My apologies for the lack of posting in the past few months I was busy finishing university and reading a lot of fiction
- now that I have the time to!
I was thinking just the other day, how society is inherently
sexist. This is a given based on my feminist nature. I often notice several little
seemingly ‘harmless’ things in society that each take up a piece in the giant
jigsaw of sexism (that actually sounds like quite a jazzy album title, I’ll
take note). Each of these 'harmless’ things are essentially harmless as individual
things - but they play a small part in a very large issue that must be noticed
and challenged in this day and age.
The instances that I am referring to are often found the
thoughts and actions of the general public. Just the other day, I was at work.
While I love and enjoy my job thoroughly, I was taken aback by the actions and
thoughts of a specific customer when I offered to help her place 5 bags of
heavy compost in her car. Her initial reaction to my offer was; “Well, I
need a man to help me really.” My breasts and clear femininity must have drawn attention away from the fact that I have working arms. Since there were no men currently working at the time, I told her so and
still offered her a hand.
Now I know that this may seem trivial and something I should
let go of. Considering that she did eventually take my help (given that my tiny,
weedy little-girl arms actually managed to lift several bags of compost into her car), I
am happy to forget about such an event. However, it’s the reasons and issues that
would have led to her thoughts that have worried me. I am fully aware that
scientifically, most men are stronger than women - that’s fine. What is not
cool is that there is this inherent sexism throughout society that has infiltrated the minds of most men and women everywhere, which perpetuates the belief that women cannot
manage most tasks alone or without men.
Apparently; women cannot carry heavy items, do
DIY, or even obtain and exercise knowledge of other specifically ‘manly tasks’, to name a few examples.
Now let’s be fair, I am not saying that everyone in the world believes such
things - but I bet that each person reading this knows at least 1 person that
does believe and joke about such things. I cannot count the amount of sexist men I have in my life,
or have ever known. “But some tasks should be gender specific! That’s just the way it
is!” I hear them say. I call bullshit.
I am an able-bodied human being and
I can carry a bag of compost if I want to, and it should not and will not
devalue the masculinity of any man around me. I can also do my own DIY - given
that my small, female brain can actually read and process instructions and
common sense. It sounds like I am joking but please, do not let my sarcasm
divert you from the seriousness of such an issue. My fiancé could fix the bedroom
drawer like I asked him to do several months ago. However, given that he has
not yet acted on such a request, I could happily do it myself if I wanted to (if I
was less stubborn as an individual).
My point is: we are all human beings. Some of us human beings are able to
complete certain tasks, and others are not. Some humans are capable of lifting
and shifting heavy items, and others are not. But these facts are not set in
stone based on gender, nor should they be. Women are not limited as a gender
and neither are men. In fact, men shouldn’t always be expected to be able to
pick up heavy objects etc. based solely on the fact that they have a penis. We
need to change and educate all those who think otherwise, and further educate
the next generations of such.
And ladies, if anybody still believes that you are not
capable or strong enough to do specifically 'manly tasks’, then please, pick up a huge
fuck-off bag of compost and throw it at them.