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Can we just..

Can we just talk about Teen Fucking Titans

This show was amazing, like Teen Titans Go can not live up to the amount of messages and things that Teen Titans taught. Like that shit got super dark and deep at one point. 

A few examples

1) The episode that talked about racism

There was an actual episode of Teen Titans that talked about racism and the person being racist was not the usual bad guy/weird looking dude. No the guy being racist was a actual hero. It’s amazing how much this episode taught. It talked about how even the greatest heroes in the world can be the world’s biggest asshole.

What happened was a man named Val Yor, an amazing hero, met the teen titans. Now Starfire is a Tamaranian. When Val Yor learns that, he calls her a ‘Troq’, which is basically a word that insults all Tamaranian’s. Despite Starfire being the cutest thing ever, Val Yor refused to accept her, because she was a Tamaranian.

If that wasn’t even enough, then came the ending. 

Now at one point in the episode Starfire saves Val Yor’s ass from dying. She did what ever she could to help. But at the end, Val Yor still called her a Troq. It’s amazing that even though Starfire saved Val Yor, he still insulted her culture or her ‘people’. At the end, when Val Yor leaves in his space ship straight after insulting Tamaranian’s. Starfire says “There is nothing you have done, there will always be people who say mean words because you are different” and if that doesn’t convince you that Starfire is amazing then I don’t know what will.

2) Feeling Replaced

In one episode, Blackfire (Starfire’s sister), comes to visit her. Starfire is extremely happy and all. Until, her friends start liking Blackfire a little bit more than she wants them to. She bonds with each and everyone of them (even Raven) and even got a little too close to Robin. Starfire felt diminished and a little hurt that they would ignore her for Blackfire. But Starfire didn’t feel truly replaced until the Teen Titans asked for Blackfire to join the Teen Titans. Starfire then attempts to run away, feeling like Blackfire would be better than her.

At the end of the episode, Robin confronts Starfire after Blackfire goes to jail. Starfire explains about how everyone seemed to be really enjoying Blackfire and was glad that the truth was figured out before she was replaced. In response to that, Robin denies it. He explains to her that Starfire was a one of a kind girl and that she would never be replaced. 

I think this episode explains a lot about feelings of abandoment and that simple things telling someone how they never will be replaced will help them. 

3) Fears

Now we all know Raven is a bit hard headed and doesn’t like showing emotions. Now in this episode, the Teen Titans decide to have a movie night. This movie turns out to be a horror movie. After the movie is over all of the Teen Titans show their emotions of being extremely being scared of the movie except for Raven who denies being scared. Later that night, all the Teen Titans are awoken be a sound. The episode continues as the Teen Titans try to find out who is making the sounds, and as they progress one by one, all the teen titans mysteriously start disappearing. All, except Raven. When only Raven is left, a monster attacks her. Raven chants that she is not scared of the monster. But eventually realization dawned on her that she was scared and that was how she defeated the monster. Turns out, the monster was something Raven made with her magic unwillingly because of her fear. 

This episode is definitely one of the horror episodes. If it was a real life horror movie, I would have freaked. But anyways, this episode explains so much. It talks about how you shouldn’t be afraid to face you fears and use it to your advantage. So what if you’re scared? That’s completely normal. It talks about taking that fear and not letting it stop you from doing what you want.

4) Puberty

Yes people, Teen Fucking Titans talked about puberty. When I rewatched this episode as a teen, I realized that there was an actual episode that talked about dealing with puberty

Now in this episode, Starfire starts growing weird things around her body. First a large bump forms on her head, then she soon gets scales and her fingernails become long and black and white. If that wasn’t bad enough her feet turn large and start growing hair. Starfire feels extremely self conscious of her self and cover her self up entirely in order to hide her self from her friends because of fear of being laughed at. It all goes to doom when Teen Titans get an alarm for a monster. The entire get up comes off and everyone sees how Starfire looks. Starfire, in a state of panic, fly’s in to space and decides to live at a another planet because she couldn’t face her friends. Problem was each and every planet she went to they would kick her off because they thought she was too scary. 

When Starfire lands on one planet, she meets a woman, who explains to her that it’s normal for a Tamaranian to get like this after a certain stage and that each and every Tamaranian goes through a different process. But this woman turns out to be a Tamaranian eater and tries to eat her when the rest of the Teen Titans save her. Starfire does eventually turn back to normal and even gains a new power. The Teen Titans tell her that they would never judge Starfire on the way she looks.

Now this episode explains a lot. This was probably one of my favorite episodes especially because of the fact it talks about how hard it is going through puberty, Not only that but it explains about how everyone goes through it differently and that it’s not your fault. It also tells you that, it may be one hell of a ride and that it’s gonna be tough, but when it’s over good things will come out of it. 

5) The First Time They Met

Now I couldn’t get the proper picture I was looking for, but its with Cyborg and Raven. Now this is a iconic moment from the entire and it all started out with the first time all of them met. Now we all know Raven is the daughter of a devil who wants to take over the world, so when she does help the Teen Titans, she doesn’t feel welcome in the group. She feels as though she was different because her main purpose was to destroy the Earth not save it. So when Cyborg learn about this, the famous quote he says is “He’s green, half of me is metal and she’s from outer space, you fit in just fine”. I don’t really need to say much because the quote explains it all. 

There are seven billion people in the world, and you have only experienced twenty thousand at the most.  And those twenty thousand were fairly homogeneous.  Your experiences with people have been largely dictated by your parents’ choices.  The neighborhood in which they chose to purchase a house.  Where they sent you to school.  And maybe those choices weren’t the best for you.  Maybe you don’t fit in where you are now.  But you still managed to survive four years of high school and have a few meaningful experiences along the way.  There are seven billion other people out there.  Seven billion.  Are you really pessimistic enough to believe that you wouldn’t get along with any of them?
—  Matthew Quick, Every Exquisite Thing
Wonderful

I know you feel you don’t belong here
au contraire my weary friend you do
better, worse, different or the same
no one belongs here more than you

You say you’re stupid, you don’t fit in
stupid is a hurtful word that only lies
I see value, a friend worth keeping
you’ll see it too if you open your eyes

You feel broken, but that can change
set your gaze each dawn upon the sun
say it, believe it, and it will prove true
you’re every bit as wonderful as anyone

I get angry when I see posts like “normal people simply lack courage.” I think allowing yourself to be normal is a courageous act in a world that constantly pressures us to be special and exciting and alternative. At the same time we’re always asked to fit in, so I guess we can just sum up that the expectations of our society don’t make a lot of sense and we can’t really make the right choices anyway. Just do you. If you wanna have a “mainstream life” and it fulfils you, be proud of that. Don’t let others pressure you into changing.

Most people will never have something nice to say to you or about you but when it’s their chance of saying something negative don’t be surprised how quickly they are willing to jump on the band wagon. We live in the century of toxic people. Where the only comments you receive on a selfie is the question of why do you take so many pictures of yourself instead of you look nice today - where the message of asking friends if they want to hang out are seen but not replied to. It is a day and age of being replaced when something better comes along and where others are dead-set on finding the right one instead of being the right one to someone that could be. We force friends to change instead of putting in an effort to understand their differences or taking an interest in things that mean more to them then they do to you. It is the day and age of being ignored - where good friendships go unnoticed and where people drift apart purposely.

We need to be more than that. We need to be there in a way that matters. We need to make an effort of being kind to one another even if it starts with the comment you look really nice today on a selfie they just posted up or a compliment when you see them out in the real world trying their best to fit in or sending a message about how their day was and showing some sort of genuine interest in that person’s welfare.

Tell someone they are beautiful even if they’ve heard it thousand times, let them hear it a thousand more. It is not about that person anymore. It is the principle that you noticed them.

The world is hard enough, but being there in a supportive way will always bring comfort to those who continue to struggle.

—  Joanna Strafford 

Resisting peer pressure/following the norm can be a difficult thing to do…