Disclaimer: i do not personally know Dan or Phil, i am not friends with them and i don’t know if this is the truth. this is just my interpretation of the stuff that has happened over the years.
first, i’d like to point out a couple of things: Dan and Phil have lived together for years now. they obviously share something more than just a normal friendship, their bond is stronger. also, i find interesting how they look at each other or touch the other.
in some videos (1.07) when they are sitting on the floor, either Phil is sitting in the most uncomfortable position ever or his legs are around Dan. now, i don’t have many male friends who would sit like that if there isn’t something going on between them, but fyi: the way you sit is not something that gives your sexuality away. i’m tired of seeing people saying that “touching a man like that means that you’re obviously gay.” that isn’t true. you are gay if you ARE gay, not if you behave like this or that or wear your hair a certain way. which leads me to the next point: their sexuality. i am not going to say that they’re gay/bisexual/whatever because of how they behave. that isn’t fair and it’s judgemental, and that isn’t something i want to be. anyways, Dan hasn’t been clear about his sexuality at all. back in 2009 he admitted being bisexual, and even pansexual. Phil’s facebook apparently stated that he was bi as well. again, this doesn’t mean that they’re together, two gay/bisexual/pansexual people who live together are not necessarily attracted to the other, as well as two straight people who live together are not attracted to each other, so get over yourself and stop using their sexuality to prove their relationship.
for me, there’s one big issue here, which i’m not comfortable enough to talk about, but you can’t really talk about Phan without addressing the video that shall not be named. i won’t post a link, nor will i talk about what was on the video. it is a clear invasion of their privacy and they’ve both stated that they don’t like it. regarding this subject i will just say that it seems odd to me that they’d plan an april fool’s day prank two months in advance, and that they would post it (in a private setting) two months in advance. that’s all i’m going to say about this, so suck it up if you’re curious.
also, something i find really, really interesting is the way Dan reacted when they were doing one of the BBC Radioshows and earlier that week, Phil had spent some time with Molly from The Saturdays, they were joking about moving in together . After that, on Aled’s show, Aled asked Molly about this and she said that she might as well say yes to Phil. (OBVIOUSLY A JOKE) Dan and Phil hadn’t heard about it, so they decided to play the recording to see their reactions, and well, just watch:
First, Phil is all like “hell yea she said yes!” he’s following the joke, but Dan? Look at Dan’s face, goddammit it’s heart-breaking. he’s shocked, as well as hurt. even if it’s a joke, you wouldn’t like someone you love to say stuff like that, even more when your relationship is hidden. when Phil realises that Dan is hurt, his face changes completely. he lowers his arms and looks away, almost like saying “fuck, Dan, it was just a joke…”
After this, Dan made the most passive-agressive comment i have ever seen:
i mean can he be more obvious?
this is just my little interpretation. i’m relatively new to Dan and Phil, as well as to Phan. this is shorter than any of my Frerard stuff because well, i’ve been shipping Frerard for 8 years and Phan for like 7 months. but yes, i do believe they are together, and i think that they are doing the right thing hiding it from everyone. when you are a public person, your relationships have a lot of pressure on them. if you break up with your partner when you have thousands of people who know about it, you won’t be able to have a private break up. it will feel like you’re breaking up with not only your partner but the people who follow you as well. i think you’d almost feel obliged to continue with the relationship even when you don’t want to. so yea, i think they are doing the right thing if they’re together and want to hide it. also, i know they seem really comfortable now with all the Phan stuff, but don’t be annoying. you can ship without harassing the people involved in the ship.