i just find it so telling that whenever em el em are talking about how straight women are just as homophobic as straight men (which is true), they only ever reference em el em fetishization. you know who bears the brunt of straight women’s homophobia?
yeah that’s right, lbpq women. straight women are incredibly cruel to us. we face their rejection, bullying, and malice from the very beginning. we know more than you do that straight women are viciously homophobic, and it hurts us even more because it’s fellow women who are treating us in such a manner. so i’ve always been infuriated and disgusted when em el em pontificate on here and harangue lbpq women about straight women’s homophobia. we already know that they’re homophobic, you dweebs. we’ve experienced it firsthand in ways you haven’t. the subtle cruelty of being ostracized by fellow women is horrifying.
it just goes back to how em el em think they have a monopoly on experiencing/being marginalized by homophobia.
and again, this still doesn’t absolve em el em of their misogyny, and that includes the misogyny they direct toward cishet women.