anonymous asked:

Please help me! How do you get over the women your boyfriend has slept with before you? My boyfriends been with 5 girls before me :(

Oh lord. 

I’m sorry, I don’t mean to sound flippant, but you are really asking the wrong person. 

I have never been bothered by this at all (I have pretty much never experienced jealousy, I’m weird) and I personally don’t see it as an issue so I don’t mean to sound unsympathetic but it’s hard for me to understand how you feel. 

I guess I’d say this: 

1. Your boyfriend is with you. He wants to be with you, and that’s really all that matters. There’s a reason he’s with you and not them. 

2. Try not to think about past relationships as a competition. 

I know my boyfriend has had sex with and loved people that weren’t me. I have no desire to be the first and only. 

Just because other people have meant a lot to someone in no way takes anything away from the person they are currently with and how much you mean to them. 

3. If he makes you feel unsure about that fact, run, don’t walk, in the other direction. 

If he brings up the girls he has slept with in an effort to make you feel jealous or shitty about yourself, that doesn’t sound like someone who is very supportive or worthy of your time. 

For me, personally, I have no idea how many people my boyfriend has slept with. I’ve never asked because it sincerely has no bearing on our relationship. 

If anything I appreciated that he’s been with other women because he is actually good at oral sex (god sorry this is why I am terrible at giving advice)

He has never done anything to make me question that I am the person he wants to be with, and to me that’s all that matters. 

If you have that in your relationship, I would gently advise that you work on letting go. 

Acknowledge that past relationships to not lessen or invalidate your current relationship, and that if someone makes you feel special and important now, the fact that they have dated other people prior does not impact your relationship. 

it really seems like (especially younger) lgbtq+ folks don’t quite understand the impact that aids had and continues to have on lgbtq+ communities.  i’ve seen a lot of posts out there trivializing the aids crisis, from the zombie apocalypse fantasy to comments like “a few gays died of aids.”  please please please read about this extremely important part of our collective history.  please please please educate yourself about how it is still a huge problem today.  please do all that before making flippant remarks about one of the most horrific tragedies in lgbtq+ history.

a good place to start doing this would be the film “how to survive a plague” which documents the beginnings of the aids crisis from the perspective of the lgbtq+ folks affected.

another excellent source of info (extremely extensive, but also very very long) is randy shilts’ book and the band played on.  it’s a chronicle of the aids crisis, focusing on the effects in communities across the us, as well as the deliberate ignorance of the epidemic shown by homophobic and racist officials in washington.

Food for thought:

The reigning trend in the fandom is that eggsy cheekily tosses his bespoke suits to an fro with no regard to their care, mainly to get a rise out of Harry.

I argue that Eggsy would in fact be the opposite, don’t you think? Being gifted with these suits, the fabric and tailoring costing more in one suit than an entire years rent for him. 

I imagine eggsy is near obsessive with the care of his suits, hanging them perfectly, smoothing out wrinkles, learning to iron them properly, or being diligent in sending them off to get pressed and dry cleaned. 

Because these suits are what separates him. They are the only thing that proves he isn’t some street scum. No one is any wiser that he grew up in the estates under the fist of a potentially abusive step father, that he never went to college, that he quit all his potential, when he wears his suits. They are the physical proof of his worth.

That’s not to say that he abandons his old style, or is ashamed of it. His chav clothing proves his strength and perseverance, that his appearance isn’t actually what defines him.

Wearing a bespoke suit projects finally on the outside what has been on the inside of Eggsy all along.

And on the other end of the spectrum, I can see Harry actually being the flippant asshole with his clothing. Because he is used to them, his entire wardrobe is them, everything he owns is nearly all bespoke. The suits don’t mean as much to Harry because they are utility to him, yeah? They are a tool moreso than a gift. He probably goes through five full bespokes a year at least, having no qualms trashing them on missions or when he’s particularly sloshed.

Everyone writes how caring he is when he allows Daisy (or what name you want to give Eggsy’s little sister) to put her grubby fingers all over his lapels, like he is so genuine that fucking baby food and vomit mean nothing because it’s eggsy’s sister’s vomit. Nah, man. Harry don’t care because he has hundreds of those fuckers. 

He’d be the first to toss his jacket aside in the heat of the moment, to pop buttons and break zippers. Eggsy might be horrified by it all, if he weren’t so caught up in his fantasy that harry the gentleman is letting go for him and not caring about his precious clothing because he’s just so far gone on eggsy lol.

Not to say that this isn’t the case for harry at all, i’m sure he’s smitten as hell, but i don’t think he’d be showing it through going feral on his clothing. He had no qualms fighting in the black prince and getting blood on his hands there, about swearing, breaking rules, indulging eggsy. He is quite rebelious, and i think his care shines through in his restraint instead of his violence. 




School Grade: 3rd (8 years old)

This character was originally written 輕, which is a combination of vehicle and 巠 an element derived from an image of the lengthwise treads of a loom. Because the image is missing the crosswise threads, it represents “incompleteness,” and “bareness.” So, 輕 originally meant “bare vehicle” or one that was unladen and “light.” This character has come to mean light in a figurative sense as well. In the current form, the righthand side can be taken as a combination of 又 hand and  ground.

queerical asked:

per that last ask, I don't know if leto actually had to audition against other actors, but we know he didn't audition against any trans actors, since the director didn't even consider using a transgender actress for the role. so like, how exactly can we determine whether or not he was the 'best choice' wrt to his acting? (obviously any trans actress would have been better because representation is a thing that's important, but that aside)

Not sure.   Perhaps…with unicorn science?

Folks are always talking about how they want roles to go to the “best actors” regardless of identities such as race or gender but I didn’t see anyone stanning for Meryl Streep to play Harry Potter or Tom Hanks to play Katniss Evedeen.  Just saying.

“People are taking the piss out of you everyday. They butt into your life, take a cheap shot at you and then disappear. They leer at you from tall buildings and make you feel small. They make flippant comments from buses that imply you’re not sexy enough and that all the fun is happening somewhere else. They are on TV making your girlfriend feel inadequate. They have access to the most sophisticated technology the world has ever seen and they bully you with it. They are The Advertisers and they are laughing at you. You, however, are forbidden to touch them. Trademarks, intellectual property rights and copyright law mean advertisers can say what they like wherever they like with total impunity. Fuck that. Any advert in a public space that gives you no choice whether you see it or not is yours. It’s yours to take, re-arrange and re-use. You can do whatever you like with it. Asking for permission is like asking to keep a rock someone just threw at your head. You owe the companies nothing. Less than nothing, you especially don’t owe them any courtesy. They owe you. They have re-arranged the world to put themselves in front of you. They never asked for your permission, don’t even start asking for theirs.”    


On Chloe’s sexuality

I’m not sure why people are saying Chloe is bisexual just because she’s dated guys in the past. You know who else has dated guys in the past? Most lesbians. Chloe clearly doesn’t care about any of the guys she dated by the flippant way she referred to them, and she obsessively put up posters for Rachel Amber all over the town. She says Rachel “saved her” from dating guys. The “among other things” definitely referred to sleeping with women. She’s disgusted and hurt by Rachel sleeping with Frank. She flirts with Max and encourages all “anti-boy” comments. The look away when Max is changing. The kiss. The fear that Max will leave again like Rachel. You know who she never mentions as someone who left or betrayed her? Any ex-boyfriends. Because she doesn’t care about them. Because she’s a fucking lesbian.

Yes she has condoms in her wallet. I know lesbians who carry condoms on them. Some for sex toys or dental dams, and another girl carries them because does drugs at parties sometimes and worst case scenario she wants to make sure she or any friends are safe.

This is tumblr, so some people might get pissy and call this bisexual erasure, but I’m going to turn that comment on its head. Saying a woman is bisexual just because she’s slept with men in the past erases her own lesbianism. A penis does not change who she is. I didn’t realize I was attracted to women until I saw two attractive feminine women kiss (thanks Spashley). I grew up in a conservative area, so I literally did not even know it was an option until then. Chloe didn’t realize she was attracted to women until Rachel Amber. For many, it takes a moment of awakening to put a name on feelings you’ve had in the past. I thought I might have “just been bi” for a few months and then NOPE. Full on gay. Turns out there was a reason why I didn’t let any of my ex-boyfriends kiss me more than a couple times. There’s a reason why Chloe doesn’t care about any of her exes. A reason why none of them are mentioned or shown. They aren’t important. She doesn’t care about them and never really did. Because she’s gay.