feminist solidarity

The ultimate sign that women accept their colonisation, that they accept the domination of men, is when they agree to police other women and try to ensure conformity among their daughters, sisters, friends and acquaintances. Rather than their oppressed state engendering a solidarity and mutual sympathy among women, the all-too-urgent need to attract male protectorship makes women competitive. They see each other as rivals and often become hostile to one another. 

- Anne Summers, Damned Whores and God’s Police

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More than 2 million people around the world marched today to stand together in solidarity, celebrating the vibrancy and diversity of our communities. New Zealand was the first country to give women the right to vote, and the first to march today; we marched because women’s rights are HUMAN rights. Today I stood and marched with pride.

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butch women and other gnc women deserve so much respect and care. women who choose to defy long-standing rules about how women can look and act face so much risk just to be themselves, and deserve feminist solidarity.

traditional femininity is devalued because of misogyny but it’s also enforced compulsorily because of misogyny, and resisting the power of that force is a bold and beautiful act. it’s important to recognize that compliance with gender roles isn’t what makes a woman a woman, and visibly defying them by being butch or gnc doesn’t reduce the impact that misogyny has on a woman - and often intensifies misogynist violence.

be good to your local butch and gnc women, especially butch/gnc trans women, intersex women and women of colour for whom defying compulsory femininity is even more dangerous.

we’re all in this together, yk? as women we all have different and often complex relationships to femininity and that’s to be expected when it’s simultaneously enforced and devalued. doesn’t mean we gotta be on different sides.

support muslim women. muslims, especially muslim women (due to the heavy stigmatization of the hijab and other veils), are faced with a particularly dangerous climate right now, and it is feminists’ responsibility to stand as allies. muslim women deserve just as much safety and respect as anyone else.

just remember: do not speak over muslim women. elevate their voices. support their words. their perspective will always be more relevant than someone who does not face the same discrimination.
Solidarity is not the same as support. To experience solidarity, we must have a community of interests, shared beliefs and goals around which to unite, to build Sisterhood. Support can be occasional. It can be given and just as easily withdrawn. Solidarity requires sustained, ongoing commitment.
—  Bell Hooks
Dear men, don’t talk at me, don’t talk over me, don’t talk down to me and don’t talk despite me. Just talk to me.
—  Jade Crimson (Youtube.com/jadedculture)

Me, the waitress: “I’m sorry, miss, but you can only take the breadsticks if you order something off the menu first.”

You: “you don’t get it, THIS IS AN EMERGENCY.”

Me: “I’m sorry. Is something the matter?”

Date: “All I said was that it’s understandable that they would want Wonder Woman to make her debut as a supporting character in Batman vs Superman-”

Me: OH MY GOD *shoves entire bread basket at you* TAKE IT. RUN. I’LL HOLD HIM OFF!

Solidarity does not assume that our struggles are the same struggles, or that our pain is the same pain, or that our hope is for the same future. Solidarity involves commitment, and work, as well as the recognition that even if we do not have the same feelings, or the same lives, or the same bodies, we do live on common ground.
—  Sara Ahmed

I think one of the worst things a woman could do right now is to say “I don’t feel oppressed so feminism isn’t needed”, “I’m not disrespected because I don’t allow it”, “Women’s rights aren’t threatened, I have all my freedom” which I’m seeing actual women actually doing. Speaking like that from the privilege they clearly hold while other women fear for their lives, their safety, fear their reproductive rights will be taken away from them, is a great betrayal towards women in a time where what we need is solidarity and sisterhood. You don’t feel oppressed, you’re not disrespected? Then you’re lucky, and that has to do with your privileges, and I’d say in some instances internalized misogyny that make you blind to injustice, and not the problems not existing or you “not allowing anyone to disrespect you”. Patriarchy doesn’t work like that. Violence doesn’t. Denied rights doesn’t. The only thing you’re achieving is getting a pat on the back from men (who in reality hate or look down on you), for betraying other women.