Hey, do you have suggestions for people from not Interesting Families and Places to have a life a quarter as interesting at yours?
Step The First: Go Outside
Not to be flippant but if you want to meet interesting people or have interesting experiences, you have to… go out and meet people and go experience things. The good news is that the internet exists and you can find IRL things that are very likely to make you new friends!
You know that WEIRD thing you like? No, weirder. Velvet Worms, maybe, or East Coast Swing or Home Cheese making? Yeah, that thing. There’s a group out there for it, likely somewhere near you! Go meet your fellow Weird people, you’ll have a blast.
Don’t have a weird hobby? You can also try your less-weird hobby, like D&D or cooking or w/e (I just suggest the weird one first becuase you’re more likely to meet people you’ll get on with there), OR you can try out something brand new, just for the hell of it. I got into Scientific Illustration pretty much entirely because I’d never taken a botany or watercolor class in my life and they happened to be on offer at the gardens.
Step The Second: Improv
The first rule of Improv is to never say No. That just kills the whole scene, then nothing happens. This is not to say to not stand up for yourself- if you feel uncomfortable in a situation, you can always suggest something else, say you’re not comfortable with that, or straight-up leave. Your safety always comes first.
But when you meet you new weird people, one of them will suggest Doing A Thing, like, meeting up on Saturday for a movie night, or taking an extra leg of a hike, or starting a community garden. Say yes to a new experience! It’ll be fun!
But I’m really awkward and don’t know how to make conversation! I hear some of you say. it’s fine! Nobody else knows what they’re doing either. As long as you turn up and sound enthusiastic about whatever the event is, they’ll love you.
I met my fiance by agreeing to Go To A Thing- I’d gone to the CSU club fair for shits and giggles, and agreed to go to the Gaming Club’s Movie afterparty, becuase the charming gentleman with the beard wanted to host one. We were then strategically ditched in a cunning move by Fiance’s BFF, but that’s another story. The point is, I went to the thing, and now we’ve been together for six years.
Step The Third: Learning how to See
Ok this is really technically Step One, but its also an important part of having an “interesting” life- learning how to Notice small things and take pleasure in them.
Today was pretty boring, I spent most of it sleeping off Pneumonia, but I pay attentions and fun things happen- There’s a wonderfully Fat Orange crab spider on the porch right now, spinning a most excellent web around the light to catch late-season moths. When she waddles across the web, her bodacious abdomen waggles like a my grandmother in her bustle, which I saw the third time my parents got married and everyone showed up in their wedding clothes. She’s delightful and I’ve left the porch light on for her.
The secret to an interesting life is to make things happen, and even if they don’t remember that life really is a parade around you, and to enjoy it.