Honestly whenever a show portrays/mentions/implies abuse or neglect especially in terms of romantic relationships or parental I find myself rolling my eyes because there is always someone that is in denial. And it comes down to "overreactions". Biased perception or what not. Yet the same character whose reactions/experiences are the reason for that character judgement tend to have rose colored views. Ala Blake's find memories of Adam.
yep, there’s always someone who goes “but what if the real villain, gaaaaasp, was not the villain” and it’s like that character is very clearly a piece of shit, but no, we have to reach and come up with theories with very little evidence that justifies every horrific thing they ever did because they pissed their pants as a child or something