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15 tips for traveling alone

I recently returned from a four-month trip around Europe. I backpacked to Spain, Portugal, Italy, Croatia, Greece, Hungary, Germany, Norway and The Netherlands, sometimes with my best friend, sometimes with new friends, and sometimes all alone. 

Travelling alone was one of the best experiences of my life. You’ll surprise yourself with your keen intuition, your ability to cope with a new language, your friend-making skills, your geographical bearings and overall just how much you enjoy doing whatever you want, whenever you want - from eating whenever, going wherever and doing whatever you feel like doing. Sometimes I had gelato for breakfast, once I spent six hours in a museum, a few times I slept til midday, I went to a music festival solo and I swam in the ocean morning, noon and dusk. 

But travelling alone can also be problematic and lonely if you’re not properly prepared. Here’s some easy tips that really enriched my experience travelling alone. 

1. Laptop smart
Not only is it exceedingly hard to navigate foreign transport sites from a phone, my laptop proved really valuable to me when I needed precious downtime, which was about once a week. I loaded up a portable hard drive with movies and boxsets so I could retreat into my own little world with my headphones on to watch a movie in bed when I needed a bit of ‘me’ time. 

2. Device smart
- I subscribed to Spotify Premium for $10 a month and built myself some playlists by mood - chill, happy, groovy, pensive. Then I downloaded them, so they were available offline.
- I also downloaded Tripit, an app that links with your email and builds you an automatic itinerary based on your email confirmations.
- I also downloaded, an app with offline maps and GPS location so I was never lost. I dropped a (permanent) pin on the location of my accommodation in each city so I always had my bearings. 
- Also make sure your emails are accessible on your phone - I found the Gmail app to be the best option for me, because many of my emails were available offline - valuable when I needed an address or confirmation number, which was a lot!

3. Spend smart
I went with Citibank Australia, who offer a Citibank Plus everyday account with fee-free withdrawals and fee-free transactions anywhere in the world. Shop around your banks and see what deal you can find - don’t just go with your own bank, who might smash you with withdrawal and transaction fees. Every dollar counts when you’re overseas.

4. Insure smart 
This was a non-negotiable. I actually submitted two claims after this trip - one for a lost phone and another for a change of trip. Make sure you know what you’re entitled to before you commit to a policy - valuables up to $1,000 is essential if you’re taking that laptop or smartphone!

5. Pack smart
A few quick tips:
- Don’t take anything that needs ironing. You’ll never wear it, trust me. 
- Bring your runners so you can walk miles during the day. It really made all the difference for me - on days I wore them I could walk up to 30,000 steps without any pain whatsoever. 
- Bring your flip flops for showering. Tinea is rampant in hostel world!
- Bring exercise gear. I always moved from place to place in my exercise gear - it’s easy to sleep in on long haul bus-rides, and you don’t want to wear your 15kg pack with bad shoes - it hurts your ankles!
- Pack, then don’t take half the things you packed. Every little thing is a lot heavier on your back in the blistering heat, trust me. And they have toiletries in other countries too, you know!

6. Disembark smart
- Always carry some cash with you for the country you’re going to - for me, it was mostly euros. It was essential for my commute from the airport, and when I forgot to arm myself with currency, I was left disoriented, tired and wandering around trying to find an ATM while not getting robbed.
- It’s also worth Googling bus or train information before you board your plane, so you know the fastest and cheapest way to your accommodation before you land. Taxis are tempting - but will run your budget dry quickly. 

7. Book smart 
- Book directly through the website, not the compare-sites - it’s cheaper! This includes airlines, bus companies and train websites, and the hostel websites when it comes to booking your accommodation.
- Also, always book your bits and bobs in a private browsing section. Airline websites have algorithms that send the ticket prices up if they log your IP looking at a price a couple times to create a sense of urgency in you.
- But don’t feel like you need to map your whole plan out before you even leave home - I purposefully left gaps in my plan and life filled them in. I stayed with europeans I’d met overseas, travelled with new friends and went to countries that I had no plans on going to, like Norway (one of my favourite countries in the end!) 

8. Backup smart
After every country I backed up my phone to my laptop and my laptop to my hard drive. If you trust the Cloud, backup to there too. It is devastating to lose travel photos - they’re about the most important thing you own when you travel. 

9. Stay smart
- is the go-to site for hostels. If I was nervous about my choice, I’d usually book one night in and extend my stay if it felt right. I always read plenty of reviews for each place, particularly taking notice of the location rating. Cleanliness in the bathroom, uncomfortable beds or a tiny kitchen were things I could deal with. A 30 minute commute to the city was something that wore me down pretty quickly.
- Speaking of the kitchen - that ‘free’ shelf in the fridge is your best friend - use it!

10. Be alone smart
- Find a local pub and go and sit at the bar with a good book. Strike up a conversation with the bartender - they are probably bored out of their mind! Bartenders have a wealth of cultural knowledge about their city that you’d never find on Trip Advisor - ask for their hot tips on eating, drinking, shopping and the sights. I asked each bartender to draw all over a fold-up map in each city so I had a visual reference - it helped me pair things together that were close by so I could plan my days better.
- Also, do the walking tour on your first day. They are usually free (the tour guides live on tips) and they are the most useful introduction to a city - not to mention hugely interesting.

11. Commute smart
If you’re wondering if you should walk or get a metro, walk. If you’re wondering whether you should get the metro or a bus, bus. The metro is fast, but you see nothing. 

12. Dress smart
- If you’re spending the day exploring, wear one less thing than you think you need to. It’s awful being hot and sweaty, but easy to speed up if you’re feeling a little nippy. Plus, your thighs will thank you when they can crush steel between your rippling muscles!
- Runners are pretty much always the best option - you’ll double your productivity with them on. 

13. Mini-pack smart
Your daypack should contain:
- headphones
- a book
- a city map (to ask the locals to circle their favourite places on!)
- a knife and fork (plastic, for impromptu lunches in the park or by the water)
- a water bottle. Water is your best friend between all that exercise you didn’t realize you were doing (win!), the salty restaurant meals you’re eating (yum) and the drinking (inevitable). Drink it in litres - otherwise you’ll be perpetually dehydrated and wondering why you feel so tired. 

14. Wash, dry and iron smart
It’s inevitable you’ll have to wash atleast once a week. Face it, pretty boy. Mama aint here to help you now. 
- Every night, wash the underwear you wore that day in the shower. It takes five seconds, stops them from stinking up the place (we all know undies get the most dirty) and fresh undies are one of life’s little pleasures!
- You can iron out major creases by wetting a towel and wiping the clothing while it’s on you (it’ll dry), or bringing the item on a coat hanger into the shower area (the steam makes the creases drop out) 
- Splurge occasionally and get laundry done. Most hostels do it for less than $10, and having fresh clean dry clothing one of those amazing little things that lifts your spirits when you’re out of your comfort zone. 

15. Socialise smart
Talk to people! Everyone is the best version of themselves when they are travelling. Strike up conversations with people you would never usually speak to, especially those travelling alone as well. Ask them their story, compare itineraries, go on adventures together and who knows? You might just make a friend for life. 

That Kaider scene in Winter fucked me up, man. Like, they’ve been apart for two damn books, pining and hoping the other is ok even though they’re not sure what even their relationship is, like Kai doesn’t even know if he can trust Cinder, but he does. And then they’re together and everything is cute and they just become a couple, like they could ever be normal. And there’s a lot of kissing and making sure the other knows how much they want each other. And then Kai’s trust is so deep he asks her to manipulate him because he wants to help her get better, but it’s too easy. And then Cinder asking if he ever thinks of a future with her and him telling her they’ll figure it out. And he doesn’t give a shit that she’s Lunar, and he doesn’t giive even half a shit she’s cyborg, even though he was raised to think they’re disgusting not even human, he loves her and he thinks everything she can do because she is a cyborg is impressive, like he doesn’t love her despite her being a cyborg, he loves her cyborgness, he loves her lunar-ness, he loves her. I just. 

Where it begins

drawing at work again Raj and my OC this time

anonymous asked:

would you recommend going for a PhD?

This is a big question, a tough one, and one that I can only answer based on my own experiences by encouraging anyone who is considering a PhD to ask themselves a series of smaller questions. These would include:

  • What do you want to do with your PhD? Teach? Research? Write? Work inside the academy, or outside? 
  • Depending on the answers to the previous question - how viable are careers in your field doing the thing you want to do? Increasingly, at least in the US, universities rely upon exploited contract labor (grad students and adjuncts) rather than tenure-track professors due to how much cheaper that labor is, so if your field doesn’t seem to have a lot of sustainable career paths open, you’ll want to at the very least have a backup plan or two. 
  • Do you love reading? Because that’s the thing grad school has been all about, in my experience. I’ve learned how to read a lot of very dense and complex material very quickly with an optimized level of comprehension, and I’ve learned through that reading how to write my own things that other scholars would want to read. In a humanities/social science program with a 3-course semester load, I’d say you should expect to read roughly 400 pages per week, plus any writing assignments responding to those readings your professors ask for. This does not include reading in preparation for seminar papers, which can add a whole heck of a lot more on your plate.
  • What motivates you? If it’s money, even in the long run, I cannot recommend a PhD program unless you’re going to be like, an economist or something. Lots of my colleagues are motivated by a love of learning and a genuine, persistent curiosity about their object of study. Lots of them are also motivated by a fervent belief that better scholarship can lead to better culture and politics, and that by doing what we do as both writers and teachers, we can change the world for the better. More than anything I’m in the latter camp, though I obviously have to be deeply intrigued by my research topic to sustain my work. 
  • What and who else do you need to consider in taking on the lifestyle of a PhD student? If you make any money at all through a teaching or research gig, you won’t be making much. You will work nearly all the time. You might end up moving across the country for jobs several times, sometimes to places that have nothing more than their local college/university. You will probably be cranky a decent amount of the time. You’ll need to travel for conferences and the like. If you have a partner or dependents or cannot/will not live in certain places or under circumstances, you should be up front with yourself and all invested parties in those things. If you have health - physical, mental, etc - needs to consider, these things shouldn’t be a barrier to your pursuit of academic degrees, but 1) sometimes will be on an institutional level because the academy is ableist as fuck and 2) are things to be thinking about before choosing a place to move to or a program of study. 
  • What will the financial situation be? I’m lucky enough to be in a program where I receive a full tuition remission and a teaching stipend - though I do only get paid my regular wage 9 months out of the year and still live below the poverty line, my livelihood is not in immediate danger should I not secure funding for the next semester. Usually tuition remissions are tied to paid positions, so if you’re not getting a stipend, you’re often also paying thousands of dollars to attend the University. Don’t do this for a PhD. I literally cannot think of a situation in which it would be worth it to pay 5-7 years of tuition for this degree. Any program worth its salt will pay you to be there.
  • What program will you attend, and who will you seek to work with there? I only applied to programs that I would’ve been thrilled to attend - which meant I only applied to three. Lots of people apply to closer to/over 10 programs, including ‘safety schools’ they believe they’re more likely to get into. For me, it was always more about getting to do the kind of work I want with the kind of mentors I was looking for than it was about getting a PhD at any cost. I chose a program where several faculty members would influence my work in ways that excite me (which turned out to be for the best, as my advisor left for another university in the middle of my program), so the entire intellectual community of my program is one that’s exciting and helpful for me and my work. If you have a way of getting this information, I also suggest you try to find out what kind of advisor your desired mentor is - I know that there are some scholars in my field who I would not have had a good time working with just because of personalities, and my happiness is something that’s important to me even as I slog through the work!
  • Are you okay feeling like you’ve put things on hold, in even just a small way, for 5-7 years? My colleagues and I are all committed to having as full lives as possible, with families and wide circles of friends and hobbies and other things we’re committed to, but all of that takes a lot of work. And even with those things, depending on what stage of life you’re at, there might be things that you find need to wait until you’re done or almost done - buying a house, having a baby, etc. etc.
  • Related to the last one: Where are you in life generally? I was just barely 22 when I started my program, only 3 months out of my undergraduate degree, where I’d lived in a house with a cook and a cleaning crew and, despite working very hard at my schoolwork and jobs, had not done a lot of the ‘grown up’ day-to-day life maintenance stuff myself. My first year in my program was so difficult because I was juggling learning how to be an adult with learning how to be a graduate student and learning how to be a teacher and learning the actual material of my courses. It was a lot, and I also gave up my young-20′s party girl lifestyle to move to a college town where I was closer in age to my students, but couldn’t go out without feeling anxious that I would run into one of them. In the end, this is what I needed - I grew up, and I figured out my mental health (in time), and I committed myself to the kind of politics and pedagogy and lifestyle that I had come to my program in search of - but this would’ve been a bad move for tons of other people. If you’re just finishing up undergrad, unless there is a particularly compelling reason to go straight through to the PhD (in my case I like to believe there was, though I’m not entirely certain how much of that is a rationalization I’ve built up for myself after the fact), I would not recommend starting a PhD right away. My friends and colleagues who took even just a year off seem to have had an infinitely easier time coming back and feeling good about the decision and being able to juggle it all.
  • And if you do decide to start a PhD, here’s what I think is one of the most important things to know - you probably will, and probably should, have at least one period of time where you question whether or not this is the right thing for you. I’d be concerned if a friend who had committed themself to the amount of work a PhD program throws on you never once had a moment of ‘dear jesus mary and joesph is this what i want to be doing for the rest of my life’ (because while it ends, in a certain sense, when you graduate, the life of an academic proceeds in similar ways for quite a long time from my understanding). I had two big moments like this in my life - and admittedly, one of them was on Election Night 2016 when the results became apparent, so that’s less related to my desire to do academic work and more related to what I thought the world needed from me moving forward. They were both important moments. You need to let yourself have them. And if the answer to the question “do I want to keep doing this” (not “am I cut out for this?” though, that’s a different question entirely that I ask myself most days) is a resounding ‘no,’ or even a whispered ‘no,’  you should take it seriously and figure out what it means to leave graduate school. Especially for PhD students, it’s hard to see leaving the academy as anything but giving up or a failure, but it’s literally not. The academy, by and large, is a horrible place. PhD programs, by and large, are peddling knowledge that will do little good to a lot of people and offers hardly any future job security in a lot of fields. Yes, it can be right for some folks depending on their wants/needs, but it doesn’t have to be right for everyone, and you can realize that at any time. 

SO YES, THIS IS A VERY LONG SET OF QUESTIONS AND THOUGHTS but that’s because taking on a PhD is a very big choice and commitment, at least for the time that you’re working on it. And the academy is exclusive and ableist and racist and sexist and homophobic and cissexist and classist as hell, and so especially for those of use who are women and lgbtq and have mental illnesses and/or disabilities and for those who are not white or citizens or American (presuming you’re considering the American academy, which is all I can really speak to despite the feeling that it’s no better in many other places), we need to think long and hard about whether putting ourselves in the position of being further exploited, further burdened, further beaten down is worth the end goal. I’m certainly hoping that it will be for me - I love the work I do, I love to teach, and I love the smart and compassionate colleagues I’m lucky enough to call friends. But it’s a big commitment, and so I hope you all take the time to think it through! I’m always happy to talk through it with you, so drop a line if you need!

5 More Tips For Incoming Freshmen

( a sequel post ) 

1. Don’t be afraid to explore outside of your major; whether it’s just for fun (taking a literature or art class just for kicks) or because you’re genuinely interested in pursuing something new and different.

  • If you find that you love the new thing you’re studying there’s nothing wrong with changing your major, picking up a minor, or looking into the avenue of double majoring. Talk to your advisor, find out about peer advising in the department you’re interested in and pursue it; this is your chance to make sure that you’re really going down the road you want to be on.
  • Also don’t let anyone tell you that it’s sill to get a minor in something totally “unrelated” to your field: everything is related and it’s all going to help you in the long run! You’re a STEM who wants to get a minor in studio art? That’s amazing! It’s going to help you so much! All STEM fields require so much creativity, developing your artistic ability is going to be such an asset! If you’re interested in language, literature, philosophy? That’s also great! It shows a devotion to communication skills and will help you develop new ways of thinking! If you’re in the arts and you want to study computer science? HELL YES! Build your own website! Create a video game! Or just be able to fix anything that comes up at whatever job you work at in the future! Literally any topic you think of is going to be useful for whatever career path you’ve chosen.
  • And along those lines; YOU are the human who will be doing the careering down the path so you get to choose. I’m not saying choose just whatever old thing makes you happy; make sure it’s something you know that you can do and want to do as a career but if you want to study it, if you’re devoted to making it into something then you can do it and there is help on your campus to get you there so don’t be afraid if you need to make a change.
  • I consider changing my major a minimum of three times per quarter. Don’t be afraid to explore, investigate what makes you happy and brings you joy, find out what you want to be and who you want to be; college is a building block for creating that person.
2. Related but on a slightly different note; try something new and different. Try something for no other reason than because everyone back home will say “YOU DID WHAT?” when they hear. My thing was rugby.

  • Turns out my 5”3, non-athletic self LOVES rugby. I don’t have the time to devote to it that it requires and I was too sick this last year to play but rugby = LOVE in my book and I never would have known that if a friend hadn’t suggested it and then dragged me out there. This year I think my thing is going to be swing dancing, I have some friends who do it and it sounds wild and like a lot of crazy fun work.
  • So look up the clubs on campus and find a thing that sounds cool and new and WILD.
  • For you it might be a writing club or something involving music, or improv, or acting, or dance, or soccer! But get out of your comfort zone even if you only go to one meeting or event; you’ll have that memory forever and it’ll be a great story if nothing else.

3.  On a completely different note: put the follow numbers in your phone 1) the non-emergent campus safety, 2) the emergent campus safety, 3) whatever kind of “safe ride” your university offers if they have one (they probably do, if you can’t find it online call and ask the non-emergent line about it). Do this before you even get to campus.

  • The non-emergent line is good for when you’ve stayed late at the library and you’re a little bit wary of walking home alone for the first time at 2am; they’ll send a night guard to escort you home; I swear this is not a weird request, they totally understand that campus looks creepy at night, they’re entire job description is to keep you safe.
  • The emergent line (I hope you never have to use it) is what you should call if you ever need 911 while on campus, they’ll contact emergency responders and coordinate them to where you are on campus.
  • The safe ride home is a service you should absolutely utilize; almost every school I know has some version of it these days.

4. You’re probably going to get lonely, homesick, or exhausted to the point of tears. No matter how many friends you make, how much you go home (or don’t want to go home), or how well you take care of yourself one of these things is likely to happen.

I would like to let you know that:

A) your roommate is not going to think any less of you because you need to have a good cry 

B) psych services on campus will offer some sort of one time (or series of two or three) visit sessions for dealing with this; use it.

A lot of the time you need someone who is outside of the situation to help you reset after a big emotional outburst even once you’ve started to feel a little bit more okay. If you feel off for more than two or three days go to psych services and talk to someone; there’s no minimum requirement of “issue” to talk to someone.

5. In addition to all of the wonderful things you’ve already bought for your dorm do yourself a favor and put together a “sick” basket; a can of your favorite soup, some crackers, cold and flu medicine, cough drops, tissues (full size and backpack), eye drops, ginger ale, and your go to feel good low caffeine tea (mine is throat coat).

Bonus tip; get a multivitamin! You’re probably about to go from living with people you’ve shared a home with for years to living with strangers who come from all over who have all sorts of different germs than you. My big recommendation is that you get a multivitamin before you move in and go ahead and start taking it as soon as possible; give your immune system a good boost so that it has a better fighting chance. Getting sick the first few weeks of school is a sucky way to start college.

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Other college tips from me and ones that I think are v cool :)

Good luck!


Ariadne Lavellan | Inquisitor, Knight Enchanter, Cullenmancer

Ari is flirty, shameless, and can’t keep a good comeback to herself. She’s curious and compassionate, two traits that got her into this mess in the first place, and has done her best to take this whole saving the world thing into stride. She’ll deny the whole “Herald” thing to anyone who doesn’t need to believe in it to get through the day, and is solidly agnostic when it comes to the Elven gods. 

Before she became the Inquisitor, Ari and her twin brother, Attis, spent years guarding clan Lavellan’s trading expeditions, which took them all over Thedas. Over the course of their travels they perfected their flirting and bar fighting skills, and Ari read everything she could get her hands on. After years of travelling, the clan’s Keeper sent her off to spy on the Conclave, and that’s when things really got interesting. 

Other facts because I am too lazy to string them into proper paragraphs;

  • Has to use a lot of product/magic to keep her hair looking like that; actual hair is incredibly curly. Merida levels of curly. She’s does not like it. 
    • Cullen loves her curly hair, and Ari loves Cullen’s curly hair. 
    • They both steal each others hair products with varying degrees of success.
  • Runs into angry bears a lot, but only one of her more prominent scars is from one.
  • Two of her facial scars are courtesy of her twin brother.
  • Even though she’s super sassy/flirty, she’s very straightforward when it matters. She likes knowing exactly where she stands with people, and wants them to know the same. She values honesty, and hates it when people lie to her.
  • Very physically affectionate with people she cares about.
    • The servants are never surprised when they come to check on the fires in the war room after a long night to find the Advisors and the Inquisitor sleeping in a pile on the sofa. 
  • Super curious, wants to learn all of the things.
  • Has two Harts; Zeva, who she trained herself, and Tego, who was a gift from someone after she joined the Inquisition.
    • Zeva is huge and opinionated, Tego is small and afraid of all of the things.
  • Varric’s nickname for her is Twist.
Protector | Part 1

Pairing: Vixx Leo x Reader

Genre: Royal!AU

Summary: A threat is closing in on the Kingdom. How can the Princess protect her Kingdom when she’s causing trouble all on her own? The Kingdom needs him. The Princess needs her Protector.

Read more: Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 | Part 4 | Part 5 | Part 6 | Part 7 | Part 8

“Find her!” The King’s voice boomed throughout the throne room. His loyal guards and servants sent scurrying to pass on the message through the kingdom. All of them knew what would happen if they didn’t quickly obey the King in a good mood, let alone when he was furious.

The King rubbed his temples in frustration. How could this have happened again? He thought he had made all of the adjustments to stop this from occurring again.

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“Fallen” for Alex

Happy (Belated) Birthday to @ghoulishcyclops! I wasn’t sure if I was going to be able to turn something out this year since I’m having a bit of a block but I really wanted to try to make something for you at least. It’s no masterpiece but I hope you like it anyway. Thanks for being a spectacular friend all these years and I hope your birthday was great!

Cross could barely fathom what he had just endured. He had rushed with his brigade to the top of the Castle of the Gold Dragon to slay his next glorious prey only to find the advisor to the lord chamberlain of all people—Lord Lucian standing there, waiting for him with a faint smirk on his lips.

The overzealous knight barely had time to formulate a question to ask the man. What was he doing here? How did he get here? Why was he here?

Lucian had simply smiled, thanking Cross for the slaying of the earth dragon before transforming into Aphelion, the silver dragon himself and leaving the young man in a state of shock and disbelief. Taking advantage of this, Aphelion took the opportunity to strike down the knight captain and his brigade with barely any effort at all.

Cross was now lying on the floor of the castle’s altar, beaten and bloodied. His entire brigade was wiped out completely and the silver dragon transformed back into human form as if nothing ever happened. Lucian left Cross alone to die and the knight could do nothing but lay there, defenseless and dishonoured. Had Cross had the strength to move, he would have used every ounce of energy he had to retreat but he was a sitting duck.

After Lucian left, the sound of footsteps coming once more startled him. He was certain he was coming back to finish him off. Lucian had indeed returned but to Cross’s surprise, he was accompanied by Jack, that impudent loud-mouth country boy who had the nerve to call himself a knight. He was surprised that the boy had even made it this far. For as much as Cross hated everything about Jack, he was glad to see him for once.

Jack didn’t seem to notice Cross at his feet at first. Cross mustered up the energy to call out to him, “J-Jack! Don’t… let him fool you!!!”

you ever think chowder and lardo smoke and watch episodes of a korean drama (”boys over flowers is a modern shitshow. i love it.”) or bob ross on netflix in the bathroom. 

maybe, they’re not smoking and painting their nails in the bathroom at three in the morning. maybe they’re out on the reading room, or like driving thirty minutes out of samwell to find an decent boba place–“i mean, for the east coast”. 

maybe chowder picks up journaling again and he asks lardo about what she feels when her parents come into town. 

maybe for lunar new year’s, lardo takes chowder to boston. 

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I’ve heard sorting characters in a series into Harry Potter houses can bring discord, chaos, opinions, conflict, controversy, divide


As a disclaimer, the accuracy of this is probably not as accurate as it could be; I’ve only watched the first and last two Harry Potters, so I really don’t quite understand it and my sortings and assumptions and inferences are solely based on what I’ve read online about it (and doing Pottermore myself) (apparently I’m Hufflepuff)

AS YOU CAN SEE in the picture above, I have:

  • Gryfindor: Azusa
  • Hufflepuff: Yui and Mugi
  • Ravenclaw: Mio
  • Slytherin: Ritsu

I’m sure already someone somewhere is like “WHAT NO SHE BELONGS IN THIS” and “WHAT IS KIM ON THIS IS SO OFF”

These are the basic understandings of the houses that I have, so keep that in mind as we proceed:

  • Gryfindor values bravery
  • Ravenclaw values knowledge
  • Hufflepuff values harmony and hard work
  • Slytherin are dicks (ambition/achievement through cunning actions)

So let’s take this apart as per my brain enjoy friends:

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Choosing an Advisor

Finding some who matches your research interest(s), primary field, secondary field, regional specialty, theoretical inclinations, work ethic, life philosophy, etc but also has networks, name recognition, etc who will also push for your success in ways unbeknownst to you AND is someone you respect, like, get along with, and can see a happy future with makes me want cry.

Oh. And even though it takes time to cultivate some of these traits, their AGE could offset everything. And gender.

Choosing an advisor > finding a partner

Everyone knew that time would come, but none had expected it to be this fast. Sinbad tried to dress Ja’far in the most beautiful robes he could find, his advisor deserved them. But in the end they let him wear his old, official robes. Ja’far loved them and his friends knew that Ja’far’s last moments on the planet had to be in a way he wanted it to be.

I think the death fics finally killed me

Not sure I understand the hate towards Tyrion from this latest episode. As far as I’m aware, all Tyrion knows about Theon is that he betrayed the Starks, and in part led to their downfall. He does not know the reason for his betrayal, and he certainly does not know the extent of his suffering. So when he said that Theon deserved to die, he was in part justified given his limited awareness. I’m not excusing what Tyrion said, but as viewers/readers, we have a unique insight into the minds of all these characters, and we should not expect them to behave as if they have our knowledge.

totalsillyfilly  asked:

hi, i need some help. i am trying to start a Gay Straight Alliance at school and I was wondering if you had any tips? What to do and what not to do? Thank you so much!

Hi! First off, sorry for the delay. I’m so bad at asks.

Second, I’d recommend looking at the resources from GSA Network and GLSEN for solid advice on starting a GSA. The basic steps are to find an advisor, find members, start having meetings, and decide on your priority project(s) for the year, whether that’s introducing gender-neutral bathrooms at your school, advocating for a local nondiscrimination ordinance, or providing a safe place for LGBT+ students at your school to find support. That can be a lot for the beginning, though, and you don’t have to tackle it all at once. So, starting off with finding an advisor, members and a meeting time is plenty! 

I’m not sure what to say for what *not* to do besides the obvious – don’t be mean. Make your GSA safe for everyone, no matter how many identities or experiences someone is bringing into the space. Assume everyone is there for a good reason. If something happens that makes someone feel unsafe or unsupported, address it and fix it. And enjoy yourselves – GSA should be fun! 

Congratulations on taking on such an important project, and good luck! <3

so you wanna change your major: a guide to deciding what you want to do with your life

let me start off by saying this: it is never too late to change your major. unless you are in a dire financial situation, don’t let anyone tell you that it’s too late to change your major. whether you’re a second semester freshman, a sophomore, a second semester junior, or even a senior- it’s not too late. i promise.

i was a junior when i decided to change my major. i changed it the the summer before what was supposed to be my senior year. it added another year to my college career but i am so much happier. i don’t mind the extra loans. i don’t mind delaying going out into the ‘real world’. i don’t mind being a super senior.

you know why? because none of that matters if you’re miserable in a major you don’t love, you don’t understand or don’t feel confident in. if you aren’t doing very well in your major classes and you continue to push yourself to stay in the major, it can really hurt your gpa. (trust me, i’ve experienced this first-hand).  if you aren’t passionate for what you’re learning, your interest will fizzle out, no matter what your parents are pressuring you into doing or how big a pay check you’ll earn coming out of college.

all of these things kept me in a major that wasn’t right for me for two years and my gpa will never get over a 3.2, even if i get all As for the rest of my time in college.

don’t be like me, kids. here’s what i wish someone would have told me while i was battling with my accounting major:

  • don’t force yourself to keep going. this can really hurt you academically, emotionally and mentally. if you’re having a hard time or you’re miserable, and you’re forcing yourself into a major, it’s only going to hurt you in the long run. forcing yourself can irreparably damage your gpa and exacerbate mental illnesses, if you have them. even without mental illness, you’re still putting a huge amount of stress on yourself. you don’t deserve that! you deserve to be happy and successful!!
  • your reasons for wanting to change are valid. changing your major is a very, very personal decision. i know that some of you are pressured heavily into career paths by your parents and i wish i knew what to tell you. i’ve never been in that situation (my parents are a little too hands off) and i hope that someone else in the community can help you! but to those of you who have more freedom to choose your academic careers, don’t talk yourself down or invalidate your feelings for wanting to switch majors. if you’re seriously considering it, there’s probably a really good reason why. you could have the program, not excel at the courses, feel uncomfortable in your program, feel like these courses aren’t for you… that’s not an excuse! no matter what your pushy teachers, friends or parents might tell you. those are good damn reasons to change your major.
  • if you aren’t happy, reconsider your major. you could excel at your courses all you want, but if you’re unhappy with where your academic career is headed, consider changing to something you’re absolutely in love with. and if you aren’t sure what you’re in love with, that brings me to my next point…
  • take as many spare classes exploring different topics that you can. this is particularly helpful for underclassmen. taking some extra classes along with your gen eds, or taking gen eds you think are interesting rather than ‘normal’, can really help you figure out what kind of class you like. maybe you’ll meet an amazing professor who will guide you through the rest of your school career; maybe you’ll find a subject that fascinates you; maybe you’ll find out you’re really good at something you had never thought of doing before. all of these experiences can help you find your calling.
  • meet with your advisor!!! i’ll admit, this might not really help some of you if your academic advisor is as useless as my accounting major one was. but if there’s a major you’re interested in, you can always talk to that major’s advisor to get a feel for the course load and what to expect in your classes. your advisors can help you figure out what professors will work for you and they can recommend what classes to take when or with what so you aren’t overwhelmed during the semester. if you’re questioning your major, the advisors can help you figure out what’s not working for you and see if that can be fixed, or they can help you find a different major that suits you better. they’re there to help you!!
  • your major does not necessarily determine you career path. this something that a lot of people don’t really tell underclassmen, but coming out of college with an english degree doesn’t mean that you have to teach, and coming out of school with a business major doesn’t mean you have to go start your own business. even if you’re completing a major and you aren’t so sure about the jobs that that degree is usually ‘used for’, put your feelers out there for other opportunities! a lot of lawyershmajored in english for undergrad, and a lot of business execs started off as non-business undergrads. literally try for anything.
  • it’s okay to be undeclared! don’t let your peers declaring early pressure you into trying to find a major to pigeon-hole yourself in. some freshmen declare they’re first semester and some sophomores declare at the end of their second semester. when you declare doesn’t matter as long as you are happy with your decision! it’s okay to take longer than ‘everyone else’ to figure out what you want to do.
  • the average undergrad changes their major 2 to 3 times while they’re in school. and it’s okay to be that person that changes 3 or 4 times! your friends might give you shit for it and your advisors might not like being jerked around but what ultimately matters is your happiness, health, and peace of mind.
  • if you’re having an extremely hard time with your course work due to mental illness, but still want to pursue your major, go to counselling services if you are able. i cannot stress how important this is. at my university, at least, if you see a counselor a few times and you’re really, really, really struggling with your work, you can medically withdraw from the class or classes you need to, and it won’t affect your gpa. i don’t know if all universities do this, but i really hope they do. i learned about my school’s policy on this after my Semester of Hell and i’m real upset i didn’t think to go to counselling earlier to see if something like that could happen. asking never hurts!

there you have it! advice i wish someone had told suffering-junior-year-me. i hope this helps some of you decide to make a change or stick something out. be gentle with yourself and put yourself first.

- KL