forever rebloging

no not so fast morty. you heard you’re mom, we’ve got adventures to go on morty. just you and me, and sometimes your sister and sometimes your mom. but never your father you wanna know why morty? because he crossed me. (ok take it easy rick, tha-that’s dark). oh it gets darker morty, welcome to the darkest years of our adventures. first thing that’s different, no more dad morty he threatened to turn me into government so i made him and the government go away. (ohhhh fuck). i’ve re-BURP-laced them both as the de facto patriarch of your family and your universe. your mom wouldn’t have accepted me if i came home without you and your sister, so now you know the real reason i rescued you. i just took over the family morty! and if you tell your mom or sister i said any of this i’ll deny it and they’ll take my side because im a hero morty. and now you’re gonna have to go do everything i say morty. forever! and i-i’ll-i’ll go out and find some more of that mulan szechuan teriyaki dipping sauce morty! anb-because that’s what this is all about morty! tha that’s my one armed man. i’m not driven by avenging my dead family morty, that was fake, i-i-im driven by finding that mcnugget sauce! i want the mulan mcnugget sauce morty! that’s my series arc morty! if it takes 9 seasons, i want my mcnugget. dipping sauce szechuan sauce morty! (what are you talking about rick!?) that’s wha-that’s what (what are you talking about??) gonna take us all the way to the end morty! season 9 9 more seasons until i get that dipping szechuan sauce. (what is that?!) for 97 more years morty (what are you talking about!?). i want that mcnugget dipping sauce morty!

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““I don’t understand why you’re so afraid of the ocean.” Lance said.

“It can kill me.”

“So can I.”

“You wouldn’t, though. The ocean doesn’t care. We’re just bits of flotsam. It’d bash me against the rocks just as much as it keeps me floating here.”

“It’d do the same to me, though. We’re all just bits of flotsam to it, just like the earth would be a bit of flotsam in the sun, and the sun is nothing but a bit of flotsam in the galaxy- which is nothing but a bit of flotsam in the universe. I’m just as much to the ocean as you are.””

The art for my fic blue lightning and the red bandit, chapter eleven Go read it!

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i don’t know, i don’t have an issue with ‘soft sapphic’ culture in and of itself - i understand that it works for a lot of people and i’m fond of any movement that aims to a) unify lesbians + bi/pan girls and b) teach young lgbt kids that their attraction isn’t gross or bad.

however…i do think certain narratives being spread on this site (and in other places where this terminology is used, i’d imagine) do more to contribute to internalised homophobia than they do to reduce it. this is obviously unintentional and i’m not blaming sapphic girls who spread this stuff at all but that doesn’t mean it’s not worth discussing and at least considering.

i see a lot of posts saying things along the lines of ‘love between girls is the purest and best thing in the world!!’ and i understand that these posts are meant to be at least mildly hyperbolic but here’s the thing: a lot of girls who love girls already feel like their love has to be perfect to compensate for the fact that it’s non-heterosexual.

i know that on a personal level it wasn’t useful for me to hear stuff like that (although i might have thought it was for a while). what i actually needed to hear wasn’t ‘love between girls is perfect’, it was ‘love between girls isn’t always going to be perfect and that’s okay. you’re finding love hard and that’s okay.’

i used to have so much anxiety over the fact that i wasn’t having a Pure Gay Experience; the first girl i dated wasn’t the love of my life, sometimes i just wanted to make out with girls i didn’t have feelings for, i had feelings for girls who’d never love me back and that made me bitter and angry and jealous. all of this would have been normal teenage stuff if i was straight but my shame was definitely amplified by the fact that i felt like i had to compensate for being gay by having almost fairytale-style romances.

like i honestly think there is so much value in teaching young sapphic girls that their love won’t be soft and special all the time because they’re human beings no less worthy of love and respect than anyone else. and in teaching straight people that our love isn’t going to be any purer than theirs, but they have to respect it equally anyway. i feel like i’ve said this a million times but i have no interest in activism that only seeks to validate the most ~palatable q*eers~.

listen, women + girls who date each other end up in abusive relationships sometimes. they fight and they split up. they break each other’s hearts. they have meaningless hook-ups with each other. they cheat on each other. sometimes things are bad or just not that special, but the thing young sapphic girls need to learn is that things will go wrong not BECAUSE they’re lesbians or because they’re bi or pan. they go wrong because that’s how life works. and regardless of who they’re dating or fucking or loving, they deserve respect and support.

i don’t want to be a killjoy and i’m not saying that a cutesy post about how every time two girls kiss the moon gets brighter is going to ruin anyone’s life. but i don’t think idealising OR demonising love between girls (or any two lgbt people) is really the way to go with making young gay/bi/pan girls feel better about themselves. don’t teach them to aspire to ideals they can’t reach; teach them to be human and teach them to love themselves and their sexualities regardless.