Please help me! How do you get over the women your boyfriend has slept with before you? My boyfriends been with 5 girls before me :(
I’m sorry, I don’t mean to sound flippant, but you are really asking the wrong person.
I have never been bothered by this at all (I have pretty much never experienced jealousy, I’m weird) and I personally don’t see it as an issue so I don’t mean to sound unsympathetic but it’s hard for me to understand how you feel.
I guess I’d say this:
1. Your boyfriend is with you. He wants to be with you, and that’s really all that matters. There’s a reason he’s with you and not them.
2. Try not to think about past relationships as a competition.
I know my boyfriend has had sex with and loved people that weren’t me. I have no desire to be the first and only.
Just because other people have meant a lot to someone in no way takes anything away from the person they are currently with and how much you mean to them.
3. If he makes you feel unsure about that fact, run, don’t walk, in the other direction.
If he brings up the girls he has slept with in an effort to make you feel jealous or shitty about yourself, that doesn’t sound like someone who is very supportive or worthy of your time.
For me, personally, I have no idea how many people my boyfriend has slept with. I’ve never asked because it sincerely has no bearing on our relationship.
If anything I appreciated that he’s been with other women because he is actually good at oral sex (god sorry this is why I am terrible at giving advice)
He has never done anything to make me question that I am the person he wants to be with, and to me that’s all that matters.
If you have that in your relationship, I would gently advise that you work on letting go.
Acknowledge that past relationships to not lessen or invalidate your current relationship, and that if someone makes you feel special and important now, the fact that they have dated other people prior does not impact your relationship.