Stop constructing “lanes.” We can and should criticize sexism worldwide.
As usual, this post is primarily addressed to Western liberal feminists. I have noticed that one of your favorite lines that you smugly try and pass for discourse is “stay in your lane.” Men somewhere in the world are oppressing women somewhere in the world and when another person starts to criticize, you try to silence her with this “lane” nonsense.
Here’s the thing: Sexism and patriarchy don’t have a lane. They don’t have a culture. They are part of every culture, every place, and every system worldwide.
My oppression as a woman in Iraq has the same material problem as oppression of women in the United States, France, Argentina, China, Uganda, any society on this earth: male violence. The root of our problems is the same root and we will not solve any of these problems without pulling up that root.
You act like you’re some kind of progressive by silencing other Western women who talk about other cultures’ issues, but really you’re denying that all of our issues are rooted in the same oppression, and that is Western exceptionalism. You’re saying that your issues are worth public criticism but ours must be framed in ways that appeal to your moral senses or they should be silenced.
Global patriarchy is every woman’s “lane” because it’s literally global. I am allowed to criticize male violence anywhere in the world because I see a different manifestation of the same problems in my own life.
Sexism doesn’t have a culture. (Nor does racism, classism, homophobia, etc.) It exists in every culture in the world. For this reason, we cannot equate criticisms of sexism to criticisms of cultures because criticizing sexism criticizes every culture. (Or one global culture that we all share.) If you honestly believe that sexism is definitely wrong (which I do) then why are you silencing criticism of sexism?
Ask yourselves: Why are you so afraid of offending somebody’s “culture” by criticizing patriarchy? There can really only be one reason. Your feminism just appeals to men.
If our cultures can’t stand on their own without sexism, then what even are they? I love my culture. I love speaking Arabic and Assyrian. I love our folk music. I love our political novels and films. And I could still love all of this without sexism in our culture. Culture doesn’t exist in a snow globe. It is meant to change.
So are you actually going to let people defend sexism with “it’s our culture”? It’s everyone’s culture! And if we recognize that it’s wrong, we should criticize it! Just like we should criticize racism, classism, and homophobia wherever we find them. If you prioritize “protecting culture” over criticizing sexism, then you prioritize the feelings of men over the actual lives of women. And you aren’t a feminist.
I know I talk about listening to Middle Eastern women too, and I stand by that. You can and should listen to our stories, our thoughts, and our criticisms. And you can and should amplify our voices and offer your own criticisms of sexism, because sexism affects you too.
Issues with more attention usually get more support. People can’t support women in developing countries if they don’t know our struggles, and we cannot spread awareness if other women who discuss these issues are silenced. Western voices and media outlets have the most influence worldwide, so why are you stopping people from using them?
There is a difference between talking over someone and empathizing with her experience and offering meaningful criticisms. Talking over someone is a silencing tactic because you’re telling a woman not to talk about her lived experiences because you must know better. Listening to us, having a dialogue, and criticizing sexism together is productive and it’s the exact opposite of silencing. Stop trying to conflate the two.
You have an extremely low opinion of women from developing countries if you believe that criticizing how sexism manifests in our cultures is patronizing us. Do you think we don’t know what sexism is? Do you think we don’t also have indigenous feminist movements? Do you think we haven’t been trying to bring attention to these issues?
It’s true that sometimes Westerners use sexism and homophobia in places like the Middle East as justifications for their own bigotry against Middle Eastern people. Again, if you honestly believe that racism, xenophobia, or imperialism are wrong, then you don’t need to dance around cultural sensitivities to make your point. The thing about inalienable human rights is that you don’t have to earn them.
Half of people in developing countries are women and you can advocate for our liberation in all countries of the world at the same time. Wow! There’s a massive difference between acknowledging how sexism manifests in some cultures and saying we’re savages who should be confined to dangerous war zones.
Stop dividing women. We are in this together. Sexism is wrong in every context and every culture and we are allowed to criticize it wherever and whenever we find it.
james sirius potter:
gryffindor. poet. musician. loves leather and jean jackets. always smells like cigarettes and cinnamon. quiet until you get to know him. life of the party once he's comfortable. loves black coffee. rebellious. non-conformist. mysterious. future auror.
albus severus potter:
slytherin. quidditch keeper. outgoing. determined. kind. charming. polished. fashionable. always loads his tea with sugar. loves muggle history. lgbt activist. openly bisexual. slug-club member. outspoken when provoked. always fighting for a cause.
lily luna potter:
ravenclaw. book worm. dreamer. quiet. shy. loves muggle novels. activist for animal rights. vegan. clumsy. obsessed with wandlore. planner. always has her nails painted lilac. hopeless romantic. secretly in love with scorpius malfoy.
gryffindor. outspoken. energetic. bossy when she's insecure. mostly laid-back. good sense of humor. as brave as they can be. loyal. has a close relationship with mcgonagall. easily defensive. always prepared to fight back. tomboy. intrigued by lorcan scamander.
gryffindor. studious. gifted at herbology. sometimes too serious for his own good. introverted. curious. can come off as passive or indifferent. fascinated with muggle culture.
gryffindor. outgoing. friendly. warm. quidditch chaser. beautiful. genuine. caring. girly. loves fashion. protective of those she loves. seeks harmony. usually underestimated when she's provoked. will fight to the death for a cause she believes in.
fred weasley II:
gryffindor. prankster. quidditch beater. handsome. charming. ladies man. receives top marks without trying. interested in muggle sports. secretly loves baking.
ravenclaw. wise. friendly. dramatic. physically flawless. loves muggle fashion magazines. very interested in divination. painter. in love with teddy.
slytherin. serious. introverted. sarcastic. dyes her hair often. rebels against her mother. in love with plaid. bisexual. feminist. incredibly intelligent. read abnormally fast for pleasure. doesn't care about getting top marks, even though her professors say she has the most potential.
ravenclaw. sometimes arrogant. naturally handsome. flirtatious. clever. intelligent. loves mind twisters. skilled in charms. has a close relationship with hagrid, and most people find that odd.
hufflepuff. loving. friendly. extroverted. has the biggest heart. loves piercings. pink hair is his favorite. loves care of magical creatures. secretly a prankster. in love with victoire.
molly weasley II:
slytherin. lesbian. tough. outspoken. goal-oriented. feminist. incredibly sarcastic. short curly hair. vodka is her drug of choice. wears combat boots with everything. leader of many clubs. intimidating.
hufflepuff. kind. hardworking. softspoken. down to earth. pragmatic. intelligent. overly organized. excels in every subject. aspires to work for the ministry. daddy's girl. protective of her older sister.
ravenclaw. reclusive. quiet. top of his class. logical. analytical. loner. excels in arithmancy. loves having discussions with hermione. looks just like his mother. always thinking of the future. astronomy is his secret passion. has a secret crush on rose.
hufflepuff. looks just like his father. amiable. great with children. asexual. the most genuine and caring person you'll ever meet. believes very strongly in everything his mother does/believes. very protective of his twin brother. is everyone's friend if they need one.
slytherin. best friends with albus. ambivert. intelligent. very concerned about his image. kind. hates hurting people's feelings. determined to prove his worth. uncommonly handsome. skilled in potions and dada. has a massive crush on lily luna.
For my own reference I attempted to compile the most complete list of published books on speculative realism, object-oriented ontology, new materialisms, and associated work and I figured I would share it. I also include in this list works from feminist materialisms, because they are important for providing a fuller genealogy for contemporary research, and those authors that are harder to classify together but generally write on nihilism, pessimism, and eliminationism. For the moment I’ve left off Francois Laruelle, who is still very confusing to me, and accelerationist authors like Nick Land and McKenzie Wark. The tags are my own and don’t necessarily reflect how the authors self-identify.
Graham Harman – Object-Oriented Ontology
Tool Being: Heidegger and the Metaphysics of Objects (1993/2011)
Guerilla Metaphysics: Phenomenology and the Carpentry of Things (2011)
Prince of Networks: Bruno Latour and Metaphysics (2009)
Towards Speculative Realism: Essays and Lectures (2010)
Circus Philosophicus (2010)
The Prince and the Wolf: Harman and Latour at the LSE (2011)
Quentin Meillasoux: Philosophy in the Making (2011)
The Quadruple Object (2011)
Weird Realism: Lovecraft and Philosophy (2012)
Bells and Whistles: More Speculative Realism (2013)
Levi Bryant – Onticology/Machine-Oriented Ontology
The Speculative Turn: Continental Materialism and Realism, Edited with Nick Snricek and Graham Harman (2011)
The Democracy of Objects (2011)
Onto-Cartography: An Ontology of Machines and Media (2014)
Timothy Morton – OOO, Ecology
Ecology Without Nature: Rethinking Environmental Aesthetics (2009)
Mary Wortley Montagu (1689-1762) was an English aristocrat who, as the wife of the British ambassador to Turkey, became the author of the first secular writings by a woman about the Muslim Orient. Her letters during her time there recorded many aspects of daily life, and also cleared misconceptions about the treatment of women and their status in society.
Her writings about Turkey helped to show a part of Eastern culture previously unknown to Western society, since she was able to access exclusively female spaces and therefore become acquainted with the Turkish women’s way of life. Upon her return to England, she promoted variolation, a procedure to immunize the population against smallpox, therefore saving countless lives.
as I am fairly new to the studyblr community, I thought it would be a good idea to introduce myself.
My name is Sophie and I’m 19 years old. I’m from Montreal, Canada and currently studying Literature at UQAM (Université du Québec à Montréal). I’m a proud Hufflepuff and my personality type is INFJ.
I started this studyblr as a way to keep myself motivated and frankly to please my aesthetics needs.
As I study Literature, you can probably deduced that I’m an avid reader. That’s why I’ve set up a books rec page. I will be putting out reviews of books I’ve read and I have a to be read books list up right now. So if you’re looking for inspiration for your next reads, you can check that out and if you want my opinion on books I haven’t reviewed yet, hit my askbox and I’ll give you a piece of what I thought of the book. As I am French Canadian, there is certain variety of books in French and a certain amount of Quebec Literature which I recommand to anyone who’s looking for diversity in their readings.
I’m also a feminist and I am orienting my major in Women’s studies.
here are some of the blogs I draw inspiration from;
A big misconsepsion about feminism is, that it’s only for women.
Feminsim is NOT only for women, feminsim is for everyone who believes in eqaulity for everybody no matter their gender, ethnicity or sexual orientations.
Some of the actresses of Asian descent suggested for Jessica Jones, inspired by localgaysian’s Asian Jessica Jones concept. Asian representation in the MCU has been abysmal and the show is very white feminist oriented so not only would Jessica being Asian allow for a flawed and complicated Asian female lead, but it would also be a way of subverting the submissive Asian woman stereotype.
Karen Fukuhara Jessika Van
Li Jun Li
One of the ugliest things;re feminism is men who are victims of the Patriarchy or other Kyriarchal issues, blaming their suffering on Feminists, rather than the patriarchy.
The patriarchy is the concept of values that we have that prioritize female coddling and male hardening– with no room in between for those who do not fit. The patriarchy is why male victims of things are told to pull themselves up by their boot straps, while simultaneously infantilizing and often sexualizing female victims.
The patriarchy is best described as a Torroid of Suffering.
In goeshatred and policing of women, out comesthe recoil of male suffering and restrictions of the boundaries of what is acceptable expression of masculinity.
In goes hatred of traditionally and culturally feminine things, out comes more aggressive gender binary to separate from those culturally feminine things.
In goes “women have to be housewives” out comes “men are too stupid/unqualified to do house work”
In goes, “pink is now a girl color” out comes “boy viciously punished by father for liking pink things”
In goes “women only need these services because women are fragile” out comes “men who need help are pussies” (which then negatively affects all “non female or male” people, and male teenagers and children who desperately need resources)
In goes “women are weak” out comes “that man is being attacked by a woman, but who cares because women are weak and if he can’t defend himself from a girl, he’s a pussy”
In goes “women are naturally more adept at childcaring because all women are motherly” out comes “good father denied custody of his children to horrifying ex girlfriend”
(sorry about all the heteronormative descriptions, but when one is discussing a heteronormative oppressive structure, its problems are largely impossible to discuss otherwise)
Without this understanding of what the patriarchy is, the solution to all of these problems will forever be buried in divisive bickering.
It’s not a “who” that is making all of these problems for men. Its a WHAT. and the WHAT is the Torroid of Suffering.
Now, I am a womanist and a feminist who focuses primarily on male issues. I prioritize male issues because I feel strongly that the binarist oppression that women face under the patriarchy is irrevocably linked to the suffering men boys and trans people of all genders face under the patriarchy.
I trust that my fellow feminists have the fort down on women’s issues, so I’m going to step to the side and focus on the thousands of homeless boys wandering our streets too old for women+children shelters, the male rape victim suffering in silence and confusion, the small child who does not yet know whether they are a boy or a girl, crying because their mom wont let them paint their nails and the man living in a hell of domestic abuse because there is nowhere for him to turn.
Because all of those things were birthed from the patriarchy– birthed from a hatred of women that in turn robbed men of something vital that they need to survive.
Feminists as a whole (and as an umbrella term), are the only ones paying any attention to any of these issues– even if the lion’s share aren’t prioritizing male suffering. In fact, Men’s Rights Activists who focus less on screaming at feminists and more on unloading why these male issues are occurring and bandying together to disolve patriarchal concepts are a type of Feminist.
Because whether they know it or not, by destroying toxic masculine concepts that are hurting them and throwing off their shackles to the patriarchy that demands they must be a certain way, they are loosening the ropes that are binding everyone that does not identify as male in the process. Just from the other side of the torrid.
So while feminists are hacking away at the top (hatred of women going in), Many Men’s Rights Activists, and male oriented feminists are hacking away at the base (male suffering coming out).
The ultimate goal is to stop the torroid from spinning. And regardless who wins the hacking race, as long as we keep going, it will… eventually… stop.
isn’t it just interesting how the push for feminist, female-oriented spaces open up for everyone who wants to make those spaces theirs fits right in with the societal expectation that women always be welcoming, hospitable, and accommodating
1) How does it feel to be the same sex as Donald Trump?
Quite good actually. Trump may be a distasteful person but at least he’s done well in life and I have no reason to begrudge him for that.
2) Why do you hate rom-coms?
I like them actually. I make a point of watching Valentines Day every Valentines and watching its christmas counterpart on christmas.
2b) Or do you just think you need to hate them?
Again, I like them.
3) Everybody likes The Notebook.
I actually don’t because I think it’s an unhealthy relationship dynamic. He loves her for literally years and is obsessive as fuck and instead should have moved on.
4) Everybody likes Beyonce.
I don’t but that’s a side effect of being English and having high standards. I’m more of a Emily Rickards kinda guy.
5) It’s just a fact.
Pretty loose interpretation of fact since it’s wrong.
6) Why do you make women sit around and talk about men in movies-
I have actually never done this. On my last date the girl I was with started rambling about hot guys in movies because I spaced out and my ex and I had list of celebrities we would accept as acceptable if we got busy with. But yeah trying to get a girl to do something simple like get ready is hard enough.
7) When you easily just sit around and talk about boobs for hours
Who even does this? I mean I’ve had three conversations about boobs that I can remember and all were with girls I had a thing with.
8) Why do you automatically think you won’t like TV shows or movies that star a female lead?
I don’t. What I would oppose is a feminist orientated film that makes the woman a Mary Sue in a boring sort of way. I like Scarlett Johannsson as Widow and would comfortably watch a whole movie about her exploits, ideally with Evans and Hemsworth appearing for comedic effect or to aid the plot.
9) Why are you surprised when women are funny?
I’m not. Sure less women are funny as comedians and I can’t think of one I’d watch but just because standup isn’t their area doesn’t mean they can’t succeed elsewhere. I mean it’s not like I’d date a girl who can’t make me laugh.
And btw my friend Tegan is fucking hilarious when we hang out.
10) I’m probably funnier than you.
I’m not really a funny person but I don’t think you’d be very funny. You seem arrogant and an upstart which is basically the death of comedy in my eyes.
11) Why do you think we’re obsessed with you when we hook up?
I don’t ‘hook up’ because I’m not into short relationships.
12) 9/10 we just want to leave, just like you.
If by some chance I hooked up with a girl A) she could leave whenever, B) she’d only be there if she felt she wanted to, and C) if I wanted to leave I’d just leave.
I think you need to grow a spine and make decisions then act on them one day.
13) Why can’t I sleep with as many people as I want to without being judged?
Because that’s disgusting behaviour, hell I look with higher eyes at prostitutes than I do sluts. You being a girl doesn’t even come into this. People who sleep around aren’t the kind of people I’m interested in.
14) *skipping because this person had a bad experience and is not relevant to all males in general*
Hey no fair I wanted to read this… :(
15) In what world does no mean yes?
When I’m ticking my best friend usually.
16) *skipping because this is misandrist as fuck*
Also no fair. We have to allow hate speech to be spoke before we can destroy it.
17) Why do you think that just because you’re nice to me that I owe you my body?
I don’t think this. You should try to project less… Though I wonder if you can point yourself at a wall and show off power points yet..
18) Why would you ever send an unsolicited dick pic?
I don’t. If a girl wants to see me naked she can get in my bedroom and take my clothes off.
19) Why do you sit with your legs wide open? I get that you have balls, but I don’t do the same for my boobs?
I don’t really wear skirts often (never actually come to think of it) so it’s not really a problem for me. If you’re regarding the people who sit at an almost 180 angle then I don’t see why that’d be comfy either.
20) Why do you think women who wear makeup are false advertising?
I don’t. I just find that girls who over use makeup are wasting its potential.
21) We can say the same thing about your dick size?
I’ve never lied about it, there’s no point. But yeah I was really surprised when I head the average was six inches because tbh that’s sorta small.
22) Why isn’t it weird when there is a bunch of old, white men sitting in an office making legislatio-
And yet progressives want to vote in Bernie Sanders, an old white man.
But as to why it’s not weird then my answer would be that politicians should be judged on policy and results rather than age of skin colour. I don’t care if I like a politician so long as they can do their job.
23) Why are straight guys so obsessed with lesbians?
I’m straight and lesbians are disgusting. But the obsession is likely the same reason so many girls like gay porn: the particular piece of equipment they’re into shows up twice. Personally I prefer to just read cute stories where kinky sex shows up coincidentally.
24) How does it feel to get kicked in the balls?
Never been stupid enough to let anyone try it. I have failed at vaulting over a metal bar and I’d liken it to someone hitting your girly parts with a baseball bat. Feel free to try it at home.
25) Do you ever get tired of trying to be manly all the time?
Yeah I suck at being manly so I don’t really try to bother with it.
26) Why are you so afraid of gender equality?
Depends on what you call equality. If you see equality as the capability to reach the same heights without needing help from an outside source then you already have it. I take issue when you either start playing identity politics and boost people based on irrelevant observational facts. I also take issue when you try to force equality onto people and blame someone else for all of your problems.
But yeah, if you want to get ahead on your own merit then all I say is godspeed you mad bastard.
27) Why do I deserve to be paid less than you?
You seem to have chosen a fucking easy job and since I plan on joining the army then my job is simply worth more to society than yours is.
28) In what world does 77 cents equal a dollar?
Aww poor little idiot can’t understand how averages and statistics work and assumes correlation is causation.
29) Why are you intimidated by a woman who makes more money than you?
I would marry a woman who makes more money than me if she was the right girl. I would actually like to marry a girl who earns more than I do because it shows that she’s probably well directed and intelligent.
30) Why are opinionated women seen as bitches?
Nobody likes opinionated people thats why the guys versions are assholes and the female versions are bitches. Your inability to keep yourself to yourself isn’t really relevant.
31) Why aren’t you speaking up when your male friends behind closed doors are making offensive jokes about women?
Because you can’t give offence you can only take it. My favourite joke is What’s the best thing about fucking twenty five year olds? There’s twenty of them not because I enjoy pedophilia but because I like the word play and because it made me laugh. If you’re so arrogant that you cannot allow a joke to be made at your expense then you clearly have nothing better to do.
32) Why are you so afraid of recognising your own privilege?
Because I’m nineteen and can’t get a job because I’ve never had a job and thus can only get a job by getting a job of which I will need a job to get. Probably that.
she calls herself queer but while looking that up I found this poor person
“Even though I liked the toast, from what I remember it had the same issue that most feminist oriented websited had which was being pretty fucking straight. Am I misremembering? I know they had those woman crush Wednesdays or something like that but they were so rare.”
Okay what you don't understand is that feminism actually does help guys. It allows them to be as feminine or as masculine as they want without judgment. It encourages sharing feelings and being open. What you call "bigotry" is actual GENUINE fear. A real feminist does not hate men, we hate how we are disrespected, degraded, and taken advantage of by men. Fuck "not all men". Not all sharks attack people but the fear is real. I'm not mad, im not hating you. I think you just don't understand.
“…feminism actually does help guys.”
Here’s roughly 50 tangible ways feminism is harmful to men:
How many TANGIBLE examples to you have of feminism helping men? All you’ve given so far are empty, unsupported claims.
“A real feminist does not hate men, we hate how we are disrespected, degraded, and taken advantage of by men.”
There are two problems with this:
You use the no-true-Scotsmen fallacy. What gives you the right to define what a “real feminist” is? Some of the feminist you think aren’t “real feminists” probably don’t consider you a “real feminist” either. What makes your definition any more valid than theirs? I judge feminism by the most prominent accomplishments made in it’s name. Things like the list above. You telling me what feminism is supposed to do does not change what it actually does. I understand perfectly what feminism SHOULD be, but I don’t care. I care about what it IS.
Being treated poorly by a FEW members of a demographic does not justify openly spreading and promoting the hatred of the demographic as a whole. Some people are self-centered, disrespectful and degrading. This is not an exclusively male trait, and to treat it as such is bigotry.
“Fuck ‘not all men’. ”
Fuck “not all Muslims”. Not all sharks attack people but the fear is real.
The presence of fear is not indicative of the level of actual threat that exists. It’s irrational to live in constant fear of sharks. Just like it’s illogical to live in constant fear of Muslim terrorists. Just like it’s illogical to live in constant fear of men.
“I’m not mad, im not hating you.”
Neither am I.
“I think you just don’t understand.”
I’ve heard this argument many times. I’ve MADE this argument many times. The more I understand it, the less validity it has.
Why does tumblr victimize girls who cheat on their boy friends for other girls? The past two days I've seen post circulating where girls have cheated on their bfs for other girls after figuring out their lesbian, and now their bfs are breaking up with them and kicking them out of the house? I mean it's not really fair for your bf to let you live with him and you go and cheat on him. I think it's reasonable that these guy are kicking their gfs out. I mean, I feel tumblr is excusing
these women for cheating a.) because they are women and b.) because they’re cheating on their bfs for other women. I mean, that isn’t fair to the bf who has been faithful to be cheated on by the girl who is supposed to be faithful for him. I don’t support bfs being violent towards their gfs when they figure out they’re cheating, but they have every right to be angry and to kick their cheating gf out of their house. It’s just people are excusing female cheaters and incriminating their bfs?
TUMBLR, STOP VICTIMIZING GIRLS FOR THINGS YOU JUMP ON BOYS
This site is heavily
feminist oriented, and the typical mindset that tumblr has adopted is that girls can do no wrong, specially girls who falls under LGBT can do no wrong, and I think that’s so incredibly
harmful and awful.
If your boyfriend kicks you out because you’ve cheated on
him with another girl, YOU DESERVED IT. I don’t get the logic behind pitying or
victimizing a woman who does this. You’re boyfriend let you stay in his house
because you were his girlfriend, why does it make sense for him to let you stay
in it when you’re with someone else?
The boyfriend isn’t at fault for what he’s doing. You broke
his heart, why are you still there? It’s emotional for him too, I don’t know,
wait till you have our own place before proclaiming that you love someone else?
Go move with your gf? But don’t be mad for being kicked out when they’re literally
no reason for you to be there anymore.
Unfortunately, you can’t get this through tumblr’s skull.
A woman, especially one who loves another woman, will always be right. Even if she’s cheating.
When it comes to toys and gender, I’d like to see traditionally feminine toys and ways of play be portrayed positively. But instead it’s almost always just “this thing targeted at boys needs to be girl-friendly”.
lots of talk about how shit like Transformers, Star Wars, etc needs
include more girls, but no one says that Monster High, Shopkins, etc
needs to include more boys. (MLP is the only exception I can think of)
I feel like a lot of people are targeting the wrong issues when it comes to this.
does it say about our culture that even feminists view girl oriented
media as inferior, and so focus on invading boys media?
That’s what I think we need to tackle.