for the people who asked me to post it

we need to talk

(About that last ask. I handled it poorly and hastily because it pissed me off.)

You guys know I rarely post asks like the one I just did because, for the most part, I try to keep that kind of negativity off this blog or I respond with something funny because it’s cathartic.

I never mean for any of these stories to upset people. Especially people who have been through awful things and deal with that every day of their lives.

I’ve touched on my bipolar and anxiety before and to an extent some of the abuse when I was young and am no stranger to panic attacks, but I know how lucky I am that it isn’t worse.

My brother, on the other hand, has PTSD, borderline personality disorder, and crippling depression. I watched him go through panic attacks and terrifying flashbacks for over a decade and subsequently destroy his life because he never took the help that was offered to him.

Abuse is not something I take lightly. I’ve been accused of putting it in stories for dramatic effect (like in always you and now ttb) but it’s something that I write about because, to the best of my abilities, understand it.

It is a very real, very serious thing that needs to be talked about and acknowledged, not swept under the rug in favor of thinking about, reading, writing nothing but happy things.

There is ignorance that comes from lack of knowledge and lack of experience, and of course, that last part is a good thing. No one deserves go through anything like that.

It’s their responsibility to learn, and learn to sympathize.

And there’s willful ignorance that comes from genuinely not caring or some sense of superiority. Really, that’s all well and good, live in your bubble, have your opinion. But if you make no effort to understand, keep it to yourself.

If that’s not something you can do, pack your things, get your bitch ass off my blog, and go fuck yourself.

I have to admit, I really appreciate Hank’s new video.

anonymous asked:

Since you seem to be one of the only sensible or calm about this whole situation, I thought I might try to ask you. I see people making the claim that horror stories posted to a blog are taking advantage/exploiting of mentally ill people. Maybe I don't think about myself seriously mentally ill enough (I have been officially diagnosed w/clinical depression w/ episodes of psychosis). To a person who doesn't understand it anything can be creepy. But maybe I'm the one in the wrong here I dunno.

to be honest this was the thing that confused me as well. I admit I didn’t see a lot of the stories as necessarily offensive, but there were definitely a few things that stood out to me and over time did start to grate on me.

the main thing, I think, was the posts that weren’t fictional stories, in this specific case. as well as fictional stories, sixpenceee would post real-life accounts of mental illness, drawings done by mentally ill people, and actual pictures of people who were clearly mentally disturbed (and on some occasions, physically disabled). she would tag these #creepy, and talk about how the ~human mind~ was the most terrible thing of all. this really does increase anxiety about mentally ill people, and perpetrates the myth that all mentally ill people are violent and scary. yes, some mentally ill people are violent… but so are a lot of people without mental illness.

things like that definitely exploit mentally ill people because it’s taking their actual, real life stories and/or creations and putting it in the same category as horror. it dehumanises them, reduces their experiences and suffering to cheap scare and entertainment tricks, and encourages myths about what mental illness is, how it manifests, how dangerous it is, etc. and it’s not just one or two posts: it’s very, very often, though as far as I can tell it’s not as often now after people started pointing it out.

which brings me to the other issue, of fictional stories. now, personally, I think ending a horror story with “but it was all the scary mental illness!!” or “he did these horrific crimes because……. he was mentally ill!!” is a cheap trick, bad writing, etc. I’ve been reading/watching horror long enough to spot the trope at fifty paces and it’s boring, cheap, and yes, offensive. a lot of these stories reduce serious and complex disorders to one “marketable”, scary symptom, and they often get it so unbelievably wrong (for example, a story revolving around a schizophrenic person’s multiple personalities, when that’s… not what schizophrenia is at all). in the same way as above, these stories encourage myths about mental illness and alienate people who are mentally ill, because they’re put in the same category as monsters, ghosts, demons, etc. in a horror story it’s a very us vs them mentality – people try to survive the monster stalking them, they try to survive the horrific haunting, etc. so what does that say when the “them” is just… a regular person who happens to suffer from a mental illness? it encourages a very ostracising atmosphere. the mentally ill person is othered, dehumanised… it’s not nice.

don’t get me wrong. I don’t think that media makes all our decisions for us. I’m fully aware that it’s possible to differentiate fiction from reality: I’ve seen enough discourse in fandom to know both sides of the argument inside out. but when it comes to something that is incessantly shoved down your throat all the time, it’s likely that it could start to influence how you think. especially if, like you said, you don’t know much about mental illnesses and they already seem a bit “scary”. what you don’t need is a bunch of horror stories telling you that mentally ill people are going to snap, grab a freaky mask, and start murdering their neighbours at any moment. you need education, and that is not what these stories do – and nor is it what the “factual” posts do. it is just cheap entertainment, and that just doesn’t sit right with me.

naked-but-safe  asked:

hi there, so i've been seeing people saying they'd kinda like it if Sangwoo killed himself in the end and i remember you saying it's a possibility in the BPD-related posts you deleted (alas, god were those great!) but i'd love to hear your opinion on whether he could according to your understanding of his personality (and whether such ending would be to your liking?). he just doesn't strike me as the type who would tbh but is there even such a thing as "the type"(btw your blog's godly, love it!)

Hi~ God, those notorious posts. xD (I actually re-wrote them and they need some proof reading and I’ll post them again.)

The posts about BPD are mostly about the disorder than about Sangwoo because he has the symptoms but to me Sangwoo is more of a psychopath than someone suffering from BPD. The biggest sign is that he never shows regret or remorse or sympathy/empathy. Those play REALLY IMPORTANT roles in a human’s life. And if he is a psychopath, there’s no way he’d kill himself. It still depends on how the story goes and what happens in the future but he’s not going to kill himself to be selfless or to avoid abandonment or getting hurt. The only reason a psychopath would commit suicide is for the sake of one big final game, where everything is fun and everything and everyone goes down with them too so they could win. because that’s what life is to them, a game. They are shallow.

A lot of people just want Sangwoo dead or in jail anyways because they hate him but that’s boring as hell 🙄
I’m ok with any ending as long as it’s not too BL-ish, Sangwoo doesn’t act out of character (because I really like this character the way he is) and they don’t end up arrested or in jail.

Thanks a lot for your compliments. I’m glad you like my blog and posts ♥(^▽^)

anonymous asked:

yoooo i saw the thing about 6p too and honestly as disgusting as that money play was i was so happy to see that 98% of the comments on that post were people telling how shitty and exploitative that was. im glad people arent falling for it and as far as i know she took the post down out of shame.

Yeah, i’m glad people were fast on it, tho i have no clue on how much she already got paid or even if 6p plans on issuing refunds to the unfortunate individuals who sought help from them.

And it really irks me that she puts on a show of saying she wants to be helpful, only to put up shitty advertisements that sound like something off of a scam site you find while searching for tarot readings that asks for your credit card information once you finish the survey to see the results.

anonymous asked:

I seriously don't understand the fame on Instagram with these white girls with lip injections and eyelash extensions etc and them denying it or not saying anything about it. But they claim they have no work done at all. Plus half of them bitches is racists! There are Instagram pages that exposes those white girls and be pulling receipts out of they ass on all the racist stuff they said and I'm like why tf are people supporting them. Like I really believe ppl just follow for beauty

Girl if you ask me all these girls with over 100k look alike!!😂😂😂 Very very rarely you will see a woman who has never had work done(not that its a bad thing) or a woman who has a JOB outside of posting on social media. They all look alike Hourglass, Big tiddies little stomach fatass host parties. CLONES!!! Nothing against them, get your coin girl (they get paid on social media) but they CANNOT rely on social media the rest of their lives! When they are old and grey their followers will go to the next young thing!


These white girls with lip injections/eyelash extensions, butt injections all look the same i dead cannot tell them apart 💀 If you showed me a pic of one of them nxt to kylie jenner I would be CONFUSED girl😂😂😂 I used to get made fun of for my lips and hair by white girls and NOW THEY LOVE IT! Byeee👋🏽

so screw it

if anyone wants to help me out during these times of strife, not just for video games, i got bills too

my paypal email is, you can send gift cards to places there as well.

also, please check out my redbubble account,… send the link to friends who might be into some of that

eventually ill post stuff im selling too if you wanna go that route

im doing a focus group soon to earn some extra cash too but i have to admit, after fixing my car, im tapped out. i need help. so yeah. 

For a good time...

enter “Belletravelstheworld” into the little search box up and to your left.

Seriously, my dear Rumbelle Fandom, this is ridiculously cool. I see a new one of these this morning and I literally bounced on my chair giggling. I know I’m a sentimental dork, but I like it that way. :)

I just thought I’d ask, is there anyone who’s got a photo of their hometown but doesn’t have the skills to do the manipulation or is too shy to share it themselves?

I may be willing/able to do the manip for you and post it, send it to @judymulder for you if you wish. I don’t have a huge amount of time, but I could probably help out a few people if they need it and want it.

If this is you, send me an ask, but NOT anonymously because I won’t send any Anon my email address. I’ll keep your identity private if you want, but I do ask that you tell me where the photo was taken so I can pass that along.

Only a few days left before the June 3rd deadline so get ‘em to me quick if you want the assist/anonymity.

Just to cover my ass, if I get flooded with these I can’t promise to get to them all, I will try, but I am a human with a life (hard to believe, I know, on both counts).

I’m so thrilled this this event so far I can’t hardly stand it!!

anonymous asked:

No offense, but you're seriously just a fake white ally. How dare you reblog that post when you're one of the people who keep complaining about everything? Just stay in your lane.

There are several things that confuse me in this ask.

First the “no offense” when, I think, offence is meant? Since the ask is aggressive.

Then the “fake white ally”. I try to avoid using the word “ally” for myself because it’s cringey and means little to nothing. I’ll redirect to a great article here. So I understand that you mean to say that I’m not being a good support, but I want to make it clear I do not use the word “ally” for myself. I try to support minorities I am not a part of while not invading their spaces as much as I can. I am not infallible. I am sorry if I made a mistake that hurt people.

I’m not sure how I offended? I reblogged a post I was mostly agreeing with, while adding tags to try and clarify my position. I said I did not wish to invalidate anyone’s feelings especially not the people’s this season is representing in one form or another. That people’s feelings were valid. I was expressing my feelings towards a certain part of the fandom (which is mostly white, from what I can tell) and how I interpreted their behaviour and how I felt it came from a place of misconceptions and black&white thinking.

Finally: “you’re one of the people who keep complaining about everything”. There are two things I do not understand in this statement. First, that you seem to (in most of your statement) want to defend people who “complain about everything”. You’re coming at me for saying that I was sad that a lot of people seemed to try and find only faults to the show without taking nuances into account (which is not to go against being critical, I am critical myself, and Muslim fans have a lot to be critical about, especially since they rarely get representation). You’re coming at me for saying I was sad that some folks seemed to “complain about everything”. So it seems that you’re defending said folks.
But then you put me down for, once again, “complaining about everything”.

So which are you for (or against)? People who “complain about everything” or the rest? I’m confused.

And please explain where I have been “complaining about everything”. I don’t think I have since I like this season and spend a lot of time analysing it, but maybe I’m wrong. Please show me.

anonymous asked:

hey, i don't mean to bug you, but that post you rb'd by le/thal-cu/dd/les abt dva was made bcs op likes to ship her with 76

it’s deleted now, they also have posts defending people who ship steven univer/se with the gems and shit like that so everyone stay safe!! thanks sm :)

if you could rb this esp if you’re non-muslim, it would be very appreciated. 

i’m always happy to see people supporting muslims. however, as the month of ramadan approaches, i’ve noticed a lot of the “nsfr (not safe for ramadan)” posts popping up. these are mainly made by white people, although some by muslims.

the whole point of ramadan is to be surrounded by food, water, swearing,(NSFW things are excluded from this post, those should be tagged) etc, and resisting the temptation to participate in anything. ramadan is about recognizing what we take for granted everyday and learning to appreciate it. we mindlessly feed our bodies food we don’t necessarily need everyday. to be able to let yourself be thirsty and hungry gives an insight to those who live like that daily, with no end to it. they do not get to just wait until the sun goes down to be able to eat a big meal surrounded by family. they continue to be hungry, regardless of what time of day it is. it reminds us of the struggles that poor and/or homeless people face. 

the point of fasting is to submit to Allah for as long as humanly possible, which is from dawn to dusk. fasting is indeed incredibly hard, that is true. seeing water when i fast is very difficult for me. however, people in countries who mass celebrate ramadan, go to work in the 100+ degree F weather, the kids at school don’t stop fasting just because they’re in school, etc. it’s slightly offensive that these posts are made “uwu!! be safe!! it’s hot out!!! don’t let yourself pass out!!!im tagging everything i can!!! uwu!!!” because most of those posts are made by people asking for notes rather than those who actually care about muslims. 

i’m going to wrap this up because it’s long, but please, don’t treat muslims like babies. we are mostly capable of seeing such things you guys tag during ramadan and not being affected. if you DO reblog posts about NSFR things, please do so FROM AN ACTUAL MUSLIM. 

thank you.

senshiofmom  asked:

Top 10 sailor Moon Monster of the week

10. Screaming violin woman (093)

9. Pegasus hits the gym (143)

8. WHAT the ACTUAL HELL (151)

7. An 80s stripper who also happens to be a shoe (106)

6. Me (114)

5. The animation department had a lot of extra pink paint (174)

4. An elephant vacuum cleaner, but like in a sexy way (094)

3. My breasts are two small screaming snowmen (038)

2. Ball Family (132, 140, 146)

1. A straight-up, actual volcano (067)

Bill Potts Appreciation Post #2

Bill Potts:
. Wanted to go to the future to see if it would be happy.
. Approves of algae substitute food.
. Does not approve of food sexism.
. Thanked the Doctor for taking her somewhere.
. Stopped while walking around an alien city to take a selfie.
. Asked the Doctor why he was Scottish.
. Figured out the (real) reason why the Doctor likes the police box camouflage.
. Doesn’t understand how you can blow up stuff without getting in trouble.
. Doesn’t appreciate being kept out of trouble.
. Got distracted by a bust of Queen Nefertiti.
. Thinks that the Doctor is an amazing tutor.
. Still thinks that the Doctor runs like a penguin with its arse on fire.
. Cried when she found out why humans left earth.
. Was the only person who asked where the little boy went.
. Tried her hardest to convince the little boy that everything would be okay.
. Attempted to stop people shooting at the robots.
. Told the man that the robots weren’t armed.
. Could blind me with her smile because it’s so bright.
. Is a beautiful human being who deserves happiness and unicorns.

First Appreciation Post

I got a lot of people asking me if it’s okay if they repost my art somewhere else, and the answer will always be no. I don’t care if it’s with credit or without. There is no use to discuss it, I simply don’t want it. Some artists have no problem with it, but I am different and it’s my right as an artist to not allow it. I also added it to my describtion, so please stop asking me. I won’t change my mind about it.
If I want it to be somewhere else posted, I will do it myself. 

Thanks for your attention.

(I wrote it in the tags, but if you don’t read them I add it here as well: if you found someone reposting my art [especially on instagram] there is no need to tell me, because I can’t do anything against it, as far as I know. On tumblr it’s different but with instagram I have a lot of trouble and the reposter just don’t give a shit too often. So yeah… to keep the stress level somewhere not too high, please just don’t tell me… I know it’s meant well… but I just don’t have the time to deal with it and it’ll just make me crazy)

anonymous asked:

annyeong! I rly like ur art just thought I'd pop in nd say hi! Also on your 'current mood: nap' post, I had a giggle at McCree. He's wearing his prosthetic and it's under his leg nd as someone who used to wear one with a lot of uncovered joints, this always made me afraid to touch people or furry/hairy things because the joints would always pinch the skin or hair off. I just remembered this one moment where I accidentally pinched my neck scratching it and I got asked if I had a hicky. Imagine -

(2)  - (Korean prosthetic anon) @-@ imagine poor McCree getting a little pinch…Though maybe not, it is the future and surely they’ve already taken care of the little problems like that xP anyway sry for rambling, thanks for blessing us with your art.

Hello there! Oh wow! Thank-you so much for sharing this is so nice! ;w; omg i was thinkin’ of that the other day! yeah i wonder if that does still happen they have visible joints, so i guess? but that’s a very interesting thought!

please stop reblogging this post

i made this post, and i never expected it to reach past like … 20 notes which wouldve been just all my friends who actually know about charm

im very uncomfortable with the amount of reblogs this post has gotten. i am very uncomfortable with how it has spread to places that i do not, to people who i’ll never know.

do you know how many people have asked me to use charms name for their npc/dnd character? too many

do you know how many people have used charm’s name without telling me they have, resulting in me probably never finding out about it? i dont and that makes me so fucking uncomfortable.

first and foremost, before charm dimeshore is a punny name, he is MY character. i made him lonnggggg before i came up with his name. charm dimeshore is just charm to me, and he is a character who i have poured my heart and soul into. he’s one of my favorite characters and his story means so much to me.

and i dont want anyone taking that away from me

i DO NOT want charm dimeshores name to be stripped away from him by people i dont know, to be used for their own characters by people who know nothing about charm or how he came to decide on his name as a trans man

i have given like…five people permission to use his name for npcs but ive given them very specific guidelines, because otherwise? it just feels fucking disgusting. it just feels like stealing. 

charm dimeshore is more than a name to me, and i dont like how likely it is that someone could steal him from me and ruin him without my knowledge

and dont you dare tell me that im overreacting. dont you dare tell me that “its just a name”. because its not. its not

so unless youre matt fucking mercer or some bullshit, do NOT come to me and ask to use his name for an npc

and if you do it anyway? im disgusted by you. you disgust me, and you honestly dont understand how painful it is to me to have charm become much bigger than myself and risk losing him

please stop reblogging that post. instead, if you want to, reblog this one.

anonymous asked:

Takama-Gahara here, I have for you a question. How draw good dergs?

Oh I’ve got you covered:

and there you have your  F E R O C I O U S    B E A S T

But in all seriousness, instructing people on how to draw imaginary creatures is a bit hard, for me at least. A lot of my learning process is based on winging it until it looks okay and makes even a little sense anatomically. I try to look at animals like birds, bats, reptiles, dogs and horses and combine traits of their anatomy into some sort of a mess of a creature. So I’d instruct you to simply start with looking into basic animal anatomy and trying to learn how animals actually work. 

There are tons of tutorials that are way better at explaining things than I’ll ever be and they can get you started. Back in my day when I started drawing I was inspired by Todd Lockwood and his art. His creations gave me a good base to start building my art from. I studied the way he drew and shamelessly copied parts of his work until I felt comfortable enough to draw and try different things on my own. 

Not being too ambitious when you start out is pretty important, do some simple designs, kinda like the drawing above. Just drawing some simple lizards with bat wings is a good enough start! And remember to practice, practice and practice some moreヾ(´▽`;)ゝ

☆ sleepover saturday ☆

i wanna talk to you guys a little, so come at me:

  • rant/vent/complain about something that bothers you
  • have you ever..?
  • confess something/tell me a secret
  • would you rather..?
  • unpopular opinions
  • ask for advice (and i’ll do my best to be helpful lol)
  • tell me about your crush or best friend (or both)
  • ask me personal questions
  • tell me what you like most about yourself
  • make me choose between..
  • tell me about your dreams
  • send me headcanons
  • my top 5 of whatever
  • send me puns, jokes, and memes
  • your favourite fictional character and why you love them
  • send me recs (movies, books, anime, fics, music etc.)
  • ask me for recs (…)
  • fuck, marry, kill
  • tell me about your pet (or post pics of them and tag me :D)
  • …… 

these are just some suggestions that came to my mind right now, so feel free to send me whatever! and feel free to reblog if you want to have a sleepover too ☆

Toxic Idol Culture

Anyone who’s followed me for a long time knows that I have… my issues with idol culture. I know this can possibly sound ironic considering I’m very popular here but at the end of the day I can’t help that so bear with me.

The reason I say “toxic” in the title (asides from being a strong word that immediately conveys a message) is because I’m addressing a specific subset of idol culture where people will vehemently defend someone’s horrible actions simply because they have a large following and/or pretend to care about topical issues like social justice and trans-rights (the latter being extremely important to my family, my friends, and recently myself).

It’s a shame because tumblr in general does seem at least somewhat more clued-in on how people abuse power (this ranges from world politcs to small corners of youtube), but this knowledge never seems to be applied to tumblr itself. There’s a cycle here, where someone is given disproportionate about of praise for arbitrary things (being a feminist, anti-nazi, or mildly funny, etc - all fine things on their own but hardly noteworthy), they get cocky and play into the role more, then start abusing others (doxxing, harassment, etc, usually of minors ironically enough).

This is partly why “funnymen” being outed as legitimate perverts and pedophiles is becoming increasingly common (or, at best, don’t believe the stuff they pedal out). Ultimately, it’s the person in question’s fault for being a scumbag of course, but tumblr’s unnecessary idolization of people who simply don’t deserve it has a large impact on what these people think they can get away with.

A large reason why this seems to happen is because nobody here seems to want to ask questions. A perfect example of this is when I receive messages warning me about an OP of a post being disgusting in some way, but when I investigate it turns out to be false.

However, it’s hard to fault anyone particularly for being a little bit gullible because ultimately we all want to be part of something. We all want to be liked, loved, and acknowledged. Asking questions, or otherwise being “difficult” can harm this so sometimes one might feel safer by saying “ok i’ll delete the post” rather than “can you show me some proof?”

It’s also a shame because, memes asides, tumblr is a pretty enjoyable website. At the moment of writing, there isn’t anything quite like it, but the experience is marred by people (and their imitators, especially) looking for cheap notes by exploiting serious political issues, where it is nearly impossible to say anything outside of ineffective self-indulgent feelgood “activism” without someone aggressively hating you for it.

For a website that houses a lot of people who claim to want to protect minors/transfolk/etc, there’s a startling neglect of how these people can be taken advantage of by the very same blogs that claim to help them. Anyone on this website can say anything but to actually practice what you preach is an entirely different story.

Interestingly, this is why you get certain “Hellsite” moments like someone complaining about getting hate after telling someone to kill themselves, or people posting things like “just be nice but also fuck [inoffensive group of people]”. Anyone who’s followed my blog for a while (or even just pays attention a little) know that this is hardly a rare occurrence. I think the term for this ‘cognitive dissonance’. This stuff makes good joke fodder, but it’s pretty sad that this stuff happens in the first place.

Toxic idol culture isn’t contained to just social justice circles either. Even opposite groups have become victim of this (maybe they always have, in retrospect). You may know that an ex-friend of mine recently shared suggestive photos of a 16 year old. Long story short, me and a lot of others were uncomfortable with this and promptly dropped them but I was mortified at how many anti-sjws came out in this dude’s defense over something that can only be considered objectively predatory and creepy. The person in question used tumblr’s liberal usage of bold accusations to wave-off what he had done, and his followers ate it up. It served as a important reminder that you can essentially get away with anything, as long as you have a significant follower count and frame your dissenters in a harsh, unrealistic light.

To anyone that defended/defends this guy, you should be ashamed of yourselves.

Some are not above co-opting important social justice issues for internet points. A lot of time, it’s merely an avenue for them to be the very bullies they once hated but since it’s masked, the bullying is often ignored or encouraged. It’s easy to call someone a transphobe for an arbitrary reason, but it takes a considerable amount of effort to actually help a trans person in need. We should be doing more to support people who do the latter, rather than the former.

Anyway, the point of this post isn’t to make you paranoid, or to hate anyone with more than 3k followers (popular blogs make easy enough targets for hate anyway), but just to be a little more cautious and a little more critical of these kinds of people (who will inevitably get mad at this post and make passive-aggressive vagueposts about anyone who agrees), and to generally stop glorifying hateful blogs who’s main shtick is attacking people.

I realize, in the grand scheme of things like social justice and such, this is a small slice of the pie, but this is definitely something that needs to be thought about more.