first years this way

The Malec wedding kiss is my all time favorite scene that I have ever witnessed on television. Ever.

Today my therapist presented me with a metaphor that, while not bad, was wholly inapplicable to me. It was, like, “How would you defend your castle” and it was a metaphor for not trusting people and not letting people into your life and stuff.

Except “how I’d defend my castle” involved things like forming diplomatic unions with other kingdoms, and placing my close allies in charge of my massive armies - things like Doozer as my main general, Lé and Data as trusted advisors, not to mention the defending of my “castle” was, indeed, the defending of my “kingdom” and the people who lived in it (i.e. my friends).

Essentially she was trying to be like “If you never let people in won’t your castle be lonely?” and I’m like “Do you see all these people I’ve let in? I’m not just defending myself, I’m defending them, and they, in turn, are defending me.”

It was supposed to be a metaphor for unhealthy coping mechanisms and instead it just highlighted my natural leadership and charisma and the relationships I’ve fostered and grown. It was kind of hilarious.

*Me and my future kids talking*

Kids: Mommy, who was president from 2016-2020?

Me: I don’t remember kids, but let me give you a rundown on what happened at the 2017 Oscars-it was WILD

am i the only person who loves how fascinated even always looks with isak? like isak could wake up all grumpy and groggy in the morning and even will still look at him like he was the first ray of sunshine. they’re at a party and a nas song comes on so even looks at isak who’s all the way across the room bobbing his head along to the song and even probably internally combusts. on a sunday afternoon, they’re probably sitting on even’s bedroom floor trying to get through the pile of homework they procrastinated over the weekend and isak is stuck on a calculus sum (he seems like the calculus-liking-kinda guy don’t fight me on this) and he probably just groans in frustration and so even scooches over to see if he can understand and help isak. even offers a method of solving and isak just says no and launches into a long explanation on why that won’t work and what other methods he tried already and… even is so utterly fascinated? because his boy is so so smart and pure and beautiful? he can’t believe that isak valtersen actually exists you know?

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oh. oh.

Imagine Victor seductively whispering phrases in Russian into Yuuri’s ear during foreplay/sex, but when Yuuri asks what they mean, he only winks and says it’s a secret.

So Yuuri tries to impress him and memorizes as much as he can from his speech over a few days and when he catches Victor casually reading a book on the couch he sees his chance, straddles him, brings his lips close to his ear and pronounces one of the lines in as sexy a whisper as he can muster.

And Victor suddenly bursts out laughing, so hard that his entirey body is shaking and there are tears in his eyes and he can’t collect himself for a good 5 minutes and Yuuri is just staring at him thinking “Did I fuck up? Did I remember it wrong? Did I just say something stupid?”

And when Victor calms down he simply explains “You just said Be glorious, our free Fatherland.”

And Yuuri just knits his brows and looks at him in confusion like “…why?”

And Victor just cackles “I’ve been reciting the National anthem of Russia to you every time we had sex for the past week.”

Victor gets a light jab to the chest and a pout, but Yuuri forgives him with a shake of the head, roll of the eyes, a light smile and a “I married an idiot.”

Yuuri gets his revenge by repeating lines from the anthem whenever things get hot because it always makes Victor laugh and that usually kills his arousal.

I feel like everyone who writes Erik as having started out looking like everybody else and then gotten acid thrown at him or whatever is forgetting the legit, actual thing that existed in the 19th century (and earlier, and now) that could eat someone’s nose off and had a huge social stigma attached

Syphilis

Why do we not have a phic where Erik was a handsome young man who fell in love with someone and contracted syphilis and lost his nose because of that?

I’m ready for a syphilitic!Erik phic

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Jensen was never this awkward, never lost for words when it came to flirting, never tripping over himself to think of the words to say. It was just… you did something to him, something that made him feel like a twelve-year-old trying to stumble his way to his first kiss again.

You’d known each other in high school - you’d turned him down when he tried to ask you to prom, yourself being a senior, sophomore Jensen didn’t stand a chance amongst the other senior boys asking for an opportunity to ask you out - but you hadn’t become friends until you started working together on a low-budget, independent movie, four years after he graduated.

You’d just finished shooting a scene when you walked over to where Jensen was stood, leaning against a dresser on set.

“That was, you were great,” he told you, before shaking his head and cursing himself. “Good, good acting, it was- you were… good job.”

Jesus Christ, he needed to pull himself together. Why did he let you affect him like this?

You laughed, “You’re funny.”

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Omg! My sons’ school district is now offering a free associate’s degree if you stick out an extra year of high school!!!!

That means TWO YEARS OF FREE COLLEGE. Which means that the meager amounts of money I’ve been able to save (and will continue to save), and some pell grant money and whatever scholarships they’ll get, might actually be enough to see them through!!!!

HOLY SHIT.

The Best (and worst) Ways to Save on Textbooks!

After I posted my overrated first year advice post, a lot of people were commenting on my advice about buying textbooks. I agreed so much with all of these comments, so I thought I would do a more comprehensive post about how I buy my textbooks and what I recommend for others. 

Disclaimer: Obviously, where you buy your textbooks can be influenced by so many factors (location, income, etc.) so don’t feel obliged to listen to all of this advice! It is just my opinion, and as always, different things work for different people. 

Go Ahead

  • Buy used from upper year students. This is my number one go to way to save money on textbooks. Meeting with an upper year and buying a book is reliable and just makes sense. Also, they aren’t trying to turn a profit, so it is often the best deal. 
  • Bargain with people who are selling. If you do decide to buy from an upper year, try to bargain with them to get the best possible deal. Often times they are just trying to get rid of the books, so if you offer to bundle them, they will give you a better price. 
  • Buy off of Amazon Prime, or another reputable seller. If you can get a better deal and the guarantee that your books will arrive within 2-3 days, why not? 
  • Buy the looseleaf edition and a binder, rather than the hardcover copy. I have seen books at my bookstore that are $300+ and the looseleaf copy is like $100. It is the exact same material in every way, except that it isn’t bound together, so it is definitely worth the money saved. 
  • If there is an electronic copy available, print it yourself. Make sure you have the rights to print it first, but if you do, then this is a great way to save. My politics prof made all of our readings available online to download, and I got them all printed for $9. Much cheaper than an actual textbook. 
  • Rent textbooks. I have to be honest, I don’t know a ton about renting, but there are usually websites and places on/around campus that let you rent a textbook and then return it at the end. Just make sure that it is considerably cheaper than owning the book. 
  • Share the book with a friend. If you know someone on your floor or someone you hang out with often, share the book! Make a schedule of when each of you will get it, and you only have to pay half of the cost. 

Proceed With Caution

  • Buying an electronic copy. This is a great way to save, as long as you are comfortable doing a lot of reading online. I definitely recommend this if you have a tablet, or are just used to reading online. If you like to take notes in a book, or you get a headache from reading online, it might be worth it to find a hard copy. 
  • Buying online from an unreliable site. This might apply more for my fellow Canadians/non-Americans because fewer sites offer good, quick shipping to us! I remember when I was looking for textbooks, I would think I found an amazing deal on a book, then see that it would take 6 weeks to ship. It isn’t worth it to be 6 weeks behind on readings to save a bit of cash. 
  • Buying from a bookstore off campus. I guess it depends on how willing your school is to screw you over, but at my school, the on-campus prices are the same as at Chapters. If they are the same price anyways, you might as well go for the convenience of the on-campus store. 
  • Checking it out from the library. I think this is a great idea if it is a light reading class, especially because textbooks are often on reserve at the library. However, if you have readings every night or a big project based on the textbook, it can be super inconvenient to have to check the book out every day. 
  • Buying an older edition of a textbook. I see this advice all the time, and I just don’t think it is good at all! It is very annoying that publishers do this, but usually a new edition is completely rearranged, and can often have different content and different homework questions. I made this mistake at the beginning of the year and got a book that had literally nothing in common with the class, so I ended up buying the new edition anyways. 

Other Ways to Save 

  • Make sure you actually need the book before purchasing. Look on the syllabus — not just under “required textbooks” but also under the course schedule. If there is only one reading from the textbook, try to borrow it from a friend or use the online version. 
  • If there is a reader, try to find the readings online. Sometimes profs will try to sell you a reader that has a bunch of readings from various sources. Often these are super popular readings like John Rawls or Judith Butler that can be easily accessed online. If you can find copies of them all of JSTOR or your school library, don’t bother with the reader. 
  • Take good care of textbooks that you buy so you can sell them next year. If you write and highlight in the book, it is harder to sell for a good price. If it is pristine condition, you can sell it for a bit less than the cover price rather than super cheap. 
  • It is a lot better to sell books to other students than to sell to the bookstore/online. If a textbook costs $50 new, you can sell it to another student for $40, whereas the bookstore would only pay you like $4.50. They really lowball you, so try to sell directly to other students! 
Shoutout to Sergey Lazarev!

Remember this guy?

He is a pretty chill Russian singer who seems to be supporting LGBT+ movement (which is like, not common at all?!). He’s not above performing in gay clubs, and some people suspect he’s queer himself… but that’s not what this post is about.

This is his latest song:

Notice he’s wearing a- skirt??? dress??? and not in the ironic way either!! He’s totally rocking it! (>///<)

The song is called “Ideal World” and Sergey commented that “The song is about the fact that each of us builds their own "ideal” world, and each is responsible only for that. The world that seems to be the most ideal and correct for one person might be not ideal for another. And it’s absolutely normal. We are all different, we are all unique, we are all important.“

But the thing that actually made me gasp a little was when I saw him performing that song in that outfit on Russian TV during New Year concert!!! And nobody mentioned it?? Nobody said “lol look at him wearing a skirt”???

I was like YOU GO SERGEY!! Normalize wearing whatever the hell you want, let’s chip at those gender stereotypes! XD

As a lot of you know, I’ve just graduated from my local community college. Attending there was no-doubt the best option for me, especially since it allowed me to get almost two years of college done before I graduated high school. Despite the reputation it often gets, I’m a huge fan of community colleges.

advantages of community college

  • First of all, it’s much more affordable that traditional four-year schools
  • But you still get a high-quality education!
    • Quite a few of my teacher graduated from Ivy League schools, and all of them were really knowledgeable in their fields. 
  • Smaller class sizes = you get to know your teachers
  • You can live at home and stay close to friends, family, and the job you already have (plus no moving or cramped dorms!)
  • You’re taking the same classes you would be at a university for way less, since the first two years are all general ed requirements wherever you go

what to know before you go

  • It’s not going to be a breeze. The classes will be just as hard (if not harder in some cases) as their university counterparts. You’re getting a serious education, so you’ll have to put in serious work.
  • It may be a little tougher to make friends, since unlike universities everyone goes home at the end of the day. That being said, it’s totally possible! You just have to be intentional and reach out to people in your classes
  • It’s not full of slackers, like the stereotype says. In fact, it’s pretty much the opposite. Most of my classmates were paying their own way through school, meaning that they actually wanted to be there and learn as much as they could. I met some of the most dedicated and hardworking people in my classes at cc. 

tips

  • Know your long-term plan as soon as possible. If you’ll be transferring after, it’s good to know if the classes you’re taking will transfer to where you’ll be going. 
  • Related: meet with your advisor often. Even though it wasn’t required, I went in to see my advisor before every semester, just to make sure that I was still on track and that all the classes I was taking were beneficial.
  • Get to know your teachers. I’ve found that cc teachers genuinely care for their students, so it’s super beneficial to get to know them in case you need help in that class or even in the future. I’ve had past teachers help me out with projects for other classes and write reference letters. 
  • Don’t just go to class and go home! Get involved in any way that you can, even if that just means studying in the library instead of your living room. You’ll get so much more out of your time there if you actually invest your time there – get to know people around campus!
  • Take advantage of any resources they have! At my school there were career counselors, free tutors, loads of books/movies available at the library, an open gym, and a ton more. Not to mention all the discounts you can get with your student ID!
  • Join clubs, if they’re available. They’ll look good on future applications and you’ll make great friends!
  • Look for other opportunities on campus – I participated in several art shows and wrote for the literature and arts journal, and they were both really great experiences for me. Find things to be a part of, and you may be surprised to find a new interest!

Overall, community college is a really great option for a lot of people for a lot of reasons. Don’t let people tell you that you’re not just as smart and determined as university students if that’s where you decide to go! Go forth and totally kill it, my future community college students. 

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(1/5) Recap of Vhope during 2016: On stage

Taehyung (to Hoseok): “I’m glad you’re by my side”