When a person loves Allah (swt), it says much more about them than any words they could possibly say. A person who loves Allah (swt) shows something about their character - that they are fearful and grateful to the Unseen; they will be true and trustworthy to you. Always look for one who has love for the deen of Allah Almighty Insha'Allah.
Allāh’s Apostle (ﷺ) said, “Fasting is a shield (or a screen or a shelter). So, the person observing fasting should avoid sexual relation with his wife and should not behave foolishly and impudently, and if somebody fights with him or abuses him, he should tell him twice, ‘I am fasting.” The Prophet (ﷺ) added, “By Him in Whose Hands my soul is, the smell coming out from the mouth of a fasting person is better in the sight of Allāh than the smell of musk. (Allāh says about the fasting person), ‘He has left his food, drink and desires for My sake. The fast is for Me. So I will reward (the fasting person) for it and the reward of good deeds is multiplied ten times.”
What does it mean to do something for the sake of Allah? We often hear “for the sake of Allah” and think that a person must be sacrificing something in order for them to do that task. Or, that they must be doing what they do completely free of cost. But you see, we forget that even if we live our lives striving to please Allah, our every breath becomes something that is done for the sake of Allah. If you have a career, and you make your intention to work to feed your family so that Allah will be pleased with you, you are working for the sake of Allah. If you are going to school, struggling or succeeding in it, and you make your intention to gain knowledge because it is a command from Allah, then you are doing so for the sake of Allah. Something like dating, however, with the intent of fulfilling the Sunnah of getting married is not something done for the sake of Allah, because it’s done through something that isn’t halal. These are just some examples, but it’s all about your intentions, and doing things that abide by the guidelines of the Quran and Sunnah. So, what do you do for the sake of Allah?
When making dua, don’t forget all the people around the world, for someone somewhere is going through some sort of difficulty, so just as we would appreciate kind people making dua for us, then we should be humble in front of Allah and make dua for others too in sha Allah. A sincere dua for the sake of Allah is the best gift one can give to anyone.
“Blessed is he whose knowledge and practice, love and hate, acceptance and refusal, speech and silence, and words and actions are sincerely for the sake of Allah.”
-Imam Ali (as)
Tuhaf al-‘Uqul, p. 100
You may have so many things going on around you, and it comes to the point where sometimes you feel as though you’ll go crazy, but remember to keep your head above the water, and although it may not be easy, struggle and strive with patience and trust in Allah, and try as hard as you can to keep your head about the water, don’t drown or get swept with the wave.