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DEAR DIL: Can pansexuals feel attracted to everybody? My bff came out as pan and now things are weird between us. I’m straight.

Hi There:

Great question, straight person! Awesome for asking for help figuring this out. Things feel really weird between you right now, but here’s the thing: Your bff is still your bff. Same face, same personality, same stuff in common that were always there. Your bff took a healthy risk trusting you with really personal information. It’s good you care about your friendship and it to be back to normal. Your bff might be worried about the same thing too!

Someone who identifies at pan has the potential to be attracted to folks anywhere on the gender spectrum regardless of their own gender identity. But just like hetero-girls and homo-boys aren’t attracted to every boy they see, the same is true for pan folks. Just because you belong to a gender group in someone’s “attraction zone,”, doesn’t mean the person is necessarily attracted to you.

It sounds like you’re feeling weird because you’re worried your bff is attracted to you? Lots of people wonder this – regardless of gender or sexual orientation – usually because we feel really strongly towards our bffs. And sometimes we feel attracted to someone without actually wanting something to happen. Maybe you feel confident that you aren’t attracted to your bff or you’re wondering if maybe you are? Do you need help figuring that out? Or do you need to talk to your bff, letting them know you are proud of and support them while emphasizing your strong f r i e n d s h i p for them?

Don’t let it be any weirder than it has to be. Be honest about what you want. If your bf is into you, they might need space to get over their feelings. Friendships built on mutual love and respect are usually solid enough to withstand a crush!

Things only get un-weird by talking about them…


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And started this new one over a year ago, had to start over on followers, posts and everything from scratch. It kinda sucked at first losing a blog I had been working on for years, but I’m a lot happier with one where I’m actually very close with my mutuals rather than having 500 ghosts who never say anything to me, and a bunch of dead blogs.

Originally posted by zechs

  • Pidge: Oh man, do you remember the first time Hunk corrected Iverson in class?
  • Lance: Yes! That was the best day of my life...
  • Keith: I remember Lance getting detention for three weeks when he tried to film the look on his face
  • Hunk: That's funny
  • Keith: Yeah it was-
  • Hunk: Because I thought you didn't remember Lance from the Garrison?
  • Keith:
  • Lance:
  • Pidge: Oh my god
Peró nel mio caso
hanno sempre preferito perdermi
piuttosto che lottare e
venirmi a prendere, mi
hanno sempre lasciata
in sospeso, nessuno
che ti tiene, nessuno
che ti rincorre, nessuno
che ti viene a
prendere, eppure
nonostante tutto
dicono di volerti bene
che non potevano
trovar di meglio e poi ti
lasciano andare.
—  Ilmiobisognoelamancanza
Hogwarts Class of 1998 Superlatives (No Voldemort AU)

Most Likely to Lead a Revolution: Hermione Granger

Most Likely to go to Bed With One Person and Wake Up with Another: Blaise Zabini

Most Likely to Secretly Be a Drug Dealer: Neville Longbottom

Most Likely to Use the Room of Requirement as a Kinky Sex Dungeon: Harry Potter & Draco Malfoy

Most Likely to Grow Up to be the World’s Best Dad: Ron Weasley

Most Likely to Get Punched in the Face: Ernie Macmillan

Most Likely to Fuck A Centaur: Lavender Brown & Parvati Patil

Most Likely to Forget Their Own First Names Because the Rest of Us Have: Crabbe & Goyle

Most Likely to Dose Somebody with Amortentia for a Night: Pansy Parkinson

Cutest Couple: Hermione Granger & Ron Weasley

Most Annoying Couple: Hermione Granger & Ron Weasley

Most Likely to be Mistaken for a Seventh Year: Luna Lovegood

Best Bitch Fight: Draco Malfoy & Ginny Weasley

Most Likely to Avoid Drawing Attention for Seven Entire Years: Mandy Brocklehurst

Best Evolution from Bromance to Romance: Dean Thomas & Seamus Finnegan 

Most Likely to Be a Bystander During an Important Event: Anyone in Hufflepuff

Most Likely to Secretly Write Homoerotic Fiction: Draco Malfoy

Most Likely to Have a Book Written About Him: Harry Potter

The Best Home Away From Home We Could Have Asked For: Hogwarts School of Witchcraft and Wizardry  


(thanks to @l0vegl0wsinthedark for your help!)