There’s this thing my mom used to always say: A hungry predator makes the easiest prey.
I didn’t get this for a long time. Then it started to dawn on me…
When a mouse is desperately foraging for food, he might not spot the hawk circling overhead. Or when a business owner is desperately in need of more customers, he might not see through the false claims in the sales pitch of someone selling him a promotional strategy.
And when an aspiring SB is in desperate need of money, he or she might be fooled into forking over valuable information at the promise of a big allowance to come.
When you’re hungry for anything, it can be hard to keep a clear head. Yet – these are the times when you most need your wits about you.
There are scammers on sugar dating websites who pose as POTs to extract personal information from desperate SBs. And despite what they might promise you – sharing that information with them may end up costing you more than any allowance they promise you’ll receive.
Thankfully, these scammer are far and few. You can also protect yourself from them very easily by being selective about sharing your personal information.
Here’s our guide to sharing personal information for SBs.
To Share or Not to Share: Your Name
Verdict: Sharing is okay
This one is obviously not that risky and totally up to you whether you decide to share or not.
I personally choose to go by a pseudonym in all the initial phases of corresponding with any POT. Once I have an arrangement with a man I trust, then I disclose my real name.
Whether you choose to use your real name, a full pseudonym, or just a fake first name all depends on how much privacy you want to have from your sugar life. Overall, this one’s entirely up to you.
To Share or Not to Share: Your Address
Verdict: Sharing is okay, but not recommended
Sharing your address is not really an identity theft threat concern. It’s more of a privacy thing.
I personally don’t like the idea of POTs knowing where I live. Why? Because it’s the one place I can always be reached.
I’ve also come across a few POTs who seemed to be laboring under the delusion that allowance = some sort of claim over their SB.
Until I am in an arrangement with a SD, I trust and know to be respectful of boundaries, I will not be sharing where I live. I’ll even lie about my neighborhood sometimes. Call me paranoid, but my privacy is sacrosanct.
If a POT wants to send you gifts? Easy. Give him your P.O. Box address. They cost nearly nothing and provide a world of secure anonymity.
To Share or Not to Share: Your Place of Work or School
Verdict: Sharing is okay, depending on the person
This one is really up to you. I tend to share where I went to school or where I work when I know a POT is both trustworthy and has no real connection to those places.
If I am meeting a POT for the first time, however, or otherwise don’t know enough about him, I prefer to keep everything general: “I finished my undergrad in Boston,” “I’m involved with emergency care,” etc.
That’s usually good enough. I mean, it’s not a job interview.
To Share or Not to Share: Your Bank Account Number
Verdict: Sharing is not recommended until you’re in an arrangement with someone you trust
Do not give your bank account number out to any random POT who wants to send you a gift. Give him your PayPal address instead.
Sure, a bank account number is not exactly “private” (i.e. anyone you give a check to can see it) but it is still something that can be used to withdraw money from your account.
Protect it by not giving it out unless you’re in an arrangement with a SD you trust who wants to deposit your allowance into your account. Make sure you know enough about this man – what he does, where he works, etc. – before you entrust him with your details.
To Share or Not to Share: Your Social Security Number
Verdict: Hell NO, under no circumstance
Seriously, nobody you’re entering into an arrangement with needs to know your social security number.
If he says it’s because he wants to get you an extra credit card on his account but under your name, just say “No thanks, I prefer cash. Or a prepaid credit card will do just fine.”
If he says it’s because he wants to put your on his payroll for tax purposes, say “No thanks, I’m not really looking for formal employment. Plus, you do know that if I’m paying taxes on my sugar baby allowance, you’re going to have to give me an extra xx% of the amount I asked for, right?”
Seriously, do not share your social security number with anyone. If he asks, write him off as a no-go, no matter how promising he seems.
To Share or Not to Share: Your Driver’s License Number
Verdict: What?! Why?!
There is really no reason in the world why a SD should ask for your driver’s license number, unless he is also your rental car agent. Which, I’m guessing, he’s not.
All of this might sound a little secretive, but it’s really not. There are so many ways to share who you are with a POT without disclosing compromising personal information.
Feel free to talk expansively about topics you’re passionate about, your interests, your hobbies and even more qualitative details about your life – but keep your personal information to yourself.