if you were previously homophobic but realize you were wrong: that’s ok, u are learning
if you are struggling with internalized misogyny: that’s ok too, keep fighting to overcome the sexism that society perpetuates
if you were accidentally trans phobic but are fixing it: great, we need everyone on our side
if at any point u were wrong and are trying to fix it: we accept you and we were all there. keep working to be a good person
Before I became radicalised as a man-hating, separatist feminzai hell-bent on installing a matriarchy and imprisoning men as its slaves, I possessed a nominal amount of internalised misogyny. Women were bitchy and mean. They cared about irrelevant rubbish and talked in loud, shrill voices. Their laughter was annoying and tinny, and they did it performatively and too often. Women were boring and dumb, especially if they were pretty and nice.
Were I born a few years later, I’ve no doubt that I could have easily fallen into the horrifying hole that is Women Against Feminism. Being down on other girls was a gesture to reassure all the boys around me that while I may have looked vaguely like a girl on the outside, I wasn’t really like a girl-girl.
Like so many girls caught in this trap, it wasn’t enough for me to be considered an intellectual and social equal by men (because really, that’s what a lot of this scrabbling for their approval comes back to—the misplaced desire to achieve equality for ourselves by being welcomed into the inner sanctum rather than to destroy the sanctum and redefine the dynamic entirely); I also had to climb a tower made of the discarded and disdained bodies of other women in order to prove myself worthy to enter.
Because I was born a girl, I was taught to fundamentally distrust other women. Whether it arises as bullying, cruelty, or viciously-applied sexism, girls are separated from each other (and from organising into a bloc of power) by being encouraged to view each other as competition for male approval.
“I’m in the club high off purp with my shades on..” MILEY?
Miley, “ I don’t listen to that kind of music.” When people inquired about the references in Party in the USA. Only to find herself twerkin in a frog suit with black women behind her years later, Miley?
Miley, who was propelled forward and profited off the appropriation of hip hop culture and her relationship with a black producer, Miley?
Did she return her J’s (I’m asking for the culture.)
Girl cop a squat on your wrecking ball and swing the fuck out my face….you were never apart of this. You used hip hop culture to progress your, “ I’m just trying to be me… agenda” on the backs of black and brown women who are still shamed for the very things you were applauded for. All while those women continue TIRELESSLY FIGHTING THE MISOGYNY PRESENT NOT JUST IN THE WORLD, BUT IN THE HIP HOP CULTURE THEY LOVE.
You couldn’t “step away” fast enough, cause it was all good when you were getting pulled on stage to twerk and collecting your check….
I support anyone that is willing to speak out against misogyny. But I’m sick of these fair weather white feminist and their endless parade of bullshit. Quick to condemn hip hop but have nothing to say about the misogyny present in country music. Quick to claim feminism while dismissing scores of black and brown women who’s voices and concerns they actively attempt to invalidate.
Now to address another matter.
Can we STOP giving out passes to the cookout so prematurely….
it’s pretty fucking misogynistic to call a woman ruined or weak because she let the love of a man into her life, as if she had no say in the matter and women are only strong when they’re hard and closed off and physically strong I’m just saying !!
From the woman that got Emmet Till killed to Melania Trump, (being there so many more before and after these) white women are always painted as victims and dammisels in distress even when they benefit from racism and their unchecked privilege. This is the basis of white feminism where white women are just fighting misogyny within their own race but never needing or wanting to fight for civil rights because they arent affected.
White feminism is the mainstream feminism that shuts down racism and erases white women’s participation on the oppression of other marginalized groups as well as their reluctance to use their platform and privilege to fight for intersectionality.
This woman who said she feels empowered when she’s supporting and being supported by a big strong man….girl, you don’t know what empowerment means! Sure have a supportive relationship but that has nothing to do with empowerment!!!
I only hope that the women in alt right will continue to be silent and maybe they’ll start to realize putting people in boxes is archaic and the men who like to stomp their feet and grunt don’t know as much as they’d like you to believe.
Guys, amidst all this hate and fascism can we all take a moment to remember that this year, the first year of Trump’s regime, we are finally getting a movie of our most iconic female superhero, Wonder Woman, who will be played by a Jewish woman and then next year we’ll be getting Black Panther with a virtually all black cast and director?