the inclusion of kink/bdsm in pride and LBGT spaces is honestly so fucking offensive. we’re spent so long trying to establish that same-sex attraction isn’t some weird, kinky, deviant thing. same-sex attraction isn’t a fetish, it’s not purely sexual. i’m not TRYING to be subversive I just like girls.
my sophomore speech on the need for sex-segregated bathrooms!!
i wrote and performed this for a required speech at my high school!! a lot of people told me they found it very convincing or at least made them think about the issue more! i hope you enjoy!!
A Feminist Perspective on the Trans Bathroom Debate
July 15, 2011: man rapes 19-year-old girl twice in college bathroom (Morse)
January 7, 2014: 10-year-old girl sexually assaulted in a Denny’s bathroom (Bennett)
February 26, 2014: man sentenced to indefinite prison sentence after abusing women in two Toronto women’s shelters after gaining access by claiming to be transgender (Pazzano)
December 17, 2014: LA police issue warning to women after 3 attempted rapes in bathrooms in the last two months (Baldonado)
April 13, 2015: man rapes woman inside the bathroom of a NYC sports bar (“Stranger Grabs Woman by Throat, Rapes Her in Bathroom of Manhattan Bar: NYPD.” )
May 9, 2015: LA woman raped in park bathroom (Navarro)
July 8, 2015: Phoenix man rapes woman in park bathroom (Mahoney)
August 28, 2015: woman attacked and rape attempted by man in mall bathroom (Brilliant)
September 13, 2015: woman raped in downtown Annapolis restroom (Belt)
October 16, 2015: 12-year-old girl raped in CVS bathroom (Robinson)
October 17, 2015: man rapes 50-year-old woman in bathroom (“Woman (50) Raped in Chloorkop Toilet.”)
October 18, 2015: man tries to rape a 63-year-old woman in NYC bathroom (Sit)
October 23, 2015: woman raped in Vermont courthouse bathroom (“Woman Raped in Vermont Courthouse Bathroom.”)
July 21, 2016: man tries to rape woman in church bathroom during quinceañera (“NYPD: Man Tries To Rape Woman Inside Staten Island Church Bathroom.”)
September 2, 2016: man drags woman into group home bathroom and rapes her (WHAM)
In the last five years, there have been at least 15 incidents of men attempting or succeeding in raping women and girls in bathrooms. Most likely, there were significantly more. According to the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network, out of every 1000 rapes, only 310 are reported to the police and only six will result in the rapist going to jail. (“The Criminal Justice System: Statistics.”) From that data, as well as the fact that these 15 cases are only the ones interesting enough for there to be a news article about and easily found on the internet, there are hundreds, maybe thousands of sexual assaults in bathrooms per year, the vast majority of which will be committed by men. According to the US Bureau of Justice Statistics, a department of the US government that collects and analyzes crime statistics, males perpetrate a whopping 97% of all rapes (Langton). This omnipresent danger is one of the many reasons sex segregated bathrooms and intimate facilities like locker rooms exist.
Despite this clear threat, women’s right to safe places to pee and change are being taken away by well-meaning, but misguided attempts to stop discrimination.
This saga began by the complete and utter elimination of females as a protected group by the Obama administration on May 13, 2016. On that day, the US Departments of Justice and Education sent a letter to schools across the country regarding Title IX of the Education Amendments of 1972, which is described by the DOJ as “a comprehensive federal law that prohibits discrimination on the basis of sex in any federally funded education program or activity.” Basically, this legislation is what requires schools to have women’s sports teams, math and science classes that females can attend, and punishment for sexual harassment. In this message, the departments released what they called “significant guidance” to this law, which served to redefine the word “sex” in the legislation to a student’s personal “gender identity” which is defined by the DOJ as “an individual’s internal sense of gender” even if this “identity” is different than their biological sex. Students don’t need to present any “proof” of this disparate identity as schools cannot ask for any identification documents of a gender change such as “medical diagnosis or treatment requirement” without now violating a student’s so called right to being treated as their “gender identity” (Lhamon).
That means a school cannot prevent a male student from playing on a female sports team as long as they claim to have a “female” gender identity even if he still 100% physically male with all the athletic advantages that has. Even something as small as the difference in height and bone structure could allow a male to physically dominate in athletics like women’s basketball team. The same male student would also be allowed to use the girls’ locker room, which in some sports are used for showering. This puts women and girls in the uncomfortable situation of having to see male genitalia up close and personal, which could be considered sexual assault (“Sexual Assault.”). The inevitable consequences of this legislation change are already being felt. A school district in Minnesota that has just enacted the “inclusive” gender identity policies demanded by the DOJ and DOE is already being sued by the families for failing to protect their daughters from a transgender male student who was “twerking, grinding, and lifting up his skirt to reveal his underwear” in the girls’ locker room. The same boy asked a girl who was changing about her bra size and “to “trade body parts” with him”. He also is said to have followed two girls to a different locker room when they sought privacy from him and undressed in front of them (Richardson). This school is just one of many school districts and institutions that now have to deal with the repercussions.
Not only has this legislature caused specific instances of insecurity and danger, it also is completely against the law. The decision to change “sex” to gender identity was decided not as a democratically voted upon law, but rather released as what was called “significant guidance.” This information is supposed to clarify an existing law with examples on specific scenarios, but not change the meaning of legislature. The Obama administration said that the phrasing “sex” was ambiguous, but it’s simply not (Lhamon). Humans (and actually, all mammals) are a sexually dimorphic species, meaning that there are two distinct sexes. Sex is an observable trait defined by one’s chromosomes, genitalia and what kind of gamete one produces. Although intersex individuals, meaning those with some sort of disorder causing errors in some aspect of sex, exist, their conditions are rare, noticeably a medical disorder, and in most cases, still observably male or female. Only 0.018%, which is less than a 50th of a percent of the population is unable to be classified as male or female (Sax). Redefining sex to gender completely changes the meaning of Title IX by fully eliminating the sex protections fought for by women for decades by allowing anyone to identify into these protections. This significant guidance is significant enough that it needs to be democratically elected by both the House of Representatives and the Senate before it can be enacted.
But what if it does pass? It’s not impossible; President-elect Trump said that Caitlyn Jenner could use any bathroom “she” wanted in the Trump Tower (Smith). My first point stands; men are dangerous, no matter what they identify as, if they’re wearing a t-shirt, a three piece suit, or a dress. According to the FBI, men commit almost 75% of all crime, and 97% of sexual assaults, which is one of the greatest risks of allowing males into women’s intimate facilities like bathrooms and locker rooms (“Table 4.2: Arrests by Sex, 2014.”). women and girls have been and continue to be raped in bathrooms by men. According to a 2010 study by the Center for Disease Control, 1 of 5 women will be raped in her lifetime. That means that just in this room at least 2 of the girl will be raped in her lifetime. For our entire school that’s almost 200 girls. And an entire 45% of females face other sexual violence in their lifetime, so 5 of us will be sexually assaulted as well (Black). This danger is posed by all men, even if they identify as women. The Karolinska Institutet, a Swedish medical university that is considered “one of the largest and most prestigious medical schools in the world” and decides who wins the Nobel Prize in Physiology or Medicine (“Karolinska Institutet.”), conducted a 30 year study of transgender individuals (such that they took cross-sex hormones and underwent sex “reassignment” surgery) in Sweden from 1973 to 2003 and compared them to non-trans male and female controls. They concluded that transgender males were just as likely to commit crimes as non-transgender men, which is 18 times higher than that of females (Dhejne). That means that women are now legally required to allow potentially dangerous males into their bathrooms, which is against the very concept of having sex-segregated bathrooms: that is to say, to guarantee the safety of those at the highest risk of sexual violence (which is women) by separation from those who are likely to commit it (a.k.a men). However, many people also worry about the possible violence transgender people could face in a bathroom they don’t identify with. This could be prevented by the creation of single occupancy sex neutral bathrooms, which would negate the possibility of violence against both women and transgender people.
So now the question is: what can you do? How can we combat these dangerous changes? The first and most obvious thing you can do is also the hardest: speak out. Do not allow these laws to go unobstructed. Call your representatives, sign a petition, go to a protest, even just talk to your friends and spread the word. You can also support the Women’s Liberation Front in their court case against the DOJ and DOE for endangering women and girls. They are relying completely on donations and need support. Finally, use the single most important political statement you possess, vote! Not all of us can, but most soon will be able to. In 2018, the so-called “bathroom bill” law will appear on our voting ballots, and give us our right as American citizens to change our laws until they are just for all (News). We need to work together and stand strong to fight for women’s rights.
Are you opposed to the ideas of romance, relationships, and marriage? If so, why?
No?????? I’m a hopeless romantic and have nothing against relationships or marriage. What I /am/ against is the hierarchization of romance and marriage high up above other life accomplishments. I’m against the fact that a woman’s life is still seen as somehow incomplete if she doesn’t get married. I’m against the fact that society has it so drilled into women’s heads that they aren’t doing well in life unless they’re in a relationship that they see themselves as having failed or as being incomplete if they’re single. I’m against the way that makes young women and girls feel inferior and feel like they’re broken. I’m against the way that inspires this whole mopey culture of “wah I’m single! Poor me!” that so many otherwise interesting women have adopted. I’m against the way women feel as if it’s okay to sacrifice their interests and their personal traits to attract and keep a man. I’m against women changing for men when men don’t think to change for women. I’m against women being pressured into making sacrifices in their careers and their friendships for men.
I’m against all of the above being put above women’s intellectual and personal successes. I’m against the fact that when I told one of my high school teachers I finalized my grad school plans and won a prestigious internship and felt the happiest I’ve ever felt in my life, she dismissed that in favor of “but do you have a boyfriend??” because I’m in my early-mid twenties and I’m supposedly supposed to be putting that above myself.
I’m against women being put down for prioritizing themselves, their goals, their friends over finding a man. I’m against unhealthy relationships and I’m against the patriarchal structure of our society that has messed with the minds of women.
But healthy, equal romance? healthy, equal relationships? healthy, equal marriages? Yes, yes, and yes.
please remember to have compassion for straight and bi women who suffer at the hands of men, whether physically, sexually, or emotionally. radfems tend to be really good about defending and protecting women who’ve been physically or sexually abused, but often make fun of the emotional trauma women so frequently experience in relationships with men.
women who are cheated on, lied to, and otherwise manipulated by men are not stupid, or naive, or at fault for trusting men.
TW: men being assholes, ish verbal harassment, vague references to past
An open letter to the men who purposefully screamed at me through their
car window while I was walking home alone at around 1.15AM tonight, proceeded
to watch me jump and scream, and then speed off while laughing:
Fuck you so much for doing that to me and reducing me to cowering behind
the lamp post a few feet in front of me. Fuck you for making me want to hide
behind a piece of steel so I couldn’t be seen by any more of the other cars
driving down the road so they wouldn’t do the same thing.
Fuck you for being the cause of me to hyperventilate in an empty
residential street about ten minutes walk from my house. Fuck you for making me
feel like that walk was an eternity away.
Fuck you for making me scared of the other two middle aged men walking behind
me. Fuck you for putting me in the mental place that I perceived two pretty
normal/sober(ish) looking men to be a potential threat.
Fuck you for the rawness that is my throat now from gasping in air badly
like a fish out of water for the next forty minutes after you had your thirty
seconds of fun and drove away.
Fuck you for the way I couldn’t control my fingers and hands as they
were shaking trying to scroll through my phone contacts. Fuck you for the way I
shook as I tried to jam my keys into my front door lock. Fuck you for the way
that I ran down my front path because I suddenly had the idea that something
could rip me away from safety when I was so close.
Fuck you for making me afraid to open my bedroom door even though that
is the most irrational thing because obviously, obviously, no-one was going to
be in my bedroom. Fuck you for making me remember the time in my life when I
definitely wasn’t safe in my bedroom. Fuck you for making me remember him. Fuck
you, fuck you, fuck you.
Fuck you for making me cry. Fuck you for making me think he was right
when he told me I couldn’t make it ‘in the real world’ for a justification for
everything he did to me.
“I am a feminist, and I recognize that my movement and some of its most vocal members have done harm despite the good intentions. It’s known that people frequently misinterpret and/or twist it to fit personal agendas, and we’re working to change that. There are other movements with the same or a similar ideology, and though I might not always agree with their ideals and members, I respect their decision and opinions on things as long as they don’t disrespect the existence and choices of others.”
"Feminism means EQUALITY, so if you believe in equality, you’re a feminist, PERIOD. Non-feminist girls don’t love themselves, non-feminist boys are misogynist pigs. People who are transphobic/racist/sexist are not REAL feminists, get it right. If you disagree with me, you’re a cis white male middle-aged sexual predator.”
You know what’s really messed up? When a man says he is a feminist, people praise him for supporting equality. It’s as if he can do know wrong just because he is being a decent human being. But women who are open about being feminists are constantly picked apart and painted as “bad feminists” for their own choices or one small misstep. That doesn’t sound like feminism, equality, to me ¯\_(ツ)_/¯