for those of you who are concerned

A Very Short Recess

Hello All!

For those of you who are sticking with me through the second part …

Thank you!

Originally posted by isleofheartlesspeople

You will not be disappointed.

With that being said … I am, however, disappointed.  I am quite disappointed in myself over chapter 1.  I started off with a lot of motivation and big plans for it and a TON of enthusiasm and as I watched the viewing numbers plummet on it and I received DMs and other communique concerning it and the direction of it.

In short, I allowed those criticisms to change what I had planned for it and looking back at what’s been done so far, I am disappointed that I allowed myself to stray from the course of my original plan.

I don’t want that to happen again with chapter 2, but sadly it already has begun.  The plan for it is already solidified in my mind and if I continue to put out a part a day, I think I might get deterred again by readers who have doubts about the direction of my story and the characters within it.

It is so very easy to get swayed when you haven’t written anything yet, so I’m going to take a few days off so that I can write it all at once.  It will be done and no one can talk me out of it.

I am concerned about this because I actually get really helpful feedback from some people and it helps me continue on with the next part, so this might be a fool’s errand.

When I come back, I’m going to set a posting schedule as well and see if I can keep to it.  :)

Originally posted by scarecroe

publicwoohoo  asked:

Once you get this you have to say five things you like about yourself, publicly, and then send it to ten of your favourite followers!

Thank you! <3

I often randomly start humming + dancing, which can be highly entertaining to those around me. I am a cheerful person and do not have a resting bitchface (it’s scary how common those are these days). I also like that I can actually see that my excercising is paying off as I’m getting more toned/stronger. I’m less concerned about other people’s opinions than I used to be.

The bottom line? At this stage in life I’m far from perfect but I actually like who I am.

absurdseagull replied to your post “always vaguely surprised when my old post about roko’s basilisk…”

Can you explain? I’m not really a rationalist but I have like 3 or 4 friends who are

i mean #notallrationalists and all but their politics tend towards your standard right-libertarian-capitalist silicon valley shit, they’re incredibly cosy with the neoreactionaries and white supremacists and so on, they have a weird tendency to pick the most reactionary side of any particular issue while insisting they’re still on the left somehow (usually concern-trolling), they fairly routinely dogpile people with longwinded ‘debate’ long after those people have made it clear they don’t want to engage any longer, their obsession with ‘intelligence’ and IQ etc. is a hot mess and it leads them to some very white supremacist places, they’re weirdly paranoid about antifa, and of course despite there certainly being women and non-male lesswrongers, there’s some pretty rampant misogyny

those are like, the obvious criticisms lol

also, some their major figures are pretty shady and have been abusive in ways I can’t talk about bc i wasn’t really involved and don’t want to break confidence.

and like, on some level, i now find their entire way of looking at the world - the like, way of writing and framing things in ways that are nitpicky in the extreme but emotional in carefully proscribed ways but also usually quite profoundly miss the point, while basically rewriting anything unfamiliar into palatable terms due to ‘charity’ - to be really insufferable. that’s kinda personal though and i bet people find my own way of writing to be insufferable too (I think I would if I weren’t me).

another personal aspect: my fascist sister got in with her right-wing buddies by way of the “lesswrong-adjacent” sphere so if i didn’t have my own past on the site as a reason for antipathy towards them, that would do it.

if you want a more abstract critique of their ideology and history and that, i could try to write one. i made an attempt but it was kind of unsatisfying. tbh lev-sup has basically done a better job here already.

anonymous asked:

Hey, I just wanted to say that your answers concerning romantic attraction have somewhat bothered me recently, as many people I know (myself included) dont see kissing as romantic... and as someone who currently identifies as quoiromantic, this has been concerning.. as I personally enjoy the tought of kissing anyone i enjoy being around. ~a concerned ace

the lines between platonic & romantic attraction can blur a lot. it depends on you as a person to set those lines for yourself.

-victra

i’m concerned about boys with mental illnesses and eating disorders and abusive relationships and sexual assault survivor stories and self-harming tendencies who never get the attention or care or help they need because all of those things “don’t happen to men” or because “all men are horrible monsters” and i just wanna say if you’re a boy and you’re struggling with something hard, your gender doesn’t diminish or dismiss your struggles or make them any less significant or difficult and i love you and i’m here for you

One time one of my coworkers was talking about his daughter (who was only 5-6 at the time) and how he was already worried about boys, etc. once she got older. He wasn’t one of those dads, who would quite literally hunt down a teenage boy with a shotgun over some backseat shenanigans. He was just a concerned dad.

He asked me what my dad used to do to scare all of the boys away from me, or to at least make sure they were good to me.

My answer?

Example.

My dad never once said, “Katie, if a boy hits you, make sure to bring him back here so I can make him pay.”

Instead, my kind, gentle-soul dad expressed anger and utter contempt for men who beat their wives (and vice versa), and has never in his life raised his hand against me or my mother.

My dad never once said, “Katie, don’t go out with a boy who’s rude to the waitress.”

Instead, my father has treated every single server we’ve had throughout my entire life (except the rare ones who were rude first) with respect and courtesy.

My dad never once told my brothers to get up and offer the pregnant lady their seat on the subway.

Instead he was the first one to stand up, and smiled proudly when his young sons copied him when 2 other women boarded.

My dad didn’t raise me to only make good decisions when he’s there looking over my shoulder. He showed me what to look for in a man, not by preaching at me or declaring that he was the perfect mold. But his treatment of others (esp women) is the foundation for my standards when it comes to men.

So, parents, you want to make sure all of those Bad Apples stay away? Step one is to demonstrate what a Good Apple looks like, up close and personal.

Because if you’ve taught your daughters to respect themselves enough to have high standards, there won’t be any need for you chase any Bad Apples away. Your daughter will take care of that for you.

OKAY SUPERCORP/KARAMEL RANT

**Please read** This all really needs to be said. However, before I go further I want you all to understand that this isn’t meant to be a hate paragraph or to purposefully put those who like Mon-El and/or Karamel down. At this point, all the disagreeing and fighting will do nothing. So I’m asking kindly that if you’re going to add something to this post- that it is filled with positive intent. 

 Anyhow, to my point:

I do watch Supergirl by the way, but I truly believe this concerns a wide variety of people. Whether you’re a fan of The 100, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, The Walking Dead, or just a person living your life… All I hope is that we all try to grasp the reality of what is truly going on. Now I will centralize this long rant towards Supergirl however. For those of you who don’t know what is going on there is a conflict between fans who ship this character, Mon-El, together with Supergirl/Kara and fans who ship Lena Luthor with Supergirl/Kara. Now, in my humble opinion, the big issue isn’t about straight v.s lgbt people and I will go on about that later… but the fact that she is with someone like Mon-El. Now what do I mean by ‘someone like Mon-El’… before certain people get mad I want to emphasize that I’m simply pointing out what happened in the show. 

This is long as hell just fyi.

1) The way Mon-El reacts to most things is through violence. In fact, the moment he wakes up he chokes Kara. And there’s this: 

(his words in white)

And the scene where Mon-El robs Brian; using his powers for selfish reasons.

He even calls her names. And notice how he does this the moment Kara disagrees with him. A reaction that does more harm than good. On the other hand, when Kara and Lena disagree on something (in ep. 2x03) they simply talk it out. They ask questions, explain, clarify, and come to an understanding.

Now, I’m not here to say that I have NEVER agreed with anything Mon-El has said, actually I applaud him for accepting Maggie and Alex’s relationship the way he did, but that’s just the thing. The opinions/beliefs he has don’t come from himself. Most of what he thinks is based off of what he’s seen on Daxam. He really isn’t at all mature. He isn’t by any means and it’s simply the truth. Now hear me out-

This is what I mean by he isn’t mature: How many times has Kara asked him politely and specifically not to do something but without hesitation still does it? And how many times has he had to beg for forgiveness? 

In addition, he doesn’t have knowledge of what respect truly means. What’s interesting though about this scene in particular- is how it’s supposed to be a ‘funny’ scene. Mon-El’s character is written in as ‘funny’ and ‘aloof’… but it sends a poisonous message- that Kara’s feelings aren’t to be taken seriously. And this show is literally supposed to be about her. Not a guy who thinks it’s his duty to ‘defend her honor’ and then complains about it.

Now I know that this was how people on Daxam acted and their way of life was for the most part, sexist, racist, etc. But that still doesn’t give him an excuse to act the way he does. 

2) Lena herself comes from a family with twisted values as well. She is adopted into the Luthor family and has had close to no friends most of her life. And yet she’s still capable of being a perfectly decent person. 

She does save the alien population not once, but twice. So not only is Lena proved time and time again that she’s a good person, but her relationship with Kara (btw I call it a ‘relationship’ just like the writers do)… is not even close to toxic, detrimental, or abusive. It’s the complete opposite.

Protect yourself”

“I can take care of myself”

3) Being in a healthy relationship is about the effort between two willing people… at the same time, knowing your boundaries whilst encouraging one another.

4) Kara deserves someone who fully acknowledges her efforts and is grateful for them



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Day Ninety-Two

-I discovered that while I had signed on to pick up a shift that was listed as softlines, I was, in fact, assigned to the fitting room, an area entirely beyond my understanding. Thankfully, the years of theater training that I have amassed have come in handy. I was able to flawless assume the guise of one who knew precisely what they were doing.

-A woman softly shouted, “Don’t you almost kill my baby!” These words themselves were not my main cause for concern, but her nonchalant tone of someone repeating an oft-used line.

-I happened upon a six-sided die, featuring depictions of a satchel, a chalice, a cactus, a sunrise, a character of indeterminate origin, and a large monkey. It is not an item we sell nor was anyone in the store looking for such a relic. I can only assume that those who used this die have completed their occult ritual and decided that they had no further use for it.

-While sorting through returned clothing, a pair of pants was found with incriminating brown stains and an even more incriminating stench. The largest stain was located in the seat of the pants, but this was not the only one. There was a faint trail leading down the left leg, culminating in a large splotch at the cuff, suggesting that whatever had been laid at the start of the path was kicked along downwards in an attempt to get rid of the evidence. While I can only imagine the circumstances this person was facing, I am more interested in why they thought this was the appropriate time to return them.

-A young girl told her unlistening mother that she likes to put Tic Tacs in her butt. I feel that her mother should have cared much more about this than she did.

Holmes telling a client who is concerned about her safety with her new employer that she just has to send him a message, any time day or night, and he will come and help her. And a few pages later Holmes says that the isolation of country houses makes him uncomfortable, because he knows that it’s easier to commit domestic abuse and go undiscovered in those isolated homes.

This is what I’m talking about when I call him a social justice warrior and say that he cares most about marginalized people. If you think no one cares about you, Sherlock Holmes cares. And he will do what he can to prevent violence against you or to stop humiliation from befalling you.

In 2010 you were so concerned with figuring out how Sherlock survived the pool scene you didn’t notice the romance between Sherlock and John. In 2012 you were so concerned with figuring out how Sherlock survived the fall you didn’t notice the romance between Sherlock and John. In 2014 you were so concerned with figuring out how Moriarty could be back you didn’t notice the romance between Sherlock and John. Now here we come to The Final Problem, the problem Moriarty told him about all those years ago: burning the heart out of Sherlock Holmes. Sherlock said “I’ve been reliably informed I do not have one”. Moriarty, who strapped John to a bomb, had a sharp reply. “We both know that’s not true.”

Any guesses as to what love story The Final Problem will contain, or have you simply been too distracted to notice the pattern?

The First House - A.K.A Your Rising Sign/Ascendant

This is the first part of a twelve part series briefly explaining how the signs work in each house. Enjoy!

Aries Rising: A leader, you are very headstrong and bold. Because of this you come off as selfish and arrogant to those around you. You have a natural birth chart because it is said that you have earned it in your past life, meaning that you are quite lucky than most signs. Your best qualities are being courageous, having a need to succeed, and having lots of energy.  

Taurus Rising: You are very concerned with keeping everything together so stability is important to you. You aim for having a secure home so you will do what it takes in order to achieve it. By others, you are seen as a person who is patient, takes their time, and stubborn in their ways. 

Gemini Rising: Dual personalities partake in the Gemini ascendant as well. There are those Gemini risings who are either bubbly and talkative, or there are those that are witty and clever. You are very curious, and want to learn about everything and everyone. You thrive in chaos, and are able to focus on more than one thing at a time, even if it looks like you are not paying attention at all. Best quality? Social butterflies. 

Cancer Rising: This sign is a very thoughtful and caring one. People tend to pour their problems and feelings on you because you are able to understand their feelings more so than others. It is easy for them to take advantage of you so learn when to stop being everyone’s therapist. Like a crab, you only come out of your shell when you see fit, but when you do you can become pretty social. 

Leo Rising: Off the bat you attract attention whether it be from your charisma or looks. You would make a great spokesperson since you are very grand in your gestures and are demonstrative. You have a sunny vibe to yourself and are courageous and full of pride. Usually creative, you may be talented in the arts. You guys are natural romantics and love to dream, so much so, that you ensure in achieving those dreams. 

Virgo Rising: Like Cancer risings, you are reserved and take your time opening up to new people and places. Because of this, people believe you to be critical and detached. You are very intelligent. You care about your body, so you can be picky in what you eat, and you enjoy exercise. You stress out a lot because you aim for perfection, but remember, nothing and no one is perfect, so it’s okay to be easy on yourself.

Libra Rising: This is the Ascendant of beauty since it is ruled by Venus itself. You have a natural soothing charm that easily attracts people to you. You enjoy being in a relationship for the sake of not being alone, learn to be independent so you are not taken advantage of, conflict can be good. Looking presentable and fashionable is important to you. 

Scorpio Rising: The aura of the Scorpio Ascendant is strong and let’s others know that you are there. You are either loved or hated. Your privacy is important to you. You are very strong and can overcome mental/physical problems more than others. An ambitious sign, you can be competitive and want to be very successful in what you are trying to achieve. 

Sagittarius Rising: You are very enthusiastic, adventurous, and have a strong desire to explore. You have a need for freedom and independence when it comes to your overall aspect in life. You do not like routine. Spiritualistic and philosophic ways of life are more interesting to you. You have a natural charisma that makes you appear larger than life. 

Capricorn Rising: You take everything seriously, and very competent. The way you are and appear to be is important to you because you believe you look successful, you will be successful. However, you have strong feelings of doubt and are good at hiding them. Very mature for your age, you are smart in your decisions whether it be in wealth or your career. 

Aquarius Rising: Off the bat you are a unique individual and everyone seems to know it. Since you are a very idealistic and humanitarian, you have a keen for being educated in many subjects, so people may come to you for advice. You get a kick out of shocking people because it’s simply just entertaining for you, for example, being the devil’s advocate. You can be stuck in the past or future, so don’t forget to pay attention to the present. 

Pisces Rising: Very “go with the flow” type people you move through life like a fish swimming through a gentle wave. You are irresistibly charming because you are dreamy and soft-hearted. Making decisions is hard for you. One day you can be shy and the next day you can be an outgoing person. You are sensitive, compassionate, and vulnerable. 

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I am curious as to what your guys’ rising signs are so please, if you reblog this, add your ascendant to the tags or comments!

- Astrologia xo

I honestly cannot understand this whole banning abortions crap.

Who the fuck are you to tell a woman what she can and can’t with HER OWN BODY. It’s her body, not yours!

If she wants to have an abortion, then that shouldn’t concern anyone besides her and her body. Y'all are way too invested in other people’s personal lives nowadays.

If you don’t like the fact that a woman is having an abortion….. then who cares? It’s not your body. So shut the fuck up and mind your business.

If you actually care about the life of a child, then how about you help those thousands of kids sitting in foster homes right now. Instead of poking your nose into someone else’s life, go help them. They deserve to live a full life and have a loving family.

Oh and remember, banning abortions doesn’t get rid of them all together, it just makes them illegal and unsafe.

It’s International Men’s Day

and I just want to say to all my men out there

trans men
queer men
neurodivergent men
disabled men
men of color
all men

please take care of yourselves

reminder that you matter, that you are important, that you are loved

if you are struggling with depression, BPD, etc., it’s not shameful or weak to talk to someone, to get some help - psychiatric/psychological assistance doesn’t make you any less of a man

if you are concerned about a physical ailment, gentle reminder to get it checked out, and that nothing is too embarrassing when it comes to your body, because it’s the only one you have

if you are in an abusive relationship, whether it’s familial or partner or some other form of abuse, know that you don’t deserve it, you are not the things they say you are, there are people who are here to support you, and resources to help you if or when you’re ready to take those steps - you are not alone

if you are considering suicide, please know that you matter, you are important, and that the world would be darker and lonelier without you - the situation may be rough now, but if you’re willing to give it a little longer, we will be here to help relieve some of the pain, to lighten the load, to help you breathe a little easier; please keep trying - i believe in you

if you feel like this still doesn’t apply to you

know that i love you, i care, and i want you to be happy

because you deserve that

just like anyone else

Reasons why “The First Day of Summer” is the best episode:

  • Stingy’s beach outfit
  • “Milford hurry up it’s not as if you got anything heavy to carry”
  • “I wish- no… I wish *just a bit more dramatic than before*
  • Sportacus being kind of a cock block for Milford and Bessie
  • Stingy’s titanic scene during the song
  • Robbie’s dancing (especially the booty shake)
  • The whole ice cream dialogue/monologue
  • “Who did you expect? Sportaflop?”
  • The way Robbie imitates Sportacus’ “šœmõņəś įň ťřôůbłë”
  • “I really really miss those guys”
  • Robbie’s date with the fly
  • The kids being concerned about Robbie
  • “Next time will you please leave a note”
  • “We kinda missed you” “I missed you too”
  • Robbie singing Bing Bang
  • Sportacus being so happy about Robbie singing and dancing to Bing Bang
  • And of course the Sportarobbie dip
bulldogcafe replied to your link: Rebellions Are Built On Hope: Why Rogue One…

Can we not just enjoy Star Wars as a movie instead of referencing it to political events?

Nope! 

You can ignore the political context, if you want, but there’s no reason why other people should. Star Wars is and has always been intensely political. 

The original trilogy was written in the context of the Nixon administration and the Vietnam War, and intended to resonate in those terms. The prequels are deeply concerned with the Bush administration. Lucas once corrected a NYT reporter who scornfully described Cheney as Darth Vader: “Anakin Skywalker is a promising young man who is turned to the dark side by an older politician and becomes Darth Vader. George Bush is Darth Vader. Cheney is the Emperor.” 

And even if Star Wars weren’t obviously relating to specific eras of United States politics, the power of art is in connection to our lives and the world around us, not in some sterile isolation. People are never going to enjoy art in a contextless vacuum, and it’s both absurd and unfair to expect them to.

Prayer to Saint Raphael the Archangel for a Good Future Husband or Wife

Glorious Saint Raphael, Patron and lover of the young, I feel the need of calling to you and of pleading for your help. In all confidence I open my heart to you to beg your guidance and assistance in the important task of planning my future. Obtain for me through your intercession the light of God’s grace so that I may de­cide wisely concerning the person who is to be my partner through life. Angel of Happy Meetings, lead us by the hand to find each other. May all our movements be guided by your light and transfigured by your joy. As you led the young Tobias to Sara and opened up a new life of happi­ness with her to holy marriage, lead me to such a one whom in your angelic wisdom you judge best suited to be united with me in marriage.

Saint Raphael, loving Patron of those seeking a marriage partner, help me in this supreme decision of my life. Find for me as a help‑mate in life the person whose character may reflect some of the traits of Jesus and Mary. May he (she) be up­right, loyal, pure, sincere and noble, so that with united efforts and with chaste and unselfish love we both may strive to perfect ourselves in soul and body, as well as the children it may please God to en­trust to our care.

Saint Raphael, Angel of chaste court­ship, bless our friendship and our love that sin may have no part in it. May our mutual love bind us so closely that our future home may ever be most like the home of the Holy Family of Nazareth. Offer your prayers to God for the both of us and obtain the blessing of God upon our marriage, as you were the herald of blessing for the marriage of Tobias and Sara.

Saint Raphael, Friend of the young, be my Friend, for I shall always be yours. I desire ever to invoke you in my needs. To your special care I entrust the decision I am to make as to my future husband (wife). Direct me to the person with whom I can best cooperate in doing God’s Holy Will, with whom I can live in peace, love, and harmony in this life, and attain to eternal joy in the next. Amen.

In honor of Saint Raphael: Our Father. Hail Mary. Glory Be.

Our Lady of the Angels, pray for us!

suggesting that we should reason with nazis lends validity to the concept of genocide as a reasonable position, as if there can ever be a reason to advocate genocide, as if that reason can be debated with logic and facts. nazis don’t give a fuck about facts. nazis love debates, because they can just fucking lie and lie and lie until there’s too many lies for anyone to reasonably fact-check, and when you call them a fucking liar they will paint you as your own kind of extremist for the sake of those who can be made to believe that there is a truth in the middle of human rights and genocide. the well-meaning desire to allow everyone a voice without concern for context is a weakness that nazis seek to exploit to gain access to a system they will dismantle.

we silence nazis because there is no counter to a nazi’s lie; to fact-check the justification of genocide only serves to suggest that there could ever be a justification for genocide.

Guest Written by: @issamorg

  • The first time you snapped and exploded he was startled, it was a bit unexpected but admittedly not unwarranted.
  • This man now knows when you’re about to go off on someone, and he appreciates your tenacity. He has also long since learned that he’s there to hold your proverbial coat and nod when addressed.
  • He is always amazed when you draw this inner strength out and stick up for those who are either not there to stick up for themselves or too meek to do so.
  • Heck, the one time you defended him so viciously you could practically see the hearts in his eyes.
  • So when someone insults you on your weight and other factors that make you you, he waits for the “smack-down” as your tirades have been called- he’s not next to you so he can’t see it but he can hear just fine.
  • When the person continues and you don’t break in, he gets concerned and looks over- the way you had scrunched in on yourself and were meekly looking at the ground?
  • The Dragons are not mad. The Dragons are not merely ‘enraged,’ no. The Dragons are fucking pissed and screeching to come to the front, to be released, to consume those who would insult theirs.
  • This is the part where Hanzo steps in, shuts them down, verbally wrecks their shit, and pulls you away from that asshole.
  • He brings you back somewhere quiet, either to his room or yours, but he asks you if you’re alright, and why you didn’t react as you usually do?
  • If the phrases “Because it’s true,” “I deserve it,” or any variations of those two sentences are said be ready for aggressively passive Hanzo.
  • Noodle dragons are out and cuddly, you’re holding a cup of tea, you are immediately covered in a blanket that’s nice and soft and smells like Hanzo, and the man in question is behind you- limbs wrapped lovingly around your quasi-burrito self to hold you close.
  • He hums a tune you don’t know the name of in your ear, gently rocking the two of you side to side, before he starts to whisper in your ear all the reasons he loves you, interspersed with tiny kisses to wherever he can reach.
  • If you cry he doesn’t judge.
  • If you two happen to fall asleep like that, well, that’s nobody’s business but your own.

I spent all night chatting with friends on various platforms and in various groups, and while everyone is panicked, nearly every single person I’ve spoken to thus far has wished everyone well, offered help, expressed concern, and tried to make each other smile when they could. There are always people to turn to. Never give up on that. Find your communities, however small, and tell each other you’ll be there. Those are the people who love you and are important right now.

captainsarcasmawaaay  asked:

I'm writing a fantasy story set in the 6th century in various places around the world, including the middle east. I'm concerned about how to represent the pre-islamic world without coming off as disrespectful or islamophobic. For example, the Kaaba being used to house idols. It's historically accurate, but I feel reluctant to depict it in that way, as it might be disrespectful. Is this a legitimate concern? What other pitfalls should I be aware of in depicting this setting?

Representing a Pre-Islamic World Respectfully

It’s historically accurate, but if it’s not important for your world-building, you might as well leave it out. In other words, it would mostly make sense to me if you were writing about the families that historically guarded the Kaaba or were the head of providing for visitors and guests who wanted to view the idols, but may not be necessary if you are already building a society focused on polytheism with characters that won’t necessarily be concerned with the Kaaba or those particular idols at all times. 

Remember, people of that era had their own house-gods to offer reverence to, gods that traveled with them. A lot of people were very poor and might not be able to have the opportunity to mingle with those families that held sway over the Kaaba and the traffic of visitors, etc. 

Also, the Middle East is a very broad place which doesn’t only include Arabia, so make sure to be specific in your details, narrow in on a particular country or locale and let that guide you and your research.

-Mod Kaye