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(170224) Hyungwon in KBS2 ‘Find Her’ (preview)

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(170224) KBS2 ‘Find Her’ preview

This idea that all lesbians or even most lesbians are out here spouting “gold star ideology,” which by the way is not a full ideology at all but a single bad opinion, is silly and full stop just not correct. “Gold star lesbian” when used to decry lesbians who are BAD lesbians is homophobic nonsense, period. Are there lesbians who believe that women who have ever had sexual or romantic contact with men are categorically not gay? Sure! But they are a tiny fraction of lesbians, and most lesbians didn’t hop out of the womb understanding our sexualities. Many took years to figure it out, to even learn what attraction actually felt like, and are very sympathetic to women not having had the stereotypical TV “child figures it out by 5 years old” narrative, because we know that isn’t how most women figure themselves out- we know statistically that lesbians tend to figure it out later than gay men, that there are subsets of lesbians more categorically prone to taking longer to figure it out for any number of reasons. So I’m sorry but if you think “Um I won’t listen to gold star lesbians” really translates to anything but “Um if you’ve never fucked men then I don’t care about you,” which sounds a lot more homophobic when you translate it out, then you’re kidding yourself. And ANYWAY if “gold star ideology” was real, it would be homophobic, not biphobic, since the people it affects are literally gay people. Everybody who’s not one just stop talking about lesbians honestly because most of you don’t know shit.