: late night cruises, loud music in the car. forgetting to do something till the last minute. dirty sneakers, winged liner, black ripped jeans. the colour red. sloppy first kiss, pastel bedrooms, messy sheets.

Taurus: flirty conversations, sexual jokes. the smell of coffee in the morning, falling in love for the first time. making cookies late at night, coconut water. leather jackets, comic books. pugs, bad driving. 

 Gemini: late night conversations, random phone calls. swimming pools, the colour purple, long lashes. sweatshirts, new clothes, reading books, watching Netflix, random movie marathons, popcorn. 

Cancer: warm hugs, watching your favourite childhood cartoons. oversized shirts, crying alone in the bathroom. rain on windows, the light in someones eyes. vanilla scented candles. video games. 

 Leo: dark red lipstick, nice clothes, long hair. gold glitter, getting over your first heartbreak. neon signs, falling in love, music festivals, laughing. looking in the mirror. expensive things. red roses, partying with friends. 

 Virgo: helping someone in need, floral anything, cats, clean carpets. writing in journals, stacks of books. tarot cards, sun kissed skin, blonde hair, the feeling of not wearing makeup and feeling confident, ocean breeze. late night adventures. 

Libra: fresh face, pale skin, soft voices. baking in the middle of the night. exotic eyes. strawberry ice cream. Star Wars, the feeling of being loved by others. puppies, summer weather. long hugs, heart warming smiles.

 Scorpio: cancelled plans, uncomfortable silence, movie theatres, the feeling of regret. bad baking, unfinished conversations, cold showers. horror movies. really mean “jokes”. cuddling with cats

Sagittarius: day dreaming, really bad memes. bonfires, hoodies. not listening to people, smoking with friends. smoothies, birthday parties, crowded places, thin hair, bad clothes

Capricorn: veiny eyelids, pale skin, pouty lips, listening to music while doing schoolwork. opens up about themselves at like 3 am in the morning. love story telling, the feeling of staring at someone you love from across the room. spa day, beach holidays. 

Aquarius: late night drives, stays up all night playing video games, the feeling of breaking someones heart, emotionless, concert lights, intellectual conversations, trusting someone with your secret, illegal drugs, band t-shirts. 

Pisces: coffee dates, brunch with friends, long car rides, loud music. the feeling of being unwanted by everyone, cute noses, pastel colours, pink lipgloss, “are you awake” texts at 3 am. big cities, brown eyes

local psych and writing major with bad grammar here to tell you about subtle body language shit people do when they’re talking to help out with writing interactions:

  • note that people who are high self monitors will notice these behaviors more often and can adapt to different conversations more than those who are low self monitors, who may not realize that they are reacting inappropriately in a situation.
  • second note that we only remember a fraction of dialogue and conversation, what sticks in our mind is how a person made us feel during the conversation
  • women, parents, good teachers, and actors are more sensitive to gestures and expressions and noticing subconscious behaviors in others.  
  • please note that some of this may not apply to everyone, keep in mind where these social situations could change for your neurodivergent, mentally ill, and disabled characters

under the cut, i go through non-verbal interaction, gestures, personal space, and eye contact

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Ascendant persona ascendant

To get a deeper insight of your ascendant you can check your ascendant persona ascendant sign, let’s say that you’re a cancer ascendant with an Aries persona ascendant then you come across as quite shy, emotional, a homebody but with Aries persona ascendant you also come across as intimidating, fierce, blunt with your words and action oriented.

Here’s a blend of natal ascendant signs & ascendant persona ascendant.

Aries natal asc with Aries persona asc: will come across as action oriented, loose lips, will be very aggressive, fearless attitude.

Aries natal asc with Taurus persona asc: will be quite stubborn, moody and somewhat of a homebody, will like to enjoy activities with their close friends.

Aries natal asc with cancer persona asc: will be quite emotional, somewhat argumentative with people, will try to hide their vulnerability,

Aries natal asc with Gemini persona asc: will be very talkative and quick witted, will want to take part in activities, will have good comebacks and sharp minds.

Aries natal asc with leo persona asc: will have a strong ego, will be interested in some type of theatrical displays, will want to rise to the top.

Aries natal asc with Virgo persona asc: will be book smart, will possibly offend people with their knowledge without any intention to, will engage in conversation.

Aries natal asc with libra persona asc: will be charming and graceful, swift sharp movements, will not like to offend others , will treat people like family if they care enough for them.

Aries natal asc with Scorpio persona asc: will be quite intimidating, will have a deep dark gaze almost like a cat in the night, will be very passionate and careful with their words.

Aries natal asc with Sagittarius persona asc: will be very interested in meeting new people, will be fond of travel, will want to have memorable moments, they live in the movement.

Aries natal asc with Capricorn persona asc: will have a very strained expression, will be hardworking , will work for what they want, will not let people in so easily.

Aries natal asc with Aquarius persona asc: will be ratherly different, will not care if they’re doing something embarrassing in public, will be very quirky and unique.

Aries natal asc with Pisces persona asc: will be charming and sociable, will enjoy time with people and time by themselves, will also wonder from person to person at times.

Taurus natal asc with Aries persona asc: will be a homebody , will enjoy arts and crafts, will be aggressive and entertaining, brisk movements.

Taurus natal asc with Taurus persona asc: will be appealing and friendly, will treat those dear to them like family, will be quite hesitant in trying new things that they’ve never tried before.

Taurus natal asc with Gemini persona asc: will be talkative and a bit naive, will want to engage in conversation and have meaningful conversations with people.

Taurus natal asc with cancer persona asc: will be shy when approached, will have a certain aura about them that’s quite subtle, will want to be by themselves at most times.

Taurus natal asc with leo persona asc: will be confident and daring, will want to develop friendships, will want people to see them as someone who has it all.

Taurus natal asc with Virgo persona asc: will be quite the intellect, will be grounded and stable, will want people to see them as educated and precise.

Taurus natal asc with libra persona asc: will be socially charming and appealing, will have a soft voice or a lovely smile, will be gentle with people and polite.

Taurus natal asc with Scorpio persona asc: will be deceiving at first, may not want to share a lot about themselves, may be very protective about their identity.

Taurus natal asc with Sagittarius persona asc: will be grounded yet courageous, will want to take part in the action, will want to seek adventure with their friends.

Taurus natal asc with Capricorn persona asc: will be very straightforward, not one to hide behind the bush, will say it like it is , somewhat of a realist.

Taurus natal asc with Aquarius persona asc: will be indifferent and changeable, will try new things just for the curiosity of it, will want to experiment.

Taurus natal asc with Pisces persona asc: will be adaptable, will not show their true colours, will also be moody and emotional.

Cancer natal asc with Aries persona asc: will be intimidating, will have a no chill attitude, will be brave and somewhat a bit shy at going after what they want, will also be passionate.

Cancer natal asc with Taurus persona asc: will be friendly and shy, will not want to be provoked, quite peaceful and content with oneself.

Cancer asc with Gemini persona asc: will be quite shy but yet quite talkative, they need to be stimulated mentally, will not enjoy small talk.

Cancer asc with cancer persona asc: will be very emotional, certain things may offend them, will be smooth with their words and quite shy.

Cancer natal asc with leo persona asc: will want it all, will want to be the best, will go after things slowly then with passion and aggression, will be loyal to their friends.

Cancer natal asc with Virgo persona asc: will be very articulate, will be indecisive about what they want to talk about, will give people tough love and emotional support.

Cancer natal asc with libra persona asc: will be graceful and charming, will engage people with conversations, may help others be content with their lives.

Cancer natal asc with Scorpio persona asc: will be shy and misleading, will not open up easily to others, may have a fear of people finding out their true identities.

Cancer natal asc with Sagittarius persona asc: will be quite shy, will be unpredictable with their movements, will say one thing and do the next, never quite sure of what they truly want.

Cancer natal asc with Capricorn persona asc: will be stead fast, stable and grounded, will keep their emotions in check, will never want to be seen as weak.

Cancer natal asc with Aquarius persona asc: will be quirky and emotional, will be witty and fun, will probably have many acquaintances but a small circle of close friends.

Cancer natal asc with Pisces persona asc: will be self oriented, will be adaptable, will show people they care, will have a naturally charming vibe about them.

Gemini natal asc with Aries persona asc: will be talkative with quick movements, will be brash and blunt with others, may say offensive things to people but may not realize it.

Gemini natal asc with Taurus persona asc: will be bubbly and steady, will have a mind of their own, will be socially engaging and stubborn.

Gemini natal asc with Gemini persona asc: will be very airy, will have a lot to talk about, may talk your ear off, will want to talk about anything with you and will want to talk for hours.

Gemini natal asc with cancer persona asc: will be careful with what they say so that they may not offend you, will care about you, will treat you like family, will also give you advice.

Gemini natal asc with leo persona asc: will be very confident, yet deceiving, wondering from person to person, will have many talents even if they don’t consider them as a talent.

Gemini natal asc with Virgo persona asc: will be very knowledgeable, will know a lot of things the average person doesn’t know, will rub their knowledge in your face without meaning to.

Gemini natal asc with libra persona asc: will be socially likable, will listen to others and improvise their thoughts, will want to make interesting conversations with other people.

Gemini natal asc with Scorpio persona asc: will be talkative but won’t reveal too much about themselves, will possibly like gossip and drama and also seeing other people confront each other.

Gemini natal asc with Sagittarius persona asc: will want to educate people, will share their knowledge instead of keeping it in, will find ways to interact with others on a higher level.

Gemini natal asc with Capricorn persona asc: will be passive and hardworking, will be somewhat of a loner and may keep to themselves, they may also like the company of others but only if they truly value your company.

Gemini natal asc with Aquarius persona asc: will say the weirdest things, will want to freak people out , may have a strange aura about them, will show you filthy deranged things.

Gemini natal asc with Pisces persona asc: will be communicative, will want to talk to someone with their particular interest, may get bored easily with small talk.

Leo natal asc with Aries persona asc: will be quite bitchy without noticing it, will be confident, will be entertaining but some jokes will come off as offensive and blunt.

Leo natal asc with Taurus persona asc: will be confident, will have their own ways, doesn’t want to take advice from anyone.

Leo natal asc with Gemini persona asc: will be intriguing in conversation, will want to be admired for their knowledge and their compassion.

Leo natal asc with cancer persona asc: will be strong and independent, will have many flaws, will be emotional pained.

Leo natal asc with leo persona asc: will tell it like it is, wouldn’t want people to deceive them, will treat those like a doormat if they ever cross them.

Leo natal asc with Virgo persona asc: will have useful information, will use their information with much confidence, will want respect on their name.

Leo natal asc with libra persona asc: will have charisma, will be showy and fashionable, will be know it allah and fashionistas.

Leo natal asc with Scorpio persona asc: will be confident in going after what they want, will not let people use them or take them for granted, will be very passive aggressive with other people when angered.

Leo natal asc with Sagittarius persona asc: will be spontaneous, will be unpredictable, will plenty things at once, constantly on the move and I’m search for other things.

Leo natal asc with Capricorn persona asc: will be fiercely independent, hardworking and trustworthy, will want to have progress with things instead of rushing things.

Leo natal asc with Aquarius persona asc: will be unique, will have a indifferent attitude, will want to have their own sense of development.

Leo natal asc with Pisces persona asc: will be ratherly softer and gentler with people, will not like mind games, will converse with persona at their own pace.

Virgo natal asc with Aries persona asc: will be very mentally stimulating, will use their words with strong dialect and content.

Virgo natal asc with Taurus persona asc: will be very Passive, keen by nature, will enjoy singing or any form of art.

Virgo natal asc with Gemini persona asc: will have a mind that is constantly bubbling with new ideas, self promoter, will achieve success by interacting with other people.

Virgo natal asc with cancer persona asc: will be emotionally distressed, will have emotions that they cannot control.

Virgo natal asc with leo persona asc: will be fatherly aggressive with their words, may have a lot to say, will put others in there place.

Virgo natal asc with Virgo persona asc: will expand their mind with vivid words and memorization, will easily know how to use their words.

Virgo natal asc with libra persona asc: will use smooth words to suppress how they feel, will be very charming and socially graceful.

Virgo natal asc with Scorpio persona asc: will be quite deceiving with their words, will have some type of deeper context with the way they speak and express themselve.

Virgo natal asc Sagittarius persona asc: will seek something more such as an adventure with their minds, will tend to travel to gain more knowledge on a particular subject.

Virgo natal asc with Capricorn persona asc: will be hardworking and motivated to get what they want, will be mature about what they want.

Virgo natal asc with Aquarius persona asc: will be different and eccentric with their tone of voice, will think of weird things and may do weird things.

Virgo natal asc with Pisces persona asc: will constantly live a moments in their heads, will look very dreamy and almost like their fantasizing about something.

Libra natal asc with Aries persona asc: will be charming and pleasing, will be short tempered and a bit aggressive but will only do so if you have provoked them.

Libra natal asc with Taurus persona asc: will want to maintain a peaceful environment, will enjoy finer things in life, will be very appealing.

Libra natal asc with Gemini persona asc: will love to talk with all types of people , will be very interesting in conversation, will not enjoy small talk.

Libra natal asc with cancer persona asc: will be emotionally appealing, will express their emotions freely but with caution.

Libra natal with leo persona asc: with be confident, will be somewhat of a fashionista, will rock anything that they wear and still mange to look good.

Libra natal asc with Virgo: will use their words in a smooth manner, will sweet talk people to get what they want.

Libra natal asc with libra: will be very attentive to themselves and to the needs of others, will not want to start any drama.

Libra natal asc with Scorpio persona asc: will be charming and intimidating, will value their privacy and will only let you in if they trust you enough.

Libra natal asc with Sagittarius persona asc: will be talkative with people, will want to venture out with friends and loved ones.

Libra natal asc with Capricorn persona asc: will be somewhat of an ambivert, will like the company of others but yet still devour time by themselves.

Libra natal asc with Aquarius persona asc: will be unique with their words and body language, will do things that are questionable at times.

Libra natal asc with Pisces persona asc: will be dreamy and charming, will tend to live in their heads and will create tasteful scenarios.

Scorpio natal asc with Aries persona asc: will be very intimidating, will not want to let people in, will be somewhat aggressive.

Scorpio natal asc with Taurus persona asc: will be private with their lives, will be stubborn and lazy, will do things at their own pace.

Scorpio natal asc with Gemini persona asc: will be very deceiving, will show different parts of themselves though never truly showing their true selves.

Scorpio natal asc with cancer persona asc: will be highly emotion, lots of ups and downs , somewhat indecisive at times.

Scorpio natal asc with leo persona asc: will be confident and subtle, will have a sharp mind, will have poise and class.

Scorpio natal asc with Virgo persona asc: will be very deep with words, their eyes will tell a whole different story.

Scorpio natal asc with libra persona asc: will be charming and private , will play mind games with people to see their true colours.

Scorpio natal asc with Scorpio persona asc: will be extremely secretive, will look like they know all of your secrets, will never say bite off more than they can chew.

Scorpio natal asc with Sagittarius persona asc: will have an interest in travel, will possibly travel to dark places where most people are afraid to go.

Scorpio natal with Capricorn persona asc: will be ambitious of what they want, may be book smart, will enjoy time by themselves.

Scorpio natal asc with Aquarius persona asc: will have a dark twisted weird personality, will express themselves in a very indifferent way.

Scorpio natal with Pisces persona asc: will have emotions that are high and low, will constantly create scenarios that will make them escape from the harshness of reality.

Sagittarius natal asc with Aries persona asc: will seek adventure and fun, will love to go places, discover new things.

Sagittarius natal asc with Taurus persona asc: will be happy go lucky, will have a tendency to be lazy and brash at times.

Sagittarius natal asc with Gemini persona asc: will have a mind that is constantly bubbly with new ideas, will want to share their knowledge with people.

Sagittarius natal asc with cancer persona asc: will have emotional outlets but will try to hide it with a smile so that people won’t know that their feeling sad or mad.

Sagittarius natal asc with leo persona asc: will be fiercely out there, will be aggressive and daunting, will want to be respected and admired.

Sagittarius natal asc with Virgo persona asc: will have a lot to say , will want to teach people things that they’ve never learned before.

Sagittarius natal asc with libra persona asc: will be a charmer to people, will enjoy the company of others, will want to get to know people on a personal level.

Sagittarius natal asc with Scorpio persona asc: will be friendly and outgoing, will devour their own privacy, will like the idea of knowing other people secrets but will never reveal their own.

Sagittarius natal asc with Sagittarius persona asc: will be happy go lucky, will wonder from place to place , will gather information and keep it stored in their memory.

Sagittarius natal asc with Capricorn persona asc: will be ambitious, will have a thirst for knowledge and a thirst to climb the social ladder.

Sagittarius natal asc with Aquarius persona asc: will have a unique way to say things, will create interesting scenarios and think of strange things.

Sagittarius natal asc with Pisces persona asc: will want to live moments in their heads and make them a reality, will be a day dreamer and may still believe in fairytales.

Capricorn natal asc with Aries persona asc: will be ambitious and hardworking, will approach things aggressively.

Capricorn natal asc with Taurus persona asc: will enjoy nature, will find peace within themselves, can be quite lazy at times.

Capricorn natal asc with Gemini persona asc: will have a bubbly imagination, will be somewhat of a realist.

Capricorn natal asc with cancer persona asc: will be emotional but would try not to show it, pretty good at hiding how they feel, doesn’t really want people to get too involved in their business.

Capricorn natal asc with leo persona asc: will be confident with their work, will have a very huge ego.

Capricorn natal asc with Virgo persona asc: will be very analytical, will want to read between the lines, trying to find the true meaning behind things.

Capricorn natal asc with libra persona asc: will be serious and charming, will have a natural appeal to them, eased expression.

Capricorn natal asc with Scorpio persona asc: will have an intimidating look to them, don’t really like talking about themselves much.

Capricorn natal asc with Sagittarius persona asc: will want to go places, will be ambitious and spontaneous with their work and play.

Capricorn natal asc with Capricorn persona asc: will be very serious, takes their work very seriously, will be extremely hard working.

Capricorn natal asc with Aquarius persona asc: will have a unique way of working, will develop their own sense of originality.

Capricorn natal asc with Pisces persona asc: will look dreamy and serious, will be gentle and cautious when approaching new people.

Aquarius natal asc with Aries persona asc: will be original and aggressive, will be outgoing and somewhat different.

Aquarius natal asc with Taurus persona asc: will have a stubbornness to them, will want to do things that is convenient to them.

Aquarius natal asc with Gemini persona asc: will have a very unique mind. Will be constantly thinking of different interesting scenarios.

Aquarius natal asc with cancer persona asc: will have plenty acquaintances but will only be true to their small circle of friends, will show their emotions to their close friends.

Aquarius natal asc with leo persona asc: will be confident and fierce, doesn’t care what other people think of them and how they express themselves.

Aquarius natal asc with Virgo persona asc: will be very articulate, will use words in a way that makes them feel comfortable.

Aquarius natal asc with libra persona asc: will have an appealing personality, will talk with people on a regular basis, will probably have plenty friends.

Aquarius natal asc with Scorpio persona asc: will be strangely intimidating, will be weird and loyal to people.

Aquarius natal asc with Sagittarius persona asc: will want to go after an adventure, will probably search for aliens or ufos.

Aquarius natal asc with Capricorn persona asc: will have a natural ambition to them, will go after things with much hardwork, will gain success in a weird way.

Aquarius natal asc with Aquarius persona asc: will be very strange and different, will show people disturbing weird things online.

Aquarius natal asc with Pisces persona asc: will be unique and emotional, will have many ups and downs, will most likely hide this part of themselves from people.

Pisces natal asc with Aries persona asc: will be emotionally aggressive, possibly passive aggressive, will go after things with a fierce attitude.

Pisces natal asc with Taurus persona asc: will be very dreamy, will have an appeal to their appearance, will be lazy at times.

Pisces natal asc with Gemini persona asc: will be interested in news ideas, will think of ways to do things differently.

Pisces natal asc with cancer persona asc: will have many emotional ups and downs, will be somewhat emotionally unstable.

Pisces natal asc with leo persona asc: will love to talk with people, favour time to themselves, will go after what they want with much confidence.

Pisces natal asc with Virgo persona asc: will be very book smart,will be very analytical of other people and will be somewhat of a perfectionist.

Pisces natal asc with with libra persona asc: will be very socially appealing, will charm other people naturally, will be a daydreamer at times.

Pisces natal asc with Scorpio persona asc: will be intensely emotional, will be deceiving to other people, will not trust easily.

Pisces natal asc with Sagittarius persona asc: will have a need to explore, will be living moments in their heads but will love to make them a reality.

Pisces natal asc with Capricorn persona asc: will be very ambitious to get what they want, will be dreamy and somewhat of an introvert.

Pisces natal asc with Aquarius persona asc: will be strangely unique, will have natural abilities to write, will probably write strange things, possibly strange and taunting poetry.

Pisces natal asc with Pisces persona asc: will be highly emotional, will tend to stick to themselves, will have a small circle of friends.

She’s Just Not That Into You » Part II (A Harry Styles Miniseries)

Miss the first part? Find it here.

Once again, this miniseries is dedicated to @stylesunchained​. I love you, B! This time around, the ever-so-lovely @chrissy22787​ helped me out, and I thank you - immensely - for that, my dear friend. 

Let me know what you think! Happy reading.

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Even if Nick did piss him off, Harry couldn’t help but be proud of his best friend whenever he was awarded opportunities. He worked hard, and it was nice to see that hard work pay off in the end. So, when Nick mentioned that you were having a viewing party for his appearance on The Big Fat Quiz of the Year, Harry feared that he wouldn’t be able to celebrate the milestone with him.

“Ask her,” he demanded one afternoon.

Nick laughed, his eyes widening at Harry’s insistence. After little pleading from his friend, Nick sent a text asking you if Harry could be his plus one for the dinner party. Once he’d sent it, Harry forced Nick to show him the text for proof, figuring that it was just like him to say he’d asked you when he didn’t, instead showing up to the party with Harry anyway, thinking it was funny to throw both of you for a loop. Nick’s phone dinged minutes later, your name lighting up the screen. Your response of “Sure.” had caused Harry to go into an existential crisis, the wrinkle in his brow deep as he pulled at his lips.

“She doesn’t want me there,” he grunted. “‘m not goin’.”

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So I sent this private message to Laci and instead of hearing me out (or the tons of other non-binary/trans folks critiquing her) she immediately dismissed my critique by saying she’s studied gender for 10 years. Cool? Have you met academics who study gender and feminist theory? They frequently disagree and engage in productive critiques of each other. That’s kind of what’s great about it. Plus, they don’t engage in appeals to authority to get their points across. Why? Because that doesn’t mean your argument or perspective is a good one or should be free from criticism. Saying, “I’ve studied this for 10 years–I get it,” doesn’t mean you fucking get it. If you truly understood why people were upset, you wouldn’t continually respond in this way to constructive criticism.

She also told me I was “incredibly patronizing” for critiquing her and never responded again when I called her on this. She doesn’t owe me a conversation and I know my channel isn’t large enough to be of value to her, but this is why I have trouble believing her call for “open discussions” and “listening to each other” is anything more than a ploy for views/upcoming side projects. If anything, she seemed annoyed that I dared to disagree with her in the first place. She says that feminists aren’t listening to other perspectives enough, but girl, you sure are fucking contradicting yourself.

What The Signs Remind Me Of

Aries: late night cruises, loud music in the car. forgetting to do something till the last minute. dirty sneakers, winged liner, black ripped jeans. the colour red. sloppy first kiss, pastel bedrooms, messy sheets.

Taurus: flirty conversations, sexual jokes. the smell of coffee in the morning, falling in love for the first time. making cookies late at night, coconut water. leather jackets, comic books. pugs, bad driving.

Gemini: late night conversations, random phone calls. swimming pools, the colour purple, long lashes. sweatshirts, new clothes, reading books, watching Netflix, random movie marathons, popcorn.

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Here’s why I will be a good person. Because I listen. I cannot talk, so I listen very well. I never deflect the course of the conversation with a comment of my own. People, if you pay attention to them, change the direction of one another’s conversations constantly. It’s like being a passenger in your car who suddenly grabs the steering wheel and turns you down a side street. For instance, if we met at a party and I wanted to tell you a story about the time I needed to get a soccer ball in my neighbor’s yard but his dog chased me and I had to jump into a swimming pool to escape, and I began telling the story, you, hearing the words ‘soccer’ and ‘neighbor’ in the same sentence, might interrupt and mention that your childhood neighbor was Pele, the famous soccer player, and I might be courteous and say, Didn’t he play for the Cosmos of New York? Did you grow up in New York? And you might reply that, no, you grew up in Brazil on the streets of Tres Coracoes with Pele, and I might say, I thought you were from Tennessee, and you might say not originally, and then go on to outline your genealogy at length. So my initial conversational gambit - that I had a funny story about being chased by my neighbor’s dog - would be totally lost, and only because you had to tell me all about Pele. Learn to listen! I beg of you. Pretend you are a dog like me and listen to other people rather than steal their stories.
—  Garth Stein, The Art of Racing in the Rain

I often fantasize about how life would be like with you.

I can’t wait for the windy Friday afternoons when we’re both lying on the couch and have conversations about our day, then have our pass time. I’ll be on one side with my gold-rimmed glasses that you call Harry Potter glasses either reading a romance novel or trying to make one with my coffee not too far from me. You’ll be on the other side either drawing or sketching designs for architecture while listening to music or you’ll be watching your favorite movie Avatar on Netflix, the one with the blue people.

Which will roll into the quiet and intimate Saturday nights where the light is dim, it’s only the two of us, and we send waves of passion down each other’s spine as we roll around on the bed sheets stripped bare. You hover over me looking as beautiful as dawn, and as dominant as the sun––half mast in bliss. Lying under you I––open and receptive to be touched. The silence lingering among us averting to hitched breathing and our cries being heard from far and wide. Eye contact is made. In that moment one thought is in our minds, that everything we need right now is between our thighs.

To the early Sunday mornings when the birds are chirping and the rays of the sunshine spill through the window. Our legs are tangled, hands entwined, and you kiss me on the forehead and tell me how radiant I look in the morning. It’s just that post-lovemaking glow mixed with euphoria. You go to the kitchen to prepare breakfast, and I walk in, with your shirt on. The sounds of the pitter-patter of my feet are heard, and I sit on the island watching you cook, as the richness of Marvin Gaye’s voice fills the room and you sing along. Silently, I smile and think to myself I would’ve never thought I’d get you.

So, thank God that I have you.

—  quality time.
Dating Wonder Woman would include...

The only headcanons I wrote was about Wolverine (here), and since I never received any other requests about head canons…I’m very glad to write another one with Wonder Woman yo ! Though I’m not sure I’m doing it right, I made it way longer than most headcanons I saw around I think, and also cut it in more than one part…I hope it’s ok. So here we go, hope you’ll like it

(My masterlist blog here :


How you met, how you two fell in love, the first “I love you” : 

✶ You first met Diana when your brother, Bruce aka the goddamn Batman, dragged you to the Justice League’s Watchtower (against your will). You were already a Gotham’s vigilante just like him, the next big step was obviously the League, though you didn’t like the idea of being in a little “super club”…

✶ You quickly changed your mind when you met Diana though. She’s the first one who talked to you, and though your brother told you many things about the Mighty Wonder Woman, you weren’t impressed. 

✶ That’s what made her fall in love with you. Because you accept her just as she is. And you couldn’t care less about the fact that she’s a Princess, or one of the most powerful being on Earth.

✶ The way you’re never afraid to tell people what you think, even if sometimes it’s almost rude, is also another reason she fell for you. She loves the fact that you’re independent, and don’t take anyone’s shit, including hers. You keep her grounded when she gets a bit too cocky or something. 

✶ Another thing that made her fall for you : even though you went through a lot of bad things during your life, you always saw the bright side of everything, and Diana understood why Bruce always referred to you as his “personal sunshine”. You didn’t have any super-power, but hey, the ability to make anyone (even the Batman) smile and laugh was even better. 

✶ Your brother shipping you two even before you started to both flirt with each other like crazy. 

✶ Your brother calling you “an idiot” when you decide to not reciprocate the flirting after a while, afraid to bring her in your chaotic life. “She’s Wonder Woman, as if anything could actually hurt her”. 

✶ Diana being somewhat depressed while your avoiding her…And the League having an “intervention” to convince your stubborn ass to talk to her again. 

✶ You not resisting for very long, because…Well, she’s Diana Prince, and if you’re honest with yourself, you’ve been in love with her ever since you first met. Her not being even remotely mad at you for your sudden coldness toward her, on the contrary, being over the moon because you finally came back.

✶ Your brother giving you relationship advices : basically, do the opposite of what he would do. Best advice ever. 

✶ Becoming very close from each other because it seems you two are just hand made for each other. Conversation is always flowing just right, you don’t always agree with each other but always listen etc etc…A match made in heaven. 

✶ Diana knew she was doomed and totally in love with you the day you punched your brother AND Superman in the face because they dared to say you needed protection. “If I can punch you two idiots without you stopping me, then clearly, I’m fine without protection !”. Yup, she was definitely doomed.

✶Her knowing you hate when people protect you, but not being able to not do it…and you letting her protect you, because you love her, and if it can make her happy, then so be it. 

✶ Surprisingly, she’s the one that said “I love you” first…Right before what should have been a “suicide mission”. Needless to say it gave you a reason to fight like Hell to have the chance to tell her you love her too. 

✶ You never even had time to tell her, as when the battle was finished, and you two were still alive, she crashed her lips on yours. The rest of the League applauded when you were finally able to whisper, breathless : “I love you too D”

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your daily reminder from an autistic that hearing the word r*tard feels like a slap in the face.

It’s a slur. Don’t drop it as an insult in a casual conversation unless you want to take me and any other autistic/neurodivergent people listening straight to frown town


Being a gentleman isn’t a pompous attitude or expensive clothes. Nor is it suave talk and standing tall. It’s the best mix of your character, treating others well, and presenting yourself as a man others want to follow. This is the essence of how to be a gentleman.

Chivalry isn’t dead

It may seem like it, so you’ll need to revive it.
This not only applies to the lady in your life, but other people you meet as well. Going out of your way to treat people well is important. Carrying yourself in an accommodating a “serving” way is rare, valuable, and will make you stand out.
Here’s what you can do: Open the door for people. Holding the door open for an old lady or a young man still makes you stand out as a gentleman. Go out of your way to be considerate of people.

Talk gooder

Being a gentleman is more than cleaning up the cursing, but sounding intelligent without coming off as arrogant. We each have our own unique style and personal vernacular. But improving and expanding your vocabulary will make you into a better communicator. The ability to paint elaborate pictures in your acquaintance’s minds is a sought after trait.
Find what you’re willing to die for
Don’t go through life living only for today or tomorrow. Find an aim bigger than money. Seek out a purpose, and run hard after it. I find that people that I respect as gentlemen have something to live for.

Improve your recognition of social cues

Whether or not you’re a social butterfly doesn’t mean you can’t improve. People that are extremely introverted sometimes need to take pause and read social cues. Am I stepping on anyones toes or making people feel left out? Do I move from one person/group to another so fast people think my substance is paper thin?
If you’re of the more chill temperament, it doesn’t mean you can’t grow. My name, Todd, in Middle English (spoken about 1,000 years ago) means “the watcher”, “watchful one”, or the “fox”. I actually consider myself by nature a more reserved person. But by observing other’s social cues, I’ve been able to pick up on how to interact with a wide array of people. Most people upon first meeting me would think I’m pretty extroverted, whereas I’m pretty introverted to the core.
People who are awkward or come off as rude have one core problem in my mind. And it’s not that they aren’t able to be cool people. It’s that they think of themselves and are absorbed in their own world so much they don’t listen and pay attention to people’s words and body language. Learning what people mean by more than what they say will help you go further in your friendships and professionally.

Be Quick to Forgive

A man who is slow to forgive is…well, less of a man. Be quick to show mercy. Give people grace for mistakes. Be understanding. Show compassion. Don’t have a heavy hand with your kids or other family members.

Say “No” more

People respect someone who knows what they want—and what they don’t. Saying “no” makes your “yes” mean so much more.
If you haven’t learned to say “No”, you might be living as a Yes Man. Who wants to be that guy? Especially when you are so overcommitting yourself you’re known as a flake. If you find yourself saying “yes” to overextending yourself, it’s time to summon the will to say “no”.

Saying “Yes” more

If you’re afraid of commitment, it’s time to take the dive and start giving more of yourself to people. Whether that’s saying “yes” to helping a friend move, just getting out more, spending more time with friends, or gaining different experiences, it might be time to step out into the wild a little more.

Say “Hello” more

We admire people who exude confidence and aren’t afraid to reach out and connect with people. Saying “hello” to a stranger you rub shoulders with on the train, in an office, or at the grocery store is a great way to increase your social skills—and meet new people.
Have you ever wanted to introduce yourself to a cute girl in the most random of places? If you’re not in the rhythm of shooting from the hip and building rapport with random strangers, it’s gonna be hard to summon that off-the-cuff confidence to get talkative with a hot stranger.
Practice saying “hello” and showing yourself friendly. You’ll be surprised by some of the cool people you’ll meet along the way.

Travel more and expand your experiences

Expanding your experiences and where you’ve been gives you great stories as you grow being a gentleman. Growing more cultured widens you’re understanding of the world–and others–and helps you to be less assuming or quick to judge.
And it’s always nice to tell people about that one time you jumped off a moving train in India.

Speak Well of Others

When learning how to be a gentleman, it’s less about “me” or “I”. It’s about others. Them. Carrying yourself in a way that esteems others will earn you esteem.
Want to stand out? Speak well of others in their presence, and away from them as well. People will take note. The man who can give specific and exacting praise is worthy of receiving it himself.
Talk about their interests, not yours

Again, learning how to be a gentleman is about others. Growing your listening skills is paramount to being regarded as a gentleman. But learning to ask great questions that draw a person out of their shell is important as well.

Tell stories with a point

Everyone loves a good story teller. And just because I suggest you guide conversation by asking people about them, rather than talking about you, doesn’t mean you should be a hard nut to crack.
People love good stories that share some adventure, and insight about who you are. Know what stories about yourself people are most interested in. When telling a story, remember that you’re not telling your life story. Share stories that have a point and an end.
Have you ever felt trapped in a conversation with someone telling a story that really wasn’t a story? They weren’t actually even talking with you, they were talking at you? That’s a person telling a story with no point or purpose. I’m guilty of this. And I sometimes wonder if we do it for our own catharsis–to process aloud with someone in the hopes of “feeling better”. It’s cool to do that with your therapist or close friend, but don’t use the random stranger at a party to have a cathartic moment. Be a gentleman!

Stand up straight

Now onto how to be a gentleman in how you carry yourself. No man wants to be regarded as a slouch. Standing up firm and strong isn’t just good for your health, but good for your confidence. There really is a physical/mental connection with posture. And people can see it. A person cowering or hunched is viewed as weak. A man who stands tall is regarded as having confidence.
Pay attention to your posture, and stand up straight.

Wash your clothes

Back in poor days of living in a dorm, I ran across an expert in the laundry room who had sage wisdom for me. He let me in on how to cut my laundry coin usage in half:
“You don’t need to wash your clothes, just put them in the dryer with a dryer sheet. I mean, when I take them out they smell just as clean as when I wash them as when I don’t.”
And I don’t remember who that charming young lad was. Nor do I remember anyone thinking he was the sharpest dressing gentleman out there either.
Gross. Wash your clothes. Clean stains–including the collar of your neck. And iron those shirts man! Be a gentleman!

Get a grown-up email address isn’t the way to present yourself when applying for a job. It’s also not the most savvy way to interact with new friends.  Being sharp and looking on your game sometimes takes putting away some childish things. Go ahead and keep your fave teenage email address, but for those people you’re aiming to be a gentleman around, keep it classy.

Make a man out of your online social imprint

A man’s online social profile reaches far and wide. When potential employers want to know more about you, do not doubt that it’s likely they’ll look you up on your favorite social network. Having a goofy profile picture with your family is great. But looking like a drunken sailor or a Jersey-licious club rat won’t score you extra points with the classy young lady you want to pursue, or those that you want to recognize you as being a gentleman.

Give your word and keep it

Being a gentleman requires your yes meaning yes, and your no being no. When you tell someone you’re going to do something–do it. Even when it costs you.
Improve your penmanship

I’m an absolute hypocrite on this point. My handwriting has not changed since 6th grade. Considering I barely handwrite anymore, considering all the tech we use, my scribbles are probably in severe decline. It is so bad more than once I’ve asked an assistant to handwrite a post-it note to the president of my organization so I wouldn’t have to hand him something illegible.
Thinking about it still makes me smirk today but probably isn’t the most gentlemanly practice.

Mind Your Manners

I’m not the most savvy when it comes to perfect etiquette. What side of your plate does the big fork go on? How do I tie a cummerbund? How do you impress really old rich people??
What I do try to pay attention to is being accommodating. If you’re with people you’re familiar with, be warm to the new persons and make them feel included. Are you around a new group of people? Don’t pull out your latest gag routine. Keep things simple until you’ve figured out the the personalized subculture of the group you are hanging with. Find out what’s important to them, what behavior is appropriate to the situation, and present yourself in the best light.
I hope it’d be needless to say, but belching in front of ladies you want to show respect rarely garners you some.
Using words like “Excuse me” and “Thank you” go a long way. Ask before taking. And instead of ordering someone to do something, ask them if they’ll do you a favor.
On a note that I’m sure any restaurant servers out there will appreciate, showing kindness to those in any service industry will distinguish you. But don’t do it to be distinguished. Show kindness and patience to those making your coffee, serving your food, installing your cable, or fixing your car.

Nix the my way or the highway attitude

People who are adamant and demanding they get their way almost always sound like alpha-douches. Or large babies. Instead of being pushy and consistently trying to get what you want, concede to what others want.
Nothing spoils chilling with a group of people more than the whiner who’s only going to be happy if the crowd does what they want. If that’s ever been you, take note. I guarantee people remember that moment you had to have your way.

Mind the details

It’s easy for any of us to be forgetful. And it’s easy to forgive ourselves when we are. When others are forgetful? We’re not so merciful. Show others you care by remembering not only the big things–but the little things. Doing this at your workplace as well will only help your touted reputation as knowing how to be a gentleman.

Give gifts

If you’re chief love language isn’t giving of gifts and connecting with people through acts of service, it will take repeated mental note-taking to give more effort in this area.
But few things shout “gentleman” more than a thoughtful note or gift to a lady love or friend. Whether it’s a special occasion or they need a pick-me-up. Don’t neglect to think about your bros too. If a buddy is down, make sure to be there to cheer them up. You can get them some gentleman gifts as well.

Being a Gentleman

This is only the beginning on our path to being a gentleman.
Improving yourself doesn’t happen overnight. As we’re already a couple of months into 2017, have you probably decided on any areas you want to focus and improve on this year?
It’s a great aim to look better, talk well, and dress sharper. But making yourself into a better man is more than just improving the physical details. It’s about cultivating your core. Find what you’re passionate about, and run after it. Find who you want to become, and chase it. Find out where in your character you’re deficient, and work on it. Let’s face our fears and grow into better men this year. Not everyone can be a hero, but everyone can be a gentleman. It’s a choice.

Signs in a Class with BTS
  • Aries: Always talks to maknae line. Always gets sent into the hall with maknae line. Forces friends to watch M/Vs and dance practices during break.
  • Taurus: Sits at the front of class. Forces Suga to sit with them to wake him up when he falls asleep in class. Gets shit done. Constantly hides homework because the boys keep trying to copy.
  • Gemini: Talks to Rapmon during every break. Passes notes with Rapmon during class time. Other people try joining in on your convo but most of the time they can't really keep up, so they just give up.
  • Cancer: Loved by everyone in the class. Secretly keeps a list of people they hate. Maknae line & fire signs are included. Sometimes acts on these feelings but usually doesn't get caught.
  • Leo: Brags about passing a test. Secretly asks Rapmon for tutoring. Lowkey tsundere. Complains about tests and homework with Jungkook 24/7.
  • Virgo: Top grades in the class. Didn't talk to anyone until the 2nd week of school. Jhope eventually forced them to talk and they're actually pretty cool. Sunshine line makes sure they don't overwork themselves.
  • Libra: Keeps the classroom sane. Tries to make Jin and Suga help them, but only gets a "You'll never get through to these kids". Pouts until everyone feels bad and shuts up. Secretly is smug about it.
  • Scorpio: Only talks to a few people they consider "best friends", but for some reason bonded with Suga super fast. A people watcher and actually knows everything about everyone, but doesn't really care enough to gossip about it, unless someone pisses them off.
  • Sagittarius: Everyone wants to listen when they talk about a random story from their life. Sits with Rapmon and gemini during lunch. Conversations often break out into deeper stuff. Jhope and Taehyung tried to sit with you guys once but left bc you were too confusing.
  • Capricorn: Basically best friends with Jin. You both worry a lot about tests and homework so you guys are like each others support systems. You both can be a bit serious at times though so sunshine line usually makes sure you guys have fun.
  • Aquarius: Is either really quiet or really hyper. Hangs out with different type of people depending on their mood. Solves arguments really quickly. Jikook doesn't really like when you're quiet so they try to sneak sugar into your food.
  • Pisces: Basically friends with everyone in the class. Tries to help people with their problems in order to ignore their own problems. Namjin + Jhope are usually able to sense their moods though and cheer them up with they're sad. Doesn't really like talking during breaks. Usually listen to music instead.

If you’re an empath, you probably already know that you see and feel things in a unique way. Empaths have the innate ability to truly understand other people, whether they know them well or not. With their unprecedented abilities to be selfless in a self-serving world, empaths might often feel used by others or out of place. But empaths, I’m here to let you know there are more people like you out there than you think. Upon discovering the term “empath,” it really helped explain a few things about why I am the way I am. There are a lot of ways I can describe my personality: introverted, INFJ, or a highly sensitive person (HSP), but I think being an empath is really at the core of who I am. (What’s your personality type? We recommend this free personality test.)

So, here are 11 things that helped me explain some of the out-of-the-ordinary parts of my personality I didn’t understand before. They may not be true for every introverted empath, but they are definitely true to the empath in me:

1. Empaths walk in other people’s shoes with little effort. One of the easiest things for an empath to do is understand what another person is going through. That is, in essence, the definition of the word “empathy,” which Merriam-Webster describes as “the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another.” In short, empathy is walking in someone’s shoes even if they’ve walked a completely different path than anything you’ve experienced. Now, this isn’t to say that empaths have a supernatural ability to comprehend any human situation, experience, or feeling — we’re just better at it than most.

2. We feel deeply. I don’t know how else to explain it, but it’s as if my emotions seem to be more heightened than others around me. This can be both a blessing and a curse. On the upside, people will know I care about them without me even having to really say it. However, there are times where a greater tendency towards apathy would make my life easier; it’s tiring to constantly be experiencing strong emotions. For example, when I’m grieving — whether it be the loss of a loved one or a dramatic and unpleasant change in my life — my insomnia worsens, my moods plunge, I listen to a lot of sad music, and it becomes all too easy to choke up and lose myself.

3. We can be brought to tears over seemingly insignificant things. I’ve cried while looking at an exhibit in a museum, reading books, listening to someone tell a story, and especially while watching or reading the news. Tears come easy to me but when they do, I often need to assess where they’re coming from: the empath in me or the HSP. Both aspects of my personality can lead to an emotional response, but it’s important to identify in myself where the emotion is coming from in order to move on from that moment.

4. We are passionate. One reason we may get emotional easily is that we have a large capacity for passion. If there’s a subject, people group, or situation we truly care about helping, we will throw ourselves into the effort. If we believe what we’re doing will truly help someone, we may even be willing to go out of our comfort zones to get it done — even us introverted empaths.

5. We listen because we truly care. It’s against our nature not to care. We go beyond the shallow definition of “people-pleaser” because we not only place a lot of value in how others perceive us but also in that we don’t want to let anyone down. We have a passion for other people, and one thing about people is they love to feel heard. As empaths, we know this and look to offer a listening ear.

6. We love serving. Empaths have servant hearts: It’s hard for us to see suffering and not want to help. When we’re choosing how to spend our time, we often look for activities that have a purpose and meaning behind them. While I’ve been a student, I’ve always been drawn to organizations surrounding volunteer work. Maybe it’s partially nurture — how I was raised — but I think it’s also definitely a part of my nature, linked to the empath I am. Looking after others is also one of the ways we ourselves feel fulfilled because it’s often easier to focus on the struggles of others rather than ourselves.

7. We get other people’s feelings but not always our own. It’s kind of like having the ability to know who is crushing on your friend but being completely oblivious to the possibility that someone likes you. Reading other people’s feelings? For an empath, that’s a piece of cake. Sorting out our own inner turmoil? More often than not, a complete and utter fail. You’d think self-awareness is a fundamental human trait, but for some of us, it’s a bit trickier to figure out. Empaths feel and understand so much that sifting out their own feelings from the feelings of others can be a daunting task — albeit a necessary one.

8. We read people well. Empaths often consider the effect their words will have on the listener, because they want to know that what they’re saying or doing isn’t going to negatively impact someone. This mode of calculated conversation and action can provide empaths with a large store of knowledge as to what makes people tick.

9. We have strong, lasting connections with people we may not have interacted with in years. Once we bond with someone, it can often take on a “till-death-do-us-part” type of existence. Distance, separation, and time may cause our surface level relationship to corrode, but we still feel a strong affinity for the person who meant a lot to us at one point in time, even long after we’ve parted ways.

10. We’re often labeled as being overly sensitive or emotional. Telling someone that an emotional response makes them weak is an argument people have been using against various groups for ages. They may not be singled out in this, but empaths often fall into one or more of the groups under such reproach. Especially if you’re a male empath, people might see your sensitivity and tell you that you need to “man up.” Our culture associates masculinity and power with rationality — as if an emotional response is never the rational one. (Personally, I think there are many scenarios in which it could be construed as highly irrational to lack any emotion.) So empaths, stay strong in your own uniquely sensitive way; the world could use a whole lot more people like you.

11. Empaths are sought after but often underappreciated. Not all empaths are introverts, but the ones that are tend to be affected more by this one. When you’re a genuine, attentive listener who gives good advice, people and their problems tend to flock to you. It doesn’t even matter if they know you hardly at all, but something about empaths makes people decide to bare their souls. It’s not really that much of a shock that this happens if you consider how good at being understanding empaths are, though it can at times become frustrating. We do care immensely about the well-being of others, and that’s why we may bite our tongues and sit down to listen to someone rant about the same things again. However, empaths need to beware of one-sided relationships where they’re giving all of themselves and not receiving anywhere near the same in return.

A Final Note to Empaths

My dear empaths, you were born hard-wired to put others first. Your selfless attitude is both courageous and compassionate. Just don’t forget that it’s important to take care of yourself, too. There will be people who won’t appreciate your sensitivity or will seek to use your empathetic demeanor for their own gain; and these are the people that are not worth anguishing over. Instead, seek out the people and the places that will value you and support you as much as you support them. And don’t let someone convince you that caring for other people isn’t worth it. But then again, I’m sure you know that already.


Sinful Tickles

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Pairing: Bucky Barnes x female!Reader

Request: Hey doll :) Could I ask for an imagine where you’re Bucky’s girlfriend but you’re not an avengers, just a shy simple Girl. So one day he invites you over at the compound after your work where he first introduces you to the rest and later you’re in his bed cuddling. Then he starts tickling you which Ends up you being on top of him and things get heated from there. But then you get all shy again and tell him he’s your first, so he’s all gentle and later he cuddles you again till you fall asleep?:) ( @tieddown-withbattleshipchains )

Warnings: language, smut, fluff !!

Word Count: 2.3K

A/N: Hey kids! I’m so sorry for my prolonged absence, I’ve been moving into college and going through an endless amount of orientation meetings and shit so, it’s been great. I also started classes yesterday and already have a ton of homework and whatnot, so that’s also great. But anyways, please send in any requests you may have so I have something to do while I’m not suffering!

The car you’re in sails smoothly down a long, winding road. Lush, green trees flash by as you cruise down the strip, and you can feel Bucky’s thumb rubbing slow, soothing circles over your knuckles. When you look away from the window, you find Bucky staring at you, a small, love-filled smile plastered on his face.

“What are you looking at?” A soft giggle tumbles from your lips.

“You’re gonna love the team, doll,” Bucky’s smile grows. “And they’re gonna love you.”

“I sure hope so,” you sigh, looking back out the window. The car began to slow as it approached a set of gates, then continued down the drive. Soon, large, fantastic buildings appeared in view. Their glimmering and neat exteriors shine in the sun, locking you in a trance. The driver pulls the car up to the curb in front of one of the buildings and Bucky lets go of your hand, opening his car door and sliding out. A few seconds later, he reappears on your side and opens the door for you, extending his hand to you. You take it and duck out of the car, still staring at the buildings.

“I can’t believe you live here,” you breathe in awe.

“Just wait until you see the inside,” Bucky leads you up clean, white steps to the large, crystal-clear glass doors.

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Yuri on Ice BD booklet translation (with Jun Shishido & Yuusuke Tannawa interview) - Volume 4

The full translation of the booklet of vol.4 is finally done… Actually, one of the reasons it took me so long is that I spent most of the time I was home from Thursday to Sunday watching Fuji TV’s live coverage of the World Championships, lol. And I’m glad I did because it was really exciting. It does make a difference to watch it live without knowing the results… I will work on the audio commentary and choreography part in the next few days, and hopefully on other stuff too.

The booklet has 3 parts:
1) Character introduction for Phichit, Chris and Guang-Hong.
2) “Topics”, in other words random curiosities. 
3) Interview with chief director Jun Shishido and screen designer Yuusuke Tannawa. Most of you will probably have no idea who they are (and their titles are by no means a good explanation of what their actual role was), but I really recommend reading this interview because it gives more insight on the creation process of YOI and maybe it helps understand how hard it is to animate figure skating. The parts in round brackets are exactly like they are in the original text, it’s not something I added.

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He’s going to leave a mark in Thai’s skating history with his blades!

Phichit Chulanont
voiced by Kenshou Ono

Date of birth: April 30th, 20 years old
Height: 165 cm
Blood type: B

A new hope for Thailand, that didn’t have any skaters who got remarkable results. His popularity is quickly growing also thanks to his spontaneous and pleasant skating style that mirrors his friendly personality. This season he is skating both his short program and free to songs from the movie “The King and the Skater”, which is something he had always dreamed of doing. He is the first Thai skater to have succeeded in a quadruple jump and he also obtained his first Grand Prix victory. He is continuing to rewrite Thai’s figure skating history.
He used to train under Celestino in Detroit, but from this season he has moved his base back to Thailand. He loves hamsters and has a lot of them. Posts about them can be seen on his SNS.

The lethal weapon made of sex appeal that shines on the ice.

Christophe Giacometti
voiced by Hiroki Yasumoto

Date of birth: February 14th, 25 years old
Height: 183 cm
Blood type: undisclosed

10 years since he moved to the senior class, he is one of the world’s best skaters fighting for the top. Beside his quadruple Lutz and his characteristic sexy moves, he is also praised for his unique and precise spins. As a veteran, he never breaks down too much, but he is a slow starter and tends to not perform at his best in the Grand Prix series, which is held in the first half of the season. Last year he came in 2nd in both the Grand Prix Final and the World Championships. With his long-time rival Nikiforov missing this season, he is one of the candidates to snatch the king’s throne.
He is a popular skater who captures the hearts of women all over the world with his passionate and alluring performances that ooze the sex appeal of a grown-up man. He has a cat.

To become, one day, China’s hero.

Guang-Hong Ji
voiced by Yuutarou Honjou

Date of birth: January 7th, 17 years old
Height: 160 cm
Blood type: O

A growing 17-years-old who moved to the senior class this season. In the Grand Prix’s America tournament he placed 3rd, achieving the amazing feat of standing on the podium on his debut performance. The success rate of his quadruple jumps, which he started training for this season, is also high, and as China’s new ace he is expected to grow further in the second half of the season.
He has a shy personality, but at the same time he also uploads many selfies on the SNS. It seems that he also bought a lot of clothes during his training camp in Canada. Together with his friend Chulanont from Thailand and Japan’s Minami, he is called by fans “one of Asia’s 3 cutest skaters”.


TOPIC 1: Grand Prix Series
It consists in a total of 7 tournaments: 6 tournaments held in different countries every year from the end of October to the end of November, and the final that sees the 6 skaters who got the highest scores in the other tournaments as its participants. The 6 tournaments are always held in the same countries (the order may vary), but the location of the final changes every year, and this season it’s Barcelona in Spain. The participants are chosen based on their results in tournaments regulated by ISU (International Skating Union), their world ranking, recommendations by the host country etc.; however, each skater can only participate in a maximum of 2 tournaments. In addition, only up to 3 skaters from the same country can participate in the same category of the same tournament. The period when the skaters’ allocation is announced is somewhat of a festival among skating fans.

*It’s night in Japan when the skaters’ allocation is announced
*The first 6 tournaments are held in 6 countries over the span of 6 weeks
*In every tournament skaters receive points depending on their placement (15 points for the 1st place, 13 points for the 2nd place and so on), and the final ranking decides who will participate in the final

TOPIC 2: Quadruple Jump
(*at the moment of the Russia tournament)
One of the techniques that decide the game in male figure skating is quadruple jumps. Since the number and type of jumps greatly influences the score, recently it’s common for skaters to include multiple quadruple jumps in their programs. However, according to the rules the same jump can only be repeated a limited number of times, therefore skaters try new types of jumps and train hard to be able to have more quadruple jumps to put in their programs. Currently, 5 types of jumps except for the Axel have been successfully landed in official competitions. The one with the highest score is the Lutz, which top skaters such as Victor, Giacometti and JJ are using in their programs. The quadruple toeloop, which has the lowest score, is successfully used by young skaters such as Kenjirou Minami, Guang-Hong and Phichit too. Yuuri can jump the toeloop and Salchow and is currently training to master Victor’s trademark flip. After the Lutz, the flip is the jump with the highest score.

*Yurio in his junior years getting scolded for jumping a quadruple that was not planned
*Seung-gil is the first who successfully landed a quadruple loop
*Emil is a jumper that has 4 quadruples in his free
*JJ jumps an amazing quadruple Lutz in the second half of his program
*Victor uses as his weapons 4 types of quadruples, except for the Axel and loop (in the EX he landed a loop too)

TOPIC 3: Support Item (cheering goods)
It often happens to spot flags and banners used as cheering goods in figure skating venues. After a performance flower bouquets and plushes are also thrown into the rink. Banners do not only feature the skater’s name and flag; sometimes they have a message or a portrait of the skater with which people try to show their support, and in some cases they are even made using photographs. Yuuri is often thrown plushes of food. The bouquets and plushes are picked up by children who are learning skating, usually called “flower girls” and “flower boys”.

*JJ’s cheering group, called JJ girls.
*Yurio’s hardcore fans are called Yuri angels.
*Flags are basic items. Some fans bring different types.
*Present snacks from fans for Yuuri who is on a diet?
*After popular athletes skate the flower girls and boys have a hard time picking up everything
*Sometimes skaters will actually put on the items that are thrown into the rink

TOPIC 4: Kiss & Cry
The kiss & cry is where skaters wait for their score after a performance. The name comes from the fact that it’s a place where athletes can experience both happy and sad feelings. Normally the skater and their coach will sit there, but in some cases there might be people from a country’s federation or the choreographer too. In many venues there will be a microphone, therefore skaters can also send messages to their family and fans. If you listen to the broadcast closely you might be able to hear the athlete and coach reviewing the performance or other conversations.

*Sometimes the coach might strike a pose too
*It’s also a place where athletes vow to make up for a defeat
*”Please support me!” addressed to the viewers
*The JJ style gesture in the kiss & cry is a recurrence
*Michele’s sister Sara can be seen in the kiss & cry too

Chief director / Screen designer
Jun Shishido & Yuusuke Tannawa interview

I want to make the gag scenes dynamic. (Shishido)
The opening of episode 11 was possible thanks to the viewers’ response. (Tannawa)

Shishido: I’m the chief director, but in fact I did a lot of things. Director Yamamoto was too busy, so she mainly did sound and editing, and then since it’s an original story she focused on the story composition…
Tannawa: Shishido-san was like the site supervisor. We would ask things related to the story itself to director Yamamoto, but the one who actually took action and gave directions was Shishido-san. Though in the credits I appear as “screen designer”, the anime’s screen design was created by the director of photography, and my job in this series mainly consisted in creating the footage for PVs, OP etc. and checking the final product before delivery. I started working on the PV at the beginning of 2016. I asked director Yamamoto what kind of layout she had in mind, and decided how to set the visuals of the series. Regarding the contents of the episodes I also discussed with Shishido-san about various topics – for example, “this processing can be done with camerawork, this expression can be recreated with CG” – and shared this information with the involved work groups.

-Trial and error to create the huge amount of skating scenes.-

T: In figure skating athletes perform while continuously moving around, therefore it was extremely difficult to understand where an athlete was and in what direction he was skating in each frame. In the 1st episode we created a CG model of the skater based on the real choreography footage and had it skate in a rink created with 3DCG, then we followed it with tridimensional camerawork and used that footage as a base for the animation. It was a very elaborate process. However, we realized that it was impossible to continue using this method with the production schedule of a TV series, therefore we switched to a different method where we would create camerawork on a general background map. Also, after episode 5, for certain characters we preceded the creation of the key animation with 3DCG. The final animation is all done by hand, but by having a base to use as a reference it was possible to calculate the available time frame and create the animations accordingly, thus shortening the working time.
S: Even if you suddently ask the 3D staff to create figure skating animation, of course they have almost no knowledge of the jumps and techniques. They create the animation based on the reference footage, but they cannot express complex details such as how athletes balance their feet the moment they jump, so for that I and (figure skating animators) Abiko-san and Tatenaka-san adjusted the animation. Among the people working on the series, the only ones who had technical knowledge about figure skating were the 3 of us and director Yamamoto. And it’s not something that you can just explain verbally, so we took on all those jobs ourselves. We checked… everything, probably. Actually, until episode 4 the skating scenes were all created by Abiko-san and Tatenaka-san, so I didn’t need to check them, but from episode 5 the amount of skating scenes became so huge that we asked Tannawa-san and the others whether we could get help from the CG team… I completely trusted Tannawa-san, because I knew that if we explained what to do he would understand what was needed.
T: I basically asked what they couldn’t do, and we did all we could to make up for that and reduce their workload. We would never have finished the series otherwise. That’s why for this anime no one ever said “isn’t that your job?”. For every episode, everyone just fought toward completion.
S: Everyone took responsibility for their job and worked with extreme care, like no one was going to double-check what they did afterwards. We thought, “if we don’t do our best, this series will not make it to the broadcast, therefore we must all be responsible and work hard”…

-A scene you especially paid attention to.-

S: All the storyboards for the skating scenes were drawn by the director, but I drew them for quite a lot of daily life scenes. I especially like the scene where Yurio gives a pirozhki to Yuuri (in episode 9). I was particularly careful to make Yurio look cute. I wanted to show that, even though normally he is rude (to Yuuri), he actually rather trusts him and they do get along. I also like gag scenes, so I had fun with scenes such as the hug competition at the end of episode 9. Gag scenes do not need to be drawn as neatly as serious scenes, therefore I decided to animate them in a very comical and dynamic way.
T: I paid a lot of attention to the opening. The way we changed it in episode 11 to reflect the current story development is something I myself suggested to the director. Actually, only the opening of episode 1 was still incomplete when it was broadcasted. From episode 2 onwards it was always the same footage, but the viewers wrote a lot of comments about it (and were wondering whether it was changing every time). Since everyone was watching it every time without skipping it, we decided to really change it in the end.
S: My favorite character is Georgi Popovich! He’s a man who can talk about love seriously. He actually makes a few appearances since the 1st episode. When we were working on episode 1 we only had Kubo-sensei’s character plans and the storyboard saying “a character named Popovich is standing here”. We made him stand out a little because we understood that he would show up in the story later on. And what a character he was, when he was introduced in episode 6!
T: He was so striking that I was actually shocked! I like Popovich too. Also, among the programs, I like Yuuri’s FS “Yuri on ICE”. It’s the first song I listened to working for this series, and at that time I used it for the PV without knowing that it was going to be Yuuri’s FS. In the PV Yuuri is skating in Hasetsu with his slender appearance from episode 3 onwards, and (the character designer) Hiramatsu-san commented “it’s a wonderful video, but now we have to make him fat”. I remember thinking “what is he saying??” (LOL).

-The power of the support that reached the studio.-

S: When we were creating the anime we were so busy with the work at hand that we didn’t really realize how much of a response the series was having. However, we received lots of presents, food, goods and letters of support from fans.
T: Even items based on the contents of the series, like (retort-packed) borscht. That made us feel that fans were really supporting us because they liked the series, and it boosted our morale. Knowing that there were so many people watching and cheering on us motivated us to our best even it meant working overnight without sleeping.
S: The charm of this series is the love of the original creators, director Yamamoto and Kubo-sensei, that you can feel from it. It’s just so strong.
T: It also feels like you are touring various countries to follow Yuuri and the others and watch their matches. You can watch it with the eyes of a spectator and think “I didn’t know a lot about this athlete, but now I see how he skates”. I think that another element that allows viewers to really get into the world of the series is how not only the matches but also the skaters’ practice scenes and the back yard are drawn with lots of details. Everything is detailed, even the different shape of each skater’s blades. The director herself is full of very sincere love for figure skating, and that was transmitted to both the staff and the viewers.
S: The animation studio had a very nice atmosphere. It’s the first time that I’m working with Tannawa-san, but when I saw his work I realized right away that he was someone I could trust. Trust and unity are something you find in the staff of many series, but for this one it was especially strong.

On a side note, Kubo & Yamamoto went to see the Worlds in Helsinki and are now in St.Petersburg. I am confident it’s tourism but with a spoonful of location hunting… (What a timing, though. I hope none of you or your acquaintances were personally affected by what happened the other day in the subway)