for the love of lit

The heart wants what it wants but after a point the brain must direct it to what it needs. That’s the only way for the heart to not be too worn out, lost or dead.
The brain has the maps.
The soul has the energy.
The heart just needs to have a little faith.
—  creatingnikki 

It was my own selfishness that led to my destruction. I couldn’t imagine you with anyone else, so I made it impossible for you to move on without the inkling of me sitting in the back of your mind. I made myself a victim so you would have to always split your attention between her and me. I continued on ruining my life just to still have you in it.

I was out of bandages and you were out of tape, I could feel the resentment in you as you stitched me back together for the infinite time. It wasn’t until I lacerated my chest and pulled out my heart and placed it in front of you that you had grown weary of loving me out of pity. You watched it beat and just walked away.

Please come back, help me stitch myself together, the beating is growing faint and all that was color is turning to grey.

—  a. h. eun / my heart still beats out my chest, it beats and it beats for you and only you.
I’m a paradox. I want to be happy, but I think of things that make me sad. I’m lazy, yet I’m ambitious. I don’t like myself, but I also love who I am. I say I don’t care, but I really do. I crave attention, but reject it when it comes my way. I’m a conflicted contradiction. If I can’t figure myself out, there’s no way anyone else has.
—  Unknown

I am teaching myself how to take up space. How to not apologise constantly for the way I live and breathe. How an apology isn’t something I am supposed to say before I speak in a conversation. How  I’m so sorry, isn’t something I have to say before I just allow myself the basic right of speaking about anything.

I am teaching myself that I am allowed to exist on this planet without thinking of myself as a burden. How to not apologise for things that are out of my control. How to understand when people are trying to manipulate me into thinking the worst of myself and most of all how to stop thinking the very worst of myself as I deserve better than that from myself.

I am teaching myself that humans can exist without assuming the very worst about themselves and how the people around them perceive them. How to not apologise when someone bumps into me and I immidiately assume it is my fault. How to not apologise when I ask a question because I think others will think I am stupid. How to love myself for these flawed bits of me no one has ever wanted to love before.

I am teaching myself that all the lies my abusers told me about myself were so very wrong. How I am allowed to make mistakes. How as long as I apologise and amend things, anything is fixable if I still have love in my heart for the other person. How not everything that has ever gone wrong in every relationship is my fault.

I am finally learning how to take up space as a human being. It’s taken a long, long road to get here. And I still have a very long way to go before I am done understanding that it is my job to take up space, that I am not just an afterthought or a secondary character in this gift of life I have been given. That who I am is not an apology, that who I am is not wrong.

—  Nikita Gill, On Learning How To Take Up Space