filipino kid

Filipina-British-American Immigrant

Hey everyone! I’ve been following this tumblr for a while and I love it. Not only has it addressed problematic representations of Asian people in the past, I have also learned a lot on portraying other non-Asian people of colour. I’m currently working on an alternate universe-dystopian novel where the Cold War turned “hot” but with people of colour as the main characters. I have come across novels that portray this, but it’s often from a white person’s perspective.

While I am fully Filipina by blood, I identify as a Fil-Brit-Am: born in the Philippines, lived in England for 12 years and currently live in America. Below is what I have experienced and/or observed.

Beauty Standards

Just like what some people have said on here, whiter = more attractive. In the Philippines, walk into any beauty store and you’ll instantly see tons of skin-whitening products. With women, pale skin was a beauty staple; with men, being handsome meant being “tall and dark”, but not “too dark”. In England, it was such a double standard. I went to a mainly white secondary/high school where for white girls, it was attractive to have tanned skin (the more tan = more attractive) while girls of colour were seen as the opposite. In America, you were “exotic” (my situation) or shamed.

Daily Struggles/Culture

Oh man. Balancing conservative Filipino values with those of the less conservative English was a struggle, especially going through puberty. While it was normal for my friends to hang out in the park after school everyday, date who they wanted and just get home before it was dark, my parents gave me a strict curfew (always way earlier than when my friends would go home) and pressured me to not date until finishing college. Back then, I resented my parents for what I saw as my lack of freedom. Looking back now, I understand why. We lived in a neighbourhood where crime was relatively high and during the time, it was also where a surge of immigrants from East Asia flowed into the UK. As you can imagine, our presence wasn’t welcomed. My parents were simply trying to protect me.

Dating and Relationships

For a lot of immigrants, education was THE way to progress to a more secure future. During my teenage years, my parents emphasized this with the whole “no dating until you finish college and have at least some form of a stable job”. They mellowed out after some time. In some talks with my mother, she said that my dad and her would prefer me to marry a Filipino because they would have a better understanding of our culture. However, if he is a good man, loving etc, the race wouldn’t matter. 

Food

In England, I discovered staples such as the “English breakfast”, cake with custard, scones, fish and chips, Indian curry while keeping to Filipino dishes at home (adobo, pancit anyone?). Even though I had the option to bring lunch to school, I decided to have meals from the cafeteria. Whether that was from a moment of other children thinking my lunch food was weird or I feared of being seen as different, I can’t remember. In America (with more diverse communities anyway), they’re more open to food of other cultures.

History Repeating in the Workplace

Philippines - you’ve guessed it: colonialism. From beauty standards to power, whiteness is seen as the best. Just like another poster has said, it makes me sad that Filipino culture has been eradicated through the ages and that I never got to experience it.

England and America - Having benefited from colonialism, there is a lot of colonial mentality (though subtle). From stories I’ve been told from my parents and their generation, this is common in workplaces. White people are fine working with people of colour until they hear that a person of colour is applying to be their manager. Then they suddenly have a problem (with the whole mentality of “people of colour can’t be leaders” crap). 

Identity Issues

With three cultures part of my identity, I never really knew what my identity was or even how to identify myself. I always had the feeling of “belonging everywhere and nowhere” at the same time. it was only until last year that I discovered a term for it: third culture kid (or fourth for me I guess). Third culture kids are people who have developed multiple cultures from having lived in multiple places: one from their parents’ culture, one they grew up in and the third being a combination of the two. It has helped me with my depression, as it stemmed from the fact that I had no label to call myself while everybody else seemed to. If you are like me, I would suggest the book Third Culture Kids: Growing Up Among Worlds by Ruth E. Van Reken and David C. Pollock. It helped me a lot.

Misconception/Micro-aggression/Religion

In England, discrimination was more towards the Asian community (in particular, the Muslim community despite living there for a long time). In secondary school (high school), I had the typical comments of “chink” and talking to me in a mocking Chinese accent. I remember one time when a guy asked me where I was from - I answered “Philippines” and he immediately said, “so basically Japan?” *rolls eyes* 

As I was raised Catholic, the family went to church every Sunday. After some time, due to some pressure from my mother, I became an altar server. We became pretty close to the church community. What I didn’t remember is when we first attended mass, (as my parents told me later) they had openly looked at us with disgust. This shocked me as I couldn’t imagine the church goers being so mean. Talk about “loving your neighbour”. Makes me wonder what would have happened if I didn’t become an altar server…

Things I’d like to see less of

- Asian women being portrayed as submissive, shy, petite or as the Dragon Lady

- Asian women only being seen as scientists (with the whole smart, nerdy Asian trope). What about writers? Mechanics? Musicians? Leaders even?! One of my characters is an Asian woman who is an investigative journalist.

Thing’s I’d like to see more of 

- Asian people being friends with or at least, being respectful towards non-Asian people of colour (in particular, black people). It’s my hope that my generation and the ones after ours will bridge that gap.

- That writers of colour get more representation. 

I look forward to learning more from y'all!!

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Because there's still people who say this...

Lars’ descendance and culture has not magically gotten erased because of him turning pink. Lars is still the same Filipino kid he’s always been. He’s just pink. And for those that are saying it’s whitewashing, whitewashing is not only making a previously POC character white, but erasing all of that character’s previously established culture. Lars turning pink is not whitewashing, nor racist. Again, he’s still the same Filipino kid we’ve gotten to know.

Originally posted by sadiebarrigaofficial

Originally posted by aquamaspleen

Growing up as a Filipino kid in America who loved reading comic books, I didn’t see original, leading Asian (especially Filipino) superheroes in the mainstream. When you don’t see yourself or your experiences reflected in heroes in pop culture, it’s damaging. Now that I’m older and see that not much has changed, I realize how important it is to create narratives for the underrepresented, especially the next generation of kids who don’t feel like they belong. In honor of Asian-American & Pacific Islander Heritage month, here is what I imagine a mainstream Filipino superhero in America might look like.

i will never forget when me and some pals on here went to mega64′s anime expo panel in 2015 and they opened it up with a low res filipino kid linkin park music video

anonymous asked:

Whenever someone whines about how SU characters don't need to talk about their race out loud bc it's not realistic, I remember how in We Bare Bears, they made it clear Chloe is Korean by having her family speak Korean and show some Korean traditions in her home. They did it in Arthur w/ Francine and in Sesame Street back then too, don't try to tell me it's impossible to tell children that a character is Filipino or Indian. jfc kids aren't stupid and it shouldn't be a censored topic to begin with

and like why put all this effort to make a diverse cast, pat yourself on the back for “representing children” and then refuse to expand on their culture

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Happy Asian Invasion Day bishes. 

I’m Filipino and proud af and here’s my story: I moved to the UK from a young age, and at the time of my arrival, the Filipino community at the time, from what I can remember, was tiny compared to now (I didn’t know any Filipino kids of my age). So I felt completely alone and I did enter this phase where I guess it felt weird to be so different. I mean, at my 2nd school, all the children were white except for me and my friend who I’m still friends with now, and her family is from Sudan, and looking back from now, that really did screw up with how I saw myself. This just goes to show how important representation and diversity is in our everyday lives, given the fact that the world we live in is constantly changing and evolving in the way it is today. 

But moving on to now, and it’s so different and I did change, and I did get out of that self-loathing phase, and I love, accept, and celebrate the heritage I was born with, and along with parts of the culture I absorbed growing up here. I see myself as an amalgamation of both cultures and I don’t really care if people think otherwise because I’m happy with what I’ve achieved and with how I’ve represented the cultures that I will always be proud to be a part of. I hope I can become the person that my younger self needed to learn from and aspire to be to avoid the poisonous self hatred. 

(BMC/Harry Potter AU) Sorting headcanons, pt 1

-Jeremy Heere has been called many things in his life: bird, beanpole, stick insect
-He hates nicknames
-But wizard?
-Yeah, he can go with that
-Now he’s finally 11
-He can’t wait to learn all the cool magic tricks you get to learn at Hogwarts
-(He really hopes that part of the curriculum includes pulling rabbits out of hats, even though his dad has told him countless times it’s not)
-He rides the train impatiently, feet tapping and face pressed up against the window
-At some point, a Filipino kid sits down across from him but Jeremy doesn’t pay much attention
-Which is just as well, really, since the kid immediately puts on these huge headphones and blocks the hell out of him
-Do headphones even work here? Jeremy has no idea
-Finally, they reach Hogwarts
-Jeremy sits down for his Sorting
-The Sorting Hat falls down to his nose
-He hears hears some snickers, but that’s okay, because he’s /finally being Sorted!!/
-Then the hat shouts ‘SLYTHERIN!’
-Jeremy has no idea what that means
-It’s the first time since he’s been here that this word has been used
-He smiles and pulls the hat off
-From his left, he can hear cheering
-But from his right, and from everywhere else really, a much louder sound drowns it out
- ‘BOOOOOOO!’
-Jeremy Heere, age 11, can only stare as ¾ of the school boos him
-Then someone pushes him, and he stumbles off to the left
-Some people from neighboring tables are still booing him
-He feels sick
- ‘Michael Mell!’
-Jeremy looks up as the next kid takes the floor
-Huh, it’s that Filipino headphone guy he was sitting with on the train
-Jeremy can’t help but notice what bad condition his robes are in
-They’re a huge lumpy mess of gray and black, like someone started a patchwork quilt but gave up half way
-On the arms of his robes, a bunch of patches are sewed
-Jeremy wonders what they mean
-He also feels a little better about himself
-Michael sits down, and puts the hat on
-Barely a second passes before the hat screams, ‘HUFFLEPUFF!’
-Michael is met with much more cheering than Jeremy was
-Jeremy watches him enviously as he pulls the hat off and swaggers to his table
-But then, just as everyone’s attention is on the next kid being Sorted (some girl named Brooke) he veers left
-He nudges Jeremy aside and sits down at his table
-/At the wrong table/
-He grins
-He’s wearing braces
- ‘Wow, people here are jerks, huh?’
-Jeremy can only blink at him
- ‘You’re… Uh… Um… At the, er, wrong table…?’
-He kicks himself mentally for all his verbal tics. Michael probably thinks he’s an idiot now
-(Michael doesn’t)
- ‘I can leave if you want me to. I just thought maybe you wanted some backup.’
‘B-backup?’
-Michael nods and leans forward earnestly
-He has nice eyes, even behind the glasses
- ‘I just thought maybe you wanted a friend.’
-Jeremy doesn’t know what to say
-This kid doesn’t even know him, and yet here he is breaking school rules for him and offering to be his friend
-Jeremy can only hope it’s not out of pity
-He nods
-Michael grins again, and fistbumps him
- ‘Awesome. Starting now, this is level one, and I’m your player two. We’re helping each other all the way to the top, deal?’
-Jeremy is a pureblood
-He has literally no idea what Michael is talking about
-But he agrees anyway
- (Michael sits at his table for the rest of the year)

anonymous asked:

hello!! i'm from the philippines and i need tips to improving my filipino!! any tips??

hi !!! here are some tips lmaooo hopefully they help:

  • TBH if u wanna improve ur filipino then just speak more filipino !!! i mean my vocabulary isn’t the best (it’s actually very basic since i speak more english than tagalog), but since i spoke filipino as a kid it became rly easy for me when i started studying it. 
  • read filipino books!! personally i dont really do this because it makes my head hurt lmao. but i promise u it’s rly gonna help with ur vocab! (im kinda contradicting myself here so if u dont get me: reading fil books = helps ur vocab. hAHAH i just dont do it bc im lazy tbh !!!)
  • ….but if you dont wanna read fil books and u wanna try something funner then you can watch filipino films / tv series !! theyre actually pretty entertaining lmao i was never rly a fan until this year because i got hooked despite how predictable filipino movies can get HAHA.
  • read out loud: trust me this helps a lot !!! I SUCK AT READING FILIPINO OUT LOUD but if u practice this it will help w ur pronounciation !
  • when reading filipino textbooks for school, just look up the words you dont get. 
  • .. and when writing papers in filipino, just look up the fil translation of english words !! i honestly use google translate a lot for translating words buuut
  • DONT USE GOOGLE TRANSLATE TO TRANSLATE UR SENTENCES !! it can be rly helpful for translating words but it can butcher ur sentences and eventually BUTCHER UR GRADE

hope this helps !! if u need any more help then jus message me yay