First of all, thanks to everyone who read and liked last weeks post; the notes really help to emphasise that I’m not just blurting stuff out into cyberspace. So, you know, cheers for that…
I had two reasons to start this blog nearly 7 years ago (wow).
I wanted some kind of validation without people around me knowing that I crossdress. (I can tick this one off the list.)
To speak with other crossdressers and help them out.
Over the last week I’ve had a flood of complements about me going out and how I ‘looked amazing’and how others ‘wished they had my confidence and looks’.Believe me, I like a the admiration as much as the next person (insert smug face here), but it didn’t happen overnight.
Example time; I’m bringing out the big guns for this one.
That hideous monstrosity with the bingo wing arms, hair plucked from an ostriches backside and more shadow on her chin than a dark alley at night in a bad part of town is me. This was before I even knew myself as Jessica, and long before I developed any kind of fashion sense.
Now, for comparison, let’s take a look at a much more recent picture.
Same person, better crossdresser.
So what happened over the 7 years? Was I sprinkled with pretty pixie dust? Granted a wish from a genie? Trained in the arts of femininity by an ancient guru?
I just realised that some of the things that help to make you look more female are also some of the most boring parts of being a gurl.
So, after an introduction larger than my forearms from the old picture, here are my 3 best tips for those of you just getting into crossdressing and what to rapidly improve your feminine look.
1. Don’t buy pretty. Buy because it works.
I made this mistake so often. We all (or mostly) get into crossdressing because we like the idea of looking amazing in a pretty dress, so in theory if the dress is pretty then you’ll look pretty in it… right?
I’ve said this plenty of times over the years, but I’m always happy to say it again. You have to know what works with your body. I could wear pleated skirts and baggy tops until the world comes crashing down around me, but throw me into a tight mini-dress and I’d rather blow the world up myself than be seen wearing it.
If it works, great! If not, then simply take it on board and move on. This might take some trial and error, but eventually you’ll be able to tell at first glance whether a dress will look good on you or not.
2. Stop posing like a bloke.
Quickly go back up and look at the ‘old’ and ‘new’ pictures of me. Go ahead, I’ll wait.
You back now? Good.
My pose as Ye Olde Jess makes me look bloke-ish. Not because I’m actually standing like a guy, but because I’m trying to hard to look like a girl.
In the new pic, I don’t have the same pose, but I’m doing more to look female; it’s just not as obvious.
Push your shoulders back and your chest out.
Suck in at your stomach.
Don’t look up.
It’s not about where your hand is on your hipor pulling a face to resemble our feathered ducky friends. Just follow those 4 tips above, and above all else, smile, it makes the world of difference.
3. Pretty makeup ain’t what makes you pretty.
You don’t want to hear it as much as I don’t want to say it, but lipstick and eyeliner isn’t going to make you look feminine.
Concealer, foundation, and powder; those are the holy trinity for crossdressers everywhere. Make sure you invest in the good stuff too, otherwise you’ll end up looking like that blotchy beard-shadowy mess in my old pic.
If you can get your foundation looking flawless and hide away that beard, you’re already miles ahead.
There’s not much else to say on this really. Obviously you can still use lip and eye makeup, but you should always concern yourself more with the canvas that is your face being clean and ready to go.
Pro Tip: Wash your face before putting on any makeup. It makes a huge difference.
Aaaand yet again I’ve managed to make a lengthy post. Hopefully I didn’t bore you and with time and patience you’ll notice a difference in how you look as a woman.
Anyway, I’m gonna end it there before I start blathering on about something else. Here’s a bonus pic to say thanks for reading all the way through.
And of course I’ll have another topic to cover by next Sunday, but please let me know if there’s anything you would like me to write about.
Any tips on how to get your foundation and concealer to not look cakey? I have that problem some times and I'm not sure if it's lack of skill or if I'm missing something. Also any tips for a contouring noob?
*cracks knuckles* Aightsoboom
PRIMER, PRIMER, PRIMER. Silicon based primers are everything to me. Especially if you have more pronounced pores bc if you put foundation on sans primer it’ll sit in those pores and then you’ll add more foundation to compensate for that which leads to a freshly baked cake on your face.
Also, I see people putting on a lot of foundation and powder (in real life and online) and yes that may photograph beautifully but in person, it looks cakey. You really don’t need so much foundation for your face.
SOMETHING ELSE I SEE WHICH GRIND MY FUCKING GEARS, is people setting their face with a pressed foundation powder. Now listen if you are one of my beautifully chocolate girls then I get it, translucent powder (and even banana powder) can have you out here looking all types of crazy but there are brands that make setting powders in other shades (I’ll be happy to post some links bc honestly the powders look BOMB and I need some for my clients) but circling back to layering foundations, to do your makeup is to add layers to your skin. putting a heavy powder (or just a fuck ton of powder) on your face over your foundation is to add a layer to your skin which you may not need!
SKINCARE, SKINCARE, SKINCARE. The easiest way to a flawless and smooth foundation is to have a nice, healthy, taken care of base. A lot of times foundation will cling to dry patches on your face (if you have them) or just dead skin that you have on your face so EXFOLIATE, not every day!! At most 3 times a week depending on need, please consult with a skin care professional, I can give you the information of an online one if you would like, she gives a personalized skin care consultation to revamp a routine or help figure out how to deal with any skin problems you may have. She is amazing seriously. (and a personal friend who has skincare down to a science)
Technique!! The technique you use to apply your foundation is a big factor in how the finish will look! I think the best technique is stippling motion, either with a brush or a sponge, really pressing the product into your skin can help it melt and blend into the skin, achieving that flawless finish we all crave.
Concealer, DON’T APPLY TOO MUCH AND ONLY PUT IT ON AFTER YOUR FOUNDATION. Concealer is made for problem areas, and some of these areas are covered adequately with foundation, so put your foundation on first and then take a look, if you can still see redness or breakouts through the foundation then you can conceal them. Also for under the eye again NOT TOO MUCH putting a fuck ton of concealer on under your eye is not only harmful to the very delicate skin under your eye but it causing a lot of creasing as the day goes on. So, conceal sparingly under the eye. Also, try to avoid really heavy or chunky/creamy concealers, I love the Urban Deacy Naked Skin concealers bc they are SO lightweight.
Contouring is a kind of personalized thing, to adequately advise on that I’d need to know your face shape and undertones.
I hope this helped!! Ask me to elaborate on anything that isn’t clear!
Last week I received this alluring bundle from MaskCara Beauty. If you watch my tutorials, you’ll be sort of familiar with the brand having watched me create looks using their IIID Foundation palettes.
Cara Brooks, a beautifully talented woman, is the creator of Maskcara Beauty - aptly named, Mask‘Cara’. She is a lover of all things beauty and has a very successful blog, which you can find here - maskcara.com Cara’s blog contains a whole host of helpful posts! Whether you want to learn how to HAC (aka highlight & contour), tackle your tresses, or apply self-tan for that perfect golden sun-kissed glow, she has you covered!
Cara loves to help women embrace their beauty! As if giving you tips and tutorials on how to get the perfect flawless foundation base wasn’t enough, she went one further and has provided you with the tools and products to do so!
IIID Foundation Palette $45.00
Please excuse the swipe marks in this palette, I have used it a few times. This is the pre-built ‘Medium’ palette which contains an illuminator, blush, highlight and contour shade. I’ve had this particular palette for a while now, and the shades in the pre-built palettes online have recently had a move about to accommodate more skin tones. So the list of shades in this palette may not match the order of the ones online.
The highlight and contour shades are cream foundations, so you would go straight in with these onto your face, there is no need to apply a liquid foundation first. You probably read the word ‘highlight’ and assume that it’s not suitable for the entire face. It’s a foundation shade that is formulated to brighten your face, not add an extreme tippex white triangle under your eyes.
I have a custom built palette next that contains shades suited to a darker skin tone:
Just recently, Maskcara Beauty brought out individual pan refills that come with picturesque tin lids, that slide on and off. They can used to replace an empty pan in your Maskcara palette, or you keep them as individuals which makes them easy to transport in your purse!
IIID Foundation Pan Refills - $10.50 each
I was fortunate enough to receive an array of the new pan refills, as well as their new brushes, and another of my favourite latex-free sponges!! Here are the pans:
I just adore these, and I think they are super convenient! Whether you’re a pro who wants to carry around a minimalistic kit, or if you’re simply a lover of makeup, these tins are the ideal size!
The last colour I have to show you is a favourite of mine, and it’s not for those who like to shy away from blush - that’s for sure! This blush is called, Dahlia.
The Completed Look!
Here is my ‘before & after’ using the Maskcara Beauty IIID Foundation pans, including blush & illuminator:
For full details on this natural but flawless looking highlight & contour foundation base, click here to watch my tutorial!
“I don’t know why I
let you talk me into this,” Blaine says, turning on his heel and walking down
the street the way they came. “This is ridiculous.”
“No, it’s not! It’s brilliant!” Tina grabs Blaine by the
shoulders and spins him back around with surprising strength. “I’m not saying
get a full glam makeover, just a little touch up. You want to look your best
for your audition, don’t you?”
“I guess. It’s just … I haven’t worn makeup in so long. I feel
kind of silly putting it on now.” Blaine can’t help feeling a bit
self-conscious. He’s been cultivating a new image since high school – a more macho image. It hasn’t exactly been
working for him the way he’d hoped, but one thing it doesn’t include is makeup.
“Nonsense.” Tina turns him slightly, directing him to Sephora.
“BuzzFeed says that men these days get touchups all the time. Everybody from
baristas to CEOs drops in on their lunch hour to get freshened up.”
“You know, you can’t trust everything you see on BuzzFeed,
Tina.” Blaine puts his hands out and pulls open the door before Tina can push
him straight through the glass. “Besides, I don’t think that plumper lips or
the perfect smoky eye is going to help me get this part.”
Tina shrugs. “You never know. This is a Broadway role you’re going for.”
YAS😍👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾Congrats to @jackieaina on her collab with @sigmabeauty Get it !! Side note: the song choice for this video is 👌🏿😂🙌🏿#CocoaSwatches #Repost
when he says he wants to see other people 😊😊😊 sooooo my secret is out 😏 who is ready for the JACKIE AINA FAVORITES collection with @sigmabeauty ?!? Late last year Sigma saw my snapchat about my top 5 favorite Sigma brushes and they loved it so much we turned it into a collection 🙌🏾🙌🏾 it launches March 20th on sigmabeauty.com aaaand it’s free shipping + 15% off with code JACKIESIGMA 💃🏾
Showing you in this video how I use each brush in my COLLECTION!!! 🎉
F20 Flat Kabuki for flawless foundation.
E69 Line Perfecter is the ONLY angled brush I use to carve out them brows.
E38 Diffused Crease for blending shadows because it works for ALL eye shapes!! E20 Short Shader is the only brush I can use along by bottom lash line for my huge buldgy eyes 😂 also works amazing when blending liner!
F35 Tapered Highlight - I haven’t touched a fan brush since I started using this brush for highlight. Just saying! 💁🏾
I hope you guys are excited and love this set as much as I do! Mark your calendar for March 20th 🗓
@clinique Beyond Perfecting Foundation
@narsissist Soft Matte Complete concealer
@anastasiabeverlyhills Brow wiz. @narsissist Eyeshadow Palette. @lancomeofficial Grandiose Liner @stilacosmetics Magnificent Metals in Kitten Karma and Violet Vixen
@beccacosmetics “Opal” Shimmering Skin Perfecter @makeupgeekcosmetics “Urbanista” plush Matte lipstick
🎵Mary j blige - I can love you
yeah it’ll be cool to know who’s going out with who and stuff but umm you know what’s even better?? Knowing skin care products like how to get that flawless skin, what foundation that it, what eyecream ,how do you make that makeup stay, how to get that glow, how are their teeth so white,can they do their own makeup and hair, nice shadow what products did they use,where are those contacts from, how is their hair so thick and glossy, healthy weight loss tips, how do they train their voice to get it sounding so good, mmm yess liner how did they do it what product,do they ever get to pick out their own outfits, how do they manage their hair despite dying it???
So I decided to buy the Benefit Hello Flawless foundation. I’ve always used the Maybelline Fit Me liquid foundation or foundation stick, but lately I’ve noticed its too pink for my skin. I needed something with a yellow undertone, so this one was perfect. I’m in the lightest shade “I’m pure 4 sure” Ivory. I haven’t actually worn it out yet, but for just trying a little on, I like it!
Over the past year, negativity and shitty discourse has kind of ruined people’s experiences. I didn’t get involved in writing fanfic to engage in purity posturing over the most morally defensible way to create and interact with fan-made content. Critique of tropes, common and harmful narratives, and reflections of structural imbalances in our content is one thing. But I don’t want to burn down my home to prove its foundation is flawless.
Fandom is supposed to be fun. If you’re not interested in having fun, then go do something else.
this is a result of me weeding thru beauty videos for years and years. these imo are the ones that are worth watching. most of these are recent. SO here is the lame makeup masterpost i’ve been promising :+)