“Why are men afraid of women?
“If your strength is only the other’s weakness, you live in fear,” said Ged.
“Yes; but women seem to fear their own strength, to be afraid of themselves.”
“Are they ever taught to trust themselves?” Ged asked.
“No,” she [Tenar] said. “Trust is not what we’re taught. If power were trust, I like that word. If it weren’t all these arrangements- kings and masters and mages and owners- it all seems so unnecessary. Real power, real freedom, would lie in trust not force.””
Ursula Le Guin’s Tehanu pgs 246- 247