for trans girls everywhere

stynr  asked:

so would you say emasculation of masc se asian ppl is an extension of a specific racism? i've always wondered about this but there doesn't seem to be enough outrage in most circles at the white "awe" when ppl are faced with buff se asian men or se asian wlw or ppl who don't follow feminine stereotypes. i know it's deeper than that but? ppl still don't seem to care about these very surface issues?

It’s not even an extension, it’s just part and parcel of the racism. 

I actually haven’t seen a lot of writing on how/why this stereotype came to be beyond vague speculation about robes and E/SE Asians generally being smaller than white people. but I do know for sure that: 

1. wlw aren’t men in any capacity. whether butch or femme or neither, none of us hold the place that men have in the horrific game of gender and sex. I have more thoughts on this but I don’t want to get harassed today

2. this feminization hurts transmasc people a LOT and I’ve heard that some people are mean to e/se asian trans girls because they think this makes it easier for them to pass (which is a horrible assumption to make given how complex passing is) 

3. there are quite a few people who care on reddit, and really any part of the internet besides tumblr. I think it’s because there’s a lot of trans people and cis girls on tumblr, but pretty much everywhere else the central issue for the Asian american community seems to be Asian men being emasculated and not being perceived as sexually attractive. this discourse ranges from homophobia to violent misogynists who want to hurt Asian women who have the nerve to date a non-Asian man. some Asian men are only a few downvotes away from saying the 14 words with “Asian” in the place of “white”. 

this stereotype is also a big factor in why so many Asian boys appropriate black culture and/or are neo-Nazis. they want to seem tougher and more manly, even if doing so will harm others and harm themselves.

as you can imagine, all of this obsession over miscegnation and masculinity isn’t very welcoming for anyone that isn’t a cishet man. I usually pretend to be a cishet girl in these spaces and I still don’t feel safe at all because if someone disagrees with me they can immediately accuse me of worshipping white men and being “mentally colonized garbage”. 

emasculation of Asian men hurts all Asians, not because of the stereotype itself but because of the entitlement it breeds in cishet Asian guys and the “revenge” they then enact on women, trans Asians, and gay Asians.

sorry to rant w/o a cut bc im on mobile but

can we just. stop. making el so incredibly feminine. 

bc like. i get it! she was feminine in the show! she wore a dress and a long haired wig! but have you ever considered… why? 

she did it because that’s what the boys had her do. she didnt do it because shes a girly girl or someone who likes feminine stuff. she did it so she could be smuggled around. so why do people act as if shes this girly little doll? shes not. eleven is messy and androgynous and powerful. she didnt care about being cute or girly. she cared about staying alive.

so why does everyone act as if the happiness she finds after the turmoil, when shes older, depends on traditional femininity? on having long hair and wearing cutesy outfits?

look. i get the want for feminine powerful girls. but when we act as if girls can only be powerful is they are also being aesthetically pleasing (which is the entire premise of 1. why they dressed el up and 2. what the fandom insists on doing), we are being misogynistic. we are teaching girls they can only be strong if we’re also small and cute and “”””appealing to boys”””. and thats not okay. at some point, we need to ask: why cant young girls be masculine?

this question is personal to me. i am a masculine young girl. i have broad shoulders and im tall and ive got a deep voice, and, most importantly, short hair. i am not feminine without effort. but im also strong. im powerful and smart and i know that i am and i use it, and guess what? people dont like it! they dont like the way i act, because the way i speak and look arent what they think of when they think of young girls! if i want a broad audience, i have to be so, so kind and polite and unnecessarily sweet where others, like young boys, dont. and that’s eleven’s problem, too. she had a buzzcut and her lab clothing suggested neither girl nor boy alignment. she wasnt feminine. she had no desire to be feminine because it didnt occur to her that it was important. 

and them beauty standards were taught to her quicker than i think even regular girls are taught them. she learned all about presentability, in the way we do in years, in the course of one day. do you know how damaging that is? to have your psyche free of the social constructs of masculinity and femininity and then suddenly being forced into this box to be culturally acceptable? it’s literally every tomboy and gender non-conforming kids experience, especially trans kids (sorry i love trans girl el but ill make a post abt that another time). she had a striking start to what should be a story of her recovering from trauma and dealing with it through forced femininity, before realizing all of that is superficial and deciding to just be her androgynous, tom-boy self. 

and instead, everyone just woobifies her and makes el seem like a princessy little care-bear loving babydoll who only cares about fashion and eggos and mike. completely vapid. so, so, so disrespectful to the story of masculine girls everywhere. 

el’s representation as a young masculine-looking girl is such a good story for tom-boys everywhere (THIS ABSOLUTELY INCLUDES YOUNG TRANS GIRLS WHO ARE TOMBOYS). it shows them they’re allowed to be strong, allowed to be loud, allowed to take up space the way that THEY want. not the way others want them to. it shows them that a boy (or girl!) can like them even if they have short hair or a style of dress that’s not “girly”. it could potentially empower girls everywhere to be proud of their individual style and unique taste in gender expression.

but instead, we all just decide to treat her like she knows all about traditional, western gender roles and agrees whole-heartedly with them, and then stick max in as a tomboy for good measure, but leave the one we REALLY care about, REALLY know, as a palatable little dress-up doll, basically; and it grosses me out. that we cant let young girls be strong without simultaneously presenting femininely. it makes me so mad, because ive had girls tell me that i inspire them to be more androgynous and that i remind them of el… and to me, thats the most important thing ive ever heard. that i remind them of such a badass, intended-to-be masculine female character? yes! but them i remember what the connotations with el are online. helpless. in need of mike. weak despite being physically strong. 

so we have to ask ourselves, in simple, un-politicized, fandom terms:

why cant girls look like they can kill you can actually be able to kill you, instead of looking like a cinnamon roll but actually being able to kill you?

think about it.

Important message for trans girls everywhere:

You are allowed to feel good and give yourself nice things. You’re allowed to walk by a mirror on a good day and think “damn, I’m hot.” You’re allowed to say it out loud, even if you’re out in public. You’re allowed to buy yourself a flower from the guy outside the grocery store just to put it behind your ear. You’re allowed to eat the food you want, not the food Cosmo says you should. You’re allowed to spend your day off cuddled up in bed watching TV rather than outside doing things. You’re allowed to make your own space as safe as you’d like. You’re allowed to ask your crush out on a date. You’re allowed to fulfill OR subvert stereotypes, whichever makes you comfortable. You are allowed to be happy, and you’re allowed to take steps toward that goal.

Will Someone Please Tell Ruka-chan that She's Trans‽

Note: This post contains minor spoilers for the Anime and Visual Novel Steins;Gate.

There is a character in Steins;Gate, Urushibara Ruka(ko), the main character, Okabe Rintarou, describes her as someone who’s “Delicate as an Orchid, Fair as a cherry blossom, the personification of feminine grace, and a dude.” Which, I’m all for dudes who are all of those things, but Urushiara Ruka is not one of them.

At a later point in the series she says straight-up “I think my life would have been better if I had been born a girl, and I want to be a girl.” And thanks to Time Travel and some very dubious knowledge of how pregnancy works she achieves this. She sends a message back in time and it changes everything and nothing. She looks exactly the same, dresses exactly the same, talks exactly the same except she stops using the first person pronoun “Boku” which is only really used by males. Pretty much what would have happened if she’d come out as trans and gotten sex reassignment surgery, except now she’s cis and everyone’s always known her to be a cis girl. Only Okabe remembers she “used to be a dude” because he has the Reading Steiner.

When this happened, when she revealed what she wanted to use the Time Machine for, I was so freaking excited. I was literally dancing in my chair, because to me that was confirmation, Ruka-chan is a canon trans chick. Only problem is, at no point before or after, it seems, did someone think to tell her that being transgender is a thing, and that she could totally be trans. I kept wanting to scream at the screen “You don’t have to time travel that far, you could just go back as far as puberty, actually, you don’t even need that.”

I’ve often fantasize about using time travel to start Hormone Replacenent earlier, but don’t think I would because I want to keep a lot of my experiences this far. I just wished I could make the changes to my body so that it’d look like I never underwent the bad puberty, but this isn’t really possible. I’m not going to deny Ruka her way of going about it, if she wants to be Cis and she has a way to do it, more power to her, I’m just glad she’s happy. Unfortunately, she doesn’t stay happy for long.

I knew, she would meet a terrible end, she was just way too happy to be left alone. I predicted the same thing about Mayushii. I was wrong on both counts. I thought they would die a horrible death, because anime, but Mayuri didn’t die a horrible death, she died dozens of them. And Ruka, well, she died a different kind of death. To prevent Mayuri’s death, Okabe figures he has to reverse all the changes he’s made, including Ruka’s pre-natal SRS.

She doesn’t want to do it, it’s devastating to her, but she agrees for Mayuri’s sake. She “detransitions” as it were, which again means she looks exactly the same but she has a penis now, and not much is made of her story afterwards. And still I want to scream at the screen “You can still be a girl, you can totally be a girl!”

Because Ruka has a similar but diametrically opposite position to me. I was aware that there was such a thing as transexual people, I just didn’t think it applied to me. I’d never thought that I wanted to be a girl, it was something that I had to discover. Ruka knows she wants to be a girl, but doesn’t seem to realize that she can be one without the help of time travel. Or maybe she knows about it, but doesn’t want to be a girl “that way”, because she has a warped perception of what it means to be trans.

I love the character of Ruka, but it’s not going to do the trans community any favours. I wish more than anything in the world that the series had ended with Ruka deciding to tell the other lab members to call her Ruka and not Rukako and to treat her as girl. I think it would have been amazing for Trans Girls in japan and everywhere to see that, and it would have been a happier ending for her much like other characters got. Except Faris, poor Faris. 

And I can hear counter-arguments forming, and a shitstorm of Chihiro Fujisaki’s proportions that will probably not form since it didn’t when the anime came out and I don’t think this post is going to revive the conversation. I will not argue against anyone who wants to declare Ruka a cis boy, because this person would be awful and be trying to take the little bit of representation that this is away. And there are better representations out there, if you want to look, doesn’t make this one a non-example.

I would, light-heartedly argue with anyone wishing to declare Ruka AMAB genderqueer. I would disagree, but it’d be a good argument because Non Binary individuals are also supremely starved for representation. And if Ruka can do that, more power to her!

And who knows. If I’m allowed to dream, I can dream of an out of the closet Ruka-chan making an appearance in the light novel sequel that will be out in 2015 and is set 6 years in the future. I have a feeling that’s a long shot. Still, stranger things have happened.

Trans girls

You know I’ve looked almost everywhere on Tumblr and trans girls pride is very scares as well as tips for trans girls. So don’t get me wrong I love trans boys they are fantastic but there are a lot of trans girls out here too.

So to other trans girls like me

You are beautiful

You are valid

It’s ok to be straight

It’s ok to be sapphic

You are sexy

And most Importantly you are some of the strongest people I know not physically but emotional

Trans girl demon hunters who let the demons who don’t wantonly kill humans everywhere go free to safer places because trans girls know what it’s like to be painted wrongfully as monsters.

Trans girl werewolf who uses silver needles to burn her facial hair out and has accepted she can never get surgery but at least hormones work. In fact they work absurdly well due to the speed at which her lupine regeneration changes cell structure in her body according to the chemical signals it receives.

Trans girl sorceress who learned biomancy specifically to help out other girls who needed changes even though she really doesn’t need anything and she’s happy with her body the way it is.

More fantasy trans girls

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Not rly any mirrors around to take outfit pics, sorry. We’re at a farm that serves as a summer house, which I think is a bit strange, but the place is huge. Swedish summer weather with raining, sunshine and 9000% air humidity changing every hour. Hate the flies, they are everywhere. 😓 Great food tho. 😊☔️

Trans Teen Jazz Jennings Is The New Clean & Clear Campaign Girl

Jazz does so much for the trans movement and teen girls everywhere who want to be who they really are — so it’s really cool that she’s now the star of the latest Clean & Clear Campaign, called #SeetheRealMe.

Read more.

(I don’t know how many are already doing this but for those that aren’t)

Dear Trans Girls And Women,

Clump together. Find each other in person, everywhere you can. Hug each other. Be friends. Cook food for each other. Make things for one another. Knit blankets or build computers or whatever. Talk about your problems together. Give advice. Give support. Give each other rides if you have a car. Walk with each other if you don’t. Live together if you can. Be roommates. Have a commune. Be neighbors. Watch movies (not shitty ones hopefully) together. Read together. Talk about your dreams together.

Make a family out of trans women and girls.

This will take you past survival. You will thrive surrounded by trans women with positive connections to you. It is worth it.

It will save your life.

It saved mine

Why we're somber but hopeful today


Today, Wednesday November 25 is the International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women.

It’s a good moment to examine the breathtaking scope of the problem. An estimated 35 per cent of women worldwide have experienced violence at some point in their lives. Rape continues to be prevalent worldwide, and is often used as a weapon of war and as a tool to silence women. And transgender and gender nonconforming people face disproportionately high levels of violence. Forced pregnancy, a form of violence against women and girls, has especially harmful consequences on young adolescents, as detailed in a new report called “Stolen Lives”. And compounding such violence against women in countries around the world is a a U.S. policy called the Helms Amendment.

While global challenges clearly remain, advocates around the world are pushing for change to create the world we want. As part of the global community, we have a shared mission in fighting for reproductive rights no matter where a woman lives, especially for the most vulnerable communities. Broadly there has been global progress in expanding reproductive rights, with recent liberalization of abortion laws in Colombia, Kenya, Ethiopia, and Nepal. And in the recently adopted Sustainable Development Goals, countries all over the world reiterated their commitment to ensuring that all women and young people have the information and resources to decide their own future — and made clear that reproductive health and rights is central in this vision. We need to hold governments accountable to delivering on this commitment. And at a time when opponents of women’s health in the U.S. are trying to limit access and erode these rights at home and export these values abroad, we need to redouble our commitment to advance sexual and reproductive health and rights everywhere.