figure-out-life

eliasbaekkoush  asked:

noraaa i want an elias clip so badly like can you imagine? elias bakkoush trying to figure out his life and what he wants to do and spending time with his friends and smiling but when he's alone he's all lonely and frustrated and lost and also he's always worried about sana even tho he knows she's happy now atm

imagine it ,,,, like elias having the biggest smile when sana gets home and they joke around but the moment sana enters her room his smile dissapears and then there is a shot of his computer where you can see that he didn’t get in the college he wanted (i really think he stressed about work/college) and you see him losing a little bit hope and then sana comes out her room she sees it and is like and tells him the school didn’t deserve him in the first place and they just lost the chance to have the elias bakkoush the smartest and coolest guy she knows at their school and gives 20 new schools to apply to and she obviously pulled ‘it is because they saw your last name’ and elias starts laughing and they apply together for the new schools

The best advice for younger girls trying to figure out life is to ignore men. In all seriousness. Ignore men’s judgments, men’s insincere compliments, men’s half-assed attempts at romance. Focus on yourself, on developing the true you. Practice your art, volunteer, act in theatre, play sports, invest in your friendships. Do not pour your energy into pleasing men. If you decide to pursue men down the line, they will be there. But striving for male acceptance will waste your youth. You deserve better than anything those men can give you. You deserve a fulfilling sense of self.

can we please stop making the only LGBT+ narrative we see “i always knew?”

like, i didn’t always know i liked girls too. i wasn’t having crushes on them or kissing them on the playground when i was five years old like you see on tv or read in books. i didn’t know for sure that i’m bi until literally this year (i’m 17 as of writing this). a former friend of mine is a trans girl. she didn’t always know. she didn’t realize she was trans until she was nearly eighteen years old. some people don’t realize it until they’re twenty, or forty, or sixty.

some people do always know. good for them! but can we please please please make it known that you don’t have to have always known for your identity to be valid? it makes it so difficult for people who are figuring themselves out later in life, because it feeds into this idea of “why didn’t i know it before? is this even real? if i haven’t known i’ve felt this way all along, how do i know i feel it now?” and that’s only making worse what’s already such a difficult time in life

give me eighty year old women who are just figuring out they’re lesbians. give me middle aged accountants who realize they’re actually trans. give me a guy who doesn’t know until he’s twenty-eight that he’s actually into dudes. god just please give us some other narrative, so we can be reassured that even if it took us a while to get there, our identity is no less valid than that of a person who’s known they’re LGBT+ since elementary school. stop telling LGBT+ people that that’s the only way they’re really LGBT+

→ all that is gold (m)

Originally posted by chimtae


Sub!BTS collab

pairing → Taehyung x Reader

genre → roommate!au + sugar baby!au, smut, angst

warnings sub!taehyung, skype sex, masturbation, orgasm denial, possessiveness, slight breath play, oral sex, dirty talk, thigh riding, tae ends up sort of a switch? idk

☆ word count → 11.2k

☆ summary → As a college student struggling to make ends meet, Taehyung resorts to a less than ethical method to satisfy his appetite for expensive treats. The last thing he wants is for you to find out how he acquires the Gucci in his closet… however this proves to be difficult when you are his roommate.

or : Taehyung is a sugar baby and somehow thinks he can keep this a secret


☆ a/n → ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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Babygirl

Summary: Dan is an innocent virgin and Phil is the bad-boy who likes to make him flustered. High school Pastel!Dan and Punk!Phil AU

Genre: Smut that’s kinda kinky but mostly cute

Word count: 4,039

Kinks: Feminization, daddy kink, dirty talk, a little verbal humiliation

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Signs based on people I know

Aries: can come off as rude and selfish, but they actually care a lot, they’re just terrible at expressing their feelings. Would go to the moon and back for the people they love and never forgive who does them wrong. The best at flirting, romantic as hell

Taurus: impulsive and relentless, they never stop, and that’s their best and worst characteristic. Even though they’re pretty outgoing it’s difficult for them to socialize and to overcome their insecurities. In the end they turn out to be great friends and lovers

Gemini: great with organization and practical things, you’ll never see them showing their weaknesses. Always busy, but they are in any way able to find a minute to help you and be by your side. A true inspiration for everyone, even though they could come off as intimidating sometimes

Cancer: they seem to have their life figured out, and you never know if it’s the truth or not. Being the definition of commitment, nothing seems to stop them and they make everything seems easy. Very critical and precise, you know you can always trust them and their judgement. Hidden sense of humor, but when it shows, it’s gold

Leo: they have an answer to anything and they are able to convice you without you even noticing. More subtle and less arrogant than you would think, charisma is their middle name and everyone would like them if they wouldn’t react so impulsively saying whatever it comes to their mind

Virgo: very sociable thanks to their great sense of humor and their ability to tell amazing anecdotes. Not as meticulous and in control as you would think; they prefer to complain instead of acting but they’re so clever that they get away with it. Their biggest fear is to be left alone

Libra: loud and full energy, they seem to not have any filters. Could break down in front of you more than once on the same day. Strong as hell but reluctant to share their feelings because they hate to be a burden for their friends. They always have a good comeback and it wouldn’t be a party without their presence

Scorpio: unapologetic and cryptic, either you love them or you think they’re weirdos. Terrible at dealing with their feelings, you can always count on their help dealing with yours. Their mood swings will exhaust you and you’ll never know what they actually think of you. Don’t you dare touch who they love

Sagittarius: their inflexible logic and their intelligence will always prevail on every single argument with them. Genuinely nice and interesting people, their approval is never easy to get and a reason of pride when they give it to you. They need a certain amount of familiarity to express themselves at their fullest

Capricorn: they can come out as shy, but you’ll learn that they have a fire inside once you get to know them. They avoid conflict at all costs and usually are the voice of reason during an argument. Couldn’t be a disappointment even if they tried

Acquarius: those person whose presence is always guaranteed even during tough times. Their reactions will never betray their true feelings and they seem to have their life constantly under control, but their perfectionism is only a reflex of their fear of disappointing who they love

Pisces: constantly living in a bubble, you’ll never know if once it pops they’ll fail or triumph. Very emotional and sensible, it’s very easy to know what’s going on inside their heads. They feel too often misunderstood and underestimated, but their potential is huge and sometimes intimidates others.

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I am Moana of Motunui. 
You will board my boat,
Sail across the sea with me,
And restore the heart of Te Fiti.

This shoot was super fun and pretty impromptu since I went on a Medical Mission with my mum in Palawan and I decided to take advantage of the location and did a shoot as well during our Island Hopping! Hella worth it.

And I know, I haven’t posted in forever, I know, but it’s because I’ve been trying to figure my life out ahaha. Hope y’all forgive me for that! ;-;

Photography by my lovely mum

It’s easy to feel like you’re failing at life when the only snap shots you get of other people are positive ones. But it’s so important to remember that you’re only seeing a small piece of the entire picture of a person’s life - pieces that are often filtered or embellished, or sometimes completely falsified, to paint the appearance that everything is okay. But these people you’re comparing yourself to who seem to have their life together, who are living enviable lives and have smiling photos and celebratory status updates and blog posts showcasing their adventures - their lives are not as easy or perfect as they might seem. Yes, there may be moments of happiness and laughter and accomplishment, but there are also moments of heartbreak and loss and loneliness. There are days when they feel painfully inadequate or invisible or defeated. Days when they’re drowning in shame or self-doubt or fear. They aren’t the paragons of success and happiness that you’ve built them up to be.

Because the truth is that NO ONE has everything figured out. No one’s life is easy and without struggle. It’s human and it’s normal. And it’s OKAY. It’s okay to struggle. It’s okay to feel lost and unsure and overwhelmed. It’s okay to not have it together every minute of every day. It’s okay to be exactly where you are and feel all the things you feel. You don’t have to have all the answers or do things perfectly. You just have to show up and try. You have to trust that you can struggle and lose your way and still end up where you need and want to be. That you can not have it together and still live a meaningful and accomplished life.

But I don’t think people really get what I mean when I say “I love musicals.”

I don’t just love a soundtrack with fancy tap numbers and great belting. I love it for so many other reasons. The cast is like a family to me. The songs speak words I’ve always wanted to hear but never could find a way to say. Watching musicals or singing them just for even a second makes me feel like I’m not alone. I’m not alone in the things I feel. I’m not alone because these characters, whether fictional of real, they’re there. They may not be real true people. But they’re there. Their voice speaks TO me. Especially Jack Kelly’s most of all. “Trapped where there ain’t no future/even at seventeen.” I’m 18. I’m still trying to figure out where my life is going. But I know I’m not alone. Because even if he’s not real, he is to me. And that’s all that matters. When I watch or perform a musical I don’t feel so hopeless anymore. I don’t feel like I have the weight of the world on my shoulders. I’m someone else. I’m involved in someone else’s story. If I can throw myself into something I’m so passionate about then it’s the perfect thing for me to do. At my first audition I was nervous. Crazy nervous. I figured I wouldn’t get the lead but might as well try. Afterwards the director asked me to come talk to her and of course I’m thinking “oh shit what did I do wrong” and she told me, “That was one of the best auditions I’ve seen in a long time.” And that has still stuck with me months later. Whether you’ve been doing this since you were 7 or 17 theatre is something for everyone. Yes, there will be people who will try to bring you down. They’ll tell you you’ll never make it, that your singing is awful, that you’re dreaming too big. Everyone starts somewhere. They may laugh but they won’t care anymore when you keep your head up high and with confidence knowing YOU. CAN. DO. THIS. OKAY? And even when you can’t, take a break. Not from singing. But a break to look back and see how far you’ve come and where you want to go. Because you can go far kid. You really can.

how to be a minimalist student

a lot of minimalism blogs/youtube channels are directed at older people with houses and jobs, rather than students living with their parents going to and from school; but that doesn’t mean minimalism can’t be for students/teenagers too!

I thought I would write some tips and tricks for being a student minimalist and why it’s worth a shot:

how to:

1. cook with friends rather than buying takeaways or go for walks instead of sitting inside watching films. make the most of the time you spend with friends (and spend less money while you’re at it)

2. stop scrolling and turn off notifications. I’ve switch off all notifications on my lock screen (except for essentials like text) and have muted all non-essential chats so I only have to know about them if I have chosen to go on my phone for that purpose. this is a really easy way to get rid of distractions

3. practicality > aesthetic. I agree that colourful beautiful notes are lovely but they aren’t necessarily worth your time. use your time effectively and don’t rewrite pages of notes just because you had to cross something out and now it’s ‘ruined’. 

3. trade your busy life for a full one by doing one thing at once. learn to focus on one task at a time and give it your full attention. this isn’t just about studying, but also about social events. if you’re meeting a friend, spend the time with your friend, not on your phone. devote yourself to each thing you’re doing and plan your time

4. remember: just because its on sale doesn’t mean you need to buy it. just because you have money doesn’t mean you need to spend it. 

5. say no. its easier to take back a no than it is to take back a yes. don’t feel obliged to sign up for everything and do everything for everyone. put yourself first and don’t feel guilty

6. try the hanger trick. hang all your clothes on hangers facing the same direction. twist the hanger around after you wear something. after a month, donate everything that hasn’t been twisted round to charity 

7. cleanse your social media: unfriend people you don’t know anymore. unfriend people who are negative. delete the apps you don’t use. unsubscribe from channels/newsletters that no longer interest you. declutter your online life

8. cleanse your real life relationships: stop spending time with people who put you down. end your unhealthy relationships. be honest with people you care about. put yourself first

9. record your favourite show or watch netflix. avoiding adverts frees you from the endless cycle of always wanting to have the next big thing

why it’s worth a try:

1. teaching yourself to switch off from social media and learning to spend more quality time with people face-to-face is liberating

2. everything is easier when you have a clear(er) head. having less means you have less to worry about

3. you’ll save money surprisingly easily. the money you spent on takeaways or shoes you thought you needed because everyone else had them can be put towards bigger things that will make you happier e.g. travelling or can be saved for the future

4. you can focus on your mental and physical health more when you aren’t distracted by your phone buzzing all the time and aren’t basing your happiness on keeping up with the latest trends

N.B. don’t expect to ‘get’ minimalism overnight. I definitely still haven’t cracked it. start small and slowly implement minimalism into different areas of your life. figure out what works and what doesn’t. minimalism is personal so there is no ‘right’ way of doing things.

just because minimalism can be about having less, doesn’t mean you have to throw away your beloved book collection. if it makes you happy, keep it; if it doesn’t, let it go.

Let me tell you something.

You have your entire life ahead of you. Years, upon years. There are so many sunsets, and so many sunrises that will continue past this day. There is also the universe, stretching never ending on either side of you. There are burning stars, and moons that have lived for more than a 9,000 years. So many hours stretch ahead. So many moments you have not yet lived. 

You don’t have to have your entire life figured out. You have time. Rest.