If a friend you’re not attracted to had a crush on you, and had for as long as you’d known them, would you want to know? Or would you rather they kept it to themselves until it faded? How would it affect your ability to interact with them like a normal friend?
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This is a sincere question. Since you're a gay man, what makes you think Harry is gay vs just being effeminate? I don't think any of my friends are gay, but have met and gone to school with effeminate men. They acted and dressed like Harry, but are straight.
First of all, I need you to understand that being ‘effeminate’ (or let’s use a less loaded word and go with ‘camp’) does not equate to being gay.
You know what, let’s repeat that once again for emphasis.
Being ‘effeminate’ does not equate to being gay.
No one here, at least no one that I have any desire to engage with, believes that Harry is gay because of the way he dresses. They believe he’s gay based on a wealth of evidence which pertains to his statements about sexuality, his reaction to women and his relationship with Louis. No one is sitting here talking about Harry’s sexuality based on the fact that he wears pink shirts, principally because this isn’t 2004 and we understand that sexuality is far more complex than that.
To conflate feminine traits and male same sex attraction is offensive and dangerous. I spoke about this a lot earlier in the week with the whole “bottom=sub” thing, but I know some incredibly masculine gay men and some very, very feminine straight men. Sexuality and gender are not a sliding scale, and thus how you present your gender and the way in which you conform to gender roles has no baring on your sexuality.
I wouldn’t describe Harry as ‘effeminate’ (principally because it’s a word that’s loaded in some pretty shitty context, and most same sex attracted guys wouldn’t like you using it, perhaps consider ‘camp’ or ‘feminine’) but I would say that his (frankly magical) refusal to conform to gender norms is absolutely brilliant. It isn’t why I think he’s attracted to men though. That’s evidenced by his relationship with Louis.
So I can’t answer your question, because it’s based on a premise that I don’t agree with. If you don’t think Harry’s same sex attracted because you don’t think that being feminine is the same as being gay, we’re on the same page. However, I’d encourage you to appreciate that my understanding of his sexuality is in no way based on that.
If anyone attended the slfl Melbourne concert and knows this women, please turn her in, she assaulted a girl and deserves to be arrested and for any one going to the next couple of concerts please be careful in the mosh pit and seating areas, if there is trouble call security and make sure something is done xx
Have you ever played a claw machine? Having ADHD is like trying to play one from the bottom-up instead of top-down. You can’t see where the claw is under all the stuff in the machine and you have to fight your way through obstacles nobody else even has to touch. Even if you do manage to pull something out of the pile, you ask “Was this even what I wanted?”