No, your child doesn’t do weird things “for no reason”. They do it for a reason, you just don’t know it yet. You have different brains, different perspectives, so sometimes things that are obvious to them are a mystery to you. But you don’t have to ignore it and blame it on them. You can make an effort, reach out to them and figure out the reason.
Do they scream in public when it looks like everything is okay? Well, there’s probably a reason for that. Maybe the situation is overwhelming to their senses, it’s too loud, to bright, to crowded, and they need some space and time to recover. Maybe they can’t stim because other people keep telling them it looks weird, so they end up exhausted much faster. Maybe you are breaking their routine by being outside at this time. Or maybe you are going through the supermarket “the wrong way”, not how you usually do it. Maybe they forgot their comfort object at home, and just realized that. Maybe they are in pain and can’t communicate that. Maybe they are very hungry and don’t realize that yet because it’s hard for them to recognize their needs and emotions. Maybe it’s a combination of those, or something different altogether.
Either way, they probably don’t do it “for no reason”. You just don’t see the reason. Make an effort to communicate. If they are verbal, ask them. If they can’t speak with their mouth at the moment or ever, use alternative methods of communication. If they can’t explain it, consult other autistic people, including autistic adults who probably have a bunch of ideas as to why your child does that weird thing. Don’t dismiss it, don’t complain about it, don’t blame your child for doing it. Try to see the world from their perspective. Respect their needs and feelings. Learn more about autism from other autistic people.
And life will be much better and easier for both you and your child.
one thing that bugs me on jtv? the complete lack of acknowledgement of what petra’s been through. petra is an abuse survivor. the one constant presence in her life is a mother who amongst other things has threatened her, belittled her, constantly gaslights her, all for her own selfish gains. struggles through post-partum depression. discovers she has a twin- who could have become the family petra so desperately needs who drugs her, assumes her identity and tries to screw her over. watches her husband who she really does love fall in love with another woman whilst said woman is carrying the child she wanted so much. not to mention being kidnapped, suffering a late term miscarriage and feeling inferior to jane. and like? there is barely any mention of petra’s past. the only thing they bring up are her mistakes- which yes are a lot, and yes she has done some terrible things, but geez. please let petra go to therapy!!!!! please let petra be happy!!!!!!
one of the things I noticed after joining the lucifer fandom was the incredible amount of people who shipped both deckerstar and captain swan (OUAT). no wonder as the ships are, in a way, similar (beautiful badass blonde + Bad Boy™)
does it mean that… we as a fandom… have a type?
I’m very curious to find out how many of us are here, so please, reblog if you ship both of them. thanks!
Publishing work is intimidating; publishing something that you’ve been working on for months, something with a heavy word count and a lot of people involved, is even scarier. You never want to be torn down for something that you’ve spent so much time on. Fortunately, this fandom is typically very encouraging.
I know how it feels to post a monster fic, and to be so excited for people to read it. It’s exhausting and nerve wrecking but most of all, it feels like relief.
With that being said, @tvshows-addict and @anhcor just released a massive fic called Where Your Heart Is. I chat with some of the people (or rather, person) working behind the scenes to help make this story come to fruition, and I know it’s been labor intensive and a lot of work for everyone involved. When a community has come together to create something this big - a community clearly filled with love and support - you know it’s something special. I haven’t read the fic yet - let’s be real, it’s 155k, unless I’m a robot, I obviously haven’t read it yet - but knowing that this fic has been in the works for months and has had so many people actively taking part in it makes me think it has to be good ;) Congrats to the writers and betas! (Now go take a nap!) xx
The first time you’re seven and he’s turning nine. You don’t know what to give him really; there isn’t much money at home and the last frog you gave him ran off, so there’s not much to do.
You find baseball cards though, his favorite team, in the alley behind the grocer’s, and they put the moon in his eyes. It’s a good gift.
The fifth time you’re eleven and he’s turning thirteen. It’s still hard to find something, more so because somehow you’ve managed to find the perfect thing every other time. He says he doesn’t need anything and you believe him; he’s the kind of person to say that and mean it, every time. But the thing is, you think to yourself in the kitchen, he’s the kind of person who deserves it even more just because he always says he doesn’t need anything.
It’s not so much the needs as it is the wants, you reason, and that’s why you ask your mother for help with cookies.
The eleventh time you’re seventeen and he’s turning nineteen. You’ve got an idea for this present but you’re nervous; your mother asked you where you were going so dressed up and you said dancing, which isn’t a lie, and yet. Your gift lies outside of dancing. You get to the dance hall and he’s there with a girl and something curls inside your chest. In your head it’s like a dragon wrapping around your gift to him, and you think about leaving. But then he smiles and pushes away from her to come to you, and when you hug him he lingers and you’re very much aware of his hands between your shoulders and on your lower back. He says something about your outfit and says you look sharp and that’s enough to make you stay.
Randomly put personal pictures I took and posted at another site. Idk if it can describe personality or not. I used to love taking picture of things I found nice, except that bunny one was my husband’s doing (and I edited it) LOL, but now not so much.
Anyways, sorry if it’s so not aesthetic. More like basic hipster LOL.
IF YOU GET INTO AN ARGUMENT WITH SOMEONE AND EDIT THEIR RESPONSE TO MAKE THEM LOOK LIKE AN IDIOT OR STROKE YOUR OWN EGO, THEN YOU AUTOMATICALLY LOSE THE ARGUMENT. NO DISCUSSION. EVEN IF YOU WERE WINNING, YOU LOSE. YOU JUST THREW AWAY ALL SENSE OF MATURITY AND RESORTED TO TACTICS SO IMMATURE, KINDERGARTEN KIDS KNOW BETTER. YOU IDIOTIC SHITGREMLIN. IF YOU DO THIS, I WILL DISCREDIT YOU AND OPPOSE YOU AND ALL YOU STAND FOR OUT OF PURE SPITE AND BURNING HATRED. IF YOU EDIT RESPONSES, GO FUCK YOURSELF, WITH A FORK.
VIXX-OTPS has reached its third year and has achieved 20,110+ followers! I hope you all enjoyed the 15-day countdown this year and thank you very much for these 3 years! ♥ I hope we would be able to celebrate again next year~