feminists are lesbians

i fucking hate the queer community. people are identifying as gay. without. being. gay. what the fuck. i fucking hate this

WE ARE NOT SOME COOL CLIQUE YOU CAN JUST JOIN. WE ARE NOT A FANBASE. WE ARE REAL PEOPLE WITH REAL PROBLEMS. OUR EXISTENCE COMES WITH MANY RISKS.

IF I’D COME OUT AS GAY, IT’S HIGHLY PROBABLE THAT I’LL BE HONOUR KILLED, OR BEATEN UP (my community is muslim). MAYBE EVEN CORRECTIVELY RAPED. WHY ARE YOU MAKING FUN OF THIS. WHY DO YOU THINK IT’S FUCKING FUNNY.

“GAY” IS NOT AN IDENTITY. “GAY” IS SOMETHING YOU JUST FUCKING ARE, YOU CAN’T IDENTIFY IN AND OUT OF IT. I CAN’T IDENTIFY OUT OF MY SKIN COLOUR, NOW CAN I?

I’M DONE WITH ALL THESE PRIVILEGED WESTERN PEOPLE USING WORDS THAT DO NOT DEFINE THEM YET GET PRAISED AND ACCEPTED BY THEIR WHOLE COMMUNITY.

if you were previously homophobic but realize you were wrong: that’s ok, u are learning
if you are struggling with internalized misogyny: that’s ok too, keep fighting to overcome the sexism that society perpetuates
if you were accidentally trans phobic but are fixing it: great, we need everyone on our side
if at any point u were wrong and are trying to fix it: we accept you and we were all there. keep working to be a good person

You guys are all sleeping on One Day at a Time

I don’t know why more people aren’t talking about this show???? It is a genuinely great show that deals with important social issues unlike any other show I’ve ever seen.

The majority of the shows main characters are Cuban, that’s right, almost entirely PoC. There is one only white main-ish character.

It deals with mental illness. The mother suffers from PTSD after serving in the army. She is never belittled or made to seem weak. She is a strong woman who is portrayed as more than her illness. The show even shows her taking the steps she needs to help herself.

One of the main characters is a feminist teenage lesbian. 

Once she comes out her whole family supports her. Her mother struggles to come to terms with it but never lets her daughter know, instead she educates herself and eventually fully accepts it. Her grandmother, a devout christian, struggles as well for all of 20 seconds before she destroys the argument that being gay goes against god in a few short sentences

The white character is a rich white straight dude but is also a nice guy. Not a Nice Guy™ but an actual nice guy. He sometimes says/does racist and sexist things but is quickly corrected by either himself or other characters.

The show also deals with issues like illegal and legal immigration, racism and sexism. 

In short, this show is sent from fucking heaven and idk why more people aren’t talking about it. Go watch it

An iceberg may have taken down the titanic, but heteronormativity sinks all of my ships

My friend was in the supermarket

And she was walking past a mom and her teenage son. The mom was yelling at her son and saying things like, “you’re so rude and disgusting! How can you hate gay people?” And her son was frantically interrupting her and trying to explain that that wasn’t what he had meant at all. But, his mom wouldn’t be quiet and he interrupted her and yelled “Mom, I don’t hate gay people, my boyfriend is gay!” And his mom just stood there silently staring at the kid for like ten seconds. What a way to come out

I think what bothers me so much about the “feminists are ugly” or “feminists are hairy” or “feminists are lesbian” stereotypes is–

So fucking what?

Some of us ARE ugly. Some of us ARE hairy. Some of us ARE lesbians. And it shouldn’t fucking invalidate anything we’re fucking saying to you.

But you know, if you believed that, if you actually believed that our sexual usefulness to men is irrelevant to the conversation about our basic human rights, you wouldn’t be a fucking misogynist, would you?