“Namjoon always extends his hand out first to the fans. I’m shy so I always tingle from just high-fiving wih the members (=from just reaching my hands out), but the only one whom I shake hands with and not high-five is Namjoon. Namjoon always… How should I say this? Initiate a handshake like a man reaching out his hand to a woman before dancing the tango. That’s why I, someone who is too shy and pressured to shake their hands because my hands look ugly, got to entrust (?) my hands to Namjoon like being attracted to a magnet.ㅋㅋㅋ
I remember Namjoon’s hands are big like a man’s hands, but they’re always soft and warm. Namjoon’s hands are tender and I tremble from my nerve… (It’s a rhyme…)
One time I spent hours to look for the fancam where Namjoon reached out his hand without hesitation like a prince to a fan at a fansign and kept watching it over and over ㅋㅋㅋ I’m not a pervert, ahem.
It’s still vivid in my memory, a fansign held in the winter. I was hesitating because of my shyness, so Namjoon extended his hand to me, showed his signature dimple smile and told me this.
“My hands are a little bit cold today. But still.”
↳ Sometimes Namjoon can’t reach out his hand first because he’s too focused on talking with the previous hand, so don’t feel sad when he doesn’t initiate a handshake. If you reach out your hand first, Namjoon will like it a lot and quicky take your hand.“
You’re not obligated to have sex with anyone, dating or not - saying no should always be an option and they should always respect that.
Don’t let anyone manipulate you into having sex.
“You obviously don’t want to be with me anymore if you don’t want to have sex with me” - not ok.
“If you loved me you’d do it” - not ok.
If they get mad at you and stay moody until you agree to have sex with them - that’s not ok.
If they make you feel so bad and so trapped that you have to have sex with them so that you don’t feel like a bad girlfriend/boyfriend - that’s not ok.
If you say you’re too tired and they get so moody that you have to force yourself to stay awake despite your eyes burning because they’ve guilt tripped you into saying yes - that’s not ok.
If they start touching you after you’ve already said no, in hopes that it’ll change your mind - that’s not ok.
You can always say no, it’s your body, your life, your decision. No one should choose for you whether or not you have sex with them. If they can’t take no for an answer and they can’t respect your decision or they try to manipulate you into having sex, that’s a major warning sign. Leave them.
Lastly, if someone takes it upon themselves to have sex with you before you can even say no, or agree to it - That’s not fucking ok.